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Seeking Financial Freedom from Financial Dependence & EnmeshmentJOSH HARRIS, MBA, CFP®
© Josh Harris For education only. Not tax, legal, investment or therapeutic advice.
Josh Harris, MBA, CFP®
Lecturer & CFP® Program Coordinator – Clemson University
Board Member, Treasurer & Regulatory Co-Chair – Financial Therapy Association
Incoming Doctoral Student – Kansas State University
CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™
Accredited Financial Counselor® candidate
Defining TermsFINANCIAL DEPENDENCE & FINANCIAL ENMESHMENT
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Financial Dependence“Reliance on others for nonwork income that creates fear or anxiety of being cutoff, feelings of anger or resentment related to the nonwork income, and a stifling of one’s motivation, passion, and/or drive to succeed” (Klontz et al. 2012, p. 21)
◦ Dependents are needy, clingy, insecure
◦ College students show signs of homesickness, social rejection and roommate conflict◦ Increases in child-parent conflict
◦ Increases in family tension due to economic scarcity
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Financial Dependence – an exampleAdult child – 26 years old employed part-time at local hospital.
Child unable to pay rent and all required obligations – yet continues to live above means.
Child requires ongoing assistance from parents and other family members to meet financial obligations.
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Financial Enmeshment“Use of money to manipulate a child to satisfy an adult need” (Klontz et. al 2012).
◦ Parent often looks loving, child often seems well-adjusted (extremely mature)
◦ Strained relational dynamics◦ Increased difficulty in child meeting own needs due to caretaker role
◦ Grown children are more likely to continue behavior on their own children
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Financial Enmeshment – an exampleDivorced parent with pre-teen child.
Parent shares with child their own financial anxiety around living within means.
Parent asks child to ask for more money from the other parent.
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Interventions
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Financial Dependence InterventionsHelp client express dependency needs during meetings◦ Provide reassurance and help to strengthen close/healthy relationships
Help clients distinguish between healthy and unhealthy dependencies◦ Provide reassurance and help to strengthen close/healthy relationships
Model healthy relationships through the use of self-disclosure
Refer to Financial Therapist for deeper work with Financial Dependence
Refer to licensed Mental Health Practitioner for deeper issues of dependence
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Financial Enmeshment InterventionsHelp clients distinguish between healthy and unhealthy behaviors◦ Provide reassurance and help to strengthen healthy behaviors
Provide outlet for parent to express financial frustrations to a professional◦ Email/Phone◦ Journaling
Model healthy relationships through the use of self-disclosure
Refer to Financial Therapist for deeper work with Financial EnmeshmentRefer to licensed Mental Health Practitioner for deeper issues of enmeshment
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Money GenogramsFamily tree focused on theme of money - Assists clients thinking through healthy money relationships and identifying issues of dependency and enmeshment.
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Case Study
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Case Study – The TuckersDivorced parent with multiple children from multiple marriages
Makes the following comments during meeting:◦ I’m not sure where my money goes each month◦ I’ve had trouble making ends meet and had to pick up a second job
◦ My daughter is behind in making rent payments to me, but they’re expecting another child◦ My youngest daughter resents me for always asking her to ask her dad for more money to cover school
activities
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ReferencesDavid J. Mumford & Gerald R. Weeks (2003) The Money Genogram, Journal of Family Psychotherapy, 14:3, 33-44
Gallo, Eileen. Journal of Financial Planning; Denver Vol. 14, Iss. 9, (Sep 2001): 46-48
Klontz, B., Britt, S., Archuleta, K. Editors Financial Therapy, Theory, Research, and Practice (2015). Springer.
Klontz, B., Kahler, R., Klontz, T., Facilitating Financial Health (2016). National Underwriter.
© Josh Harris For education only. Not tax, legal, investment or therapeutic advice.