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PAGE 1 NEWSLETTER RIFLE HIGH SCHOOL May 2016 RIFLE HIGH SCHOOL CLASS OF 2016 FINAL WEEK OF ACTIVITIES DAY DATE ACTIVITY/ LOCATION/ TIME WEDNESDAY MAY 11 PICK UP CHECKOUT SHEETS/MAIN OFFICE SUNDAY MAY 15 BACCALAUREATTE/AUDITORIUM / 6:00 P.M. MON/TUES MAY 16/17 FINALS FOR SENIORS WEDNESDAY MAY 18 SENIORS’ LAST DAY OF SCHOOL WEDNESDAY MAY 18 SENIOR BANQUET WEDNESDAY MAY 18 TEACHERS NOTIFY MRS. ALMOND/MRS. SKINNER WITH FAILING GRADES BY 4:00 P.M. THURSDAY MAY 19 LOCKER CLEAN OUT/ 8:30 A.M. REHERSAL/ BEARS STADIUM / 9:30 TURN IN CHECK-OUT SHEETS, (IF, ALL FINES ARE PAID) RECEIVE CAP/GOWN & RAINY DAY TICKETS/ MAIN OFFICE THURSDAY MAY 19 NON GRADS NOTIFIED BY 12:00 P.M. SUNDAY MAY 22 STUDENT ARRIVAL/ AUTO SHOP /12:00 P.M. COMMENCEMENT / BEARS STADIUM / 1:00 P.M RECEIVE DIPLOMA PACKET/ AUTO SHOP Graduation for the class of 2016 will be held on Sunday, May 22, 2016 at 1:00 pm in Bears Stadium. Gates will open at 12:00 pm. Handicap seating will be available on the track. Should the weather force us to move the ceremony to the gym, seating will be limited. Each graduate will be given 6rainy day tickets. Please call Robin at 665-7748 if you have any questions or to reserve handicap seating.

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NEWSLETTERRIFLE HIGH SCHOOL May 2016

RIFLE HIGH SCHOOL CLASS OF 2016FINAL WEEK OF ACTIVITIES

DAY DATE ACTIVITY/ LOCATION/ TIME

WEDNESDAY MAY 11 PICK UP CHECKOUT SHEETS/MAIN OFFICE

SUNDAY MAY 15 BACCALAUREATTE/AUDITORIUM / 6:00 P.M.

MON/TUES MAY 16/17 FINALS FOR SENIORS

WEDNESDAY MAY 18 SENIORS’ LAST DAY OF SCHOOL

WEDNESDAY MAY 18 SENIOR BANQUET

WEDNESDAY MAY 18 TEACHERS NOTIFY MRS. ALMOND/MRS.SKINNER WITH FAILING GRADES BY 4:00 P.M.

THURSDAY MAY 19 LOCKER CLEAN OUT/ 8:30 A.M.

REHERSAL/ BEARS STADIUM / 9:30TURN IN CHECK-OUT SHEETS, (IF, ALL FINES ARE PAID) RECEIVE CAP/GOWN & RAINY DAY TICKETS/ MAIN OFFICE

THURSDAY MAY 19 NON GRADS NOTIFIED BY 12:00 P.M.

SUNDAY MAY 22 STUDENT ARRIVAL/ AUTO SHOP /12:00 P.M. COMMENCEMENT / BEARS STADIUM / 1:00 P.M

RECEIVE DIPLOMA PACKET/ AUTO SHOP

Graduation for the class of 2016 will be held on Sunday, May 22, 2016 at 1:00 pm in Bears Stadium. Gates will open at 12:00 pm. Handicap seating will be available on the track. Should the weather force us to move the ceremony to the gym, seating will be limited. Each graduate will be given 6rainy day tickets. Please call Robin at 665-7748 if you have any questions or to reserve handicap seating.

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FROM THE COUNSELORS OFFICECOUNSELOR RESPONSIBILITIES12th & 10th Grade – Kali Almond 665-777611th & 9th Grade – Courtney Morrison 665-7777Registrar – Kathy Terry 665-7765

CHANGE IN CONTACT INFORMATIONIf you have moved or have a change in phone numbers please contact Ms. Terry at 665-7765 to get your students information updated. This is very important that we have the correct information.

Important Dates to Remember

Senior Banquet (6pm) 05/18/2016

Graduation (1pm) 05/22/2016

COLLEGE TESTING DATES (Rifle High School Code: 061230)

If a student plans to attend a four-year college, an ACT or SAT college entrance exam score is required for admissions. Your RHS ACT score can be used for college entrance. Contact your counselor for more information about college and taking a college entrance exam.

ACT (register online at www.actstudent.org)Registration fee $39.50 (no writing)

Registration fee $56.50 (plus writing)

Test Dates Registration Deadlines Regular / Late

June 11th May 6th/May 20th

SAT (register online at www.collegeboard.com)Registration fee $50+

Test Dates Registration Deadlines Regular / Late

May 7th April 8th/April 26th June 4th May 5th/May 25

SENIOR INFORMATION:

SENIOR BANQUETRHS Senior Banquet will be held May 18, 2016 at 6:00pm in the RHS Commons. If you have questions or would like to help please contact Ms. Terry at 970-665-7765. All interested senior parents are welcome.

SCHOLARSHIP AWARDSSeniors please report any scholarships or awards that you have received to Ms. Terry in the guidance office. Bring in the award letter and we will make a copy for our records. Any award the student receives we would like to recognize regardless of whether they will be using it or not. This is a great way to say thank you to those organizations that support our students and to recognize the accomplishments of the student.

Report Cards / Credits IssuedRifle High School issues credit only at the end of each semester. Students must be passing (60% or better) by the end of the semester in order to receive credit for the class they are taking. It is the final semester grade that is calculated into the cumulative grade point average (GPA) and credit earned. Semester grades are the only grades that will show on your high school transcript. The following is a schedule of when you can expect grade reports from the guidance office.

4th QuarterProgress Reports will be available, anytime, on line by using your Power School log in codes

End of 2nd SemesterReport Cards mailed home: June 46h

Parents and students can access grades daily through the use of POWERSCHOOL. Passwords (PW) and ID’s can be obtained from the guidance office: 970-665-7765www.ps.garfieldre2.org

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INTERNATIONAL BACCALAUREATE

May is a very exciting time of the year for International Baccalaureate students. Many have been preparing for at least one, but in most cases two years for the series of examinations that will occur between May 2nd – 19th. These externally assessed exams will combine with internally assessed work that students completed earlier in the year. However, it’s not all about the exam. Franklin Delano Roosevelt said:

“The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have little.”

As we enjoy the culmination of all this hard work, the ‘test of our progress’ will be made on several fronts.

The students will be put to the most obvious test in the form of a test that will test what they have learned throughout their courses. However, IB tests are rarely affairs of memorization and regurgitation, but instead ask that students critically examine information, contemplate possible outcomes, and articulate their responses. All of these are skills that apply categorically outside the realm of test taking.

Also being put to test are IB teachers. Did we teach them enough? Did we teach them the right stuff? The IB is still a relatively new program for us, and the accompanying curriculum, processes, and procedures have created a certain learning curve on our part as well. For example, the material we deliver is slightly different, and so too is the method in which it is delivered (adding to the abundance); our assessment practices have evolved to meet new standards and to conform to new material and instruction; and we may also be judged (and possibly penalized) on the accuracy of our predictions regarding students’ overall performance in the course.

Lastly, and more directly related to Roosevelt’s words, is the test of what the student will become after they leave RHS. Our mission statement within the IB is to develop inquiring, knowledgeable, and caring young people who help to create a better and more peaceful world through intercultural understanding and respect. In doing so, it seems apparent that, regardless of a score on a test (and regardless of whether or not a student even takes the test), students who take IB courses may live their lives with the purpose of taking their abundance into the world and liberally applying it, and themselves, wherever they are needed most.

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SECOND SEMESTER FINALS SCHEDULE 2016

May 23/Monday Schedule (Announcements during 1st hour)7:55-8:15 Extended Time (Students check-in with any teachers, study, make-up, remediation)8:15-9:00 1st period (45 minutes) plus announcements9:05-10:35 2nd period with review time (90 minutes)10:40-11:20 3rd period (40 minutes)11:25-12:55 4th period with review time (90 minutes)12:55-1:50 Lunch (55 minutes)1:50-2:30 5th period (40 minutes)2:35-3:15 6th period (40 minutes)3:20-4:00 7th period (40 minutes)

May 24/Tuesday Schedule (Announcements during 1st hour)Finals in 2nd and 4th

7:55-8:15 Extended Time (Students check-in with any teachers, study, make-up, remediation)8:15-8:45 1st period (30 minutes) with announcements8:45-9:10 FUR (with first period class)9:10-9:20 passing (10 minutes)9:20-11:15 2nd period final (115 minutes)11:15-11:30 passing (15 minutes)11:30-12:20 3rd period (50 minutes)12:20-1:05 lunch (45 minutes)1:05-3:00 4th period final (115 minutes)3:00-3:10 passing (10 minutes)3:10–4:00 5th period (50 minutes)

May 25/Wednesday Schedule (Announcements during 1st hour)Finals in 3rd and 5th 7:55-8:15 Extended Time (Students check-in with any teachers, study, make-up, remediation)8:15-8:45 1st period (30 minutes) with announcements8:45-9:10 FUR (with first period class)9:10-9:20 passing (10 minutes)9:20-11:15 3rd period final (115 minutes)11:15-11:30 passing (15 minutes)11:30-12:20 6th period (50 minutes)12:20-1:05 lunch (45 minutes)1:05-3:00 5th period final (115 minutes)3:00-3:10 passing (10 minutes)3:10-4:00 7th period (50 minutes)

May 26/Thursday Schedule (Announcements during 1st hour)Finals in 1st, 6th and 7th

7:55-8:45 Extended Time (Students check-in with any teachers, study, make-up, remediation)8:45-10:40 1st period final (115 minutes) with announcements10:40-11:10 locker clean-out for all classes (30 minutes)11:10-11:55 lunch (45 minutes)11:55-1:50 6th period final (115 minutes)1:50-2:05 passing (15 minutes)2:05-4:00 7th period final (115 minutes)

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Student MUST have a COMPLETELY SIGNED AND FILLED OUT physical form BEFORE they come to the clinic. Forms are available from your school’s athletic personnel or online at grandriverhealth.org. Student must wear SHORTS and ATHLETIC SHOES.

Girls Wed., May 18 Boys Thurs., May 19 4 - 6 p.m.

free sports

physicalsfor all student athletes

who live in Western

Garfield County at the

Grand River Specialty

Clinic in Rifle

All physicals are done on a first come, first served basis.

With a limited period of time in which to perform physicals, we have the following requirements:

ATHLETICS

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The Rifle Tough Strength and Conditioning Camp is an extension of the weight-

training program at Rifle High School. The camp provides individualized instruction with a

particular emphasis in enhancing sport-specific power and speed.

Camp will begin Tuesday, May 31st and will operate four days per week all summer long.

From 7:00-8:30 am camp will be open to Rifle High Football players only (including incoming

freshman.) From 8:30-10:00 am camp will be open to all current Rifle High School Students and

Alumni (including incoming freshman.). The cost is $50 per athlete.

Discounts:

• $50.00 fee only applies once per family, cost of each additional sibling is $25.00.

Camp Registration Form

Participant

First Name________________ Last Name________________

Age/Class________________ Phone Number________________

Emergency Contact

First Name________________ Last Name________________

Relation To________________ Phone Number________________

I agree, by signing this form, to conduct my self in a safe and responsible manner

as instructed to by all weight room supervisors, including but not limited to

Jeremy O’Donnell

Participant Signature_________________ Date______________

Parent Signature____________________ Date______________

Amount Paid$_________

IRONBEAR

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Rifle Lady BearsYouth Summer Volleyball Camp

June 13-16, 2016at Rifle High School’s

Jack Smith Gymnasium •Grades 5, 6, & 7 •Grades 8 & 9 8:00am-9:45am 10am-11:45am

Designed for volleyball athletes of all skill levels, this camp will introduce the fundamentals of the sport along with the implementation of strategies to improve each camper’s overall game. This camp will be lead by Kirsten Noska and Jade Rogers - Rifle’s Varsity and Junior Varsity coaches, along with the assistance of current Rifle High School volleyball players. Campers will receive a t-shirt on the final day of the camp.

The cost for the camp is $40.00 **Please make checks payable to Rifle High School Volleyball**

Should you have questions, please feel free to contact Kirsten Noska at [email protected] or Jade Rogers at [email protected]

REGISTRATION FORM Please complete, detach, and return form with payment

Camper’s Name:___________________________ School:___________________ Date of Birth: ____/____/______ Grade (fall 2016): 5 6 7 8 9Address:_______________________ City/State:_________________ Zip:_______Parent’s Name & Phone #:_____________________________________ T-shirt Size: Youth- S M L Adult- S M LConsent and Waiver

I,_________________________________(parent/legal guardian) of ________________________________ give my permission for my child to participate in the 2016 RHS Youth Volleyball Camp and do hereby release, relieve, and absolve Rifle High School and all employees of the same from any liability for any injury received by the above named participant in this camp. I acknowledge that the activity set forth herein contains dangers and risks and may result in injury. I hereby assume all risks of personal injury arising while my child is participating in such activity. My child is in good health and is physically able to participate in said activity. *Please note: All participants must carry their own health and accident insurance. Rifle High School will not provide health and accident insurance to any camp participants.

Signature of parent or legal guardian below:

__________________________________________ Date_____________ Relationship:_________________

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Rifle Bears S o c c e r S o c c e r S o c c e r S o c c e r

R i f l e B e a r s / R i f l e U n i t e d S o c c e r C a m pR i f l e B e a r s / R i f l e U n i t e d S o c c e r C a m pR i f l e B e a r s / R i f l e U n i t e d S o c c e r C a m pR i f l e B e a r s / R i f l e U n i t e d S o c c e r C a m p

R i f l e H i g h S c h o o l S o c c e r F i e l dR i f l e H i g h S c h o o l S o c c e r F i e l dR i f l e H i g h S c h o o l S o c c e r F i e l dR i f l e H i g h S c h o o l S o c c e r F i e l d

J u l y 1 8 t hJ u l y 1 8 t hJ u l y 1 8 t hJ u l y 1 8 t h ———— J u l y 2 2 n dJ u l y 2 2 n dJ u l y 2 2 n dJ u l y 2 2 n d

Boys & Gir l s 8 years old Boys & Gir l s 8 years old Boys & Gir l s 8 years old Boys & Gir l s 8 years old ———— incoming 8th graders : incoming 8th graders : incoming 8th graders : incoming 8th graders : 8am — 10am

Boys & Gir l s incoming 9th gradersBoys & Gir l s incoming 9th gradersBoys & Gir l s incoming 9th gradersBoys & Gir l s incoming 9th graders———— incoming 12th graders : incoming 12th graders : incoming 12th graders : incoming 12th graders : 6pm — 8pm

Part ic ipants need to br ing the fol lowing to camp: Part ic ipants need to br ing the fol lowing to camp: Part ic ipants need to br ing the fol lowing to camp: Part ic ipants need to br ing the fol lowing to camp: Plenty of Water, Soccer

Shoes, Shin Guards. Please dress according to the weather of the day.

Camp Cost : FREE!! ! Camp Cost : FREE!! ! Camp Cost : FREE!! ! Camp Cost : FREE!! !

GGGGOOOO BBBBEEEEAAAARRRRSSSS!!!!

Rich Carter (RHS Gir l ’s Head Coach)

Steve White (Colorado Mountain United SC)

Camp Inst ructorsCamp Inst ructorsCamp Inst ructorsCamp Inst ructors

I__________________________ (parent or legal guardi-an) of ________________________ give my permission for my child to participate at the Rifle Bears Summer Soccer Camp and do hereby release, relieve, and ab-solve Rifle High School and all employees of the same from any liability for any injury received by the above named participant in this camp. I acknowledge that the activity set forth herein contains dangers and risks and may result in injury to the participant. I hereby assume all risks of personal injury arising while my child is partic-ipating in such activity. My child is in good health and is physically able to participate in said activity. Please note: All participants must carry their own health and accidental insurance. Rifle High School will not provide health and accidental insurance to any camp participants. Date:_________________ Signature: (parent/guardian)______________________ Relationship:__________________________________

Regis trat ion FormRegis trat ion FormRegis trat ion FormRegis trat ion Form

Name:_____________________________________ Address:___________________________________ Parent/Legal Guardian:________________________ Day Phone:__________________ Cell Phone:__________________ School Grade:_____ Interested in Goalie Training (circle one)? Yes No Signed registration forms to be sent to: Rich Carter/3129 Howard Ave/Rifle, CO 81650 Contact Rich Carter with Questions at (970)618-7230

David Romero (RHS Boy’s Assistant Coach)

Part ic ipants wi l l learn the fol lowing ski l l s : Part ic ipants wi l l learn the fol lowing ski l l s : Part ic ipants wi l l learn the fol lowing ski l l s : Part ic ipants wi l l learn the fol lowing ski l l s : Defense, Offense, Fundamental

Bal l Handl ing, Teamwork, Shoot ing, Goal Keeping, Agi l i ty . . .

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RIFLE FOOTBALL - BEARS CAMP WHEN: AUGUST 8 - 11 FOR WHOM: Grades K - 6 5:00 to 6:30 Grades 7 - 12 6:30 to 8:00 WHERE: BEARS’ STADIUM

COST: $25.00 - family max $50.00 *This includes a t-shirt

Registration will begin at 4:30 on the first day of camp. For more information or questions contact

Jeremy O’Donnell at 970-319-1627 or Damon Wells 970-309-1562

RIFLE FOOTBALL BEARS CAMP 2016 REGISTRATION FORM

NAME________________________________________AGE______DOB__________GRADE_____

ADDRESS________________________________CITY____________________ZIP_____________

HOME PHONE________________________PARENT WORK/CELL________________________

EMERGENCY CONTACT____________________________PHONE________________________

I, _______________________________(parent or legal guardian) of ___________________________

Give my permission for my child to participate in the 2016 Bears Football Camp and do hereby release, relieve, and absolve the Football Camp staff, Rifle High School, the Garfield County School District Re-2, and all employees of the same from any liability for any injury received by the above named participant in this program.

_______________________________________________ _____________________________ SIGNATURE OF PARENT / GUARDIAN DATE

PLEASE INCLUDE ANY SPECIAL INSTRUCTIONS FOR MEDICAL SITUATIONS:

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$ Fines $

Invoices will be mailed home with report cards for any students who have outstanding fines for books, uniforms,

etc. or who owe athletic, classroom, or other fees.

SENIORS please note that you WILL NOT be given your cap and gown until all unpaid balances are cleared up.

From the Kitchen:

Please check your students’ balance on their lunch accounts. There are a lot of students that owe money! Even if your

student has never eaten lunch at the High School, their balance follows them from the time they started school so they might owe from grades past. If you have any questions please call

Helen Hagerty, Kitchen manager, at 665-7738.

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Life After Loss By Dr. Joy Lere

The searing pain that accompanies loss can feel suffocating. The reality is that grief is not something that most people get “through” (this implies that there is somehow a finite ending point). Similarly, to suggest to someone who has experienced loss that it is something that he or she will “get over” can add excruciating insult to injury. Rather, loss is something that we assimilate to. It changes and transforms us. Some losses leave an indelible mark on our hearts and alter the fabric of who we are and how we move forward with our lives. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ seminal work, On Death and Dying, was published in 1969 and brought to center stage what is now classically regarded as a model for five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. It is not uncommon to experience physical and psychological shock when first learning about loss. Some individuals feel paralyzed and are frozen by a dull, emotional numbness in the hours and days that follow the news. It can feel as though you are living in some kind of horrific nightmare filled with moments where you question whether this can actually have become your reality. Anger is frequently part of a person’s journey of grief. It may be anger with yourself, anger with someone else, anger about all that feels unfair and unjust about the situation . It can even be anger with the person you have lost (which can often feel very difficult to allow yourself to acknowledge, and grant yourself permission to feel).

The gap in your world can cause you to have periods of becoming fixated on what you can possibly do to “undo” the situation, somehow changing the outcome of the circumstances, or preventing misfortune striking in the days, weeks, or years to come.

The stark reality is that loss can create a very deep, dark chasm in our hearts and world. Over time—often much more quickly than you feel equipped to face it—you are forced to fall into to the putting-one-foot-in-front-of-the-other existence that life requires following loss.

The language we use around grief is critical. The nuance of certain words and terms can actually hurt more than help when someone is contending with loss. For many, even implying that grief follows prescriptive “stages” can be problematic. Some people may start to question or fear that they, or the people around them, are somehow not grieving the way that they “should” be. After all, grief looks very differently for different people. It is not a linear process. Grief reactions often occur in waves. The timeline over which certain grief reactions surface is unique to each individual, who finds himself or herself in the midst of the experience.

William Worden, in Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: a Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner, sets forth four tasks that he identified as being an important part of healing when someone has experienced loss. They take place in no particular order and often times must occur over and over again.

FROM THE HEALTH CLERK

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1. Accepting the reality of the loss. While “acceptance” can still feel like a sticky concept for many individuals, “adjusting” and “acknowledging” the reality of what has occurred is an important part of the process. It’s certainly not about condoning what happened, liking the circumstances, or fully understanding what transpired, but rather acknowledging “what is.”

2. Working through the pain of grief. Loss is painful. It rakes up a lot of very intense, raw emotions. Grief can be even more complex when the relationship shared with the person who is lost was a complicated one. People who have experienced loss often find themselves grappling with a lot of larger existential questions and the fear, discomfort, and anxiety that frequently arises when faced with a reminder of the reality of our own mortality.

3. Adjusting to an environment in which the deceased is missing. Waking up next to an empty pillow. Taking on the task of paying the bills each month. Realizing that it’s up to you to pick out what your children are going to wear to school each morning. Going to a different house for Thanksgiving for the first time. Setting one less seat at the table. Following loss, days can suddenly seem filled by reminders that someone is gone. Things are often taken for granted that may have previously been rote and automatic, but are now frequent, powerful—in some moments completely overwhelming—reminders of what has happened.

4. Finding an enduring connection with the deceased while embarking on a new life. You don’t forget. You don’t stop loving. Part of the journey becomes working out how you can keep living despite these things. It’s wrestling with how you can simultaneously look ahead and press forward while being able to fully trust that you can maintain a healthy tie with what has been lost. It’s knowing in a very deep place that creating a future does not erase a precious history. It’s discovering how can you honor and keep memories alive without becoming completely arrested by your pain.

Grief. It’s horrific, complicated, lonely, and completely exhausting. It’s messy. It’s also not something you should have to walk through in isolation. No one can remove your anguish or “know exactly what you are going through.” Yet, it is so very important that you don’t hold your pain in isolation. Let someone in. Even if it is to provide regular reminders to be very gentle with yourself. It’s okay to bury yourself under your duvet and not want to leave the safety of your bed. It’s okay to want to scream and give a black eye to the well-intentioned individual who offered you what felt like a trite, invalidating platitude when you crossed paths last week. It’s also okay to have a good day and to laugh. Wherever you are in the journey, give yourself permission to be fully there.

Author, Joy E. Lere, PsyD Postdoctoral Resident in Clinical PsychologyVisit www.dodini.comContact Dr. Lere