THIS PRESENTATION IS CREATED BY TANDY BOWMAN~ HRF, RMF, C.A.M.P.

Presented by R n’ B Therapeutic Reflection and sponsored by Servant

Hearts © All Rights Reserved 2011

• Introduction

•Drumming

•Presentation

•Evaluation

Anger Control Tools

1. Deal with

Stress

2.

Empathy

3.

Respond Instead of React

4.

Change Self-Talk

5. Learn

Assertive Communication

6.

Adjust Expectat

ions

7. Forgive, but don't

Forget

8. Retreat

and Think Things Over

Group Drumming is not about inspiring successful drumming

It’s about inspiring successful living.

Group Drumming is not about exceptional performanceIt’s about exceptional support and personal expression.

Group Drumming is not about teaching people to playIt’s about giving people permission to play.

Group Drumming is not about acquiring techniqueIt’s about sharing for the sake of personal EMPOWERMENT.

R n’ B Therapeutic ReflectionEncouraging Healing Expressions of Anger & Emotions

Empowerment Drumming

7 Evidenced-based Elements

1. Stress-reduction2. Exercise3. Self-Expression4. Camaraderie/Support5. Nurturing6. Spirituality7. Music

Anger Management

8 Tools for Anger Control1. Deal with Stress2. Develop Empathy3. Respond instead of React4. Change Self-Talk5. Learn Assertive

Communication6. Adjust Expectations7. Forgive, but don’t Forget8. Retreat and Think Things

Over

Stress Reduction & Management Techniques

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Breathing Techniques Physical Exercise Self-Expression Relaxation/Meditation

Signs of Stress Alert Make life changes to

Reduce Stress Triggers

Adjust your Mind-View

Apply Stress Guard

SIGNS OF STRESS ALERT

Physically exhausted Irritability / Inability to concentrate, relax and

a sense of fear Poor performance in school

STRESS IS CREATED WHEN WE HAVE MORE DEMANDS THAN RESOURCES TO MEET THOSE

DEMANDS

Stress Reduction & Management Techniques

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Breathing Techniques Physical Exercise Self-Expression Relaxation/Meditation

Signs of Stress Alert Make life changes to

Reduce Stress Triggers Adjust your Mind-View Apply Stress Guard1. Exercise2. Diet3. Sleep4. Relaxation/Meditation

MAKE LIFE CHANGES TO REDUCE STRESS TRIGGERS

Take time off Manage your time

Set Limits Choose your battles wisely

Use calming skills Change a class subject if you can

Take control of what you can Don’t commit yourself to things you can’t

do or don’t want to do

Stress Reduction & Management Techniques

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Breathing Techniques Physical Exercise Self-Expression Relaxation/Meditation

Signs of Stress Alert Make life changes to

Reduce Stress Triggers

Adjust your Mind-View

Apply Stress Guard

ADJUST YOUR MIND-VIEW

What are your personal perceptions or beliefs

How have you always reacted in situations

What has been your emotional responses

Changing your mind-set toward many things in your life will reduce the stress. Make self-statements to reduce stress.

Stress Reduction & Management Techniques

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Breathing Techniques Physical Exercise Self-Expression Relaxation/Meditation

Signs of Stress Alert Make life changes to

Reduce Stress Triggers

Adjust your Mind-View

Apply Stress Guard

APPLY STRESS GUARD

Exercise

Diet

Sleep

Relaxation/Meditation

Conflict Resolution & Team Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Camaraderie Support Nurturing

Develop Empathy Assertive

Communication Adjust Expectations

Develop Empathy

Be a better listener

Communication both receiving and giving

Acceptance

Conflict Resolution & Team Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Camaraderie Support Nurturing

Develop Empathy Assertive

Communication Adjust Expectations

Assertive Communication

Send Clear Messages Learn how to listen

Express Complaints by using the “I” statements

Acknowledge your part in conflicts Give and Take Praise

Express feelings openly

Conflict Resolution & Team Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Camaraderie Support Nurturing

Develop Empathy Assertive

Communication Adjust Expectations

ADJUST EXPECTATIONS

Decide what is “reasonable” and what is not

Take the word “should” out of your vocabulary

Remember that sometimes people or situations have more limitations than you give them credit for.

Remind yourself that the way you see things may not be how others see the same things or events

Find other ways to get your needs met

Self Esteem & Confidence Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Music ~ Creativity Lead & Follow Self-Expression Camaraderie Spirituality

Change Self-Talk Forgive but don’t

Forget Retreat Think Things

Over Respond instead of

React

CHANGE SELF-TALK

Look at the evidence

Consider alternative causes

Put events into perspective

Is your belief useful

Self Esteem & Confidence Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Music ~ Creativity Lead & Follow Self-Expression Camaraderie Spirituality

Change Self-Talk Forgive but don’t

Forget Retreat Think Things

Over Respond instead of

React

FORGIVE BUT DON’T FORGET

Forgiving is good for your health

Forgiving is good for your peace of mind

Learn 7 steps to help in forgiveness through a writing process allowing for

personal healing and expression.

Self Esteem & Confidence Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Music ~ Creativity Lead & Follow Self-Expression Camaraderie Spirituality

Change Self-Talk Forgive but don’t

Forget Retreat Think Things

Over Respond instead of

React

RETREAT AND THINK THINGS OVER

Temporarily removing yourself from the situation allows your body to return to normal, provides a cooling-down time, and allows your brain to return to its

normal state where you can reason and think better. Using this time out

technique will also prevent you or your partner from saying unfair or hurtful

things in the heat of battle.

Self Esteem & Confidence Building

EMPOWERMENT DRUMMING ANGER MANAGEMENT

Music ~ Creativity Lead & Follow Self-Expression Camaraderie Spirituality

Change Self-Talk Forgive but don’t

Forget Retreat Think Things

Over Respond instead of

React

RESPOND INSTEAD OF REACT

Look at your attitude

Regulate your emotions

Try alternative behaviors

Learning Positive Tools Creates Positive Responses

To empower and inspire all individuals to be the leaders they can and will be by creating an experience to learn from. Tandy Bowman HRF, RMF, CAMP