Putting Together Your Puzzle

Presented By

WENDY KAUFMAN

Objectives

What makes me happy? How do I feel

Physically?Emotionally?Dream list

Goal SettingSpecificMeasurableAchievableRealisticTime line

Short: 0 -1 yearMedium: 1-3 yearsLong: 3 years +

Will Power Will power is active only in 1/6th of your brain. 5/6th of your brain power is at the non-

conscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.

However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.

So, learn to control the non-conscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.

This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!

Avoid Procrastination A 50% average in making good

decisions is a good record. Many people are not good

problem solvers, but they are good decision makers.

Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!

Happiness

Intent Accountability

Grass is greener…

Do what you like and do it more

TragediesMoving on and

upwardExample: lottery

winners one year later--many say they are less happy

HappinessNever give upDon’t dwell on the

pastEmbrace changeEmbrace fear

What are you afraid of?

What would help you cope better?

OptionsCreativity – think

outside the boxAppreciationMindful livingGivingEthics/honestyCharacter – when

no one is looking

Health

Sleep 8.3 hours 7 nights a

week REM sleep

Eating5 fruits & veggies20 minutes after

eatingWeigh once a

week

Finances

Goal setting Nickel and dime

spending Retirement

planning Start now

Meat vs. gravy Debt

management Family values Inheriting

spending habits

Prioritizing Your Life

Write your eulogy Re-evaluate your choices Examine other people’s

priorities Role-model your priorities

Wear them openlyShout them from a rooftop

Stress Management 20 minutes every

day Fight or flight

responses Relax your body …

6 -3 -6 exercise Baths/walk Pet/plant therapy

Laugh Cry Touch Crossword puzzles Learn a new

language/musical instrument

Relieving Stress

1) Stay ahead of your work.

2) Do the hard tasks first.

3) Do the difficult tasks in phases.

4) Getting enough sleep is a must.

5) Have planned recreation and hobbies.

6) Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations.

7) Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.

Emotional Intelligence

Self-awarenessLearned optimismDelayed gratificationEmpathySocial skills

Communication

Start with “I” 3 minute rule Family meetings Needs vs. wants “Men are from Venus …..” Self-talk

Assertiveness

Ask for what you want 9 times! Practice makes perfect Passive vs. aggressive Personal vs. business

Quotes “Take your life in your own hands and

what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.”

Erica Jong

Helen Keller

Quotes (Cont’d.) “Motivation is when your dreams put

on work clothes.”

“One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.”

Ben Franklin

Malcolm S. Forbes