Central Iowa Chapter 2741 Hickman Rd. Des Moines, IA 50310

JULY 2019 VOLUME 21 NO. 7

“WE NEED NOT WALK ALONE!”

NEXT MEETING: July 2, 2019 7 – 8:45 PM

Hamilton’s on Westown Parkway

**Large Chapel Area or Butterfly Reception Room**

3601 Westown, West Des Moines, IA

Go west at the corner of Valley West Drive and Westown Parkway. Hamilton’s is located on the northwest corner of

36th Street and Westown Parkway. Entry to the parking lot is off of 36

th Street, on either the south or north side of the

building. The facility will be open at 6:30 pm for anyone who wants to come early to share or for new people to fill

out papers and get information folders.

PROGRAM: OPEN DISCUSSION. We will be using Support Cards from Grief Watch to

facilitate an open discussion on a broad range of grief issues. These cards have a question

to think about printed on the front and back of the card. With 48 cards in the package,

there are 96 different questions altogether. We started to work our way through the set at a

program last year and got about half way through. We will go through the rest of the cards

this evening.

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CHAPTER AND NATIONAL INFORMATION

Central Iowa Chapter:

Chapter Leader – Merry Bradley – 515-277-6432

Newsletter Editor – Judy Jarboe - jjarboe@mchsi.com

Chapter Advisor –

Chapter Website – http://www.tcfdsm.org/

National Office:

Address: The Compassionate Friends, Inc.

P.O. Box 3693

Oak Brook, IL 60522-3693 Phone toll-free: 1-877-969-0010

Fax: 1-630-990-0246

Website: www.thecompassionatefriends.org

IN LOVING MEMORY . . .

No dues or fees are required to belong to The Compassionate Friends. We have all paid the ultimate price — the loss

of our loved ones. Parents and others may provide financial support for our chapter through “love gifts,” a beautiful and

loving way to remember our loved ones. Our chapter work is done by volunteers, and through love gifts we are able to

reach out to others with our brochures and newsletters as well as to obtain books and other information for our library.

We truly appreciate every love gift and donation and use them in our chapter’s work to be there for others.

CHUCK and VERDINA HASTINGS

In memory of their son, CHUCK, and grandson-in-law, WARREN

IOWA ONE-GIFT DONATION PROGRAM

Anonymous donation

Send love gifts for Central Iowa Chapter of TCF to:

Central Iowa Chapter TCF Due to printing requirements, to ensure your “love

Anne Gehrke gift” acknowledgement appears in the newsletter

4105 73rd Street edition you want, please be sure your gift is sent by

Urbandale, IA 50322 the first of the prior month. Thank you!

Love gift checks need to be written in either blue or black ink. DO NOT USE MARKERS since the bank

cannot make out the information on checks written with markers in order to credit them to our chapter’s account.

MINUTES FOR JUNE 2019 MONTHLY MEETING

Nineteen attended the June 4th TCF meeting. We welcomed Kristine Williams, attending in memory of her daughter, Kailey

Nicole.

Volunteers for the August balloon release are asked to sign up by the July 2nd meeting to help with this special event.

Many memories—bringing a smile, a chuckle, and also a tear—were shared tonight; a wonderful time to listen and get to

know our TCF family better. Such a nice way to honor our special persons. Remember, our memories and love for them will

always be with us. ~ Merry Bradley

HAVE YOU MOVED?? In order to continue getting the newsletter by mail/paper copy, you MUST notify Merry Bradley in

writing about your change of address. Numerous recently returned newsletters are costing us a large loss of postage. If a

newsletter is returned to me, that name will be removed from the mailing list.

Contact: Merry Bradley, 2741 Hickman Road, Des Moines, IA 50310

Why not receive your copy of our monthly newsletter by email? Just send your email address (also include your full

snail-mail address with zip code) to the editor at jjarboe@mchsi.com. The email version is in pdf form and can be

opened on any computer regardless of operating system. And it is in color!

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SAVE THE DATES

TWO REGIONAL CONFERENCES PLANNED FOR OCTOBER 2019

Houston, TX October 4 @ 6:00 am - October 7 @ 10:00 pm “Deep in the Heart of Hope”

Nashville TN October 18 @ 12:00 pm - October 19 @ 5:30 pm “Memories of Love, Melodies of Hope in Music City”

I WONDER

When did sadness stop covering everything? I don’t know. It must have first been for moments, then maybe hours, days

eventually. Then for a long time no longer ever-present, but just below the surface waiting for a thought to trigger it. Now

I live with more joy than sadness but even now sadness surfaces unexpectedly as the dark shape of loss stirs the cauldron

and tears are added to the soup of life, salty still, but not as bitter or overpowering, adding an important flavor to the

whole of me.

~ Genesse Bourdeau Gentry - Catching the Light – Coming Back to Life after the Death of a Child

Remembrance

I see your smile in the brightness of the summer sun. A gentle breeze is the touch of your hand on mine.

A wave breaks softly on the shore, and I hear you whisper, "Remember me."

A winged bird begins it flight into the distant sky.

The sound of children's laughter fills the air.

The evening stars become your eyes, and I reply—"You are ever near."

~`Priscilla D. Kenney, TCF Kennebunk, ME

The Dream

You came to me this morning in a dream just before I woke. I recognized you as you turned the corner. I

looked at you; waiting for the transience of dream forms and saw it was not to be. You stayed together, the same

age, with the same smile.

We both knew this was just a visit. You and I both knew this was special. We both knew that my dream was

where our two worlds could meet.

I looked at you waiting for the transition, waiting for the change, but it did not come. This dream was not of my

own making but was shared by you and inhabited by you.

I kissed your cheek and felt your skin and felt my arm around your neck. But that's where it ended. I closed

my eyes and felt the distance grow as I rose to awareness and you retreated to longing.

~ June O'Connor, TCF Central Connecticut Chapter

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Your broken heart requires at least as much care as a broken bone. With proper care you can be confident that you will heal. The same powerful forces that mend a broken bone will heal your emotional pain, but a wounded heart needs time and proper care to heal.” ~ Harold Bloomfield, MD

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Our Beloved Children Remembered in July Lighting a candle, cherishing a birth . . .

Tanya Sue H. Abuhl Daughter of Susan Howard

Kent Anderson Son of Tammi Anderson

Charlie Barber Son of Leah Barber

Alyssa Josephine Baye Daughter of Pamela Baye, Sylvan Baye, and Chantel Austin

Noah Card Son of Andrea and Kent Card

Mindy Deitrick Daughter of Charley and Barb Brindley

Griffin Diedrichs Son of Angelina and Joe Diedrichs, grandson of Diane Wonders

Tyler Faircloth Son of Jereomy and Dessa Faircloth

Kurt Frosheiser Son of Chris Frosheiser

Doug Fulton Son of Mary Lou Christian

Amber Gandy Daughter of Doug and Cidny Gandy

Margo Gerleman Daughter of Susie Gerleman & Scott Flood and Brent and Carol Gerleman

Levi Glodt Son of David and Janine Glodt

Westen Hackley Son of Bill and Sue Hackley

Haylee Hanson Granddaughter of Cynthia Betts

Jamie Helmer Daughter of Guy and Holly Helmer

Jeffery Horn Son of Jack and Vicky Horn

Benjamin Koestner Son of Dan and Amy Koestner

James Paul Konecny Son of Charles and Patty Konecny, husband of Lynette, father of Viera

and Amelia, brother of David

Jacqueline LePorte Daughter of John and Lori LePorte, granddaughter of Mary Scherer

Landen Mateer Son of Theron and JoLee Mateer

Allan Miller Son of Holly and Ryan Miller, grandson of Kim ad Carlton Peterson

Johnny Moore Son of Rebecca Aspengren

Michelle O’Brien Daughter of Mark and Murline O’Brien

Gabriella Ochoa Daughter of Heather Ochoa and Fabnao Ochoa, sister of Tavoni and Jarren

Cody Prescott Son of Ronald and Jolene Prescott

Erin Diann Rhea Daughter of Marty and Gary Rhea

Brett Richardson Son of Carol Richardson

Caleb Robbins Son of David and Merilee Robbins

Maverick Rocha Son of Aphton and James Rocha

Stacy (Cain) Rundlett Daughter of Mary and Gary DouBrava, wife of Tim Rundlett, mother of

Nick, Don, and Clare Cain

Erika Schwager Daughter of Bette Schwager

Alexandria Sears Daughter of Mark and Mona Sears

Joshua Shipman Son of Sam and Rita Shipman

Christian Sienkiewiez Son of John and Trisha Sienkiewiez

David Michael Stehl Son of Ron and Jan Stehl

Jamie Sturges Daughter of Donna Flinn

Michael Trimble Son of Vicki Oderkirk

Missi Van Gundy Daughter of Bruce and Kathy Van Gundy

Carl Wagenknecht Son of Tom and Janis Wagenknecht

Dawson Weber Son of Daniel and Linda Weber

Jacob Welch Son of Randy and Danielle Welch

Donna Wertz Sister of Karen Halder

Jon Wilson Son of Pat and Linda Wilson

Kyla Wilson Son of Evelyn Launderville, sister of Michelle Fjelland

Michael Lee Zylstra Son of Larry and Carol Zylstra

Lighting a candle, remembering a life . . . Wendy Allsopp Daughter of Rosemarie O’Connor and Michael Allsopp

Michael Paul Carlson Son of Dave and Ruth Carlson

Melissa Collins Daughter of Sherry Collins

John Cook Son of Guy and Cyndi Cook 7

Josh Dakin Son of Steve Dakin

Merry Dick Sister of Jamie Chapman

Claire Dymit Daughter of Karin Refsell

Kyle Foust Son of Linda Sorg

Colton Hackley Son of Bill and Sue Hackley

Timothy Heggen Son of Rick Heggen

Kathryn Heller Daughter of Mark and Jeanne Heller-Narveson

James Joseph Howard Son of Susan Howard

Tom Hoy Son of Howard and Pat Hoy

Courtney Johnson Daughter of Sherry Johnson

Chad Kach Son of Roxye Afseth

Scott Marshall Son of Russ and Mary Marshall

Jason Mrogenski Son of Tom and Diana Mrogenski

Charles Nash Son of Cheryl Cramer

Tom Nitzke Son of Everett and Betty Nitzke

Shannon O’Connor Jr. Son of Shannon and Tammy O’Connor

Az’urai Palmer Daughter of Kristina Ouinonez and Richard Palmer, Sr., sister of Jasmine

and Richard Jr.

Bradley S. Parker Son of Linda Parker and Russ Eggers

Arie Lee Pett Son of Kim Pett

Ryan Polich Son of Andrew and Kristine Polich

Sean Davidson Seaver Son of Gary and Debbie Seaver, grandson of Bill Sr. and Cathy Seaver

Brent Selby Son of Mary Selby

Max Simon Suvalsky Son of Lucy and Steve Suvalsky, brother of Zach and Becca

Scott David Wikner Son of Ivan and Gen Wikner

Jeffery Wilson Son of Ralph and Marilyn Wilson Kimberly Wilkinson Daughter of Terry Zuch

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