Love and Logic

Jim Fay and David Funk

Presented by, Leanna Stevens

What is Love and Logic?» A theory founded by Jim Fay

and David Funk.» An approach to raising or

teaching children that provides loving support from parents while at the same time expecting children to be respectful and responsible.

What is the purpose?» This Love and Logic method causes

the child to see their parent as the "good guy" and the child's poor decision as the "bad guy." When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, "I wonder how much pain I'm going to cause for myself with my next decision?" Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.

Misbehavior Cycle» Creates negative self concept and

the belief that no one can help them behave, or that it is fun to make adults mad.

Rules» Rule #1: Adults set firm limits in

loving ways without anger, lecture, or threats.

Rules» Rule #2: When a child causes a

problem the adult hands it back in loving ways.

Rules» In a loving way, the adult holds the child

accountable for solving his/her problems in a way that doesn’t make it a problem for others.

» Kids are offered choices with limits» Adults use enforceable statements» Adults provide delayed/extended

consequences» The adults empathy is locked in before the

consequence is delivered.

9 Essential Skills» The Love and Logic program

contains 9 skills essential to impliment in classroom and home.

Skill 1» Neutralize Student Arguing

» (Teacher Responsibility)

Skill 2» Delaying Consequences

» (Teacher Responsibility)

Skill 3» Empathy

» (Teacher Responsibility)

Skill 4» Recovery Process

» (Student Responsibility)

Skill 5» Developing positive teacher/student

relationships

» (Teacher & Student Responsibility)

Skill 6» Setting limits with enforceable

statements

» (Teacher Responsibility

Skill 7» Using choices to prevent power

struggles

» (Teacher Responsibility)

Skill 8» Quick and easy preventative

interventions

» (Teacher Responsibility)

Skill 9 » Guiding Students to solve their

problems on their own

» (Student Responsibility)

First Hand Pro’s» It's great with the older kids. Finn just turned three and

responds very well to it now. I think there are some pros and cons to it. The biggest pro is, it works. I have some standards that I use, like "would you like to walk or would you like me to carry you?" and some things are no- brainers, like "you can stay in our yard or we can go play inside, it's your choice." Also, what he says about giving lots of choices throughout the day is very effective. I can't tell you how many tantrums I've headed off just by letting him feel like he has some say in things. "Put these shoes on" is likely to be met with "NO!" but "Do you want your black shoes or your green shoes? You pick." almost always get us out the door on time.

First Hand Con’s» The con to it is, it can be really hard

to come up with a logical consequence or two appropriate choices on the spur of the moment. I know he says you can defer a consequence to give yourself time to think, but that doesn't really work with a three year old who really needs immediate discipline.

Video» http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=

OZ-HzQ09oEE

Works Cited» "Love and Logic Method." The Nest. Community, 14 June 2010. Web. 12

Mar.2012.<http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/38182517.aspx?MsdVisit=1>.

» Logsdon, Ann. "Differentiated Instruction - Meet Student Needs with Differentiated Instruction." About.com Learning Disabilities. Web. 1 Mar. 2012. http://learningdisabilities.about.com/od/df/g/differentiated.htm

» Fay, Charles. "Effects of Love and Logic." Love and Logic. Web. 12 Mar. 2012. <http://www.loveandlogic.com/pdfs/research_data_bllp.pdf>