Love Langauges

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What is LOVE? The English word love can refer to a variety of different

feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure ("I

loved that meal") to interpersonal attraction ("I love my

partner").

It can refer to an emotion of a strong affection and

personal attachment.[1] It can also be

a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and

affectionthe unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for

the good of another".[2] And it may describecompassionate and affectionate actions towards other

humans, one's self or animals.[3]
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What is LOVE? .[1] It can also be a virtue representing

human kindness, compassion, and

affectionthe unselfish loyal and

benevolent concern for the good of

another".[2] And it may describe

compassionate and affectionate actions

towards other humans, one's self oranimals
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Did YOU know?

Love is expressed in many ways

Love is a kind of language

What is your love language?


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How do You?

How do you show love?

How do you feel loved by others?

How do you love yourself?


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LOVE


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The Languages of LOVE

There are 5 love languages

Words of Affirmation

Physical Touch

Acts of Service

Receiving / Giving Gifts

Quality Time


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This language uses words to affirmother people.


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Words of Affirmation These are words ofpraise, compliments, pointing out the

good in the other, thanking them for support and help.

A dialect of this language (yes, the love languages have

lots of different dialects) is encouraging words.

Another dialect is kind words. It reminds us of the adviceof Muhammad, peace be upon him, gave his

companions,

If a person loves his brother, he should tell him so.

As somebody who has yet to learn to speak thatlanguage fluently, who finds it easier to point out flaws

than give out praise, Lets chose as our first challenge to

refrain from criticism, hoping that at one point the

ensuing silences will fill up with words of affirmation.


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To this person, nothing speaks moredeeply than appropriate touch.


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Physical Touch Touch is the most basic sense, the one sense that all of

us are able to use. People may be blind, deaf, and not

able to smell or taste anything, but no matter what, you

will have skin that can be touched. Studies have shown

that babies who are neglected, who are not touched andhugged and kissed enough, develop emotional problems

later on in life.

In times of crises a hug is an instinctive gesture and

communicates that we love that person.


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Physical Touch Most men will say that their love language is touch

because they connect it with sex. You have to ask them

the question, If you can have regular sex, whenever you

want, how important is it for you to be given a hug, to

hold the hand of your spouse, to say good-bye with akiss? If the answer is, not very, your primary love

language is not touch.


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For these people, actions speak louderthan words.


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Acts of Service Most wives and mothers have to learn this language to a

certain degree, yet it is not necessarily their language of

love.

Beware though that this language has dialects too,

depending on the importance of the act of service. Many

husbands think that the fact that they work and spend

their money on the family counts as an act of service.

Not for most wives. It is not something that you do solely

to show your love to your wife, unless before marriageyou were an idealistic and broke artist, who finally took

on a boring job for the sake of the family.


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Acts of Service For most wives its that cup of tea brought in the

morning, the nappy changed, the dishwasher emptied,

the washing hung up that counts.

For most men whose primary love language is act of

service its the clean house, the meal cooked that makes

them feel loved.

Speakers of this language have to watch out not to make

themselves into a doormat. The doormat no longer gives

out of love; s/he will sooner or later resent her/his giving.


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For some people, what makes themfeel most loved is to receive a gift.


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Receiving/Giving Gifts Giving gifts seems to be one of the culturally imposed

love languages in Filipino culture.

According to Dr. Chapman, if your partners or childs

love language is receiving gifts it is important that you

give, no matter how tight finances are. The monetary

value of the gift is irrelevant. They want a visible token of

your love, maybe its a card you made, or a flower you

dried for them. Dr. Chapman thinks that it is one of the

easiest love languages to learn.


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Receiving/Giving Gifts However, one of the dialects of this language, is what

Chapman calls the gift of self or the gift of presence. It

means going to the funeral of your friends father, it

means picking up your sister from hospital after her

operation and making sure that she is all right, and it isvery close to


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This language is all about giving theother person your undivided attention.


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Quality Time The most difficult aspect to take on board about this

language is that talking to somebody and focusing your

attention on her does not necessarily mean quality time.

Yes, it is a prerequisite to focus. You are not spending

quality time with your partner/friend when you sit beside

them while they watch a cartoon and you text your

brother.

Quality time is talking to them, or playing with them, and

not doing anything else. But sometimes talking is alreadytoo much.

Listening to your partner/child could be the real quality

time.


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Quality Time Most people, when they tell you about a bad day at work

or school, dont want to hear advice, dont need the

problem solved, all they want is to let go of it, to find their

own solutions.

A dialect of quality time is quality activity. Sometimespeople enjoy the same activity. In this case it is easy to

spend quality time together, like walking or cycling. But

what if only one of you enjoys visiting galleries? Well,

you can choose to visit a gallery once a month with your

spouse, in return for him browsing in the second handbookshop with you for an hour or two. Again, it is the

active choice to speak in your partners language that is

the crucial point here.


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3 Ways of Understanding

the Love Languages


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Expressing LOVE to others

How do you express your love to others?

What language do you use?

How have they responded to thislanguage?


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Being Loved by Others

How do you feel love by other people?

Which language do you communicate to

them to express it to you?

How have you responded to this

language?


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Loving Yourself How do you show you love yourself?

What language do you use?

How have you responded to thislanguage?


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Loving Maybe the most fascinating aspect of the idea of lovelanguages is the fact that we can actively learn a language

that doesnt come naturally to us, that we can actively make a

decision to do something out of love.

It gives the human being a tool to own their love, to make it an

active choice based on commitment and loyalty. For love is as this magical force coming over you, falling in

love and falling out of it, making the human being a victim of

forces outside their control, has always sounded fake, an

excuse to act selfishly and ruin the lives of other people in the

name of love.

Love is giving of yourself, with no expectations of anything in

return, not only when it is easy but when you would rather

withdraw or walk away


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LOVING GOD

GOD IS LOVE.

The knowledge on love languages should

enable us to be able to understand others

and express love to them as God has said,

whatever you do to the least of my

brothers, that you do unto me.


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Summary

There are 5 love languages

Each language has different dialects

These love languages may vary whenexpressing love for others, for oneself and

for feeling the love of others.

Love is a GIFT. As God is LOVE.


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