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Respect, Responsibility,
& Resilience
THE 3 R’s KIDS NEED FROM EVERYONE!
Deborah Gilboa, M.D.
hap·pi·ness:noun
good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:1. Confidence2. Competence3. Relationships
KID BRAINS
•Temperament• Content-free• Genetic• Biologic•Character• Content-rich• Culture-based• Experience-dependent
MOVING TARGETS
• Character predictors in children/teens• Gratitude• Curiosity• Self-control• Grit
• Culture-based• Experiential learning
If you could wave a magic wand...
Which behavior
would you change?
THE 3 “R’s” KIDS REALLY NEED
Respect CONFIDENCE, gratitude,
curiousity
Responsibility COMPETENCE, self-control
Resilience RELATIONSHIPS, grit
RESPECT
•Tone of voice.•Titles of respect.•Eye contact•Body Language•Secret Code•Negotiating•Privacy•3 sentences; amazing results!
RESPONSIBILITY
•How can I help?•Homework•Practice•Community service•One work ethic; 2 sentences
The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!• What do we know?– Bad things happen.– There are always choices to be made.– Feelings change over time.– Recovery requires tools and experience.
• What do people need?
PRACTICE.
WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
Who needs it?Adults!• When we are…– Hurt– Angry– Scared– Overwhelmed– Stressed!
Kids!• When they are…– Hurt– Angry– Scared– Overwhelmed– Stressed!
WHAT’S HAPPENING TO ADULTS?• Nurturing
– Children, partners, parents, siblings, friends
• Working– Jobs, volunteering, continuing education
• Reacting– Illness, injury, deadlines, the UNEXPECTED
• Exploring– Relationships, finances, communities, opportunities
SEARCHING… for balance
WHAT’S THE ANTIDOTE?What do we need?
1. Communication
2. Respect
3. Health
4. Opportunity
5. RESILIENCE
HOW DO ADULTS GET IT?
Perspective – Control what you can control
Strategies• Clear goals • Accessible, safe stress relievers• Manageable commitments• Well-developed support network• Resources we’re willing to use
HOW DO KIDS? Mistakes teach resilience. Praise the process. Let life teach the lesson. Choices, within limits. Encourage some risk-taking. Reach out for resources!
“I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”
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