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This guaranteed program is only for:

1. People who are interested in keeping or improving the love and romance in their relationship; or2. People who are interested in getting the love and romance back into their relationship

We have developed the most simple and effective program to love and romance in the English speaking Western world. This has been done by extending the work done by thousands of psychologists, marriage counselors, contract and family law lawyers, and family law judges. This program is called Love & Romance Forever™, and it is amazingly simple:

1. Use Love & Romance Forever™ with your husband or boyfriend2. Remind him nicely if he fails to do what he has agreed to do

It is not only simple, it is 100% effective. Of course, if you don’t want to be in the relationship, don’t use this program. If you have an excellent and thorough agreement and you follow it, you are guaranteed to continually improve the love and romance in your relationship, or if you have lost them, to get them back. All couples have areas of disagreement.

In Psychology Today in March 2013, Susan Heitler, Ph.D. wrote an article on “Marriage Problems? Here’s an 8-Step Rescue Plan”. The very first step was to write down a list of all issues that you have disagreements. She then states “Your self-help treatment will be complete when you have found agreeable solutions to all of these issues, and also have learned the skills to resolve new issues as they arise with similarly win-win solutions.”

We have made that easy for you with our Love & Romance Forever™.

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Do you remember how you felt at the beginning of your relationship?This agreement can restore that feeling of love and romance.

Every couple relationship has verbal agreements on how it is to work.

But verbal agreements can be: Confusing Assumed Forgotten Not discussed

Which leads to resentments and misunderstandings

Which leads to a 50% divorce rate and an 80% relationship termination rate

Women file for divorce twice as often as men

MAINTAINING A LOVE AND ROMANCE RELATIONSHIP IS LIKE EXERCISING AND EATING HEALTHY. EVERYBODY CAN, BUT NOT EVERYBODY DOES.

HAVING A LOVE & ROMANCE FOREVER™ IS LIKE EXERCISING WITH A TRAINER, AND HAVING A CHEF PREPARE ALL YOUR MEALS.

A written love and romance agreement leads to: Clarity in the relationship A full understanding of the relationship

It’s fun and inexpensive to do.

A woman has three alternatives:

1. Live alone2. Live with a man with some verbal agreements with misunderstandings and resentments3. Live with a man with a written agreement that details equality and the agreements of the relationship

Give him the program and make it worth it to him. He will change.

IN THIS EDITION, you get the How to Keep Him Sexy sections of Love & Romance Forever™

1. How We Treat Each Other2. Communication3. Meals4. Physical Appearance5. Health


Help him stay sexy

WHY IS THERE THISLOVE & ROMANCE FOREVER™?

We developed Love & Romance Forever™ to help make marriages happier, make long term relationships stronger, and to keep the romance of two people in love last longer, hopefully forever.

This Love & Romance Forever Program™ concept started in 1984 between two attorneys. One was a family law attorney (who became a family law judge in California) and one was a contract and bankruptcy attorney. They consistently saw two people in love eventually fail in their relationship because of misconceptions and the buildup of resentments in their marriages or long-term relationships.

Today in the English speaking Western world we live in a world of written contracts and agreements, written laws and statutes, written policies and procedures, written court cases and decisions, written guarantees on grocery items. Why do we need these? It is simple. We no longer live in villages where everyone knew their roles, and women were subservient to men. Today, in a serious relationship when people come from diverse backgrounds, the likelihood of misunderstandings increase. Two people of Chinese background and culture have a good chance. Two people of Irish descent have a good chance. However, a woman of Japanese descent and a man of Scottish descent are going to have misunderstandings. A woman from the upper middle class and a man from the lower class are going to have misunderstandings. A man of German descent and a woman of Mexican descent are going to have misunderstandings. The Love & Romance Forever Program™ gives those relationships more than a chance. It guarantees their success. The Love & Romance Forever Program™ can reduce those misunderstandings through written agreements, negotiation and compromise. It is a living agreement in that it changes as the relationship matures and evolves.

Our team consists of thirteen people with a wide range of experience. We include a retired family law judge, two civil litigation attorneys, a psychologist/therapist/professor, a retired elementary school principal, two former members of the U.S. Navy, a U.S. Army Vietnam veteran, and two former


members of the San Diego Police Department, one of whom was the San Diego Police Department representative to the California legislature on domestic violence.


THE SECTIONS INTHE LOVE & ROMANCE FOREVER™

Section 1: How We Treat Each Other

Section 2: Entertainment

Section 3: Work

Section 4: Housing

Section 5: Infidelity

Section 6: Vacations

Section 7: Communication

Section 8: Irritating Habits

Section 9. Meals

Section 10. Physical Appearance

Section 11. Relatives

Section 12. Friends

Section 13. Housework

Section 14. Hobbies

Section 15. Pets

Section 16. Public Display of Affection (PDA)

Section 17. Children

Section 18. Spirituality

Section 19. Sports

Section 20. Music

Section 21. Physical Intimacy

Section 22. Technology

Section 23. Time Apart

Section 24. Trust

Section 25. Blended Family

Section 26. Volunteer Work and Charity

Section 27. Prejudices

Section 28. Social Media

Section 29. Vehicles

Section 30. Wedding

Section 31. Expectations/Problems/Concerns

Section 32. Health

Section 33. Counseling

Section 34. Boredom

Section 35. Finances

Section 36. Alcohol, Drug Use and Other

Addictions

Section 37. Domestic Violence

Section 38. Politics

Section 39. House Decorating

Section 40. Discussing Problem Issues or

Concerns


INSTRUCTIONS TO THE LOVE & ROMANCE FOREVER™

1. The Love & Romance Forever™ is a Word document, and therefore, you can add or delete any terms that make sense to you.

2. We suggest that you make a copy of the original agreement before you start making changes.

3. Because this is a Word document you can choose to do any section at any time. Also, you do not have to do all of it at one time. It may be better to pick a time with your partner and then spend 15 minutes or more on just one or more sections. Of course, the sooner all of the agreement is done, the better for your relationship.

4. We suggest that you do the following sections first. This will establish exactly how you will be treating each other and communicating during any discussions of compromise.

a. Section 1: How We Treat Each Otherb. Section 7: Communicationc. Section 24: Trustd. Section 31: My Expectationse. Section 40: Discussing Problem Issues or Concerns

5. If you are using a printed version, cross off or add what you want, and then initial the changes.

6. Each term should be read carefully. If you disagree with it, this is a good time to discuss it with your partner.

7. If you disagree on an issue and cannot reach a compromise, mark that on the agreement. Realize that each such disagreement may become a problem in your relationship.

8. It is important to have an accurate understanding of the agreement.

9. In the agreement, there are references to a “counselor.” A counselor can be a professional counselor, a counselor in your religion, a relative, or even a friend. It must be a person you both trust.

10. Some couples will already be behaving substantially as agreed. Some couples have a way to go.

11. Send us suggestions and comments at any time. We welcome them.


THE LOVE & ROMANCE FOREVER™

We, _______________________________ and _______________________________ are in a close relationship. Both of us want to make this relationship as successful as possible.

Therefore, we agree as follows:

This agreement can be changed as agreed by us at any time.

SECTION 1: HOW WE TREAT EACH OTHER1. I agree that it is very important for our relationship to treat each other with

Respect Tolerance Patience Consideration Honesty Good communication Other __________

2. I agree to respect you. In action In words In private In public Most of the time All the time No

3. I agree not to treat you with contempt. In action In words In public In private Most of the time All the time No

4. I agree to really listen to you if I am asked to do so. Yes No Sometimes

5. If I am told that I am treating you badly, and that it is negatively impacting our relationship, I agree to discuss this with you, and if we cannot come to a mutual resolution, I agree to go with you to a counselor.

Yes

No I agree to a discussion, but I do not agree to see a counselor

6. I agree to never yell at you. Yes No

7. I agree not to roll your eyes at you. Yes No

8. I agree not to complain to you about her behavior outside of the Weekly Marriage Meeting. Yes No

9. If I want to complain to you, I agree to limit it to 1 minute 2 minutes 3 minutes 4 minutes 5 minutes No

10. I agree to thank you daily for something you did for me or our family. Yes No

11. I agree that the two of us are equal in your relationship and have the right to not be bossed around by the other.

Yes No

12. I agree to really listen to you if you ask me to do so. Yes No Sometimes

13. I agree not to lie to you. Yes No

The exception are little white lies which would make either of us uncomfortable like “How do I look.”

14. I agree not to make a contempt face at you. Yes No


15. I agree not to say things to you that I am saying just to hurt you. Yes No

16 I agree not to criticize you in front of anyone. Yes No

17. I agree to have a Weekly relationship meeting at an agreed time and location with you where we talk about the issues in your marriage, good and bad. This meeting will have agreed procedures and ground rules.

Yes No

18. If you tell me that I am treating you badly, and that it is negatively impacting our relationship, I agree to discuss this with you. If we cannot come to a mutual resolution, I agree to go with you to a counselor.

Yes No I agree to a discussion, but I do not agree to see a counselor

19. I agree to compliment you daily on your appearance or your behavior. Yes No

20. I agree to tell you beforehand if I just want you to listen and not talk. Yes No

21. I agree to honor your time alone which will be reasonable in time and location, but we will establish what that will be together at our first Weekly Meeting.

Yes No

SECTION 7: COMMUNICATION1. I agree that good communication is important for our relationship.

Yes No

2. I agree not to complain to you about you on a daily basis. Yes No

3. I agree to regularly compliment you. Daily Twice a week Weekly


Biweekly Monthly Never Other

4. I agree to consistently thank you. Daily Twice a week Weekly Biweekly Monthly Never Other

5. I agree to not make comments that you find hurtful. Yes No Most of the time

6. I agree to talk to you ASAP about any problem I am having regarding you. Yes No

7. I agree not to criticize you in front of anyone. Yes No

8. If you tell me that I am acting or talking irritably, I agree to stop, look at myself, and sincerely try to stop it.

Yes No Maybe

9. I agree to talk about issues, good and bad, in our relationship at an agreed upon location. Once a month Twice a month Never Other

10. I agree to tell you beforehand if I just want you to listen not talk. Yes No

11. I agree that the two of us are equal partners in our relationship and have the right to not be bossed around by the other.

Yes No


12. If you want to sound off at me, I agree to actually listen for 1 minute 2 minutes 3 minutes 4 minutes 5 minutes No

13. If I want to sound off at you, I agree to ask if it is OK to sound off before starting. Yes No

14. If I want to complain to you, I agree to limit it to. 1 minute 2 minutes 3 minutes 4 minutes 5 minutes

SECTION 9. MEALS1. I am willing to prepare your breakfast.

1 day a week 2 days a week 3 days a week 4 days a week 5 days a week 6 days a week 7 days a week None

2. I am willing to prepare your lunch. 1 day a week 2 days a week 3 days a week 4 days a week 5 days a week 6 days a week 7 days a week None

3. I am willing to prepare your dinner. 1 day a week 2 days a week 3 days a week 4 days a week


5 days a week 6 days a week 7 days a week None

4. I agree to clean up if you cook. Yes No

5. I agree that having dinner together is important. Yes No

6. I agree to have dinner together unless unable. 1 day a week 2 days a week 3 days a week 4 days a week 5 days a week 6 days a week 7 days a week

7. I agree that having a family dinner together is important. Yes No

8. If we decide to have children, I agree to have family dinners together unless unable. 1 day a week 1 day a week 2 days a week 3 days a week 4 days a week 5 days a week 6 days a week 7 days a week Not applicable

9. I agree that table manners are important. Yes No

10. I agree to try new types of food at home and at restaurants with a good attitude using this method.

Yes No _______________ always chooses. We alternate


We flip a coin We each choose two alternatives, and then we alternate by discarding one at a time One of us chooses two or three alternatives, and then the other person chooses one Other method

11. I agree that eating healthy is a goal of mine. Yes No

12. I agree to have you help me eat healthily. Yes No

13. I agree, when eating together, not to use my phone. Yes No Other than to answer a reasonable number of phone calls or texts Emergencies only

14. I agree not to use my phone at all during a date with you. Yes No Other than to answer a reasonable number of phone calls or texts Emergencies only

15. I agree that normally we are on our own at breakfast. Yes No

SECTION 10. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE1. I agree that physical appearance is very important to our relationship.

Yes No

2. I agree that hygiene is very important to our relationship. Yes No

3. I agree to cut my hair regularly. Yes No

4. I agree to dye my hair when it turns gray. Yes No


5. I agree to trim my body hair to your satisfaction. Yes No

6. I agree not to make any major change in my appearance, clothes or look, without your consent. Yes No

7. I agree to keep my hands and feet clean and well maintained. Yes No

8. If we can afford it, I agree to go to a salon for my hair. Yes No

9. I agree not to cut my hair in a style that you really do not like. Yes No

10. I agree to have an exercise program which will keep me fit. Yes No

11. I agree to maintain my weight at no more than __________ pounds over an agreed weight. Ten Fifteen Twenty Twenty-five Other

12. I agree to maintain my weight at no more than __________ pounds under an agreed weight. Ten Fifteen Twenty Twenty-five Other

13. I agree that at home I will put on clean clothes, and that I will not wear the same thing all of the time.

Yes No

14. I agree to listen to your input on how I dress. Yes No


15. If you wanted to have plastic surgery I agree to support you in that. Yes No Depends

SECTION 32. HEALTH 1. I agree that maintaining my physical health is very important.

Yes No

2. I agree that maintaining my mental health is very important. Yes No

3. I agree that maintaining my spiritual health is very important. Yes No

4. I agree that if I am told by you of the possibility of me having a health problem, that I agree to discuss it, and if you insist I agree to go to the doctor.

Yes No

5. I agree to exercise more than once a week. Yes No

6. I agree that eating healthy is a good idea. Yes No

7. I agree to eat a reasonably healthy diet. Yes No

8. I agree that if you develop a major illness, that I agree to visit you in the hospital, and do as much as I can to take care of you at home.

Yes No Probably Maybe

9. I agree that if you develop a major disability, I will do as much as I can to take care of you. Yes No


Probably Maybe

10. If I develop a major illness or major disability, I agree to be put into a nursing home if I am a burden to you.


11. If you develop a major disability, major illness or mental illness and becomes mean and nasty almost constantly, I agree to continue to take care of you at home.


12. If a relative of mine or yours need to be taken care of, I agree to have that relative live with us if you are OK with it.

Yes with certain restrictions that need to be agreed to No Maybe with certain restrictions that need to be agreed to

13. If a friend of mine or yours need to be taken care of, I agree to have that friend live with us if you are OK with it.

Yes with certain restrictions that need to be agreed to No Maybe with certain restrictions that need to be agreed to

DATED: ___________________ ________________________________________

DATED: ___________________ ________________________________________


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Section 1: HOW WE TREAT EACH OTHER Web viewHere’s an 8-Step Rescue Plan”. ... They consistently saw two people in love eventually fail in their relationship because of ... 7 days