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Parents’ Pupu Platter. An OHA Parenting Project. Parents’ Pupu Platter. Session Two: Communicating Effectively with Your Child—Building Relationships and Setting Boundaries. ‘Ōlelo No‘eau. He ‘a‘ali‘i ku makani mai au; ‘a‘ohe makani nana e kula‘i. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Parents’ Pupu PlatterParents’ Pupu Platter
An OHA Parenting ProjectAn OHA Parenting Project
Parents’ Pupu PlatterParents’ Pupu Platter
Session Two:
Communicating Effectively with Your Child—Building Relationships and Setting
Boundaries
‘‘Ōlelo No‘eauŌlelo No‘eau
He ‘a‘ali‘i ku makani mai au; ‘a‘ohe makani nana e kula‘i.
I am a wind resisting ‘a‘ali‘i. No gale can push me over.
I can hold my own in the face of difficulties.
Session ObjectivesSession Objectives
Topics covered in this session will help you:Topics covered in this session will help you:
use key verbal strategies to set expectations and resolve conflicts with your child.
identify verbal and nonverbal communication skills that support relationship building.
identify key community resources available for family and parenting support.
Ground RulesGround Rules
•Privacy
•Respect
Spaghetti TowerSpaghetti Tower
The Spaghetti TowerThe Spaghetti Tower
0:00–2:00 minutesYou can speak to each other, but you CANNOT touch the materials
2:01–6:00 minutesYou can touch the materials, but you CANNOT speak to each other
Your challenge:Build the tallest free standing spaghetti tower
The Spaghetti TowerThe Spaghetti Tower
1) What was the easiest part of this activity?
2) What was the most frustrating?
3) How did you communicate without words?
4) Did group members respond differently?
5) How do you feel about your team’s tower?
CommunicationCommunication
Practice on easy messages
Practical Communication TipsPractical Communication Tips
Practical Communication TipsPractical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someone’s home
Practical Communication TipsPractical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someone’s home
Encourage reflection & expression
Practical Communication TipsPractical Communication Tips
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someone’s home
Encourage reflection & expression
Use public and private comments wisely
Practice on easy messages
Make sure someone’s home
Encourage reflection & expression
Use public and private comments wisely
Practical Communication TipsPractical Communication Tips
Understand and avoid the coercive cycle
The Coercive CycleThe Coercive Cycle
Adult makes requestAdult makes request
Child reacts with hostilityChild reacts with hostility
Adult reacts with Adult reacts with hostilityhostility
or withdrawsor withdraws
Child doesn’t do what Child doesn’t do what was askedwas asked
Respond
Prevent
Monitor
Mentor
RPM3RPM3
Model
1) Respond1) Respond——Don’t ReactDon’t React
RESPONDRESPOND
1) Respond1) Respond——Don’t ReactDon’t React
RESPONDRESPOND
2) Respond Appropriately2) Respond Appropriately
1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems
PREVENTPREVENT
1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems1) Learn To Spot Possible Problems
PREVENTPREVENT
2) Learn To Work through Problems2) Learn To Work through Problems
1) Be Aware1) Be Aware
MONITORMONITOR
1) Be Aware1) Be Aware
MONITORMONITOR
2) Set Limits2) Set Limits——Don’t Be Too RigidDon’t Be Too Rigid
1) Guide.1) Guide.
MENTORMENTOR
1) Guide.1) Guide.
MENTORMENTOR
2) Work together.2) Work together.
1) Do as you say1) Do as you say
MODELMODEL
ANDAND say as you do. say as you do.
1) Do as you say1) Do as you say
MODELMODEL
2) Perfection 2) Perfection IS NOTIS NOT the goal. the goal.
ANDAND say as you do. say as you do.
1) Love/Support1) Love/Support
The Biggest MessagesThe Biggest Messages
2) Try2) Try & Try Again& Try Again & Again& Again & Again& Again
ActivityActivity
Personal ReflectionPersonal Reflection
Small GroupSmall Group
Small GroupSmall Group
1. What was one of your biggest discoveries so far?
2. Looking back, what personality traits did you see as your group communicated to build your spaghetti tower?
3. What is a communication challenge in your family? Brainstorm with others on how you can address the challenge.
HaHa‘‘ilonoilono
Ha‘ilono: Telling the NewsHa‘ilono: Telling the News
•What were common themes you What were common themes you discovered within your group?discovered within your group?
•Did your group have any “a-ha” Did your group have any “a-ha” moments?moments?
Community ResourcesCommunity Resources
Closing/EvaluationClosing/Evaluation
Parents’ Pupu PlatterParents’ Pupu Platter
Session Two:
Communicating Effectively with Your Child—Building Relationships and Setting
Boundaries