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Princess Diana

Investing in People Loving

Unconditionally

Idealist HealerThe Compassionate

Leader

Are you an empath?

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Letter from Keirsey

Dear Friend,

I am very pleased to present you the May issue of the Keirsey Magazine! This month, we are featuring Diana Princess of Wales, she was born Diana Frances Spencer, and became adored as, “The People’s Princess.” To most of the world, she was known as, “the fairy tale princess,” or as “the most photographed woman of her generation.” Surprisingly, what many do not realize is that she was one of the most compassionate people to grace the planet. Her temperament was that of an Idealist Healer (INFP), who spent much of her time in hospitals, orphanages, and centers for the diseased, disabled, and dying. In one year, she carried out 397 official engagements to such places to visit with people who were desperately in need. She displayed extraordinary courage by touching people who were terminally ill. We hope that you too will be moved to action by the model of her compassionate life. In this issue you will also learn about the kinds of investments you can make in people, and the impact it makes when you consider their temperaments. We also explore the subject of love and empathy, and engage in a discussion on how to love unconditionally. We are asking that you open up your hearts, and go deep with your soul. We hope that you will catch a glimpse of the power of compassion, and think about how you can make a unique difference in someone’s life. We would love to engage in this discussion together with you. We invite you to send us your thoughts to [email protected]. We hope you are touched as you experience this month’s issue of the Keirsey Magazine!

All the Best,

Lisa J. ChoiCreative DirectorThe Keirsey Group

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“I don’t go by the rule book. I lead from the heart,

not the head.”

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Table of Contentss

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Lov ing Uncondi t iona l l y 5

Por t ra i t o f a Leader : P r incess D iana The Compass ionate Leader Idea l i s t Hea ler INFP Leadersh ip Lessons 17

L i fe Journey o f Pr incess D iana 23

Do You Have Empathy? The Anatomy o f an Empath 29

Inves t ing in Peop le 39

Q&A: How Does Po l i t ics P lay a Ro le in Temperament? 49

What i s Temperament? 53

Cred i ts 57

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“In Keirsey’s point of view, we believe that a person’s strengths and weaknesses are configured together as a part of the same system. That is, strengths and weaknesses are a part of the same tree. They are branches that stem from the same trunk, which share the same roots. “

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Loving UnconditionallyLoving unconditionally is about total acceptance of the other. It means accepting the good, the bad, the lovely, and the ugly. And let’s face it, that’s hard to do! Whether it’s a significant other, a parent, child, friend, colleague, or client, loving (or even liking) another human being can be a challenge after the initial honeymoon phase where everything feels amazing. We would say that loving another entails a close look at the person for who they are. It means “celebrating” and “tolerating” the other. We would say that we are taught to celebrate the awesome aspects about an individual (usually called their strengths), and for those things which are seen as weaknesses, we often punish, try to change, or reject. We celebrate their strengths, and we ask them to change their weaknesses.

In Keirsey’s point of view, we believe that a person’s strengths and weaknesses are configured together as a part of the same system. That is, strengths and weaknesses are a part of the same tree. They are branches that stem from the same trunk, which share the same roots. Becoming irritated with a person’s weaknesses, and asking a person to get rid of their weaknesses is what is often

mandated. However, our research reveals that an individual is configured in such a way where asking them to change their weaknesses can be like putting poison on the weak branch or cutting off those branches, and nurturing and preserving only the strong branches. We would argue that this approach could actually be detrimental to the whole tree. We would say that if you want to help a person be all that they can be, that you have to embrace the whole tree, and that helping them grow into the full tree that they are meant to be entails that you celebrate strengths and tolerate their weaknesses.

And in doing so, you may find that those weaknesses become endearing because you understand that those weaknesses are tied to the same roots, which make that person awesome. In this article, we unpack what it is like to “love” people of different temperaments. Specifically, we look at what you need to celebrate and what you need to tolerate if the whole tree (the relationship) is going to thrive.

Dating & Romance

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The Artisan Tree

At their roots, Artisans seek to be audacious, adaptable, and display artistic action. This means that they are daring, make adjustments on the fly, and carry things off with style. This leads to strengths that generally make Artisans courageous, flexible, and charismatic. These same roots can also lead to weaknesses which can make them overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious.

They are celebrated for being courageous, flexible, and charismatic, but they are viewed negatively for being overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious. And we might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths, giving momentum to their lives.

We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for being courageous, flexible, and charismatic and you may have to tolerate the times when they are overbearing, non-committal, and ostentatious because it’s all part of the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.

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The Artisan Tree

Dating & Romance

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The Guardian Tree

At their roots, Guardians seek to be reliable, of service, and respectable. This means that they are highly dependable, carry their fair share, and do what is honorable. This leads to strengths that generally make Guardians responsible, accountable, and dutiful. These same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which can make them critical, judgmental, and strict.

They are celebrated for being responsible, accountable, and dutiful, but they are viewed negatively for being critical, judgmental, and strict. And we might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths, giving momentum to their lives.

We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for being responsible, accountable, and dutiful and you may have to tolerate the times when they are critical, judgmental, and strict because it’s all part of the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.

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The Guardian Tree

Dating & Romance

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The Idealist Tree

At their roots, Idealists seek to be authentic, benevolent, and empathetic. This means that they are genuine, kind, and understanding. This leads to strengths that generally make Idealists lovable, warm, and compassionate. Now these same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which can make them overly sensitive, clingy, and highly emotional.

They are celebrated for being lovable, warm, and compassionate, but they are viewed negatively for being overly sensitive, clingy, and highly emotional. And we might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths, giving momentum to their lives.

We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for being lovable, warm, and compassionate and you may have to tolerate the times when they are overly sensitive, clingy, and highly emotional because it’s all part of the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.

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The Idealist Tree

Dating & Romance

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The Rational Tree

At their roots, Rationals seek to be ingenious, autonomous, and display willpower. This means that they are intellectual, self-defined, and resilient. This leads to strengths that generally make Rationals very intelligent, capable, and persistent. Now these same roots can also lead to weaknesses, which can make them arrogant, aloof, and driving.

They are celebrated for being intelligent, capable, and persistent, but they are viewed negatively for being arrogant, aloof, and driving. And we might think that if we zone in on their weaknesses long and hard enough, that we could eliminate them; that if we reject those weaknesses, and get them to work on them, that we are helping to build up that person. Rather than focusing on their weaknesses, which can be deflating, and can ultimately impact the whole tree—(all of the branches, and the trunk and the roots are effected, making the whole tree suffer); what we would suggest instead is that you maximally celebrate their strengths, giving momentum to their lives.

We would say that if you want them to thrive, that you need to celebrate them for being intelligent, capable, and persistent and you may have to tolerate the times when they are arrogant, aloof, and driving because it’s all part of the same tree. You have to love the whole person and not just their lovely parts.

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The Rational Tree

Dating & Romance

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Perhaps we’re too embarrassed to change or too frightened of the consequences of showing that we actually care.

But why not risk it anyway? Begin Today.

Carry out a random act of seemingly senseless kindness, with no expectation or reward or punishment.

Safe in the knowledge that one day, someone somewhere might do the same for you.

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Portrait of a LeaderPrincess Diana

The Compassionate LeaderIdealist Healer INFP

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“This is me, this is me!” exclaimed Princess Diana when she was read Dr. Keirsey’s por-trait of the Idealist-Healer (INFP). In 1991, her masseur, Stephen Twigg, had given her a copy of, Please Understand Me to help her understand the spiritual journey she was undertaking. Diana was said to have been astonished and amazed by the portrait’s accu-racy. Taking the Keirsey Temperament Sorter it confirmed what Diana had known by her intuition, that her gift was that of a Healer. Diana, and other Idealist-Healers are what we call the Compassionate Leader. Diana’s compassion fueled her to regularly visit with those who were in greatest need—the disenfranchised, marginalized, abandoned, sick, lonely, disabled, dying, hurting, forgotten, lost, abused, and neglected. This is where her heart resided. In speaking about her visits, she once said, “I make the trips at least three times a week, and spend up to four hours at a time with patients holding their hands and talking to them. Some of them will “This is me, this is me!” exclaimed Princess Diana when she was read Dr. Keirsey’s portrait of the Idealist-Healer (INFP). In 1991, her masseur, Stephen Twigg, had given her a copy of, Please Understand Me to help her understand the spiritual journey she was undertaking. Diana was said to have been astonished and amazed by the portrait’s accuracy. Taking the Keirsey Temperament Sorter it confirmed what Diana had known by her intuition, that her gift was that of a Healer. Diana, and other Idealist-Healers are what we call the Compassionate Leader. Diana’s compassion fueled her to regularly visit with those who were in greatest need—the disenfranchised,

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1 Compassionate Leaders seek to understand the real needs of the disenfranchised. She had the title, “Princess of Wales” but she did not consider her status as something to hold onto, but rather, she became a servant to humanity. She was bestowed with extravagant gifts, and was seen by the world as living the fairy tale life. Yet, in all that she had, she found far more fulfillment to be in the hospitals, orphanages, and the centers of disease and disabilities, where the disenfranchised had been abandoned. In commenting about her visits to hospitals, she said, “I want to walk into a room, be it a hospital for the dying or a hospital for the sick children, and feel that I am needed. I want to do, not just to be.” She believed that it was her calling in life, stating, “Nothing brings me more happiness than trying to help the most vulnerable people in society. It is a goal and an essential part of my life—a kind of destiny. Whoever is in distress can call on me. I will come running wherever they are.” She knew her path. She said, “I knew what my job was: it was to go out and meet the people and love them.”

“This is me, this is me!” exclaimed Princess Diana when she read Dr. Keirsey’s portrait of the Idealist Healer (INFP). In 1991, her masseur, Stephen Twigg, had given her a copy of, Please Understand Me, and the Princess was said to have been astonished and amazed by the portrait’s accuracy. Taking the Keirsey Temperament Sorter it confirmed what Diana had known by her intuition, that her gift was that of a Healer. Diana, and other Idealist Healers are what we call the Compassionate Leader. Her compassion fueled her to regularly visit with those who were in greatest need—the disenfranchised, sick, lonely, disabled, dying, hurting, abused, and neglected. This is where her heart resided. In speaking about her visits, she once said, “I make the trips at least three times a week, and spend up to four hours at a time with patients holding their hands and talking to them. Some of them will live and some will die, but they all need to be loved while they are here. I try to be there for them.” She is a fine example of a Compassionate Leader, and there is a lot we can learn from her.

By Edward Kim and David Keirsey

Portrait of a Leader

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2 Compassionate Leaders gain perspective on the natural order of the human condition. Princess Diana saw beyond status, title, rank, and privilege. She saw beyond poverty, disease, death, and disability. She saw that the world was full of people with intrinsic value. She said, “The biggest disease this day and age is that of people feeling unloved.” As Princess, she saw her role as an opportunity to bring awareness to issues, which were closest to her heart. She wanted to reveal the true nature of the human condition to the world. She played the role of dignitary, while she gave herself to humanitarian work—and with sweetness she inspired others to pay attention. On a single day, she sat with royalty and riches and then engaged with the forgotten and marginalized. Popes, palaces, princes, and princesses, were her audience, but the misfortunate misfit was where she gave all of her love. She used her position and power to provide perspective on the human condition. Even as a mother, she has said, “I want my boys to have an understanding of people’s emotions, their insecurities, people’s distress, and their hopes and dreams.”

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3 Compassionate Leaders express themselves through their unique gifts and abilities. Diana began working with children as a nursery assistant at the Young England School. It was evident that she had an unusual ability with children. She had a history of shyness, but found quiet ways to express herself through music as an accomplished pianist and in dance as a ballerina. She also excelled in swimming and diving and enjoyed hobbies like tennis, skiing, and tap dancing. She displayed leadership ability by playing many roles as presidents of various organizations in her teenage years. Though few in words, she found connection with others through her various involvements in these interests and hobbies. Diana always saw herself as someone who forged her own way, “I like to be a free spirit. Some don’t like that, but that’s the way I am,” Diana said. Although she knew how to take on traditional roles, she carried her obligations lightly. She has said, “I don’t go by the rule book… I lead from the heart, not the head.” She led authentically, never violating her core nature. This was her strength, and it is what made her so impactful.

Portrait of a Leader

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4 Compassionate Leaders learn to codify their contemplations. “I don’t just want to be a name on a letter head,” she said. “I’d like to be a queen of people’s hearts,” were famous words of hers. Words were significant for Diana. She took her contemplations and made powerful statements, which carried weight. She knew the power of an encouraging word, the meaningfulness of heartfelt appeals. She knew how to respond to other’s negative remarks and the obligating effect of words as well. In their wedding vows, the commitment for a wife to “obey” was taken out at the couple’s request, inviting scrutiny at the time. When the Queen disapproved of her visitation with those infected with HIV and leprosy, remarking that the Princess ought to do “something more pleasant” with her charity work; Diana responded, “HIV does not make people dangerous to know. You can shake their hands and give them a hug. Heaven knows they need it.” Diana was generally a quiet soul, her contemplations were deep, and on occasion, they came out in words, and when they did, they mattered in the eyes of many.

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5 Compassionate Leaders engage in authentic connection with their followers. “It’s vital the monarchy keeps in touch with the people. It’s what I try and do.” For Diana, above all else, she desired to connect. No matter where she went, she was celebrated and loved because of how genuine she was. She was referred to as the “people’s princess,” and has said, “The kindness and affection from the public have carried me through some of the most difficult periods, and always your love and affection have eased the journey.” World leaders like Nelson Mandela, have said, “Caring for people who are dying and helping the bereaved was something for which Diana had passion and commitment.” She also formed strong personal connections with people like Mother Teresa and Pope John Paul II. Her unexpected death brought statements from many world dignitaries, and people left all kinds of warm messages and symbolic memorabilia outside the palace for several months. Her brother said of her, “She proved in the last year that she needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.”

Portrait of a Leader

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Princess DianaThe Compassionate Leader

1961

Foundations for Healing1. Born Diana Frances Spencer

2. Parent’s Divorce

3. West Heath School

4. Kindergarten Teacher at the Young England School

5. Lady Diana Spencer

1992

Persistence Through Pain

“I felt compelled to perform - to do my engagements and not let people down. And they supported me, although they weren’t aware how much it carried me through.”

-Princess Diana1961-1997

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1981The Platform to Heal Others

1. Fairy Tale Wedding

2. Prince William and Prince Harry

3. Charities, Hospitals, HIV and AIDS

4. World Tour and Humanitarianism

Persistence Through Pain1. Depression and Bulimia Revealed

2. Seperation and Divorce

3. International Campaign to Ban Landmines

4. Sudden Death by Car Crash

5. Funeral at Westminster Abbey

Portrait of a Leader

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I like to be a free spirit. Some don’t like that,

but that’s the way I am.

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I like to be a free spirit. Some don’t like that,

but that’s the way I am.

Albert Schweitzer

Aldous Huxley

George Orwell

Henry Dunant

Fyodor Dostoevsky

Somaly Mam

Karen Armstrong

Anne Lindbergh

Audrey Hepburn

Princess Diana

1875-1965

1894-1963

1903-1950

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1821-1881

1961-1997

1929-1993

1906-2001

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Idealist HealerCollection of Leaders

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Nothing brings me more happiness than trying to help the most vulnerable people in society.

It is a goal and an essential part of my life – a kind of destiny.

Whoever is in distress can call on me. I will come running wherever they are.

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Empaths are soulful. They are sensitive. They make heartfelt connections. Often seen as eccentric, they can be marginalized, excluded, or forgotten. When they seek to change the world, their actions are soft and gentle. They quietly make a difference. What are Empaths like? Can you be one? This month we celebrate Empaths.

Do you have empathy?The Anatomy of an Empath

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Anatomy of an Empath

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Empathy: (i) understanding and entering into another’s feelings; (ii) sharing the feelings of others (especially feelings of sorrow or anguish).

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Anatomy of an Empath

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Empaths understand their deepest wounds and pains

Empaths finds their compassion when they understand the story of their lives.

In the joys and sorrows, laughter and hardship, through triumphs and trials, victories and challenges, Empaths see all of life’s milestones as being significant. For Empaths, what often impacts them the most are the wounds and pains they experienced through life’s hurts. When

they relive a memory, the emotions felt in the present are often as intense

as when they first experienced it. This identification with their

past is what connects them to others who are either

going through similar difficulties or have experienced such pain in their past. Working through pain can be extremely difficult, and can sometimes even feel unbearable. Empaths have taken a hard honest look at any resentment, feelings of unforgiveness, guilt, or shame in their life. This exercise is much like bearing one’s own soul against a mirror. Empaths make it their goal to understand the good that can come out of pain. They are always asking, “What purpose can my pain serve in doing good?”

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Anatomy of an Empath

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Empaths allow their healing to be a platform to heal others

Empaths have worked through the pains of their past, it serves as the foundation for

how they impact a broken world. Empaths understand their own life journey, and can understand the journeys of their followers. The abilities found in an Empath are rare, for it is often developed in seclusion, and in quiet conversations, where they have found reconciliation within. From contemplation, they emerge as ministers of reconciliation

because they have become reconciled within themselves, having processed

their pain. Unprocessed pain can be dangerous. It has the power to

hold a person in prison and the potential to imprison

others. However, when an individual courageously confronts their deepest pains, and emerges from it victoriously, this experience can be the most powerful key to unlock prison doors. Being healed of their wounds allows Empaths to empathize with others in ways that no one else can. These individuals come to terms with themselves and accept their story in whole and not just in part—making them feel integrated rather than broken.

Anatomy of an Empath

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Empaths engage others at deeper levels

Engaging others deeply requires vulnerability. Empaths share their story

knowing that they are on display. When there is acceptance, tremendous validation follows, but with scrutiny, criticism, or mockery great rejection is felt. In seeking to make a difference, Empaths come to this crossroad, putting themselves on the line each time. It is only by making the first move to extend themselves, that it opens up the

possibility for their engagement to be received. The ultimate goal of engaging

another is for the engagement to be mutual. In putting their heart on

the line, there is the hope that the other will reciprocate.

The Empath remains sensitive to hear the words that are spoken and unspoken from the other. Their efforts are sometimes met with resistance, while at other times it is embraced. The Empath exercises discernment as they go for the heart. The temptation is to engage others at deeper levels than they want to be engaged. Engagement is not simply a matter of making an effort to extend. It is a complex process that must be welcomed.

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Anatomy of an Empath

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Empaths bring about reconciliation between others

Empaths have a natural gift when it comes to connecting people together.

They engage people in just the right way, using great sensitivity. They are masters of diplomacy, which enables them to serve as great mediators. Where there is tension and conflict, they gently step in to facilitate as a reconciler. Their empathetic nature causes people to put down their guards, so that a dialogue can begin. Where

there is separation, these leaders can build bridges to bring harmony.

Where there is brokenness and dysfunction, they are able

to bring restoration and healing. Empaths use

their intuition to step into another’s shoes as they listen patiently to the cries of each person’s heart. Their gift for connection serves them well, as they make efforts to unite. This ability stems from their desire to be reconciled within and with others. Their belief in reconciliation serves as a basis for how they bring about understanding between others.

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Anatomy of an Empath

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35 Keirsey © 2015 Keirsey (www.keirsey.com). The articles, “Portrait of a Leader: Princess Diana, (Idealist Healer INFP),” and “Do You Have Empathy?” have been adapted from the Keirsey Leadership Study conducted by the Keirsey Group.

Anatomy of an Empath

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Empaths are willing to die for their beliefs

When blood, sweat, and tears are shed for a vision to be realized, it

inspires others to follow. Any doubts about a leader’s commitment are put to death when it is known that they are committed to the absolute end. For some, the commitment to death may result in martyrdom, but for most it will require dying to oneself. Empaths recklessly abandon the comforts and pleasures of life. They take on great suffering and

endure great scrutiny, criticism, and even slander. But, Empaths are

steadfast, and they cling to their purpose, and they understand

that it is only by death that

there is a resurrection. Empaths are tender warriors displaying a gentleness that even the smallest children are drawn toward. Yet, when they go to the fullest extent, they are utterly fierce. They marry the vision, passionately intertwined all the way to the grave. While they are alive they do everything they can to make sure that the vision thrives. And beyond the grave, those who have taken the healing journey with them continue to carry out the vision.

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Anatomy of an Empath

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Being a princess isn’t all

it’s cracked up to be.

Being a princess isn’t all

it’s cracked up to be.

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“When you invest wisely in someone, there are different responses and different returns based on their temperament.”

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Money & Relationships

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Investing In PeopleIn the April 2015 issue of the Keirsey Magazine, we looked at Warren Buffett’s path to wealth. He established a pattern of investing and reinvesting his returns. And now in the latter years of his life, he is making his biggest reinvestment of all, but this time, it is a different kind of reinvestment. He has entrusted most of his wealth to the Gates Foundation—(in 2006 he gifted 10 million shares of Berkshire Hathaway, which at the time was worth approximately $31 billion.) His reinvestment will make a difference in the world, and ultimately the beneficiaries will be people.

Although it is doubtful that many of us will become the next Warren Buffett, we can still invest in others with the money that we earn over our lifetime, and we can start today. The question is, “What is the best investment you can make in someone?” Depending on the temperament of those you are investing in, you may want to consider what kind of investment goes the furthest. When you invest wisely in someone, there are different responses and different returns based on their temperament. In this article, we look at how you can use your money to invest in others.

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Money & Relationships

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Investing in Artisans

The best way you can invest your money with Artisans is to provide opportunities for learning and impact. Artisans are always seeking to improve their skills, and they want to use those skills to make a huge dent. So the investment to make is to find something that you want to bet on, get them equipped, and get out of the way so that they can do their thing.

The kind of return you get when you invest in an Artisan with learning and opportunities is an individual who develops quickly and puts into action what they’ve learned. Learning for the Artisan is very utilitarian. They don’t learn for the sake of acquiring knowledge. They learn because it is directly related to what is tied to the goal. Your investment will lead to significant results for any objective you set.

For Artisans, the key investment formula to think about is:

Learning Opportunities = Impact

To keep them motivated and charged up, give them audacious gifts, engage together in over-the-top experiences, and share great food and wine. They want to be constantly challenged with something big and bold, and they are stimulated by pleasure.

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Money & Relationships

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Investing in IdealistsFor Idealists, the key investment formula to think about is:

Authenticity Mentoring = Loyalty

The best way you can invest your money with Idealists is to use it to give symbolic gifts or facilitate mentoring experiences, which show that you know who they are. Idealists are always seeking to be authentic within and with others, and they want to be truly seen as unique. So the investment to make is to put in the time to find, make, or facilitate something meaningful, which reveals how special they are to you. Mentoring is about personal involvement, and this is what they hunger for.

To keep them motivated and charged up, give them your time, provide coaching, and recognize their uniqueness regularly. They want to be seen at deeper levels and recognized for their good intentions, and they keep going strong when you show them you care.

The kind of return you get when investing in an Idealist with authenticity and mentoring is an individual who is utterly loyal—to do whatever, whenever. Idealists want to be their truest selves, and they want to reach their fullest potential and help others to do the same. When trust is established, they give their best, and do everything they can to not let you down. They do best when they are known, and give themselves to the team and to the mission. Your investment will lead to a relationship that grows for the long run.

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Investing in GuardiansFor Guardians, the key investment formula to think about is:

Compensation Praise = Faithfulness

The best way you can invest your money with Guardians is to provide great compensation and appreciation for precise execution. Guardians are always seeking to be reliable in carrying out their duties, and they want to be approved as being responsible. So the investment to make is to pay them well, and praise them for getting it done. Financial compensation goes furthest with Guardians over any other types.

To keep them motivated and charged up, give them incremental raises, provide regular feedback, and recognize their achievements formally. They want to be validated and approved as being dependable, and they keep going strong when they are earning respectability.

The kind of return you get when you invest in a Guardian with generous financial compensation and praise is an individual who is utterly faithful in delivering with accuracy. Due to their high need for closure, Guardians need to get things checked off as complete. Money is tangible for them and so is recognition. They perform at their best because they are being counted on, and they make sure that they are doing work that measures up to their pay grade. Your investment will lead to smoothly run processes.

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Investing in RationalsFor Rationals, the key investment formula to think about is:

Complexity Resources = Solutions

The best way you can invest your money with Rationals is to provide resources to help them tackle complex problems. Rationals are always seeking to address the issues that others dare not address, and they do whatever it takes to figure out the solution. So the investment to make is to find something complex enough that keeps them engaged and to provide resources, which they can align to entail success.

To keep them motivated and charged up, link them up to the most brilliant minds in their space, provide learning experiences that they can’t access on their own, and take care of all their small stuff. They are constantly on the lookout for anything that is relevant to solving the issue at hand. They thrive on intellectual stimulation.

The kind of return you get on investing in a Rational with resources to address a complex problem are solutions which are extremely difficult to come by. Rationals are natural problem solvers. They will harness every resource they can to get to a solution. They don’t like to take on small challenges. They like to tackle things that no one else can. They seek to be masters of their domain. And are ever looking to expand their territories of expertise. Your investment will lead to innovative solutions that most others would never be able to even imagine.

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“Transformation in the world happens when people are healed and start investing in other people.”

– Michael W. Smith

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I think the biggest disease the world suffers from in this day and age

is the disease of people feeling unloved.

I know that I can give love for a minute, for half an hour, for a day, for a month,

but I can give. I am very happy to do that,

I want to do that.

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Q & A How Does Politics Play a Role in Temperament?

D emocrat or Republican? Since 1852, these two parties have won every United States presidential election. What is the relationship between your temperament and your politics? Dr. Keirsey believed that temperament trumps politics. What does that mean? At Keirsey our research on human behavior indicates that depending on your temperament, you will find more similarity between someone of a different political perspective if they are the same temperament, than you would with someone of the same political party if they are of a different temperament. In other words, if you are a Republican, and your temperament is an Artisan, you will have far more in common with an Artisan that is a Democrat, than you would with another person that is a Guardian who is also a Republican.

ARTISAN

Bill Clinton

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GUARDIAN

How Does Politics Play a Role in Temperament?

Setting political positions aside, for example, Ronald Reagan (an Artisan; Republican) has far more similarity in personality with Bill Clinton (an Artisan; Democrat) then he would with George H. W. Bush (a Guardian; Republican). Even though Reagan and Bush are a part of the same political party, and Reagan and Clinton are from opposing political parties, Reagan and Clinton would be far more similar in terms of what drives them, how they communicate, how they approach problems and issues, the way they engage others, the way they think, the way they process information, their greatest strengths and weaknesses, and their overall perspective. It has everything to do with temperament rather than their politics.

ARTISAN

Ronald Reagan

George H.W. Bush

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S U B M I S S I O N S

Artists & Photographers

The vision of the Keirsey Magazine is to communicate transformativeideas and concepts through visual language. We are seeking to addressan audience who are not only interested in learning by reading, but weare a community of learners who communicate visually through art andphotography. We are calling all artists and photographers to submit their

work so that our community can learn through your creativity. We areespecially interested in the following types of art and photography:

(1) Visual images that represent life, connection, and people (2)Portraits (3) Love & Relationships (4) Nature (5) Culture (6) Conceptual

Photography (7) Dance (Art of movement). Any selected submissions willbe featured in future Keirsey magazine issues. Send your submissions to

[email protected].

Thank you for your submissions!

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WHAT IS TEMPERAMENT?Temperament is a configuration of observable personality traits, such as habits of communication, patterns of action, and sets of characteristic attitudes, values, and talents. It also encompasses personal needs, the kinds of contributions that individuals make in the workplace, and the roles they play in society. Dr. David Keirsey has identified humankind’s four basic temperaments as the Artisan, the Guardian, the Idealist, and the Rational.

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Artisans value potency, generosity, creativity, and adaptability. They have tactical talents in sales, marketing, operations, various forms of art, working with their hands, trouble-shooting, and crisis management. They seek stimulation, adventure, variety, and time/space to perfect their skills. Artisans express themselves excitedly while making deals, taking risks, playing games, and entertaining others. They need freedom to act on impulse, and flexibility in their work to make spontaneous decisions. Artisans can be counted on to “just do it,” improvising actions, seizing opportunities, and forging onward when others have given up.

Guardians value experience, security, authority, and respectability. They have logistical talents in establishing processes, executing methodically, managing goods and services, and upholding standards. They seek higher levels of responsibility and clear paths to advancement. Guardians express themselves earnestly while observing traditions, following rules, and taking part in societal activities. They need routines, stable structures, familiar processes, and clearly defined procedures to do their best work. Guardians can be counted on to “mind the store,” attending to the details of a project, diligently seeing it through to completion.

ARTISAN

GUARDIAN

CONCRETE

UTILITARIAN

COOPERATIVE

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Idealists value meaning, integrity, and human development. They have diplomatic talents in mentoring and guiding personal development,

resolving conflicts, and improving communication. They seek relational harmony, good feelings, and self improvement. Idealists express

themselves enthusiastically while championing causes and inspiring others to reach their full potential. They need

meaningful work, relational connection, and a personal, imaginative work environment. Idealists can be counted

on to “see the best in people,” nurturing warm, loving relationships and finding new possibilities.

Rationals value knowledge, competence, reason, and achievement. They have strategic talents in complex planning, structural design, reframing

arguments, exploring theoretical concepts, and systems analysis. They seek efficiency, intellectual stimulation, and solutions to problems. Rationals

express themselves calmly while critiquing and questioning the status quo, always insisting on a logical basis for action.

They need worthwhile challenges, and autonomy to be able to solve complex problems. Rationals can be counted on to “think outside the box,” offering innovative ideas and strategies for accomplishing well-defined long

term goals.

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RATIONAL

UTILITARIAN

COOPERATIVE

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LEE, STELLA Graphic Designer

BONILLA, FRANCIS Graphic Design Intern

Artisan Promoter ESTP

Rational Mastermind INTJ

Idealist Champion ENFP

HSIAO, RON CHENGIllustrator

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Albert Schweitzer. Dig-ital image. Wikipedia. N.p., 31 Dec. 1954. Web. 23 Apr. 2015. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Schweitzer#/

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Bill Clinton Portrait. Digital image. Wikipedia. N.p., 1 Jan. 1993. Web. 11 May. 2015. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bill_Clinton_presi-dential_campaign,_1992#/media/File:Bill_Clinton.jpg>.

Charles Diana wedding ff, Digital image. Wikipedia. N.p., 23 Dec. 2010. Web. 23 Apr. 2015. <https://www.flickr.com/photos/alberto-botella/5354385935>

Devan Freeman. Landscape Photography. Digital image. Unsplash. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 Apr. 2015. <https://download.unsplash.com/photo-1414432548815-900106408037>.

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Fyodor Dostoevsky. Digital image. Wikipedia. N.p., 31 Dec. 1862. Web. 23 Apr. 2015. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fyodor_Dosto-yevsky#/media/File:Dosto-evskij_1863.jpg>.

Forrest Cavale. Landscape Photography. Digital image. Unsplash. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 Apr. 2015. <https://download.unsplash.com/phto-1415862511713-810601557946>.

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Jordan McQueen. Land-scape Photography. Digital image. Unsplash. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 Apr. 2015. <https://download.unsplash.com/pho-to-1428605821565-9ffceeb-3dc9a>.

Karen Armstrong. Digital im-age. Flickr. N.p., 23 Apr. 2008. Web. 26 Apr. 2015. <https://www.flickr.com/photos/ar-icowan/4560804640>.

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Lindy and Mrs. Lindy. Digital image. Flickr. N.p., 7 Aug. 2008. Web. 26 Apr. 2015. <https://www.flickr.com/photos/boston_public_li-brary/5734002973>.

Official Portrait of President Ronald Regan. Digital image. Wikipedia. N.p.1981. Web. 11 May. 2015. <http://en.wikipe-dia.org/wiki/Ronald_Reagan#/media/File:Official_Portrait_of_President_Reagan_1981.jpg>.

Perry, Shane. Landscape Photography. Digital image. Unsplash. N.p., n.d. Web. 27 Apr. 2015. <https://unsplash.com/unsplashedhawaii>.

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