Resilience is the ability to positively adapt, grow, and thrive no matter what rides into

your life. Elizabeth Wallace

Tarleton State University

Jolyn DahlvigCalvin College

Students who stop going to class Students who don’t complete

assignments-or promised follow-up Students who drop classes Students who fail to attend events Students who give up by mid-Fall Students who can’t navigate

interpersonal relationships

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Four uses of resilience Overcome obstacles

Steer through daily adversity

Recover from crisis

Open up to new experiences

Resilience helps students:

Connect

Persist

Succeed

Expand horizons

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Refocus on the human strengths

Individuals are capable of life change “Explanatory style” or thinking is the

key to resilience

Accurate thinking however is critical

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Me vs Not MeAlways vs Not AlwaysEverything vs Not Everything

Emotion Regulation

Controlling Impulses

Empathy

Optimism

Analysis of Cause

Self-Efficacy

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1. Understanding our ABCDE’s1. Adversity, Belief, Consequences Disputation,

Energization

2. Avoiding Traps in Thinking3. Detecting Icebergs4. Dissecting and Challenging

Thinking5. Taking Perspective6. Calming & focusing7. Getting Real

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Adversity:

Consequences:• • • • • • •

Beliefs:• • • • • • •

Adversity: (record objective facts-who, what, when, and where)

Chef Kate came back from time off after her sister died and found that her boss had hired a Sous Chef from an Italian restaurant named Nick.

Consequences(record the emotions felt and the

consequences as a result of the emotion):• Disbelief- denial: ignore Nick’s presence• Rude- perpetuate perception that she can’t handle people• Betrayal- gave all my expertise and return/this is the result: yell at my boss • Anger- silent treatment

and yelling • Fear- incapable of seeing the opportunity •

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Beliefs-Ticker Tape (record any beliefs without censor that come from the adverse situation):

•They found a replacement•My boss hired him•My boss thinks he is good•My boss wants to replace me •I am not good enough •I will not have a job •I will lose who I am Ĵ

Adversity: Let’s use our own example:

Consequences:• • • • • • •

Beliefs:• • • • • • •

Jumping to conclusions Tunnel vision Magnifying & minimizing Personalizing Externalizing Overgeneralizing

Different than surface beliefs Fundamental Deep-rooted Define “who you are” Define “your place in the world”

Achievement

Acceptance

Control

Map The A-B-C Check the B-C Connection

Are the “C’s” out of proportion?Do the “C’s” match the “B’s?”

If yes, :What does that mean to me?What is the most upsetting part of that for

me?

Identify worst case

Determine likelihood

Identify best case

Determine most likely outcomes

Identify Solutions

Worst Case

Beliefs

How Likely?

Best Case Beliefs

Likely Outcom

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Solutions

Worst Case

BeliefsDetermined

to not be a good enough

chef

Fired from job

How Likely?

Not at all likely

Not likely

Best Case Beliefs

Receive world wide

recognition

Instantly able to

relate to people

Likely Outcom

esLearn to work with Sous Chef

Encounter some

conflict on the way

SolutionsSpend time getting to know Sous Chef

Ask what Sous Chef is interested in learning/gaining

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Worst Case

Beliefs

How Likely?

Best Case Beliefs

Likely Outcom

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Solutions

Calming Techniques Educators already use!Positive RefocusingMentoring Techniques

Three MantrasA more accurate way to view this could be:That’s not true because:A more likely outcome would be:

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Possible positive impact on RETENTION

ResilienceReivich, K. & Shatte, A. (2002) The resilience factor; 7 essential skills for overcoming life’s inevitable obstacles. Broadway Books, New York.Wallace, E., (2007). The construct of resilience. Unpublished manuscript.

Self EfficacyWallace, E., (2008) Well-being, self-efficacy, and engagement at Tarleton State University. Unpublished manuscript.

Emotional IntelligenceGoleman, D. Boyatzis, R. McKee, A. (2002) Primal leadership; Learning to lead with emotional intelligence. Harvard Business School Press. Boston, Massachusetts.