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Social SkillsSocial Skills

A Visual Aide to InstructionA Visual Aide to Instruction

Some Material Compiled and edited from Skillstreaming for the Some Material Compiled and edited from Skillstreaming for the Adolescent,Adolescent,

5 Against the Law, NO B.O., and How Rude5 Against the Law, NO B.O., and How RudeCreated by Chris PrestonCreated by Chris Preston

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Teaching Tip

Have students and staff role play Have students and staff role play correct and incorrect demonstrations correct and incorrect demonstrations of the skills. Students in the audience of the skills. Students in the audience can pick which is correct or incorrectcan pick which is correct or incorrect

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The Top Things People Do The Top Things People Do that are Offensive or Rudethat are Offensive or Rude Use obscene language or crude jokes at inappropriate timesUse obscene language or crude jokes at inappropriate times Speak or shout in a loud voice in a private or quiet areaSpeak or shout in a loud voice in a private or quiet area Spit burp and belchSpit burp and belch Display too much affection in publicDisplay too much affection in public Smoke where it’s prohibitedSmoke where it’s prohibited Pick their nosesPick their noses Not say “Please” or “Thank You” to sales people, waiters, waitresses, cafeteria Not say “Please” or “Thank You” to sales people, waiters, waitresses, cafeteria

workers, etc…workers, etc… Talk to their parents in a rude or disrespectful way Talk to their parents in a rude or disrespectful way

““You are a jerk” You are a jerk” ““Just give me what I want” Just give me what I want” ““I don’t have to listen to you”I don’t have to listen to you” ““Leave me alone”Leave me alone” ““Don’t talk to me”Don’t talk to me” ““I don’t care”I don’t care”

Make fun of older adultsMake fun of older adults Sitting in a seat and not offering it to an elderly person or a womanSitting in a seat and not offering it to an elderly person or a woman Litter, spitting on the ground, being messy with your foodLitter, spitting on the ground, being messy with your food Behave inconsiderately towards people with disabilities or elderly people on Behave inconsiderately towards people with disabilities or elderly people on

public transportationpublic transportation Tease underclassman, small children, elderly, disabled peopleTease underclassman, small children, elderly, disabled people

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More Things that are More Things that are Offensive or RudeOffensive or Rude Swear or yell at people passing bySwear or yell at people passing by Giving the middle fingerGiving the middle finger Crowding a sidewalk when you are walkingCrowding a sidewalk when you are walking Playing loud music in crowded, busy or serious places. Playing loud music in crowded, busy or serious places. Act rowdy during a movieAct rowdy during a movie Push and shove in linesPush and shove in lines Let doors slam in other’s facesLet doors slam in other’s faces Getting in people’s personal space or touching and teasing peopleGetting in people’s personal space or touching and teasing people Not respect people’s differencesNot respect people’s differences Engage in conversation or texting with friends when you are suppose to Engage in conversation or texting with friends when you are suppose to

be listening or doing a jobbe listening or doing a job Touch other peoples thingsTouch other peoples things Embarrass or insult othersEmbarrass or insult others Make fun of people with disabilitiesMake fun of people with disabilities Not saying please or thank youNot saying please or thank you Throw their jackets, backpacks or books all over the placeThrow their jackets, backpacks or books all over the place Raiding people’s refrigerator Raiding people’s refrigerator Using swear words or offensive and racist termsUsing swear words or offensive and racist terms Question rules in other peoples housesQuestion rules in other peoples houses

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Body LanguageBody LanguageThis person is bored and looks tired

This person is relaxed

This guy is upset

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Eye ContactEye Contact

Eye ContactEye Contact Eye contact can be scary. Looking directly into another person's eyes is an intimate, intense Eye contact can be scary. Looking directly into another person's eyes is an intimate, intense

experience, even if it's just for a brief moment while walking down the street. Getting comfortable experience, even if it's just for a brief moment while walking down the street. Getting comfortable with making eye contact takes practice, but it is a skill worth cultivating. Eye contact can convey with making eye contact takes practice, but it is a skill worth cultivating. Eye contact can convey many messages. It can assure a friend that you are listening intently, show a colleague that you many messages. It can assure a friend that you are listening intently, show a colleague that you mean business, tell a stranger that you aware of their presence, encourage a salesperson to give mean business, tell a stranger that you aware of their presence, encourage a salesperson to give you exceptional service or let someone know you find them attractive. you exceptional service or let someone know you find them attractive.

1. Believe in your worth. People often fail to make eye contact because they are overcome by an attack 1. Believe in your worth. People often fail to make eye contact because they are overcome by an attack of shyness. And people are often overcome by an attack of shyness because they fail to fully absorb of shyness. And people are often overcome by an attack of shyness because they fail to fully absorb the truth of their intrinsic worth. You deserve to look up. You will not appear stupid. You will not be the truth of their intrinsic worth. You deserve to look up. You will not appear stupid. You will not be rejected. You are valuable and worthy just as you are in this moment. You are loved and supported in rejected. You are valuable and worthy just as you are in this moment. You are loved and supported in a deep, divine way.a deep, divine way.

2. Become aware. Another reason people fail to make eye contact is that they lack a basic awareness 2. Become aware. Another reason people fail to make eye contact is that they lack a basic awareness of their surroundings. of their surroundings.

3. Sink into the moment. By looking directly at the people you talk to, you ground yourself into the 3. Sink into the moment. By looking directly at the people you talk to, you ground yourself into the present. As a result, your interactions become more connected and fulfilling.present. As a result, your interactions become more connected and fulfilling.

4. Start small. Begin by making extended eye contact with loved ones. When you are comfortable, 4. Start small. Begin by making extended eye contact with loved ones. When you are comfortable, begin to include coworkers and new acquaintances. Eventually you'll be confident enough to stare into begin to include coworkers and new acquaintances. Eventually you'll be confident enough to stare into the eyes of that the eyes of that beautiful stranger across the room.

5. Linger longer. Challenge yourself not to move your eyes away until the other person does.5. Linger longer. Challenge yourself not to move your eyes away until the other person does. 6. If you get nervous, breath. Sometimes eye contact can be unnerving, but a simple deep breath can 6. If you get nervous, breath. Sometimes eye contact can be unnerving, but a simple deep breath can

do wonders to calm your anxiety.do wonders to calm your anxiety. 7. Keep perspective. Remember, you aren't doing anything life threatening. It's just eye contact! 7. Keep perspective. Remember, you aren't doing anything life threatening. It's just eye contact!

Nothing bad can come of it.Nothing bad can come of it. Taken from http://www.ehow.com/how_2316148_make-eye-contact.htmlTaken from http://www.ehow.com/how_2316148_make-eye-contact.html

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Introducing YourselfIntroducing Yourself

Choose the right time and place to introduce yourselfChoose the right time and place to introduce yourself Greet the other person and tell your nameGreet the other person and tell your name Ask the other person his/her name if you need to then Ask the other person his/her name if you need to then

shake their hand (see next slide)shake their hand (see next slide) Tell or ask the other person something to start your Tell or ask the other person something to start your

conversation. Make it general and easy to answer at conversation. Make it general and easy to answer at first. “What do you think about the weather today?” not first. “What do you think about the weather today?” not “Did you know that my dog hates the snow.”“Did you know that my dog hates the snow.”

You want them to answerYou want them to answer Example: Hi I am Andrew and your name is? How Example: Hi I am Andrew and your name is? How

about this beautiful weather.” about this beautiful weather.”

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Introducing Other PeopleIntroducing Other People

Name the first person and tell him/her the Name the first person and tell him/her the name of the second personname of the second person

Name the second person and tell him/her the Name the second person and tell him/her the name of the first personname of the first person

Say something that helps the two get to know Say something that helps the two get to know each othereach other

Example: “Example: “Hi Elizabeth this is Matt.”Hi Elizabeth this is Matt.” “ “Matt this is Elizabeth. Matt is Matt this is Elizabeth. Matt is

studying history too. studying history too.””

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Volume of Your VoiceVolume of Your VoiceYour voice should match the situation you are in. Your voice should match the situation you are in. Look at the volume meter and then Look at the volume meter and then look at the boxes below. Which numbered box on the meter would you put them in?look at the boxes below. Which numbered box on the meter would you put them in?

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HandshakeHandshake Shaking hands is likely the most important elements to making a good first impression. More Shaking hands is likely the most important elements to making a good first impression. More

than just etiquette, there is a true art to a good handshake. than just etiquette, there is a true art to a good handshake. InstructionInstruction

Step 1Step 1 Face the person you are to shake hands with, smile at the and keep eye contactFace the person you are to shake hands with, smile at the and keep eye contact Step in towards the other person. Lean in with your shoulders ever so slightly as you Step in towards the other person. Lean in with your shoulders ever so slightly as you

outstretch your hand. You should be close enough that your elbow can remain outstretch your hand. You should be close enough that your elbow can remain slightly bent when shaking hands but not so close that you are smothering their air slightly bent when shaking hands but not so close that you are smothering their air space.space.

Step 2Step 2 To capture two-way eye contact and cancel out all other distractions (music, other To capture two-way eye contact and cancel out all other distractions (music, other

people, etc), try placing your free hand just below their shoulder. This helps to people, etc), try placing your free hand just below their shoulder. This helps to create a more intimate handshake. create a more intimate handshake.

Not to be used when you are shaking hands with multiple people but you could Not to be used when you are shaking hands with multiple people but you could substitute placing the free hand over the other person's hand which you are shaking substitute placing the free hand over the other person's hand which you are shaking for that scenario.for that scenario.

Step 3Step 3 When grasping someone's hand in a handshake, be sure your hand grip is firm but When grasping someone's hand in a handshake, be sure your hand grip is firm but

don’t try to crush your hand. Loose handshakes are a HUGE no-no. These show a don’t try to crush your hand. Loose handshakes are a HUGE no-no. These show a lack of lack of confidence in yourself. People will pick up on this. You will not be taken seriously, perhaps even dismissed in a crowd.

Step 4Step 4 Shake the person's hand for the duration of your opening remark as well as their Shake the person's hand for the duration of your opening remark as well as their

return remark and then gently release your grip. Use their name during the remarkreturn remark and then gently release your grip. Use their name during the remark Step 5Step 5

If you are gently shaking hands with a child, it's nice to stoop down so that direct If you are gently shaking hands with a child, it's nice to stoop down so that direct eye contact is possible without their having to look upward to your face. eye contact is possible without their having to look upward to your face.

Taken from http://www.ehow.com/how_4455869_shake-hands.htmlTaken from http://www.ehow.com/how_4455869_shake-hands.html

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Handshake (for women)Handshake (for women) HandshakesHandshakes

Women are taught a lot of things when they are girls and young ladies, but how to shake Women are taught a lot of things when they are girls and young ladies, but how to shake hands is often not one of them. Boys and young men shake hands from an early age and hands is often not one of them. Boys and young men shake hands from an early age and fathers pride themselves on their sons' confident handshakes. Now that you're a woman in fathers pride themselves on their sons' confident handshakes. Now that you're a woman in the professional world, a good handshake speaks volumes about your the professional world, a good handshake speaks volumes about your confidence and and professionalism. Follow these steps to shake hands as a business woman.professionalism. Follow these steps to shake hands as a business woman.

InstructionsInstructions Step 1Step 1

Take one step toward the person you are going to shake hands with and extend your Take one step toward the person you are going to shake hands with and extend your right hand at the same time. Most people are right handed, so, even if you're a lefty, right hand at the same time. Most people are right handed, so, even if you're a lefty, train yourself to shake with your right.train yourself to shake with your right.

Step 2Step 2 Maintain eye contact. Positive Maintain eye contact. Positive body attitude backs up a good hand shake like nothing else.

Confidence is the key to presenting a good hand shake. Maintaining eye contact lets the person you're shaking hands with know that you are sincere and open to speaking with them.

Step 3Step 3 Grasp the other person's hand firmly, but not too firmly. You're not Grasp the other person's hand firmly, but not too firmly. You're not arm wrestling, so

don't over do it. On the other hand, nothing screams "YUCK" more than a limp, dead-fish hand shake. Find a good middle ground and you will project the image you're looking for.

Step 4Step 4 Shake hands once or twice up and down firmly and then release the other person's Shake hands once or twice up and down firmly and then release the other person's

hand. Shaking hands is a physical act. A handshake that lasts too long implies hand. Shaking hands is a physical act. A handshake that lasts too long implies intimacy and one that is too short implies a lack of intimacy and one that is too short implies a lack of

Text above taken from Text above taken from www.ehow.com/how_5138139_shake-hands-women.html

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Personal Space

People don’tlike you in theirpersonal space. You might get hurt if you getToo close.

This isTOO CLOSE!

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Joining inJoining in

Decide if you want to join in the activity Decide if you want to join in the activity others are doingothers are doing

Decide the best way to join inDecide the best way to join in Choose the best time to joinChoose the best time to join Join the activity and say thank youJoin the activity and say thank you

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Starting a ConversationStarting a Conversation

Greet the other person Greet the other person Make small talkMake small talk

Small talk is easy topics that won’t offend the Small talk is easy topics that won’t offend the personperson

Small talk can be about the weather, sports, the Small talk can be about the weather, sports, the news, traffic, etc…news, traffic, etc…

Decide if the other person is listeningDecide if the other person is listening Bring up the main topicBring up the main topic

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Having a ConversationHaving a Conversation

Say what you want to saySay what you want to say Ask the other person what he/she thinksAsk the other person what he/she thinks Listen to what the other person saysListen to what the other person says Say what you thinkSay what you think Wait for a replyWait for a reply Make a closing remarkMake a closing remark

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Ending a ConversationEnding a Conversation

Excuse yourself from the situation by Excuse yourself from the situation by mentioning that you have to go mentioning that you have to go somewhere, or thank them for talking to somewhere, or thank them for talking to youyou

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ListeningListening

Look at the person who is talkingLook at the person who is talking Think about what is being saidThink about what is being said Wait your turn to talkWait your turn to talk Say what you want to saySay what you want to say

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Asking a questionAsking a question

Decide what you’d like to know more aboutDecide what you’d like to know more about Decide whom to ask that may be able to Decide whom to ask that may be able to

answer your questionanswer your question Think about different ways to ask your question Think about different ways to ask your question

and pick one wayand pick one way Pick the right time and place to ask your Pick the right time and place to ask your

questionquestion Ask your questionAsk your question

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Asking PermissionAsking Permission

Decide what you would like to do for Decide what you would like to do for which you need permissionwhich you need permission

Decide whom you have to ask for Decide whom you have to ask for permissionpermission

Decide how to ask for permissionDecide how to ask for permission Pick the right time and placePick the right time and place Ask for permissionAsk for permission

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Asking for HelpAsking for Help

Decide what the problem isDecide what the problem is Decide if you want help for the problemDecide if you want help for the problem Think about different people who might Think about different people who might

help you and pick onehelp you and pick one Tell the person about the problem and Tell the person about the problem and

ask that person to help youask that person to help you

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Convincing OthersConvincing Others

Decide if you want to convince someone about Decide if you want to convince someone about somethingsomething

Tell the other person your ideaTell the other person your idea Ask the other person what he/she thinks about Ask the other person what he/she thinks about

itit Tell why you think your idea is a good oneTell why you think your idea is a good one Ask the other person to think about what you Ask the other person to think about what you

said before making up his/her mindsaid before making up his/her mind

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Interacting with Someone You Like

You may not get the reaction you want.

They may not know you like them.

Other people are allowed to like them too.

They do not have to talk to you.

You are not allowed to touch them or do romantic adult things if you are not sure they like you too and are in a relationship.

They are allowed to say no.

You have to leave if they do not want you around.

Keep appropriate distance.

Don’t follow them around.

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Giving a complimentGiving a compliment Decide what you want to compliment about the other personDecide what you want to compliment about the other person Decide how to give the compliment. Say it in a nice tone of voice, don’t Decide how to give the compliment. Say it in a nice tone of voice, don’t

be sarcastic or use backhanded compliments. For example: be sarcastic or use backhanded compliments. For example: ““That presentation didn’t suck.” That presentation didn’t suck.” ““That wasn’t too bad.” That wasn’t too bad.” ““You were better than the person before you.” You were better than the person before you.”

Choose the right time and place to say it. Don’t say it if they are really Choose the right time and place to say it. Don’t say it if they are really busy. busy.

Give the complimentGive the compliment Example: “You did a great job with your presentation!” This is nice and Example: “You did a great job with your presentation!” This is nice and

makes people feel good. It lets them know you appreciate their work. makes people feel good. It lets them know you appreciate their work. Warning: There are a few things you cannot compliment. You may Warning: There are a few things you cannot compliment. You may

think they are pretty and it is okay to say you look nice today. You are think they are pretty and it is okay to say you look nice today. You are not allowed to be graphic. “You have nice legs” is not safe to say even not allowed to be graphic. “You have nice legs” is not safe to say even if you really like their legs. Talking about body parts is a form of sexual if you really like their legs. Talking about body parts is a form of sexual harassment. harassment.

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Expressing Affection

Decide if you have good feelings about the other person

Decide if the other person would like to know about your feelings

Choose the best way to express your feelings

Express your feelings in friendly way

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Expressing affectionExpressing affection

Fist Bump

High Five

Hug

Kiss on cheek “Grandma Kiss”use only with family

Don’t do this unless you are married or dating

Pat on the shoulder or back

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Rules for a PartyRules for a Party 1. Show Up:1. Show Up: Don’t say you are coming then not go Don’t say you are coming then not go 2. Be on time:2. Be on time: If you are late you may miss important If you are late you may miss important Or fun stuff that was planned. If you are early, they may not be ready and it is Or fun stuff that was planned. If you are early, they may not be ready and it is

awkward. People pick a party time for a reasonawkward. People pick a party time for a reason 3. Never bring people who were not invited3. Never bring people who were not invited 4. Dress appropriately:4. Dress appropriately: If it is fancy, make sure you look nice. If it is not fancy you If it is fancy, make sure you look nice. If it is not fancy you

don’t want to wear nice clothes and stick out.don’t want to wear nice clothes and stick out. 5. Shower and clean yourself before the party, even if it is not fancy5. Shower and clean yourself before the party, even if it is not fancy 6. Introduce yourself to people when you walk in the door or the hosts.6. Introduce yourself to people when you walk in the door or the hosts. If it is a If it is a

friends party, introduce yourself to their parents, husbands, wives, boyfriend or friends party, introduce yourself to their parents, husbands, wives, boyfriend or girlfriend.girlfriend.

7. Don’t eat too much or hog the food7. Don’t eat too much or hog the food 8. Don’t bring anything illegal8. Don’t bring anything illegal 9. Don’t do anything illegal:9. Don’t do anything illegal: If you are drunk or high or bring drugs, or alcohol or If you are drunk or high or bring drugs, or alcohol or

tobacco you can get into trouble and the people who are hosting the party will get tobacco you can get into trouble and the people who are hosting the party will get in trouble too. in trouble too.

10. Stay with the other people in the party.10. Stay with the other people in the party. Do not go snooping around the house Do not go snooping around the house and look at private things. and look at private things.

11. Be happy and nice:11. Be happy and nice: If had a bad day, don’t tell people about it. They are there If had a bad day, don’t tell people about it. They are there to party. to party.

12. When the party is over, leave:12. When the party is over, leave: Do not wait around until they tell you to leave. Do not wait around until they tell you to leave. You do not want to be the last one there. You do not want to be the last one there.

13. Say thank you13. Say thank you to the person who invited you and hosted the party. to the person who invited you and hosted the party.

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Rules for Having a Friend Rules for Having a Friend OverOver Ask them if they can come overAsk them if they can come over Talk about what day they can come Talk about what day they can come Ask them how they will get thereAsk them how they will get there Ask them what time they may have to leaveAsk them what time they may have to leave When they arrive, have activities plannedWhen they arrive, have activities planned Make your guest comfortableMake your guest comfortable

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Saying thank youSaying thank you

Decide if the other person said or did Decide if the other person said or did something that you want to thank him/her something that you want to thank him/her forfor

Choose a good time and place to thank Choose a good time and place to thank the other personthe other person

Thank the other person in a friendly wayThank the other person in a friendly way Tell the other person why you are Tell the other person why you are

thanking him/herthanking him/her

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Dealing with Being Left Out

Decide if you are being left out Think about why the other people might

be leaving you out of something Decide how you could deal with the

problem Choose the best way and do it

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Dealing with Contradictory Messages

Decide if someone is telling you two opposite things at the same time

Think of ways to tell the other person that you don’t understand what he/she means

Choose the best way to tell the person and do it

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Deciding on Something to Do

Decide whether you are feeling bored or dissatisfied with what you are doing

Think of things you have enjoyed doing in the past

Decide which one you might be able to do now

Start the activity

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Pay Attention to Your Teachersand Bosses

This person is listeningto music and playing onthe computer and not paying attention

This person is textingand not paying attention

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Setting a Goal

Figure out what goal you wan to reach Find out all the information you can about

how to reach your goal Think about the steps you will need to

take to reach your goal Take the first step toward your goal

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Deciding on your Abilities

Decide which abilities you might want to use Think about how you have done in the past

when you have tried to use these abilities Get other people’s opinions about your abilities Think about what you found out and decided

how well you use these abilities

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Gathering Information

Decide what information you need Decide how you can get the information Do things to get the information like look

online or in a library, asking parents and grandparents, and professionals

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Making a Decision

Think about the problem that requires you to make a decision

Think about possible decisions you could make Gather accurate information about these

possible decisions Reconsider your possible decisions using the

information you have gathered Make the best decision

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Concentrating on a Task

Decided what your task is Decide on a time to work on this task Gather the materials you need Decide on a place to work Decide if you are ready to concentrate

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Rewarding yourselfRewarding yourself

Decide if you have done something that Decide if you have done something that deserves a rewarddeserves a reward

Decide what you could say to reward yourselfDecide what you could say to reward yourself Decide what you could do to reward yourselfDecide what you could do to reward yourself Decide whether or not it is an appropriate or Decide whether or not it is an appropriate or

reasonable reward.reasonable reward. Finishing your homework = Taking a break for the Finishing your homework = Taking a break for the

rest of the nightrest of the night Finishing your homework does not mean you can Finishing your homework does not mean you can

skip school the next dayskip school the next day Reward yourselfReward yourself

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Giving InstructionsGiving Instructions

Decide what needs to be doneDecide what needs to be done Think about the different people who could do Think about the different people who could do

it and choose oneit and choose one Ask that person to do what you want doneAsk that person to do what you want done Ask the other person if he/she understands Ask the other person if he/she understands

what to dowhat to do Change or repeat your instructions if you need Change or repeat your instructions if you need

toto

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Following InstructionsFollowing Instructions

Listen carefully while you are being told what to Listen carefully while you are being told what to dodo

Ask questions about anything you don’t Ask questions about anything you don’t understandunderstand

Decide if you want to follow the instructions Decide if you want to follow the instructions and let the other person know your decisionand let the other person know your decision

Repeat the instructions to yourselfRepeat the instructions to yourself Do what you have been asked to doDo what you have been asked to do

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Helping Others

Decide if the other person might need and want your help

Think of the way you could be helpful Ask the other person if he/she needs and

wants your help Help the other person

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Negotiating

Decide if you and the other person are having a difference of opinion

Tell the other person what you think about the problem

Ask the other person what he/she thinks about the problem

Listen openly to his/her answer Think about why the other person might feel

this way Suggest a compromise

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Sharing Something

Decide if you might like to share some of what you have

Think about how the other person might feel about sharing

Offer to share in a direct and friendly way

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Being a “Good Sport”

Think about how you did and how the other person did in the game you played

Think of a true compliment you could give the other person about his/her game

Think about his/her reactions to what you might say

Choose the compliment you think is best and say it

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Write down the number of all the Write down the number of all the things you can dothings you can do

1.1. I can make a snack for myselfI can make a snack for myself2. I can make a meal for myself2. I can make a meal for myself3. I can make myself and a friend a snack or meal3. I can make myself and a friend a snack or meal4. I can ask for help politely4. I can ask for help politely5. I know my phone number5. I know my phone number6. I know my parents phone number6. I know my parents phone number7. I know where I live7. I know where I live8. I know how to tell someone where I live8. I know how to tell someone where I live9. I can clean my room9. I can clean my room10. I clean my room without being asked. 10. I clean my room without being asked. 11. I know who to talk to if there is an emergency11. I know who to talk to if there is an emergency12. I know how to find what I need for my snacks in the grocery store12. I know how to find what I need for my snacks in the grocery store13. I can order a pizza and pay for it13. I can order a pizza and pay for it14. I can by supplies for my house. 14. I can by supplies for my house. 15. I can ask for help if I am lost at school15. I can ask for help if I am lost at school16. I can make sure I get the correct change after shopping16. I can make sure I get the correct change after shopping17. I can follow written directions in simple steps17. I can follow written directions in simple steps18. I can wash and dry my clothes18. I can wash and dry my clothes19. I can wash and dry myself19. I can wash and dry myself20. I can do the dishes20. I can do the dishes21. I can use the phone book21. I can use the phone book22. I can pick up a prescription22. I can pick up a prescription23. I can write an email23. I can write an email24. I can call a cab or follow a bus schedule24. I can call a cab or follow a bus schedule25. I can make sure I have enough lunch money25. I can make sure I have enough lunch money26. I can keep track of my homework26. I can keep track of my homework27. I know how to be polite 27. I know how to be polite 28. I can call the doctor28. I can call the doctor29. I can take my medicine29. I can take my medicine30. I can invite a friend over30. I can invite a friend over