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STAND Up For Your Union
by Rev. Sonja Evans
10 of Cups Ministries
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I am sure, if you are drawn to this work, that
you are among those who have met your Twin
Flame, and gone through the magnificent and
magical initial stages of Union, only to find that the
bubble has burst.
Perhaps they have shut down, or left you for
another relationship, or the intensity of the Ego-
based struggles have left you wondering what the
hell has just happened.
Metaphysically, the primary reason Twin Flames
do not manifest the fullness of the Glorified
Expression of the Union in 3D is because one or both
parties (usually both) are simply not an energetic
match to the frequencies required.
Just as magnets attract, they also repel, and
these energies are at play within the Twin Flame
relationship. And it all serves its purpose.
It was not that long ago when I was in the
“Occupy Separation” camp myself, when my
Beloved and I were not speaking. He was with
another and if I did happen to call him I was left
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with dead air, or even worse, blocked on social
media or just flat out told to leave him alone.
What helped me to shift things powerfully and
quickly, I'm about to share with you!
As a starting point, know there are four distinct
types of Twin Flame Separation. You can find more
information about this on the Four Degrees of Twin
Flame Separation audio.
Understanding which one you are dealing with is a
powerful first step in knowing how to navigate
through the situation.
From my own experience, and in seeing what
has worked for my clients, there are five distinct
steps that you can take also during this period that
will assist you in remaining in vibrational alignment,
and open to the shift that your Sacred Partnership
most needs to go from Heart Break Hotel to
Restoration Resort.
While there is no magic wand to instantly fix
your relationship, since we are talking about two
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individuals, one with free will, and often a
completely different perspective and personality,
these five steps can help to transform nights of
bawling your eyes out and eating endless chocolate,
to the empowerment that you will need, that green
light you send to the Universe, and to your Twin
energetically that says:
“Yes, I have said yes to love. I am ready to heal
this relationship on all levels so we can move into
the joy of Reunion.”
I call these 5 steps STAND, which is an acronym
for:
Surrender and Detach
Trust
Assist Your Twin Energetically
Now Transform YOU
Do What Brings You Joy
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Applying these steps to your situation can help
put you back in the power seat, instead of allowing
your fears and illusions to run the show.
And in all honesty that in and of itself is the
most important key of all.
Let's Explore the STAND Steps and how you can
utilize them to shift out of heart break and
emotional distress when your Twin Flame Union is
pitched a curve ball and they have vanished into
thin air on you, or other challenges arise that seem
insurmountable.
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1. Surrender and Detach
Surrender is not the same as giving up.
It is a power place where you realize that you
have done all that you can do, and now you are
leaving it in the hands of the Divine.
What we tend to do instead of surrender is
continue what we have been conditioned to believe is
going to heal a broken relationship: continue calling
and texting, or racking our brains trying to figure
out what went wrong and how to fix it.
Surrender is a powerful, yet challenging space to
occupy, because it requires us to shift our perspective
to realize that nothing is wrong, and there is
nothing to fix.
Everything is unfolding exactly as it should.
The problem comes when we try to rush Divine
Timing.
It is sort of like cooking our favorite meal,
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putting all of the ingredients into the oven, then
pulling it out every 10 minutes to see if it’s finished.
We want microwave TV Dinner, rather than the
symphony of flavor that comes from a slow cooker!!
Separation is often very necessary for the
ultimate success of the Twin Flame Union, because
you and/or your Twin Flame need to move into a
space at some point in your relationship where your
paths diverge, so that you can learn and grow in
ways that you are not able to with one another.
Not only that, but we must always remember
that the ultimate goal for these Unions is not “being
together”, but to come to a place of complete
Unconditional Love.
When we keep our eyes on the true goal, and not
the physical proximity of our Twin Flame (which is
an illusion, as we are always connected energetically,
regardless of what is actually happening),
understanding that the Divine is for us and for our
Unions, it becomes easier to let go and let God/dess.
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It is about enjoying the journey, rather than
obsessing over the destination.
Can you imagine going on a road trip and never
stopping to enjoy the beauty and scenery around
you, just obsessing about getting where you're going?
Surrendering requires that we release the need
to control everything, which comes from fear.
And as we know, fear will actually shut down
the flow of love, and is quite counterproductive.
I have found in my coaching that most Twin
Flames in separation, myself included, found their
Divine Counterpart returning to them once they
reached a place of barely wanting and expecting it.
It's called neutrality and it is simply a space of
keeping one hand on your hopes and dreams, while
keeping one hand open. Wanting, yet not wanting.
Caring, yet not caring. It is a balanced energy that
sends out no opposing repelling force.
When we are truly able to do this, The Divine
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often works the miraculous in our situation, and the
open hand is filled with the true desire of our heart,
which is often our Twin Flame in a much wiser,
more heart centered space.
Or, in other words, the food in the oven is
cooked to perfection!!
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2. Trust
Trust is the ingredient that fuels Step One
(surrender).
We must embody trust, which is a by-product
of faith, and faith teaches us that we will see it
when we believe it.
We must trust in the Divine Plan for this
relationship, so that even if our Twin Flame uses
their free will to choose another reality, that we can
still manifest joyful relationships that fulfill us in
every way.
We must trust that everything is working out
for our and our Twin Flame's Highest Possible Good.
We must trust in the Infinite Power of Love to
transform all things and bring them into their
Highest Alignment.
It is this one that we tend to have the greatest
struggle, since we are programmed, basically as soon
as we get here on the planet, to use our logical
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minds: If we do not see it, then it cannot be so.
This is the primary reason why, when our
Union has shifted into the void, the first thing the
Lower Mind does is fill that void up with all of the
reasons it cannot and will not be so.
We doubt that this is our Beloved. We doubt
our sanity. We doubt that this situation will ever be
more than the roller coaster that it has been since
its inception.
Doubt is nothing more than a subdivision of
fear, and it becomes fodder for our insecurities and
belief systems that we are not secure in Divine Love,
that beautiful things can and in fact do happen to
us, and that we are worthy of receiving them, and
the truth of it is, Twin Flame Separation serves to
assist us in healing these beliefs, because these are
the very programs that are creating and
perpetuating the separation to begin with!
We can tell what we believe by what is
showing up in our lives, and especially the Twin
Flame Relationship, as they are our most powerful
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mirrors of what we are truly resonating with.
So if we can shift into trust, and stop trying
to use the logical mind to figure out how to navigate
a metaphysical relationship, we help to crack open a
door to the miraculous.
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3. Assist Your Twin Energetically
We sometimes fall into error of believing that
our Partners are perfect people who can somehow
meet all of our needs.
The truth of it is, in any relationship, it
consists of two people with their own baggage,
childhood wounds, insecurities, and dragons to
defeat and overcome.
When our Sacred Partner says our does
something to offend, hurt, or devastate us, we must
remember that they are doing the very best that
they can with the level of understanding and
wisdom that they have at any given time.
We must remember that they too, are in the
process of healing and processing their own lessons
from this and other lifetimes.
Assisting our Twin Flame energetically simply
means that instead of projecting our anger and hurt
and frustration upon them because of what was said
and done, we instead hold space for them of
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Unconditional Love, praying for them to move
through their own hurt and pain, calling in the
Divine and angelic realm to assist them in whatever
illusions that they most struggle with, as we are all
works in progress doing the very best we can.
It requires us to approach our Union and our
Beloved with the mindset, “What can I give? How
can I serve?”
If your Twin Flame is angry, addicted to drugs
or sex, depressed, or fearful, it reveals a beautiful
soul who has forgotten who he/she is, and needs
Divine Intervention and help to assist them in
clearing the very beliefs that are co-creating the
separation on their end, if and when they are ready
to open up to that.
Every Twin Flame Union is a Trinity. You,
Your Beloved, and the I AM that I AM.
Calling in the “third party” and asking for the
miraculous, asking to help your Twin heal from
whatever has shut him down, connecting to his/her
Higher Self, and calling in the angels is one of the
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most powerful things we can do for our Beloved,
particularly.
After all Yeshua said, “Ask and ye shall
receive!”
He did not put any limitations on what to ask
for!
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4. Now Transform YOU!
One of the biggest errors we fall into is
projecting blame onto our Beloved for everything
that is wrong in the Union.
“He doesn't respond to my texts.”
“She is so shut down to love.”
“We're no longer speaking because he__________”
There is a reason why I call these errors, and
it is because everything that happens in our Unions
reflects back to us some disowned or ignored parts
of ourselves.
If they are ignoring you, are you ignoring some
aspect of yourself?
If they seem shut down to love, are you sure
that you are fully open to receiving the love you
claim you want?
If they seem angry and full of rage, is there a
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place within you that has suppressed anger and
rage, or believes that it is normal to be treated this
way?
The answers to these questions reveal aspects
of our own energy and psyche that is up for
transformation and release.
Remember, the Twin Flame Union serves to
assist us in seeing where we are not operating from
a place of Pure Unconditional Love, and where we
have identified with our programming to define who
we are and what love is.
The difficulties always serve to reveal to us
where we are missing the mark, not them, so that
we can transform those beliefs, as everything that
shows up in our virtual reality shows us what we
truly believe, not what we think we believe.
So if you claim you want this beautiful and
magical love story, and your Twin Flame will not
even speak to you, you do have to ask yourself why
this is showing up.
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The answers are the starting point for your
own transformation.
Once you heal your blocks to Love, a wonderful
thing happens 100% of the time.
Your Twin Flame will shift and return to you,
meeting you where you now are, or they will leave
your life and be replaced with someone even better
(in which case, it may not have been your Twin
Flame to begin with).
Transforming yourself through working with a
trusted energy healer, your relationship with the
Divine, therapy, journaling, Spirituality, or whatever
method most resonates for you is crucial to shift
your reality through the shifting of your beliefs.
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5. Do What Brings You Joy
As previously stated, I have found in my
coaching that one of the hugest reasons your Twin
Flame is ignoring you, is because there are places
where you are ignoring your own life.
Many of us use our Twin Flame as a kind of
escapism, where we focus all of our energy on them
and the relationship, and in the meantime, we
neglect our dreams and visions for our lives.
Your Twin will not respond to this. Ever.
They are not the source of your happiness and
joy.
YOU are!!
I find that God/Source/Universe will often
“move” your Beloved out of the way so that you can
balance out your life, and not fall into co-dependent
and otherwise unhealthy patterns of belief in
needing the other party to somehow make your life
complete or joyful.
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In fact, on the spiritual path, we receive that
which is joyful, by already being joyful, as like
frequency attracts like.
Needy, desperate energy will also attract like,
in the form of it's opposite polarity; repelling energy
that pushes away because it is an illusion that we
“need” it.
Embracing what brings us joy, be it a creative
hobby, good friends and support, being in nature,
building our dreams, taking good care of ourselves,
puts us in the frequency of joy, and when we hold
that energetic space, we attract what is joyful
naturally.
Reunion happened for me, not when I was
desperately plotting and scheming how to get my
Beloved to answer my e-mails, and putting out
effort in 3D, but when I started going out to lunch
with good girlfriends, getting into my dancing
again, working on my professional goals, and inner
life.
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The magic in this is in doing so, it helps us to
move into the first key naturally, with little to no
effort on our part.
Doing so, sends a signal to the Universe that
you are saying “Yes!” to you, and energetically
creates the climate most conducive to joy and
miracles.
In Closing
The STAND keys are what has helped so many
of my clients move back into the space of clarity
and receptivity, and they are what “saved me”
when I was going through separation gloom.
In fact, applying them and some other critical
truths, helped me to move back into Union in a very
short period of time.
I hold space for you as well that applying the
keys will help you as well to shift your perspective of
what is truly going on in times of separation so that
you can experience true and lasting transformation
of your most AMAZING LOVE STORY!