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Erev Shabbat 5:44PM Candle lighting 5:50PM Minchah

Shabbat Morning 7:45AM Hashkama Minyan 8:30AM Rabbi Israel Silverstein Mishnayot Class 9:00AM Shacharit 9:15AM Hashkama Shiur with Rabbi Daniel Fridman, Canaanite

Women- The Worst of All Evils?

9:30AM Young Leadership Minyan 9:30AM Young Couples and Families Minyan (4th floor), followed by the YCF Kiddish (9th floor) 10:00AM Sof Zman Kriat Shema 10:00AM Youth Groups, 2-year-olds: lower level; 3-5-year-olds: lower level; 1st-3rd grade: 7th floor; 4th-6th grade: 5th floor Youth Department Birthday Kiddush (lower level)

With thanks to our Kiddush Sponsors: Hashkama Kiddush, Abby & Dr. Yitzchak Kanarek in memory of Abby's mother, Gittel Leah Goldstein and Dr. Yitzchak's father, Dovid Moshe Kanarek YCF Kiddush, Ruth & Elli Himelstein, Yael & Russell Light and Hannah & Scott Topiel in honor of Scott’s mother's 1st yahrtzeit Youth Birthday Kiddush, Rochelle Tarlowe & Seth Jonas in hon-or of Emma’s 9th birthday, Beth & Josh Schwartz in honor of Denni’s birthday, Dana & Neil Leibowitz in honor of Sophia, Ava, Ephram and Sari

Shabbat Afternoon 3:30PM Bikkur Cholim/Bikkur in the Home to Mt. Sinai Hospital and for home visits. Meet at the Westmont at 730 Columbus Ave. 4:45PM Parent & Child Learning with Rabbi Daniel Fridman (Grades 5-8) Sarah's Tent: Lessons from Our Mother

4:50PM Israel Friedman Daf Yomi 4:50PM 39 Melachot: Theory and Practice with Rabbi Dovid Zirkind, Borer Part II 5:35PM Minchah, afternoon youth groups Seudah Shlishit Speaker: Dr. Barbara Paris, Dementia:

The Care Giver’s Role. Dr. Paris will provide educational materi-als.

6:43PM Shabbat concludes

October 26, 2013 PARSHAT CHAYEI SARA 22 Cheshvan 5774

— DAILY SERVICES —

Sunday, Oct. 27

Daf Yomi 7:45AM Shach 8:30AM

Minchah 5:45PM

Mon., Oct. 28-

Thur., October 31 Shach 7/8AM

Daf Yomi 7:45AM Minchah 5:45PM

Fri., November 1

Shach 7/8AM Daf Yomi 7:45AM

Candle Lighting 5:35PM

Minchah 5:40PM

Women's Tehillim - Monday, November 4 at 7:15PM. Contact Joyce Weitz for more info at 212-877-1176.

SHABBAT, NOVEMBER 16

DAVID KAGAN MEMORIAL LECTURE BY GLENN COHEN A Time to Fight, a Time to Heal: Reflections of an Israeli Air Force Pilot, Healer and Hostage Negotiator

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 5TH AT 8:00PM

AN EVENING WITH

SUSIE FISHBEIN Author of Kosher by Design

THIS EVENT IS FREE AND OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. SEATING IS LIMITED. VISIT OUR WEBSITE TO REGISTER.

Sponsorship opportunities available. Co-sponsored by Camp Zeke with support from the UJA-Federation.

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 3RD FROM 10:30AM-1:30PM

CLOTHING DRIVE Even if you have worn them already, or don’t want to, your clothes can still perform good deeds by being donated to our clothing drive. See page 3 for more information.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 13TH AT 8:00PM

COLUMBIA DEANS IN DIALOGUE Mapping Our Economic Future

An armchair conversation with Glenn Hubbard, Dean of the Columbia Business School and David Schizer, Dean of the Columbia Law School moderated by Gary Belsky.

THIS EVENT IS FREE AND OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. SEATING IS LIMITED. VISIT OUR WEBSITE TO REGISTER.

Sponsorship opportunities available. Please contact

Rabbi Zirkind at dzirkind@jewishcenter.org.

A Message from Rabbi Yosie & Dr. Rachel Levine

Dear Friend:

We would very much like the pleasure of your company

in our home. Over the coming months, we will once

again be hosting a series of dessert onegs so that we

can spend time with you in a more personal setting.

Given the size of our membership, it may take a little

while before every member receives an invitation, but

try we will to reach you all. And when you receive our

telephone call and or Evite, we hope that you will join

us.

Warmly,

Rachel and Yosie Levine

SUNDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

MONDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

• 3D Tefillah: Davening, Distraction and Deveikut with

Dr. Adena Berkowitz, 8:00PM (November 11, 18, 25)

• Ancient Jewish History: Judaism and the Origins of

Christianity with Rabbi Ari Lamm, 8:15PM

TUESDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

• Advanced Talmud with Rabbi Daniel

Fridman, 7:45AM

• Women’s Nosh and Drosh with Dr. Adena Berkowitz,

10:15AM

• The Sadye and Henry Bayer Tanach Class: Mysteries of

Elijah with Rabbi Yosie Levine, 8:00PM

WEDNESDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

• Advanced Talmud with Rabbi Daniel

Fridman, 7:45AM

• Women of the Bible with Rabbi Yosie Levine, 11:00AM

• Studies in Weekly Haftarah, Rabbi Daniel

Fridman, 8:00PM

• The Next Level with Rabbi Mark Wildes, 8:00PM

THURSDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

• Talmudic Text and Mental Illness with Rabbi Dovid

Zirkind, 8:00PM

FRIDAY

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 7:45AM

• Shabbat4Tots with Cantor Chaim David

Berson, 11:00AM

SHABBAT

• Mishnayot Class with Rabbi Yosie Levine, 8:30AM

• Hashkama Shiur with Rabbi Daniel Fridman, 9:15AM

• Israel Friedman Daf Yomi, 45 minutes

before Minchah

• 39 Melachot: Theory and Practice with Rabbi Dovid

Zirkind, Shabbat afternoons 45 minutes before Minchah

• Parent & Child Learning with Rabbi Daniel Fridman

Jewish Center University Fall Semester

POM EVENTS

Wednesday, November 6th

ADVANCED LEADERSHIP & POM LUNCH

Thursday, November 7th

ROCK CLIMBING FOR TEENS & POM

Friday, November 8th

COMMUNAL SHABBAT DINNER Join POM for a family-style dinner. Member prices:

$43 for adults, $30 for teens and $15 for children; Non

-member prices: $47 for adults, $36 for teens and $18

for children. Please visit The JC website register.

Shabbat, November 9th

KIDDUSH IN HONOR OF POM If you are interested in sponsoring, please contact

Beth Schwartz or Rona Steinerman.

Saturday Night, November 9th

COMEDY NIGHT FUNDRAISER

This past Wednesday The Jewish Center’s auditoriumwas packed for a screening of Disobedience: The Sousa Mendes Story and a presentation by Eric Moed, who designed an exhibit in Mendes’ honor. Pictured above are The JC friends and members whose families were saved by Sousa Mendes. Don’t forget to check out the pictures from the event which are on Facebook.

Sponsorship opportunities

To support these soldiers and this

week-long project, please send a

check made out to American

Friends of Herzog Hospital/POM

(please earmark it for Jewish Cen-

ter/POM in the memo) to The JC

office, Attention: Eliane Glassman.

Peace of Mind (POM), helps Israeli veterans who served in high-risk combat units make a smooth transition back to civilian life.

From November 3rd through No-vember 10th, The Jewish Center will be hosting Peace of Mind participants during their week-long therapeutic workshop.

The JC Youth Department is honored to be

partnering with Bikkur in the Home to enhance and connect the lives of our

children and JC homebound seniors. Over the past few weeks, our children

began learning about this essen!al mitzvah with Rabbi Dovid Zirkind and Rabbi

Daniel Fridman in addi!on to an interac!ve session with Bikkur

Cholim leaders Shira Silton and Andrew Wigod. Last Shabbat, Parshat Vaera,

seventeen children in grades 5-8 met with Bikkur in the Home leader Esther

Rimokh for a detailed orienta!on. Following the orienta!on, the children and

some parents accompanied leaders from Bikkur in the Home for visits with

seniors all over the UWS. Upon returning to The JC from their visits, the children

gathered to learn from each other and reflect upon their experiences.

We will be working closely with Bikkur in the Home to strengthen this connec-

!on and broaden the Bikkur Cholim program to include younger children with

their parents and a special JC Teen Bikkur Cholim ini!a!ve, please stay tuned!

YOUTHDEPARTMENT&

BIKKURCHOLIMUPDATE

THIS WEEK’S SEUDAH SHLISHIT SPEAKER,

DR. BARBARA PARIS, DEMENTIA: THE CARE GIVER’S ROLE

Dr. Barbara Paris has played a central role in the field of Geriatric Medicine for over 25 years. She is currently a Clinical Professor of Medicine, Geriatrics & Palliative Medicine at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai and the Vice-Chair of Medicine & Director of Geriatrics at Maimonides Medical Center; the Brooklyn Campus of Albert Einstein College of Medicine. Her clinical work and research are focused on comprehensive health care delivery to medically complex frail elderly, Jewish Medical Ethics and holocaust survivors.

COMMUNITY ANNOUNCEMENTS

BOOK CLUB MEETING: THE RISE OF DAVID LEVINSKY BY ABRAHAM CAHAN

Sunday, October 27th at 7:30 PM This meeting will be facilitated by Professor Jerome Chanes and hosted at the home

of Dinah & Andrew Mendes located at 262 Central Park West. If you have any ques-

tions, please email bookclub@jewishcenter.org.

YOUNG LEADERSHIP’S EAST MEETS WEST

Friday, November 1 at The JC and Friday, November 22 at KJ Join 100+ Young Professionals from both sides of the park for a special two-part

dinner series. This event is currently sold out for those from the West Side. If you would

like to be added to our wait list, please email eastmeetswest@gmail.com.

MEVARCHIM KIDDUSH

Shabbat, November 2nd This is a wonderful opportunity to commemorate a loved one or celebrate a Simcha

with our community. If you are interested in sponsoring, please contact Aaron Strum

at astrum@jewishcenter.org

CLOTHING DRIVE

Sunday, November 3rd from 10:30AM-1:30PM Even if you have worn them already, or don’t want to, your clothes can still perform

good deeds by being donated to our clothing drive. We are in need of volunteers

to sort, fold and transport the clothes after the drive ends. If you would like to volun-

teer, or have any questions, please email Eliane at eliane@jewishcenter.org

YOUNG CCOUPLES AND FAMILIES CHANNUKAH TOY DRIVE

November 3-11 YCF Chanukah Toy Drive to benefit those at Ohel Children’s Home and Family Ser-

vices. Whether for a baby loved by OHEL foster parents, an abused mother and her

children in an OHEL shelter, or a senior with a developmental disability cared for in

an OHEL Bais Ezra residence, your gift most importantly says, “I care about you!”

These wishes vary from board games, electronics to gift cards. Stop by The JC lobby

and drop off your gift.

ADVANCED LEADERSHIP PRIVATE TOUR OF THE CHAIM GROSS

MUSEUM ART GALLERY

Thursday, November 7th at 11AM Join us for a private, docent-led visit to the Chaim Gross Museum in Greenwich Vil-

lage. On view are masterworks by Gross, as well as his extensive collection of mod-

ern American art, featuring important paintings by de Kooning, Avery, Hartly and

Burliuk, among many others. The trip costs $10/person. Visit our website to register.

HOSPITALITY SHABBAT Shabbat lunch, November 9

Please join us for our Home Hospitality Shabbat Lunch which is hosted in conjunction

with the Hospitality Committee and the Membership Committee. If you are interest-

ed in joining us, please visit our website. We look foward to spending Shabbat with

you.

SAVE THE DATE: TEEN VS. CLERGY BASKETBALL GAME Saturday night, December 7th

Mazal Tov Larry & Ruth Kobrin on the birth of a grandson, born to Deborah and Dan Levy.

Miriam & Jeff Zuckerman on the birth of a grandson, Menachem Mendel Zuckerman, born to their children Rachel & Rabbi Aron Meir Zuckerman.

Thank You to our Ushers Thank you to Aliza Herzberg, Mark Segall,

and Carrie Stieglitz who are our ushers this Shabbat.

Our Lay Leaders Want to Meet You! This week come meet Michael Jacobs, who will be joining the clergy on the receiving line immediately following services. We look for-ward to getting to know each of you, hearing your thoughts and ideas about The Center and discussing ways to become more involved.

Thank You CSS We would like to once again thank CSS and our dedicated CSS members for providing the security for our synagogue this week.

Are You Running the NYC Mar-

athon on Sunday, November 3rd? If you or someone you know at The JC is running the Marathon, please let contact Eliane at eliane@jewishcenter.org to let us know.

Save the Date: Yachad Shabbaton

The Jewish Center is proud to partner with Manhattan Day School to host Yachad on Friday evening, December 6th. Yachad, The National Jewish Council for Disabilities, is dedicated to addressing the needs of all Jew-ish individuals with disabilities and ensuring their inclusion in every aspect of Jewish life. Our guests will daven with us in the main sanctuary and then participate in a special dinner on the 5th floor. Sponsorships of $180 or more help make this event possible. To join us for dinner, to sponsor, or for further infor-mation please call us at 212-663-9220 or Rab-bi Zirkind at 212-724-2700. Rona and Ira Kellman

Breast Cancer: Newest Findings in Genet-

ics & Detection with Kenneth Offit and

Emily Sonnenblick. To be held on Wednesday, October 30 at 6:30 PM at Congregation Kehilath Jeshurun in the Hayman Auditorium, located at 125 East 85th Street. To RSVP, please email Deborah Zim-bler at deborahzimbler@verizon.net.

DineNMeet (for Modern Orthodox singles,

Ages 25-39)

Shabbat, November 8 DineNMeet will once again host dinners on November 8th. For more information and to register, please go to: www.dinenmeet.com.

UPCOMING EVENTS

YOUTH DEPARMENT EVENTS

Children, join us for Adon Olam Children are encouraged to come up

during the Cantor’s recitation of

Kiddush and then to sing Adon Olam

together.

Parent & Child Learning (5-8 graders)

with Rabbi Daniel Fridman Shabbat, October 26

Youth & Bikkur Cholim Visits

Shabbat, November 2nd Those in grades 5-8 are welcome. If you

want to get involved please email Sha-

ron Herzlfeld at

sherzfeld@holisticneuro.com

The Bat Mitzvah Scholars Program.

Presented in partnership by The Jew-

ish Center and Drisha Sundays, 11/10, 11/17, 11/24 and 12/8

This class will be taught by Wendy Amsel-

lem, a PhD candidate at NYU and a

teacher at Drishah. The class will cost

$360/learning pair. For more information

contact Eliane at eliane

@jewishcenter.org.

‘Full’ Disclosure: Parshat Chayeh Sarah 5774 Rabbi Dovid Zirkind

Yosie Levine Rabbi

Dovid Zirkind Assistant Rabbi

Chaim David Berson Cantor

Daniel Fridman Resident Scholar

Ari Lamm William Fischman

Rabbinic Intern

Aaron Strum Executive Director

Eliane Glassman Director of

Programming

and Communications

Hod Klein Youth Director

OFFICERS

Virginia Bayer Hirt President

Avi Schwartz First Vice President

Andrew Kaplan Vice President

Rachel Ringler Vice President

Mark Segall Vice President

Len Berman Assistant Vice

President

Adina Spiro Wagman Treasurer

Yaron Kinar Assistant Treasurer

Andrew Borodach Secretary

Chevra Kadisha 212-724-2700

UWS Mikvah 212-579-2011

Hatzalah 212-230-1000

Eruv Status 212-724-2700

Clergy & Staff

Phone Numbers

To advertise or list an announcement in The JC Shabbat Bulletin, please contact Eliane at eliane@jewishcenter.org

“I’ve got good news and bad news. Which would you like to hear first?” Social Scientists have often wondered whether delivering bad news is better done first, last or if the order has no impact on the recipi-ent of the information. The Talmud cites a series of ancient expressions one of which is: מילתא גנאה דאית ביך קדים אמרה– if there is something negative, say it first. (Bava Kam-ma 92v) The origin of this expression, the Gemara goes on to explain, is our Parsha. Eliezer, Avraham’s faithful servant is taken by Rivkah for a formal introduc-tion with her family. Sensing the excite-ment of the moment, Lavan races to greet him and the family graciously welcomes him to a warm meal, but Eliezer hesitates.

“They placed before him to eat and he said ‘I will not eat until I have spoken my word’. They said, ‘speak’. And he said ‘I am a slave of Avraham.’” (Bereishit 24:33-35)

Rather then making an offer imme-diately, Eliezer finds it necessary for the family to understand who he is, a simple slave delivering a message. Later he would elaborate on Avraham’s success and wealth and the great privilege it would be to marry Yitzchak, but first he was open and honest about his stature in the social structure of the family. The need for full disclosure re-moves any question of dishonesty on his part. Eliezer could not benefit from a meal fit for a king until they knew he was slave. Only then could he accept their generosity.

If Eliezer is to be commended for his forthcoming approach, it should make

us wonder why he did not tell Rivkah who he was when they first met. On multiple occasions, Eliezer asks Rivkah who she is and where she comes from, but not once does he tell her he is a slave. Indeed it is this distinction that highlights what his goals were in finding the perfect mate for Yitzchak. “The servant ran to greet her… And she said ‘drink my master’.” (Chayeh Sarah 24:17-18) The Torah emphasizes the extent of Rivkah’s kindness that she had not intention of limiting herself to the pres-tigious alone. Withholding who exactly he was, was necessary to gauge Rivkah’s in-tention. But even Eliezer is surprised by the result. “And it was when the camels fin-ished drinking, the man took out his gifts…” (24:22) In her selfless chessed, Riv-kah was able to not only look past Eliezer’s limitations but also was able to raise him above his own preconceived notion of self- worth. In one short narrative Eliezer went from being a servant, to a human being, to a master.

Chessed is often seen as the capabil-ity to replenish what someone is lacking; to help return someone to his or her previous state. But the chessed of Rivkah was far more ambitious. In meeting Eliezer she in-spired him; she gave him more than he was looking for by teaching him just how much he was worth as an individual. Rivkah serves as the ultimate reminder of how much good we can accomplish and the power we have to uplift those in need of support.

Camp Zeke and The Jewish Center invite you to participate in a night supported by UJA-Federation

with Susie Fishbein

An Evening of An Evening of An Evening of An Evening of

Susie Fishbein, author of KOSHER BY DESIGN,

will lead a cooking demonstration followed by an open Q&A session and a tasting.

Please visit our website to reserve your seat. This event is FREE and open to the public. Seating is limited.

SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE. A $180 sponsorship includes a reserved seat in the front section,

as well as a copy of one of Susie Fishbein’s cookbooks.

The Jewish Center • 131 West 86th Street New York, NY 10024 • www.jewishcenter.org

Kosher CookingKosher CookingKosher CookingKosher Cooking

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 5 AT 8PM

PLEASE VISIT OUR WEBSITE TO REGISTER This event is free and open to the public. Seating is limited.

SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES AVAILABLE To sponsor please contact Rabbi Zirkind at dzirkind@jewishcenter.org

MAPPING OU

R ECONOMIC F

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An armchair conversa

tion with Glenn Hubb

ard, Dean of the Colu

mbia Business School

and David Schizer, De

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w School, moderated b

y Gary Belsky.

COLUMBIA DEAN

S IN DIALOGUE

GLENN HUBBARD is an American economist and academic professor. He is Dean of the Columbia University Graduate School of Business, where he is also the Russell L. Carson Professor of Finance and Economics.

DAVID SCHIZER was named the fourteenth Dean of

Columbia Law School in 2004. He was appoint-ed Dean at the age of 35, making him the

youngest dean in the school's history and one of the youngest deans of a top Law School.

WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 13TH AT 8:00PM

THE JEWISH CENTER 131 West 86th Street, New York, NY 10024

www.jewishcenter.org

Gary Belsky is a principal at Elland Road Partners, a consulting firm specializing in editorial and content strategy and execution. The former Editor-in-Chief of ESPN The Magazine and ESPNInsider.com, Belsky is an adjunct professor of journalism at New York University and a featured columnist for Time.com, where he writes about business, psychology, personal finance and sports.