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Positive Guidance for Hard-to-Handle Kids
Parenting Education for Foster Parents
Foster parents face numerous and complex challenges. Discipline may be one of the most difficult tasks in striving to positively guide a foster child. Foster children come from varied and uncertain pasts and they bring with them a unique set of challenges. This lesson will discuss some of the behaviors of hard-to-handle kids and explore some of the prevention and intervention strategies parents can use to guide their foster child's behavior.
Objectives of this Session
1. Identify hard-to-handle behaviors and temperament traits.
2. Learn positive discipline techniques for hard-to-handle behaviors.
3. Gain confidence in their role as a foster parent.
Participants will . . .
Introduction & Opening Discussion
For abused and neglected children, the nature of their experiences adversely influences the
development of their brains.
# of Problems A Few Several Many
Problems Occur Infrequently Frequently Very Frequent
Intensity Mild Moderate Strong
Where Problems Occur
In one place More than one
setting Usually in many
settings
Triggers
Stress and new challenges but
lasts less than 6 months
Stress and new challenges and
lasts 6 months or more
Stress and new challenges lasting
6 months to 1 year.
Professional Help Needed?
No Not necessary, but could be helpful
Yes
What’s Normal? What’s Hard-to-Handle?
Normal Kids Moderately
Hard-to-HandleStrongly
Hard-to-Handle
Adapted from: "How To Handle A Hard-To-Handle Kid" by C. Drew Edwards
What's Your Child's Temperament?
Low Activity Your child is laid back and calm
High ActivityYour child is action-oriented and on the go, even while sleeping
1 5
Low Stimulation Threshold
Your child notices even small amounts of pain, sound, or light, and doesn't like crowds.
High Stimulation Threshold
Your child can withstand large amounts of pain, adverse weather, and difficult situations.
1 5
What's Your Child's Temperament?
Low Intensity Your child's emotions are usually quite even. Your child usually displays feelings in a low-key manner
High Intensity Your child's emotions are strongly expressed and tend to be exaggerated.
1 5
Positive Outlook Your child tends to be upbeat, happy, content, and positive.
Negative Outlook
Your child tends to complain, become upset, and see the negative side of life
1 5
What's Your Child's Temperament?
Regular Your child tends to prefer a consistent daily schedule.
Irregular Your child tends to prefer a more varied schedule.
1 5
Distractible
Your child's attention can easily be diverted to another activity
Persistent
Your child has a long attention span that is not easy to break.
1 5
What's Your Child's Temperament?
Adaptable Your child is outgoing, sociable, and eager to try new things.
Slow to Embrace Change Your child is cautious about new situations and changes in routines .
1 5
Extroverted Your child thrives on social contact. He or she is outgoing and enjoys group activities more than playing alone.
Introverted
Your child is less outgoing and enjoys playing alone.
1 5
Strategies For Hard-To-Handle Behaviors
• Stating Expectations• Time Out• Positive Social Feedback and
Positive Concrete Feedback• Planned Ignoring• Positive Practice• Worse-Choice Approach
• Natural and Logical Consequences
Guidelines for Removing
Objects or Privileges
1. Revoke a privilege
2. Don't take away an earned privilege
3. Remove a different privilege for a different infraction.
Feedback Guidelines for Different Ages
Time Out 3 - 10 years
Positive Social Feedback 3 - 12 years
Positive Concrete Feedback 3 - 12 years
Planned Ignoring 3 - 12 years
Positive Practice 5 - 10 years
Worse-Choice Approach 8 - 12 years
Natural Consequences 8 - 12 years
Logical Consequences 8 - 12 years
Feedback Strategy Most Effective Age
Point System
• Select the behaviors you want to address.
• Assign values to the behaviors.
• Determine what rewards your child can earn.
• Start using the system!
Summary