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May 1, 2017
Non-clinical peer support for child, infant and pregnancy loss
Pathways
Miss our last newsletter?
All newsletters can be
viewed on our website.
For a hard copy, contact
our office.
“Because the path of grief after losing a child should never be walked alone”™
Mailing Address: P.O. Box 382 Dayton, VA 22821
Physical address: 195 Main Street Dayton, VA 22821
www.sadierosefoundation.org ~ 540-810-0307~ [email protected]
Support groups, Internet community, One-on-one lay counseling, Remembrance events
* If you would like to
share your story of loss
and how the Sadie Rose
Foundation has impacted
your grief journey, please
contact our office.
* If you know of someone
who might benefit from
the support we offer,
please help us make the
connection.
Our mission: To
provide non-
clinical peer
support to those
grieving the death
of a child, because
the path of grief
after losing a child
should never be
walked alone.™
Current Needs
*Prayer Shawls
*Comfort items for
care packages
*Cookie sheets
*Basic household
tools (hammer, screw-
drivers, etc…)
THANK YOU for
all you’ve already
provided!
Dear Sadie Rose Family,
I am always mindful and aware that with each celebration, someone, some-
where, is receiving dreadful news, so I keep that in mind with the things I share
here. The beauty of the family that we become in Sadie Rose is that we often
share together in our grief and our joy. With that, I would like to share with you
that April 24, 2017, our family received a call letting us know that the adoption
of our sweet baby girl was officially signed April 22.
Korana (CORE-ahna) (a variation of her birth name) came to us at five weeks
old November 16, 2015. Many of you celebrated with us, even sharing meaning-
ful gifts from your own losses with us as we scrambled to gather items for a
newborn. We knew to expect a call for placement, but with foster care we did
not know what age, gender, etc. Many of you prayed for us as we walked these
eighteen months, scared to hope, terrified to let go, wondering if we had risked
opening our hearts and home to love only to lose once again.
I am writing a book, “By Way of Sorrow – a story of life, death, adoption, and
hope,” that I hope to have ready for publishing this summer. If you would like to
read more or see photos about our journey of fostering and adoption, you can
read my personal blog at www.reginacyzickharlow.com.
Thanks to all of you who have supported and loved on us during this time and
now as we officially welcome Korana Sky Harlow to our family and the Sadie
Rose Family.
From Regina’s Desk
Annual Potluck Picnic and Live Butterfly Release
Join us for our annual Potluck Picnic and Live Butterfly Release, Friday, June 23, at
WEB Enterprise in Dayton. This location is a private Mennonite family farm on the out-
skirts of Dayton, in Rushville. Detailed directions and address will be provided in the
June newsletter. Bring a dish or two to share if you can. Table service and tea provided.
This month’s newsletter is sponsored by Dr. Cathy Slusher in loving
memory of her son, David, who was stillborn May 12, 1987.
“Thank you for this opportunity to celebrate my son,” she writes.
One-on-one support is available at our office by appointment. Call Regina at 540-810-4351 or
email regina@sadierosefoundation to schedule a time.
We also have several private Facebook groups, one for bereaved parents and one for those
who are pregnant after a loss. This is in addition to our public Facebook page. Feel free to
request to join these groups that apply.
Parents who are willing to talk if you are interested
Frank Bennett—540–383-9082—lost infant. Frank also has a bereaved dad’s support forum
on Facebook called “Daddy’s Breath.”
Tanya Bennett—540-383-9077—also on Facebook. Lost infant
Daniel and Naomi Lambert—540-433-8894—lost two infants. Also have teenagers as sibling
support
Anita Thompson—540-209-3251—also on Facebook. Grandparent/parent support
Lee Harlow—540-480-4928 and Regina Harlow—540-810-4351—also on Facebook. Lost
infant
Suzy LaBonte—540-833-4185—[email protected]. Lost teenager. Hosts a support
group called “Lanterns of Hope” for those who have lost a loved one to suicide.
Angie Magenhofer—[email protected]—also on Facebook. Stillbirth and miscarriage
Laura Riggleman—540-282-1633. Stillbirth and miscarriage support.
Deborah Bellesheep-Thompson—[email protected]—540-820-3446. Lost young
adult child.
If you would like to be added to this list as a volunteer support contact, please contact us.
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Additional support
For Miscarriage Support ~ Contact
Brittany Bates at 540-421-3881 or
May 11: Community Coffee and Pastry
Bar, Sadie Rose House 9:30—12:30 pm.
Come and go as you please. ***Children are
usually present at this event.
May 8: Bereaved Parent Support
Meeting, Adults only, 7 p.m. Sadie Rose
House. For parents who have lost a child of
any age.
May 26: Bereaved Family Support
Meeting, Sadie Rose House, 7 pm. Parents
and siblings welcome. Children meet upstairs
with Katie Long and Katrina Lambert while
adults meet downstairs.
One-on-One appointments available by
contacting Regina at 540-421-6458 or
Community Coffee and Pastry Bar is held the
second Thursday of each month, Bereaved
Parent Meetings the second Monday and
Bereaved Family Meetings the fourth Friday.
Some exceptions apply, so check our website,
calendar, and Facebook page often. For more
information about any of our events, please
contact our office.
Support Meeting Schedule
Current Collectibles
We are often asked what donated items would help us. We will
suggest a focus each month of an item/items that help in our
support efforts. Current Collectibles: Bottled water, k-cups,
powdered creamers, pre-packaged snacks.
Have you considered attending one of our support group meetings? We know that
taking that first step can be the hardest. Consider asking a friend or family member
to come with you. Another way to lesson the anxiety of showing up for the first time
is to connect with people online in our “Additional Support” section below or on our
online support chat. With the exception of our Miscarriage Support Group, our
groups are open to those who have lost a child of any age. All our meetings are held
at 195 Main Street Dayton, VA 22821. Please let us know how we can best support
you on your grief journey.
What to expect at our
Support Meetings
Currently all support group meet-
ings are held at the Sadie Rose
House 195 Main Street Dayton,
across the street from Dayton
Church of the Brethren. Our be-
reaved parent meetings and be-
reaved family meetings are both
facilitated by Regina Cyzick Har-
low. All our meetings are informal.
No one is expected or required to
talk unless they choose to do so.
Most every meeting begins with
casual conversation. Throughout
the meeting, you can expect mo-
ments of tears and times of laugh-
ter. Sometimes we talk about our
children and our losses and some-
times we talk simply as friends.
The meetings are not scripted and
sometimes there are moments of
comfortable silence in the presence
of those who understand. Please
consider bringing a friend if that
would be helpful.
Connect With Us!
If you would like to receive
meeting reminders, weather
cancellations, and other
occasional communications
from SRF, please use the
following instructions. This is
one of the most effective ways
to remind you of meetings
and meeting changes. Stand-
ard text messaging rates may
apply.
SRF Connections: General
information reminders: Send a
text to 81010 and for the
message, type @srfconnect.
Fourth Friday Family Meetings:
Send text to 81010 and type
@fourthfrid.
Second Monday Parent Meetings:
Send text to 81010 and type
@secondmon.
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Logan Reedy
Sunrise: May 1, 2009
Sunset: December 26, 2011
Cody Miller
Sunrise: April 30, 2014
Sunset: May 1, 2014
Ryan Shank
Sunrise: May 2, 2013
Sunset: May 2, 2013
Camden Magenhoffer
Sunrise: May 5, 2009
Sunset: May 5, 2009
Mason Lambert
Sunrise: April 14, 2005
Sunset: May 7, 2005
Emmaline Ross
Sunrise: May 8, 2010
Sunset: May 8, 2010
Jessica Ann Sager
Sunrise: May 27, 1983
Sunset: May 12, 2001
Gwenyth Carpenter
Sunrise: March 17, 2010
Sunset: May 14, 2010
Brooklyn Wood
Sunrise: May 17, 2001
Sunset: May 17, 2001
Camden Lafkin
Sunrise: February 14, 2012
Sunset: May 17, 2012
Khloe Clark
Sunset: May 18, 2011
Dominic Shank
Sunrise: May 20, 2010
Sunset: May 20. 2010
Jameson Lam
Sunrise: August 15, 2007
Sunset: May 20, 2012
Holly White
Sunrise: May 23, 1991
Sunset: April 27, 2014
Andrew Simmons
Sunrise: January 31, 1993
Sunset: May 25, 2009
Joshua Davis
Sunrise: February 25, 2002
Sunset: May 27, 2012
Daniela Wine
Sunrise: May 28, 1998
Sunset: August 26, 1998
Amaya Johnson
Sunrise: May 31, 2010
Sunset: May 31, 2010
If you would like your child to be in-
cluded in the month of their sunrise
(birth) and the month of their sunset
(death), or to have them removed from
this list, please email
office@sadierosefoundation or mail
your request to P.O. Box 382 Dayton,
VA 22821.
Remembering
Suzy LaBonte, a Christian homeschooling mom of a large family, nev-
er imagined one of her children might die by suicide. She received an
agonizing blow on a beautiful spring afternoon when her sixteen-year-
old son, Zachary, without threat or forewarning, chose to end his own
life.
What on earth had happened? Why had her beautiful son decided he
no longer wanted to live?
The following months were bleak and sorrowful as Suzy struggled
down a confusing path of shock, anger, guilt, and depression.
Slowly putting one foot in front of the other,
Suzy focused on the unfailing character of
God, her husband’s faithful partnership, the
love of her family, and the hopeful support of
suicide survivors within her community.
Plodding and stumbling towards understand-
ing, healing came slowly and with it, transforming lessons from pain and cou-
rageous reminders that God’s companionship lightens the darkest hours.
With a passion to reach out to encourage other suicide survivors, Suzy shares
honestly and unguardedly about suicide loss in her book: Zachary’s Choice:
Surviving My Child’s Suicide. Suzy also blogs at her website for suicide survi-
vors: www.suzylabonte.com.
Zachary’s Choice: Surviving My Child’s Suicide
The Sadie Rose Foundation is a Shenandoah Valley based non-profit organization that offers non-clinical peer support to families that have experienced the death of a child, including through
pregnancy loss and miscarriage. All our support and outreach is free of charge. Donations appreciated. For a complete list of our services, visit our website and click on the
“Support and Outreach” tab or contact our office at 540-810-0307, [email protected], www.sadierosefoundation.org.
The Sadie Rose Foundation
P.O. Box 382
Dayton, VA 22821
May 2017
Besides regular office duties I have…
Organized the pancake supper fundraiser Feb 9 and am so
grateful for everyone’s help!
We’ve held three community coffee and pastry bars since
our January meeting.
We held five support meetings. (We missed March 13 sup-
port meeting due to predicted snow and ice.)
I attended an infant funeral with other SRF group members
and have continued walking with that family in their grief.
I organized and held our first grief retreat March 4, with
about 25 people in attendance. (Again, so grateful for eve-
ryone’s help!)
I officiated a wedding March 25 for a couple whose baby
funeral I officiated a year ago from that date. We incorpo-
rated the memory of their daughter into the service.
I recently completed a 5-week online trauma writing
course that not only helped me process my own grief in
ways I’d never imagined, but also helped me find ways to
help others process theirs.
Katie has been a tremendous help with the newsletters as I
get the content to her
I presented about our organization in front of the board of
the Waynesboro Moose Lodge and SRF received a gener-
ous donation because of it.
I have been working on 5K preparation.
I have been overseeing the completion of our new logo!
I was called to the hospital while a mom was in labor with
her second pregnancy loss and am planning on helping
them with a memorial service. I also took them a meal on
behalf of SRF. With their permission, I also rallied our
church to take this family meals and send cards because
they live very close to our church and are not otherwise
connected to a church.
I took a meal on behalf of SRF to a family who just had
their rainbow baby.
I have been working with a volunteer who comes every
Monday to help as needed. I am working with other volun-
teer groups for future dates.
I have met with three new moms outside of support meet-
ings, have sent three care packages, and have texted with
another new mom I have not yet met in person. I have
talked with three friends who have called asking how to
support their friend going through loss.
We began another Bible study series yesterday (April 17.) I
am also leading a grief Bible study at our church that ex-
tends from my SRF work.
Texting continues to be one of the most regular ways I of-
fer support to new and established families.
I have been invited to present my workshop, Helping oth-
ers honor our grief” at a grief retreat near Morgantown,
WV on May 13.
I am writing a book, “By Way of Sorrow, a story of life,
death, adoption, and hope” that encapsulates the ten years
since Sadie’s life and death, the healing addition of two
more biological children, the founding and mission of SRF,
and the adoption of our sweet daughter that will be final-
ized any day now.
Respectfully Submitted,
Regina Cyzick Harlow
April 2017 Executive Director’s Board Report
Jan 18 – April 18 2017
