7/28/2019 Learn to Overcome Emotional Drama from
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Take Responsibility for the Drama Caused by Your
OwnExpectations
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Several years ago, I almost st arted dating a man who bo th
intrigued and f rust rated me. For all of our sharedinterests,
including our perspective of the way the universe works, we st
ruggled to communicate. Sure, youcould blame it on his Leo-ness
clashing with my Taurus-ness, and you wouldnt be too f ar of f .
Somethingabout the way he condescendingly spoke to me just annoyed
me until I wanted to punch him in the f ace.
But, I was st ill drawn to him. I saw this clandestine
connection as an opportunity f or me to grow, as he was thef irst
male I had met (and been at tracted t o) who could teach me f rom a
metaphysical perspective.
One evening, I had been meditat ing and I caught a glimpse o f
myself in a block of ice. A wise woman (who o f tensho ws up to
give me guidance) specif ically instructed me that it was t ime to
let t he ice melt, and I understo odthat I had been protecting my
heart, perhaps a bit t oo f iercely. I was unwilling to be
vulnerable to a point that Icould let t his new f riend of mine get
very clos e to me.
I f inally understood what hed been less t han eloquent ly
saying to me. Aha! Light bulb moment!
I was so excited to call him and share this insight, and I was
certain that hed be impressed with my ability tof ind answers to my
own issues, and not o nly receive guidance fro m my spiritual team,
but also heed thatguidance. I assumed this would lead to an
excellent conversation and we would grow closer because o f
thisexperience.
But, I was wrong.
My Expectations Kicked My A$$
I was stunned when he dismissed me matt er-o f -f actly.
My ego to ok a bit o f a hit and I f ound myself wondering if
maybe he just hadnt heard me. So I repeatedmyself this t ime with a
bit more emphasis. When he dismiss ed me again, I blurted o ut, Did
you even hear what I said?
Yes, I heard you. Its just not that interest ing to me. What
youre going through is old school f or me.
Mr. Holier-than-thou-and-Im-no t- af raid-to- tell-you hurt myf
eelings with his abrupt response. When I got up the courage
toexpress that my f eelings were hurt, he said, I didnt hurt
your
f eelings, you did. You wanted a certain response f rom me,
andwhen you didnt get it, you go t angry with me. But thats your
deal, not mine. Loo k at your own expectations .
At t he t ime, I was FURIOUS .
How dare he not t ake responsibility for his behavior
towardme?
How did he not re cognize the significance of my
newinsights?
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