Single Life Workshop eCourse

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INTRODUCTION

Dear Single Life Workshop eCourse Participant,

God has brought us together on this significant journey and we believe you have been strategically

placed and called to participate in this Single Life Workshop (SLW) eCourse. The main focus of SLW

is to prepare you to build healthy relationships as a single person. Through this ecourse you will be

working through activation exercises and homework that will:

● Strengthen you to be confident in who God has made you to be

● Teach you how to spiritually deal with any hurts, pains and struggles in your life

● Show you how to risk relating in honest and vulnerable ways in your close relationships

● Confront deep-rooted issues that may prevent you from having healthy relationships

● Help you learn how to pursue and engage with the opposite sex

● Cultivate healthy boundaries and communication skills

● Help you to embrace your God-given sexuality and how to steward it well

● Prepare you for marriage - the most important and intimate relationship of your life!

In order for you to get the most out of this experience, it will be important for you to complete every

session including the activation exercises and homework.

We are really looking forward to help lead you into a lifestyle of being known and becoming all He

has created you to be. We are created to live in community, so let’s invest in doing relationships

well!

With Love & Great Anticipation,

The Nothing Hidden Ministries Team

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SPECIAL INSTRUCTIONS

The Single Life Workshop (SLW) eCourse is divided into 10 sessions, which you may go through at

your own pace. To receive the most out of this ecourse, we recommend completing one session per

week.

You may go through this course as an individual or as a small group with 3 - 4 other singles. (If you

would like to have more than 3 - 4 singles go through this course with you, during the Small Group

Connection activation exercises, we recommend breaking into smaller groups of 3 to 4 people.

Further details follow.)

Before you begin each new session, please first review the corresponding PDF, as this guides you

through each session step-by-step and will inform you on when to watch the applicable video(s).

Each session’s PDF will contain KEY NOTES to highlight the content covered in the teaching

video(s). They will also contain ACTIVATION exercises and/or ACTIVATION HOMEWORK for

you to complete personally and with your small group (if applicable). If you are going through this

course as a small group and come across PERSONAL CONNECTION activities, you will be

breaking up individually to complete the activity.

Some parts in the activation exercise sections will show a PERSONAL CONNECTION activity and

a SMALL GROUP CONNECTION activity side-by-side. See example below:

PERSONAL CONNECTION

SMALL GROUP CONNECTION

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This means that you will choose the connection activity that is applicable to you. For example, if you

are going through the SLW eCourse as an individual, please see the PERSONAL CONNECTION

activity side and ignore the Small Group Connection activity side; if you are going through this

ecourse as a small group, please see the SMALL GROUP CONNECTION activity side.

As you go through the activation exercises, sometimes you will see a music symbol in the

instructions. See example below:

This symbol indicates that we recommend putting on some soft instrumental music during the

activity. Because the SLW eCourse is designed to help you hear Holy Spirit, the music will help

facilitate listening and screen out distractions. You may choose your own music, or a great option

would be the Dreaming In Color CD by Justin Byrne, which is featured in some of the SLW eCourse

teaching videos.

Also, many of the sessions will contain BONUS HOMEWORK. We highly recommend doing the

Bonus Homework, especially if you would like to take your SLW lifestyle to an even deeper level. Be

sure to implement the bonus homework only after the original activation exercise(s) and/or

activation homework has been completed, as the original activation exercises and/or activation

homework is first priority.

Well, there you have it! If you have any additional questions, feel free to email us at

ecourses@nothinghidden.com.

*Our Prayer For You: We bless you to connect with Holy Spirit as He leads you through this course.

May you clearly see and fully understand the things He will show you. May you experience first-hand

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how easy it is to hear His voice and follow His leading for every area of your life. We bless you in the

name of Jesus!

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“CONNECTING WITH JESUS” ACTIVITY

Watch Session 1: Intro + “Connecting With Jesus” Activity video.

RECAP: “Connecting With Jesus Activity”

1. Remember a time in your life where you felt God’s presence.

2. Let your spirit well up with thankfulness.

3. Ask Jesus to come be with you.

4. Ask, “Jesus, what do You want to do for me through this ecourse?”

5. Write down what Jesus showed you.

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LIVING SHAMELESSLY WITH NOTHING HIDDEN

Watch Session 1: Living Shamelessly With Nothing Hidden video.

KEY NOTES

● Living with “nothing hidden” - mess and all - helps create intimate, close, connected

relationships.

● The difference between guilt and shame - Guilt: “I did something wrong.” Shame: “There’s

something wrong with me.”

● We need to learn to be emotionally vulnerable within our community.

● Shame and hiddenness opens the door to isolation and loneliness.

● We have to be willing to take the risk to be open and vulnerable and let other people see the

real us.

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ACTIVATION

PERSONAL CONNECTION

Invite Holy Spirit to help you answer the following questions:

1) Holy Spirit, highlight to me where have I dealt with or am currently dealing with

shame in my life?

2) Would You show me how shame has affected me? How has it hurt me?

PERSONAL CONNECTION

1. Pray this prayer: “Jesus, I thank You for bringing this up and showing me all the ways shame has hurt me. I will not agree with this shame or let it interpret my life anymore, in the power of Your name. I ask You to strengthen me and position my spirit, soul and body to learn how to stand against this shame and all the other lies it has spoken to me. Help me walk this out with You as I refuse to join with this anymore. Thank You for not letting go of me until this is completely gone! Thank You

SMALL GROUP CONNECTION

1. Each person, take turns sharing out loud with your small group what Holy Spirit has shown you from questions 1 and 2 above. Then have your small group pray for you as Holy Spirit leads them. 2. When they’re done praying, take a moment to individually look into each person’s eyes and let them tell you what they feel about you and want to say to you after just hearing what you’ve shared. (This will be part of the healing!)

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that when You start something, You are faithful to complete it. Amen!” 2. Part of getting rid of shame is not letting it stay hidden. Ask God to highlight someone in your life you can share this “thing” the enemy has told you to keep silent. Sometimes people have shared the very thing they swore they would never tell anyone and they are either healed from the disclosure or are strategically set on a journey of getting healed. For the last part of this exercise, over the next couple of days, step out and share with someone the Holy Spirit shows you is safe and ask them to pray with you about this. Trust God in this; He is all about getting you free and helping you live with “nothing hidden.” 3. After you’ve had a chance to share with someone and they’ve prayed for you, take an individual quiet moment with God and ask Him this question: “God, will You show me what You have for me in my life without this shame?” Just listen. When you hear Him or see something from Him, write it down in big letters on a piece of paper and tape it to the bathroom mirror. Every morning, declare it out loud over yourself. His word carries power to make it happen! (*Note: Next session, we will be teaching you a user-friendly tool that will continue to help you deal with shame and any other struggles/issues that you are battling with in your life.)

3. After everyone has said what they feel they want to share with you, repeat this whole process with everyone in the group. 4. After every person has had a turn, all of you close your eyes and individually ask God this question: “God, will you show me what You have for me in my life without this shame?” 5. Go around the group and share with everyone what the Lord showed you. After all have shared, thank God for what He’s done in and through you! (*Note: Next session, we will be teaching you a user-friendly tool that will continue to help you deal with shame and any other struggles/issues that you are battling with in your life.)

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ACTIVATION HOMEWORK

PERSONAL CONNECTION

Take some time this next week and read the following article. Be sure and complete the Ask &

Listen and Pray & Seek sections at the end.

GOD LOVES YOU DEARLY

“You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, and praise the name of the LORD your God, who has dealt

wondrously with you. And my people shall never again be put to shame.

You shall know that I am in the midst of Israel, and that I am the LORD your God and there is none

else. And my people shall never again be put to shame.”

Joel 2:26 - 27 (ESV)

Whenever we take the time to hear God’s voice, we can be confident that He will never condemn us

or want to get rid of us. His heart is always for restoration and relationship with us no matter what

we have done. He loves us unconditionally and completely.

On the contrary, the enemy only has shame and blame to speak to us through his lies and

misrepresentation of the truth. The enemy loves to condemn; he loves to bring shame, and he loves

to try to convince us that God is just like he is.

When that happens, press in and find the courage to go to the Lord to seek Him and listen for His

voice when you feel the least worthy of Him - when you feel the most ashamed. It is precisely when

we feel the least worthy that we need to hear from the Lord the most!

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He is waiting for you, ready to deal wondrously on your behalf.

Ask & Listen

Lord, reveal Your heart of love and acceptance to me right in the areas where I feel shame, so that I

will have all that I need to stand against those lies that try to whisper shame to me.

Pray & Seek

Lord, You said that Your people would not be put to shame. Please give me the grace and strength

to believe Your words when I feel ashamed or when others treat me shamefully.

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BONUS HOMEWORK

This bonus homework focuses on a simple way of giving when relating to others, making your

relationships more personal and intentional. As we continue to delve into sharing vulnerably and

openly, it is important to actively pursue deeper levels of sharing with those in your life.

1. Pay attention to what you are feeling inside yourself this week when you are relating to other

people. Be aware of how vulnerably you are sharing. In the appropriate situation, try to share

feelings and thoughts that will make you more vulnerable than usual. Do this activity three

times during the week.

2. Call a friend or meet up with a friend this week. Talk with them, connect with them… ask if

there is something you can pray for with them. Aim to really get to know them on a deeper

level, along with implementing step #1 above.

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HIGHLIGHTED RESOURCE Interested in attending a LIVE Single Life Workshop for the complete SLW

experience? If so, please visit: www.nothinghidden.com

Nothing Hidden Ministries Tool Booklet by NHM

This booklet includes all of the tools that are taught and modeled during Single Life

Workshop and Love After Marriage workshops for quick reference and easy use.

Regularly practicing these tools is one of the best ways to develop your confidence to

overcome the obstacles that come against you, your relationships and/or your [future]

marriage.

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