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Divakar G.M.Krishna M.C.
Bharathi S Gopal
Institute of Management
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What is space? Is space required in a relationship? Different attachment styles Practical issues in providing space
How to give space Role plays – Set 1
Space in public life
Role of dissent Role of Space – Student life Role of space - Work place Accepting failure
Role plays – Set 2
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Privacy or time for self
Space is a right and responsibility
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Two individuals - their own set of interests, likes,passions and friends
Time gives individuals time to process theirthoughts, pursue hobbies and relax withoutresponsibilities to others
Fosters sense of Identity
Helps to be independent rather than needy andclingy
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Upbringing and Growing up Shapes the Need
for Space
Research Indicator: Married women have a
higher need for space relatively
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Even while we have a desire to be with each other allthe time, we also must understand that there are timeswhen one person or both will need to have time to bealone
When one person in a relationship tells the other personthat they need to be alone, the other person often feelsoffended Why does he/she not want to be with me right now? If
she/he is upset, why doesn’t he/she want me to be withthem? Why are they shutting me out?
Often times when one states that they need to be leftalone, it has nothing to do with the other person
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1. Doing things of one’s own choice regularly Spare time spent with each other
Negative feelings of clinginess, possessiveness or jealousy
Sense of suffocation
2. Developing a relationship that allows one to
be independent
Intensity, perfectionism and taking oneself and one'srelationship too seriously
Sense of controlling one another
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3. Open Conversation
Appropriate Words and Body Language
Avoid Blame Game
Learning and Growing
Leisure time
Quiet time
Working space
Emotional space
Financial space
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6. Break out of the mold of the relationship Assign different roles, even as rivals
Informal parties and formal group meetings -
Network separately Same vacation but different set of activities
7. Reassure and readjust the distance Too much space resulting in lack of
communication
8. Soul mates and not cellmatesAssuming that a couple considers themselves as
soul mates
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You need to discuss an ongoing project with acolleague who works in the same building. Do
you:
Scoot over and perch on their desk
Grab a spare chair near their desk Phone them
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You cope with background noise in the officeby…
You love the background buzz and couldn’t getthrough the workday without it.
Focusing on your work – you can usually tunemost of it out when you’re concentrating.
Wearing noise-cancelling earphones most ofthe time.
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A business contact you know well visits youroffice …How do you greet them?
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Now Rakesh has been chosen to represent the country for an international sports meet.
On the day of the briefing Rakesh joins the team of thirty for the meeting. However he
finds it very embarrassing to find that he is the only one to be accompanied by a parent.
Following the briefing the team has to undergo a rigorous training at another camp. On
the day of departure, Rakesh decides to tell his dad that he need not accompany him tothe airport.
Rakesh (21 year old) is the only son of the Kapoor
couple and has been bestowed with all
requirements for a comfortable living. His father
is very fond of his son. He ensured his son not
only gets good education but also develops
passion for sports and other activities. He spent
considerable amount of time accompanying
Rakesh to sports events, competitions, coaching
classes and also take care of all administration
formalities of paying fees, submitting documents
and others.
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Prithvi and Shraddha are a couple.
Prithvi is very independent in his
thinking and methodical in approach.
One evening he returns home dejectedas one of his projects was put under
rigorous review by his boss. He is
expected to submit a revised report and
make a final presentation the following
week. His concerned wife approaches
him.
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Role of dissent in a society
Role of space – Student life
Role of space - Work place
Accepting failure
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Ancient Indian philosophy – Buddha’sdissent
Mahatma Gandhi and dissent
Independent India - Debates on Publicpolicy
Majority – Minority sensitization (it is
not just about Religion, Caste,Ethnicity, under privileged. It includesall aspects where there is a possibleopinion)
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Different educational background
Different cultural background Regional influence
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Global diversity andinclusion
As inclusive as ourBrand
Respect forIndividuals
We value diversityof thought
GlobalBrands
Values Diversityand Inclusion, and
is committed to
Equal opportunities
We must be caring,show respect and
compassion
Financialinclusion
MajorIndianBrands
Equal opportunitiesemployer
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Boss subordinate relationship
Customer – Supplier relationship … proximity
Peer relationships in teams Behavioral issues … meek vs. aggressive
Gender bias at work place
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Accepting ones own failure as astepping stone for success Write Brothers … Steve Jobs…Bill Gates…
many Chartered Accountants (tough exam tocrack… so failure is only a stepping stone)
Accepting failure of others Provides respectability in the society
Promotes risk taking
Puts faith in the system
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Srinath Deshpande, an English teacher
asked his Grade 8 students to write an essay
on the personality of Ms. Havisham from the
classic Great Expectations. On the day of
submission he realized that the entire class
had completed the essay except Shweta.
On enquiring she showed her copy but
clarified that she needed some more time to
think through if her work was good enoughfor submission and requested for a two-day
extension. Mr. Deshpande listened to her
thoughtfully.
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Shashikant Nair was a widower who lived with his four
sons. His stay with each son was three months, though
he never longed to stay with anyone of them for too
long. He also detested this seasonal migration. One day
he met an old friend at a temple concert and over conversation informed him about the old age home he
resided in. He invited Nair to visit the old age home the
following week. Nair felt it was an ideal place to meet
many like him, engage in some physical activity like
gardening, yoga or teaching kids. There was a spacious
library and meditation hall. Most of all Nair met several
acquaintances and was pleasantly surprised at the
facilities available. The following Sunday he called his
four sons and their families and announced his decision.
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Divya was working in a leading fashion retail
chain since three years. Her job involved
working in a team and making presentations
of the team’s proposals and ideas to
suppliers, clients and internal heads. Her team leader Desai was an old-hand in the
company and always felt it was his job to
mentor youngsters. He would intervene
during presentations and extend support to
the presenter and the team though he or she
was capable to defend arguments. However,
Divya who was making her 89th presentation
did not appreciate his intervention.
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