ParentingParenting

Use Genuine Encounter Use Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMS)Moments (GEMS)

Your child's self-esteem is greatly Your child's self-esteem is greatly influenced by the quality of time you influenced by the quality of time you

spend with him-not the amount of time spend with him-not the amount of time that you spend.that you spend.

Negative attention in a child's mind is Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored.better than being ignored.

Use Action, Not Words Use Action, Not Words

Statistics say that we give our Statistics say that we give our children over 2000 compliance children over 2000 compliance

requests a day! requests a day!

Give Children Give Children Appropriate Ways to Appropriate Ways to

Feel PowerfulFeel Powerful

Often we do the job for them Often we do the job for them because we can do it with less because we can do it with less

hassle, but the result is they feel hassle, but the result is they feel unimportant. unimportant.

Use Natural Use Natural Consequences Consequences

If we interfere when we don't If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the need to, we rob children of the

chance to learn from the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions. consequences of their actions.

Use Logical Use Logical ConsequencesConsequences

Often the consequences are too far in Often the consequences are too far in the future to practically use a natural the future to practically use a natural consequence. When that is the case, consequence. When that is the case, logical consequences are effective. A logical consequences are effective. A

consequence for the child must be consequence for the child must be logically related to the behavior in logically related to the behavior in

order for it to work. order for it to work.

Withdraw from Conflict Withdraw from Conflict

If your child is testing you through a If your child is testing you through a temper tantrum, or being angry or temper tantrum, or being angry or

speaking disrespectfully to you, it is speaking disrespectfully to you, it is best if you leave the room or tell the best if you leave the room or tell the child you will be in the next room if child you will be in the next room if

he wants to "Try again." he wants to "Try again."

Separate the Deed Separate the Deed from the Doer from the Doer

Never tell a child that he is bad. Never tell a child that he is bad. That tears at his self-esteem. Help That tears at his self-esteem. Help

your child recognize that it isn't your child recognize that it isn't that you don't like him, but it is that you don't like him, but it is

his behavior that you are his behavior that you are unwilling to tolerate unwilling to tolerate

Be Kind and Firm at Be Kind and Firm at the Same Timethe Same Time

Parent with the End in Parent with the End in MindMind

if we spank our child, he will learn if we spank our child, he will learn to use acts of aggression to get to use acts of aggression to get

what he wants when he grows up. what he wants when he grows up.

Be Consistent, Follow Be Consistent, Follow ThroughThrough

Your child will learn to respect Your child will learn to respect you more if you mean what you more if you mean what

you say.you say.

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