Ministry of Peacemaking on the Canterbury trail

Ministry of Peacemaking on the Canterbury trail

Bishop-elect Trevor Walters

A Theological frameworkA Theological framework

• Eden: a place of harmonious relationshipsEden: a place of harmonious relationships• Community existed between God and Adam Community existed between God and Adam

and Eveand Eve• Adam and Eve have community with their Adam and Eve have community with their

offspringoffspring• Mirrors relationships in heaven amongst Mirrors relationships in heaven amongst

TrinityTrinity

Mediations beginningMediations beginning

• Eve ate the apple in disobedience and Eve ate the apple in disobedience and broke the harmonious relationshipsbroke the harmonious relationships• Vertical: Adam and Eve hid from GodVertical: Adam and Eve hid from God• Horizontal: Serpent : “ I will put enmity Horizontal: Serpent : “ I will put enmity

between you and your offspring”between you and your offspring”

Brokenness radiates out Brokenness radiates out through Book of Genesisthrough Book of Genesis

God initiates MediationGod initiates Mediation

• God chooses Zadok and Aaron Priest and God chooses Zadok and Aaron Priest and High Priest to minister as mediators High Priest to minister as mediators through whom sacrifices were offered.through whom sacrifices were offered.

• The mediators were also signs that God The mediators were also signs that God was faithful to His Covenant promises with was faithful to His Covenant promises with IsraelIsrael

The New CovenantThe New Covenant

• A new mediator who stands between God A new mediator who stands between God and his disobedient people.and his disobedient people.

• We are now all Priests called to offer the We are now all Priests called to offer the sacrifice of praise andsacrifice of praise and

• To serve as reconcilers and peace makersTo serve as reconcilers and peace makers

BEATITUDES:BEATITUDES:

Blessed are the Peacemakers Blessed are the Peacemakers for they shall be called the for they shall be called the children of God children of God

Levels of healthy Levels of healthy relationshipsrelationships

• A. RespectA. Respect

• B. TrustB. Trust

• C. CooperationC. Cooperation

• D. ForgivenessD. Forgiveness

• E. CommunionE. Communion

Objectives re Enmity(conflict)Objectives re Enmity(conflict)

• A. Stop the fightingA. Stop the fighting• B. Restore productivityB. Restore productivity• C. Restore the Institutions visionC. Restore the Institutions vision• D. Restore worshipD. Restore worship• E. Restore relationshipE. Restore relationship

Process of MediationProcess of Mediation

• 1. Invite warring parties to meet1. Invite warring parties to meet• 2. Name what the parties have in 2. Name what the parties have in

common.common.• 3. Get the parties to name the problem 3. Get the parties to name the problem

from their own perspective.from their own perspective.• 4. Clarify and Paraphrase the positions4. Clarify and Paraphrase the positions

Process cont.Process cont.

• 5. 5. Caucus: Caucus: • Indentify the strengths and weaknesses Indentify the strengths and weaknesses

of their positionsof their positions

• Invite them to propose an offer to settle.Invite them to propose an offer to settle.

• Clarify several times what you believe to Clarify several times what you believe to be the offer. Seek permission as to be the offer. Seek permission as to what you can disclose.what you can disclose.

• 6. 6. Present the offer.Present the offer. Seek a responseSeek a response

Do not soften the blow if it is not what is Do not soften the blow if it is not what is hoped forhoped for..

7. 7. Explore options regarding a Explore options regarding a response. response.

Strategies to assist resolutionStrategies to assist resolution

• 1. Bracketing:1. Bracketing: Party A. Best to worst settlement Party A. Best to worst settlement

20,000 – 150,00020,000 – 150,000

Party B. Best to worst settlements Party B. Best to worst settlements 1000-30,0001000-30,000

Bracket 20,000-30,000 is where we Bracket 20,000-30,000 is where we workwork

Advantages of BracketingAdvantages of Bracketing

• Saves hours of shuttle diplomacy of offers Saves hours of shuttle diplomacy of offers inching up on one side and down on the inching up on one side and down on the other.other.

• Lets us know quickly whether a settlement Lets us know quickly whether a settlement might be in reachmight be in reach

Parish based applicationParish based application

• Church musicians feuding over how many Church musicians feuding over how many Sundays they get per month.Sundays they get per month.

• Person A asked what would be the Person A asked what would be the minimum nos. of Sundays you’d be minimum nos. of Sundays you’d be prepared to play in a three month cycle. prepared to play in a three month cycle. What about the most in three monthsWhat about the most in three months

• Repeat with Person B.Repeat with Person B.

Bracketing cont.Bracketing cont.

• Results:Results:• Person A: 5-10Person A: 5-10• Person B: 8-15Person B: 8-15

Bracket overlap 8-10Bracket overlap 8-10

Variance now depends on your own vision and Variance now depends on your own vision and values for the music ministry. One is not values for the music ministry. One is not confined to the bracket but you know the confined to the bracket but you know the margins of tolerancemargins of tolerance

Quid pro QuoQuid pro Quo

• Something exchanged for something else Something exchanged for something else that is different but equivalent in effort/ that is different but equivalent in effort/ value/ inconvenience/ time etc.value/ inconvenience/ time etc.

• What is the one thing you would like your What is the one thing you would like your partner to change.partner to change.

• Does this exchange look fair just equitable Does this exchange look fair just equitable acceptable. acceptable.

Not acceptableNot acceptable

• What needs to be modified to get What needs to be modified to get acceptance:-acceptance:-• Add in something else Add in something else • Add number of occurrences on one side.Add number of occurrences on one side.

1x back rub is worth x2 cooked meals1x back rub is worth x2 cooked meals

CompromiseCompromise

• Takes half of one solution and half of Takes half of one solution and half of another/ one meets in the middleanother/ one meets in the middle• Disadvantages:Disadvantages:

Half of a good solution married to half a Half of a good solution married to half a bad soln.bad soln. Lacks creativity and problem solving Lacks creativity and problem solving

strategystrategy

Compromise cont.Compromise cont.

• Advantage:Advantage:

Breaks deadlock if all else failsBreaks deadlock if all else fails

Appears to be fair!!!Appears to be fair!!!

Key learningKey learning

• 1. Do not take responsibility for the 1. Do not take responsibility for the outcome. Outcome is in the hands of the outcome. Outcome is in the hands of the two people versus you or another as two people versus you or another as judge.judge.• Your job is to remain impartialYour job is to remain impartial• Work hard at actively listeningWork hard at actively listening• Maintain trust and confidentialityMaintain trust and confidentiality• Provide creative optionsProvide creative options• Evaluate strengths and weakness of positionsEvaluate strengths and weakness of positions

Key learning 2Key learning 2

• Discern when a crisis is not a crisisDiscern when a crisis is not a crisis• Do not rescueDo not rescue• Let the stress of the moment propel people Let the stress of the moment propel people

into action.into action.• Put into perspective this challenge versus Put into perspective this challenge versus

alternative worst case scenariosalternative worst case scenarios