Parenting Conference 2013

Session Three

The Correction By

Parents

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

“He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.”

Proverbs 13:24

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

“He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently.”

Proverbs 13:24

For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines.”

Hebrews 12:6

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

“Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child: The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.”

Proverbs 22:15

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

“The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.”

Proverbs 29:15

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

“The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.”

Proverbs 29:15

“Correct your son, and he will give you comfort; He will also delight your soul.”

Proverbs 29:17

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

“All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been

trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.”

Hebrews 12:11

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

4. The Spiritual Benefit

Why Do We Need To Correct Our Children?

1. The Scriptural Admonition

2. Our Sinful Nature

3. For Parental Satisfaction

4. The Spiritual Benefit

“Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you punish him with the rod, he will not die. You shall punish him with the rod and deliver his soul from hell.”

Proverbs 23:13-14

Three Parenting Styles:

Three Parenting Styles:

1. Authoritarian

Three Parenting Styles:

1. Authoritarian

2. Permissive

Three Parenting Styles:

1. Authoritarian

2. Permissive

3. Authoritative

“Teachers see it in today’s classroom; merchants face it in their stores; cops encounter it on a daily basis; youth workers in churches across America are forever forced to deal with it. Why? Because Parents won’t. The permissiveness found in homes today is downright disgusting. It is not uncommon to

find child-centered homes where children intimidate their parents. Afraid to be strong, hesitant to stand firm

against the determined will of their youngster, parents create a domestic setting that becomes unbearable.”

Chuck Swindoll

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

1. The Will Is More Flexible

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

1. The Will Is More Flexible

Hebrew phrase “Train up” refers to…

- A tree or vine growing in a particular shape or direction

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

1. The Will Is More Flexible

Hebrew phrase “Train up” refers to…

- A tree or vine growing in a particular shape or direction

Hebrew word “Shakar” means…

- Dawn, or early in the day

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

1. The Will Is More Flexible

Two Reasons To Start Early In Training And Disciplining:

1. The Will Is More Flexible

2. The Heart Is More Tender

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

Timeless Truth:

If you don’t discipline your child, it’s not because you love them too much, it is because you love you too much. To notdiscipline is the easiest and most selfishthing a parent can do.

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

Understand: Parents need to remember that they are a tool

in the hands of God to direct a child from where he would go to where he should go. That is the purpose of discipline.

Understand: Parents need to remember that they are a tool

in the hands of God to direct a child from where he would go to where he should go. That is the purpose of discipline.

“He who does not punish evil, commands it to be done.”

Leonardo da Vinci

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

III. The Principle of Correction

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

III. The Principle of Correction

INSERT VIDEO: KIDS SAY THANK YOU

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

“The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children.”

Edward, Duke of Windsor

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

Understand This: The desire in discipline is to break the will,

not the spirit of a child. The child’s will iswhat is bent toward evil, therefore the willis what must be broken.

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

“Every child needs a pat on the back – high enough when they do good, and low enough

when they do bad. Both are important.”

Author unknown

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

6. Be Prompt With Discipline

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

6. Be Prompt With Discipline

7. Be United As Parents

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

6. Be Prompt With Discipline

7. Be United As Parents

8. When Spanking, Do A Good Job

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

6. Be Prompt With Discipline

7. Be United As Parents

8. When Spanking, Do A Good Job

9. Discipline In Love

10 Rules For Effective Discipline:

1. Discipline Should Begin Early

2. Make Sure The Guidelines Are Clear

3. Discipline Should Be Appropriately Rendered

4. Remember The Spanking Spot

5. Discipline Should Be Given Privately

6. Be Prompt With Discipline

7. Be United As Parents

8. When Spanking, Do A Good Job

9. Discipline In Love

10. Discipline With A View To Repentance

“The parent must convince themselves that punishment is not something they do to the child; it is something they do for the child. The attitude toward the disobedient child is this:

‘I love you too much to let you behave like that.’”

James Dobson

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

III. The Principle of Correction

The Big Picture Of Discipline:

I. The Principle of Affection

II. The Principle of Direction

III. The Principle of Correction

IV. The Principle of Protection

Understand: It is a small step from rebelling against the parents that God gave a child, to rebelling against the God who gave the child his parents.

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is older he will not depart from it.”

Proverbs 22:6

Parenting Conference 2013

Session Three

The Correction By

Parents