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7/24/2019 Slowing Up Workshop
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Slowing UPA spiritual practice of creating
structure for more JOY and more
freedom
The richer our inner life, the simpler our outer life.
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Structure
Parameters
Boundaries
Edges
Perimeters
CREATE
Freedom
Power
FOCUS
Love
JOY
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Why slow?
Acting rather than Reacting.Creating the vision of our life from a place of
observation, reflection and flow,
rather than pressure, compulsion and obligation.
Health Benefits.
Stress response is a major contributor to all health
challenges and illness.
POWER
is generated from thoughtful, considered, andintentional actions.
Does the FAST life lead to the good life!?!
Paradoxically, we need to be going slow enough to even consider
the question!
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Where Time Goes
There is NEVER TIME TO: BUT ALWAYS TIME TO:
Put things away Search for them later
Do things right Correct them later
Drive safely Get into accidents
Be patient Apologize for rudeness
Ask a question Suffer from assumptions
Follow your car manual Get lengthy repairs
Heed body signals Have illnesses
Listen Ask for a repeat
Make extra keys Be locked out
Read the instructions Ruin a new appliance
Prioritize your work Stay after quitting time
Monitor your fuel gauge Run out of gas
Rest or relax Burn out or break down
Ask directions Get lost
Make a checklist Run home for an item
Cool our temper Have a heart attack
Meditate or pray Worry
Have a dental check up Have a tooth extracted
Follow a budget Get into debt
Mend a rip Buy a new garment
Share feelings See a therapist
Balance your checkbook Call about bounced checks
Choose friends wisely End painful relationships
Select healthy food Endure malnutrition
Wait for guidance Suffer from self-will
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3 thing that could stop slowing UP
1. Speed is a distraction.
2. Shame factor – is it okay to slow down?
3. Scarcity thinking. Not enough time is lack thinking.
“Because TRUE BELONGING only happens when we
present our AUTHENTIC, IMPERFECT SELVES to the world,
our sense of belonging can never be greater than
our level of SELF-ACCEPTANCE.
– Brené Brown
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HOOKED ON FAST: From Speed by Stephanie Brown PhD
20 QUESTIONS:
BEHAVIOR:
1. Do you want to slow down but cannot? Have you lost control?
2. Do you keep adding activities without taking any away?
3. Do you work longer and longer hours but don’t ever finish?
4. Do you treat other problems? Sleep, depression, anxiety?
5. Do you act first and think later?
6. Do you check your email and reach for your phone first thing and last?
FEELINGS:
7. Do you feel internal pressure to live fast and act fast which becomes a craving to connect more
rapidly?
8. Do you feel empty if you are not in constant action?
9. Do you feel nervous without your tech gear in hand or pocket?
10. Do you feel the beep of your phone as the comfort that gives you a shot of adrenaline?
11. do you feel you belong when you are rushing, stressed and in action?
Beliefs:
12. Do you believe you have no limits and you are entitled to live without limits?
13. Do you believe you should think, feel and react instantly?
14. Do you believe you will fall behind if you slow down?
15. Do you believe success equals fast and faster and slowing down is failing?
16. Do you believe you should only feel good, only feel high? Other feelings are a sign of failure?
17. Do you believe stress is the price of success and chaos is normal?
18. Do you believe that the new intimacy is through technology and less time for offline relationships
is the price for success?
19. Do you believe that instant action is a virtue and you can overcome anything with enough will
power?
20. Do you believe all change must be big to count?
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1. Write down any observations that came up for you
from the 20 questions
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Reprioritizing Values
Recovery Values: Addiction Values:
DOING:
PROCESS OUTCOME
EXPERIENCE MANIPULATE
ENJOY ENDURE
BE DO
PARTICIPATE PERFORM
SAVOR GULP
QUALITY. DEPTH QUANTITY, LENGTH
FLOW, SMARTER EFFORT, HARDER
RELAXED INTENSE
EFFECTIVE EFFICIENTFLEXIBLE RIGID
IMPORTANT URGENT
SURRENDER, SURPRISE CONTROLSIMPLE COMPLEX
VALUES GOALS
IN AWE SHUT-DOWN
RELATING:
UNIQUENESS COMPARSION
PRINCIPLES PERSONALITIES
COOPERATE COMPETE
BOTH/AND, WIN-WIN EITHER, OR
RELATIONSHIPS THINGS
INTERDEPENDENT INDEPENDENT
LIVE AND LET LIVE RESCUER
CONSENSUS MAJORITY
RESPECT ADMIRE
TIME:
TIME MONEY
UNDERSCHEDULE OVERSCHEDULE
NOW PAST, FUTURE
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2. What do I really want? Values, experiences, things, status, accomplishments, goals
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Hard Decisions.
1. Simplify. What can you let go of? Check out Life Edited. Graham Hill — less stuff, more happiness Ted Talk
2. Get Particular We often just want a new time management system
so we can fit it all in but maybe we need let go of
doing it all
Does this RAISE my vibration or LOWER my vibration?
Please note: the same thing can do both depend-
ing on the day.
3. Prioritize.These changes don’t always come organically at first.
Experiment.
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3. List things that are better with quantity and quality
qual·i·ty 1. the standard of something as
measured against other things of a similar kind; the
degree of excellence of something.
2. a distinctive attribute or characteristic possessedby someone or something.
quan·ti·ty 1. the amount or number of a ma-
terial or immaterial thing not usually estimated by
spatial measurement.
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4. List every time that moving really fast has brought
you a lot of JOY
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5. List every time that moving really SLOW has brought
you a lot of JOY.
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6. What are your biggestPassions?
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Resources:
Carl Honoré — in praise of slowness TED talk
Graham Hill — less stuff, more happiness Ted Talk
Workaholics Anonymous Book of Recovery
Barry Schwartz — The Paradox of Choice TED talk
Stephanie Brown PhD — Speed: Facing Our Addiciton to Fast and Faster –
and Overcoming