Roommate Roommate Survival Survival GuideGuideBy Lin Lawson, Student Service

Counselor

Living in a dorm can be one of the greatest experiences during yourcollege career or one of the WORST! During this workshop, you’ll learn tips to improving communication with your roommates to create a comfortableliving environment.

This workshop will give you tips on the following:

• How to make a Roommate Contract

• How to mediate Roommate Conflicts

ROOMMATE CONTRACTS

One of the smartest things new roommates can do to minimize conflict is to write a roommate contract. This allows each roommate to articulate their expectations of each other and to negotiate points that might lead to problems. All roommates should schedule a time AT THE BEGINNING OF THE SEMESTER to sit down, discuss the components of the contract, and sign it. Below are a few components that you should remember in your contracts:• Noise• Cleanliness• Visitors• “Your” stuff*The next slides will go over each component in detail!

NoiseHaving a comfortable and reasonably quiet room is essential to enjoying your living space and getting your studying done. When discussing noise with your roommates think about the following:•Quiet Hours: Set quiet hours for each day when you know you’ll have time to quietly study. This may mean no music or TV during these hours, but decide this with your roommates. •Bed Times: Discuss when each roommate has class and when they plan to go to bed. How will you know before •Music: Some students like to study while listening to music while others need complete quiet. Discuss headphone usage etc and add this to your contract.

Cleanliness Not everyone keeps their room the exact same way. Some people are able to live with a little mess, while some need their room to be pristine. Discuss with your roommates how bedrooms, common areas, and bathrooms will be kept clean.

Here are some tips:

•Make a schedule for cleaning and what should be cleaned

•Figure out what should and shouldn’t be left out in common areas, such as food and personal items

VisitorsIn college, you’ll hopefully meet a lot of new friends. You’ll want to hang out with these friends on campus and in your dorm room. It’s important to speak with your roommates about how to deal with visitors. Below are a few questions to kick start the conversation:

•How many times a week can you have visitors?•When can people visit?•How will roommates be notified about visitors?•How much time is necessary to notify your roommates of a visitor?•Are overnight visitors allowed?•Are visitors of the opposite sex allowed?

“Your” StuffThis item is extremely important for your roommate contract. In the beginning of the semester everyone is polite, but as soon as “your stuff” starts going missing, all gloves come off. Discuss with your roommates how you will or WON’T be sharing your personal items.

Can you share clothes or shoes with your roommate?If so, should you ask first before you take?

Can you share food with your roommate? If not, how will you make sure to separate your items?

In case of conflict….1. Don’t be passive aggressive – leaving notes around your room will only

make problems worse.

2. Don’t attack your roommate – Set a time to speak with them about an issue when you are not as upset and can make progress

3. Getting revenge is never the answer– this creates a cycle and a bad living environment

Ways to resolve arguments1. Talk it out2. Don’t bring out a laundry list3. Review ground rules again and make necessary

changes. Hang it in a common area for review 4. Find alternatives or options that work for

everyone5. Set up a meeting with your RA to help

Food for Thought! How far can conflicts escalate? Is it

worth it?Maryland police charged a college student recently in the stabbing death of

her roommate over an IPod.

http://www.cnn.com/2011/09/16/justice/maryland-college-stabbing/index.html?iref=allsearch

Hopefully you’ve learned a few helpful tips on ways to.

Now take this quiz to see if you’re a good roommate:

•http://www.coolquiz.com/life/miniquiz/index.asp?quiznum=5

The End!Have a great semester!