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Power

The capacity to ensure theoutcomes we want and prevent

those we dont want.


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1. In you r personal c i rc le of fam i ly,

f r iends and co l leagues, whom do

you consider powerful? Why?

2. Where are you most powerfu l in

you r l i fe?

3. Where are you least powerful?

4. What, i f anything, does power have

to do with leadership?


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We rightly feel ambiguous towards power. We know from

experience that power can be coercive, exploitative,manipulative, oppressive.


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Interestingly enough, the most

destructive and dispiriting uses

of power come from those who

are most insecure about their

power.


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Christian traditionhas contributed totransforming ouridea of power.

The paradox of

power is that Jesusis never morepowerful thanwhen he is on hisknees...


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. . . or hanging on the cross.


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Janet HagbergAuthor, lecturer, activist, certified spiritual director. Twice and Outstanding Alumnus

Achievement awardee of the University of Minnesota where she took a BA and MA in Social

Work. Janet is active in the field of career and organizational development. Clients include 3M,

Ecolab Inc., Unisys, USBank, General Mills, Land O' Lakes, Dr Pepper, Kellogg, Gillette

Company, Honeywell, Governor of Minnesota, Alcoa. Her work on power is a product of

research done towards a doctorate in Adult Development at the Univ. of Minnesota. She iscurrently Executive Director of the Silent Witness Initiative against domestic violence.


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The best leaders are those who combine the

outer capacity for action (external power) with

the inner capacity for reflection (internal power). J. Hagbeg, Real Power


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The capacity to act.

The capacity to reflect.


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De La Salle was

interested in forming


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1. Power is experienced and manifested

differently at each stage of our leadershipjourney.Each stage has unique challenges &benefits.

2. Stages 1-3 are externally and organizationallyoriented. Stages 4-6 are internally oriented.3. The stages are arranged in a developmental

order. We move through the home stages

only in the order in which they are numbered.

4. You can be in different stages in different areas

of your life, in different situations, and with

different people. But each has a home stagewhich most closel re resents him/her stance.

Some important points:


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5. Some people stay at the same stage for a

lifetime. Others are driven to learn/grow as

fast as they can. There is no one right wayto change and not all will choose to.

5. Movement from one stage to the next is

usually precipitated by a personal crisis.

We move forward or stay stuck dependingon how we respond.

6. You do not necessarily proceed to the next

stage merely with age or experience, althoughboth are factors.

7. The development and relinquishment of ego

are central tasks within this model.


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Transition through the stages

involves a kind of dying, a letting

go of familiar patterns and sourcesof security in order to grasp new

possibilities even when we do not

know where they will lead.


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The 1st half (Stages 1-3) of the leadership journey

External power (the capacity to act) is represented by

confidence, competence, expertise, titles, success,

degrees, stature, money, self-esteem and recognition.

* Marshaling resources

* Meeting goals

* Managing people

* Making things happen* Achieving culturally defined success

* Making a living


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The 2nd half (stages 4-6) of the leadership journey

In the second half of the journey we integrate external power

(the capacity to act) with internal power (the capacity to

reflect). Internal power emerges out of our inner self, our

souls, our deepest values, and is more related to who we

really are and what our life purposes are.

* Finding meaning and a sense of calling in our work

* Exploring our inner passion* Creating long-lasting effects

* Rooted in spirituality, community and connectedness

* Empowering others


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CHARACTERISTICS

Dependent

Low in self-esteem

Uninformed

Feels manipulatedHelpless but not hopeless

Addictions

AS A LEADER . . .

Exercises domination/

coercion inspiring fear and

resentment ; avoids risks.

HELD BACK BY:

fear and lack of self-esteem

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY: blaming, complaining

MOVES FORWARD BY: Developing self-esteem, acting

on ones own behalf, learning new skills, confronting

fears, finding allies, seeking professional help

How can I survive?

Spiritual stance: Awe

or need lead to

discovering a Higher

Power in ones life.


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Nicolle Mot passed away on July 19, 1671 at the age of thirty-six

and Louis de La Salle followed nine months later on April 9, 1672.

De La Salle became the executor of the estate and sole guardian

of his brothers and sisters.

The deaths were a severe blow and mayhave forced him to reconsider his vocation.

He stopped studying and returned to Reims

to see to their education and to settle the

estate.

He would not take up his studies again until

four years later.


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CHARACTERISTICS

Apprenticeship

Learning the ropes

Learning the culture

Dependent on supervisor

or leader

AS A LEADER . . .

Sticks to established rules &

fosters dependency, seeks

approval

HELD BACK BY:

Lack of self-confidence, need

for security and approval

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY: colluding with others, leaning on a peer group

MOVES FORWARD BY: finding a mentor, getting feedback, becoming more

competent, becoming more disciplined, building networks, taking risks, caring

for self

Spiritual stance:

Discipleship/

Learning about the

spiritual journey.


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In Reims, DLS took as his

spiritual director Canon Nicolas

Roland, reknowned for his pietyand the founder of the Sisters of

the Child Jesus.

He urged DLS to forge on and not

to delay his ordination to thesubdiaconate which took place

on June 11, 1672.


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CHARACTERISTICSDynamoRealisticMature egoAmbitious

CompetitiveCharismaticExpert

AS A LEADER . . .

Exercises charisma and

persuasion; fosters a do what

it takes to win attitude.

Inspires the pursuit of symbols

of success.

HELD BACK BY:

Not knowing youre stuck,

confusion when you

realize you are discontent.

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY: Concealing/rationalizing; fighting back

MOVES FORWARD BY: Accepting the change a crisis can bring; learning to

be alone and to engage in self-reflection, trying new experiences/relationships

that make you think differently, getting advice from persons at higher stages

Spirituality is being

productive in Gods

service.


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There is a tendency in organizations to demand and reward

external power and neglect if not discourage internal power.

True leadership requires that we move beyond the egocentrism

of Stage 3 to a life lived with integrity, a sense of higher

purpose, and a desire to serve and empower others.


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DLS was a rising star in the

clergya wealthy canon of one of

the major cathedrals in France.

In March 1679, he metAdrian

Nyel at the doorway of the

convent of the Sisters of the Child

Jesus on Rue de Barbatre.

John Baptist agreed to help Nyel,first by giving the latter advice

and ultimately becoming his

patron and acting as a godfather

to Nyels schoolmasters.


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Stage 4: Power by ReflectionHow can I find meaning and purpose?

CHARACTERISTICS

Reflective; journeys inward

Loss of certainties &

search for new directions

Collaborative

StrongInfluential

Skilled at mentoring

AS A LEADER . . .

Seeks to align the outer

world with the inner

world; leads with

principle and integrity;

inspires trust and hope.

HELD BACK BY

Ego-control, not knowing lifes purpose

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY: Reflecting on lessons learned

MOVES FORWARD BY: Hitting the wall, moving beyond intellect, letting go

of ego and of control, facing fears/shadows, going to your core, finding

intimacy with God, glimpsing wisdom

Spirituality is

rediscovering the Holy.


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o Move from building up (Stages 1-3) to letting

go (Stages 4-6). Transition that feels like Stage 1.

o Move from outward journey to inward journey. Live

the questions now.

o For men: claiming the unacknowledged feminine;

for women, accepting the balance of feminine and

masculine so as not to end up honorary men.

o Pursuit of tangible rewards to intangibles like

integrity, peace of mind, sense of purpose, etc.

o Move from understanding power as depleteable to

power as infinitemultiplying as it is passed on.


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Their reply was, Its easy for

you to talk. You have a fortune

and a canonry. We are poor

men with nothing. If the work

dies, so do we.

Without tuition, the survival of the

schools was a source of anxiety. De LaSalle admonished his followers not to

fear but to trust in Gods providence.

Seeing the truth of their criticism and the need to strengthen their

faith, De La Salle decided he had to take a dramatic step.


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The Wall is the place where the things we have hidden

from the world, or thought we had hidden, come back to

haunt us. At the wall we cannot move forward without

embracing our own personal shadow behavior, behavior

we dont want to look at but cant seem to avoid

anymore. The Wall is the place where our shadowbecomes clear and we make a decision whether or not

we will deal with it. . . It is the place of transformation.

Once having experienced it you will never be the same

again. (Hagberg))


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The Wall

WAYS TO MOVE FORWARD:

Embrace pains gifts and graces

Believe in healing before it happens

Stay accountable to someone who knows your story

Move beyond intellect to intuition/gut feelingLetting go of ego and of control

Embracing your shadow

Going to your core

Finding intimacy with God

Surrendering ones life to God

Glimpsing wisdom

In the Wall, we face our controlling ego and our shadow

self. It is the Moment of Truth/ the Place of Inner Choiceswith our will facing Gods will and choosing whether or not

to let go/surrender to God.

BLOCKS TO GROWTH

Denial and flight from

pain; self-will

CRISIS:

Old solutions dont work;

losing your soul; cant go

on; stagnation


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I can no longer continue

on this road. My vocationto the canonry left me

before I could leave it.

Live the gospel of

providence you proclaim.

Abandon yourself to God!


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In 1684, in response to the callof the gospel, John Baptist

resigned his canonry,

liquidated his inheritance and

sold his possessions.

He used the money to buy food

which he distributed to the poor

during a famine in one of the

coldest winters in memory .

Thus he burned his bridges to

the world of wealth and power,

becoming a true brother to his

disciples.


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Stage 5: Power by Purpose

CHARACTERISTICS

Self-accepting, humble

Visionary & courageous

Unified inner and outer world

Confident of life calling

Conscience of the organizationPractical mystic

Empowers others generously

AS A LEADER . . .

Eager to transform &

empower, challenges

assumptions, embraces

unpopular issues , mentor

to the organization.Inspires love and service.

HELD BACK BY:

Not understanding the universe/

not seeing the bigger picture; not

willing to pay the price of vision

How do I ignite passion?

MOVES FORWARD BY: Seeking to understand the universe-staying true to

ones path.

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY: Being undaunted, focusing on the mountaintop

Spirituality is

surrendering to

the Holy.


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In 1691, the Institute of the Brothers

came close to collapse due to:

legal battles to close down schools

lack of donors/resources

deaths of several Brothers due to

overwork and illness

the death of De La Salles friend andchosen successor Br. Henri LHereux

conflicts within communities

Brothers abandoning the work

Discouragement, low morale

closure of teacher-training centers

due to lack of recruits


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Fearing the collapse of the

Institute, De La Salle and

two trusted Brothers met at

Vaugirard and together

made a sacred vow to God

and one another to keep the

society and the work aliveeven if they were the last

members left, forced to beg

for alms and survive on

bread alone.


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Very soon, more Brothers were inspired to committhemselves to the work with renewed zeal. The numberof recruits increased and the schools quickly spreadand became famous throughout France.


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Stage 6: Power by WisdomHow can I instill wisdom?

CHARACTERISTICS

Sage- seeing the big

picture- Gestalt

Comfortable with paradox

Integrating shadow

Unafraid of deathFree to relinquish

external power

Quiet in service

Self-sacrificing

Compassion for the world

AS A LEADER . . .

Poses different future

possibilities; acts as

mentor to the larger

community. Inspires inner

peace and sense ofvocation.

DEALS WITH PROBLEMS BY:

Reframing them so they are not experienced as problems.

HELD BACK BY:

Human condition

Spirituality is being

transparent to the Holy:

Not I but God in me.


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Near the end of his life, De La Salle told his friends, If I had known in

the beginning where God would lead me, I would never have had the

courage to begin. But God was gentle with me. He led me step by

step without me knowing in advance where the road would end.


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Leadership is a way of relating

that enables a group

to achieve mutually agreed upon goals

that spring from a shared vision

of what is good, and true and valuable.


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Leadership always comes back to the issue ofcharacter,of deep foundational values. . . . You cannot lead byforcing compliance. It simply doesnt work. The rate of

change is too high to be managed from the top down.

In order to lead one must engage followers. You will notfind followers without caring, connecting and creating.Would you follow someone who did not care about you,connect with you, or did not wish to create a new reality?

Mere compliance today is a recipe for disaster.

As leaders or would-be leaders, we must be vulnerable.None of us has arrived. We must recognize our ownvoyage. We can only lead effectively by enabling others

to maximize their contribution.We are all on the journey together, accomplishing thingsthat none of us could accomplish alone.

- Rob Harvey, corporate officer at Herman Miller


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Domination,

coercion, force Fear, resentment

Dependency/compliance

Charisma &

persuasiveness

Winning attitude; need

for symbols of success

Integrity Trust and hope

WisdomA sense of higher

purpose/vocation

Love and service Love and service

Sticking to

the rules


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They are concerned with what is right, just, and

fair in the long run. They are interested inprinciple, quality and effectiveness. They lead

with virtue and integrity. They are thoughtful,

sensible, honest, not self-serving. They lead

because they have become deserving of

others trust.


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They see their main goal as empowering others to

be their best selves and to give their best. To do

this they serve others by guiding, coaching,supporting, encouraging so as to draw out the best

in others. They are convinced that the good of their

team is more important than the good of the

designated leaders and they behave accordingly.


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They lead by guiding others to find their life

purpose, to discover their inner power, to

connect with their own centers of value and

energy and to bring these in harmony with theorganizations vision. They help others discern

what is of real importance to them and

challenge them to discover their true calling.


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1. What predominant stage do you find yourself inin your current community/work/assignment?

2. What kind of power do you see yourself

exercising?

3. How do you generally deal with setbacks and

problems?

4. Where are you stuck? What holds you back?

5. What do you feel you need to do to deal with

this blockage and move forward?


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PART 2:


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Leadership hinges on the transformation of the

self that occurs when we get in touch with our

spirits inner power and strive to harmonize our

external life structures and activities with it.


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When our daily activities and work are unrelatedto our center of value and meaning, our source ofpassion, life becomes fragmented, we lose heart

and spirit, our energy seems to drain away

amidst a thousand trivialities.


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There is enormous power that comes from connecting

with our center of meaning and value.


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Whats my life goal?

Simple.To live anundivided life.


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Spirituality is the way the way we organize our lives around

our deepest source of energy and desire.

Th F d i hi i i f G d h h t


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The Founders passion was his vision of a God who reaches out

to embrace all that is poor and weak and vulnerable. His passion

was a sharing in Gods passion for the young and the poor.


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I WALK IN

GODS

WORLD ANDLIVE IN GODS

PRESENCE

This I know, that God is

on my side. . .in God I putmy trust and have no fear.

Ps. 56:9,11

JESUS LIVES

IN ME AND

THROUGH MEIS AT WORK IN

THE WORLD

I t is no longer I who live but

Jesus Chr ist who lives in me.

Gal. 2:20

GODS SPIRIT

BREAKS INTO

MY LIFE ANDMOVES ME

TO ACTION

Since we live by the Spir i t,

let us follow the Spiritslead.

Gal. 5:25

The Founders spirituality provides a pattern of

participation in Gods creative and redemptive

action in the world


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We walk in Gods world. Our fulfillment is not to befound by seeking our good independently of God, but

in trusting submission to God, for God wills only one

thing: that through his Son all may have joy, be loved,

and come to fullness of life.


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The presence of God is

. . . a loving presence

. . . a healing presence

. . . a forgiving presence

. . . an empowering presence

. . . a challenging presence

. . . a saving presence.


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There is an inner movement in all creation and history propelledby Gods Spirit moving humankind towards a final unity where allwill be part of Gods family, children of God in the fullest possible

manner. - Joseph Grassi, The Secret of Paul the Apostle(1978)


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Jesus wants to love and save all , especially those whose lives are a mess.

In the world of the young, we are his sacraments. He has only us.


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Entering into Jesus attitudes and dispositions in thegospels and learning to exercise them as he did.

Entering into Jesus point of view, his way of thinking,feeling and judging as shown in his words.

Entering into Gods unfolding plan by participating inthe saving activity of the Son and the Spirit in history.


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The big results are not in ourhands. The Holy Spirit gives our

words and actions the power to

touch and transform lives.


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The Holy Spirit gives us a new relationship of lovewith the Father and enables us to love others,

even the most difficult people, for Gods sake.


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The Spirit works on ourintellect and imagination

enabling us to discern the

best ways to express love for

God and others.

As guide, the Spirit is

associated with the virtue of

prudence and the workings of

conscience.


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The Holy Spirit provides the fortitude topersevere in truth, charity and justice, to

conquer fear, and to serve Gods purposes inthe world.

The Spirit gives us talents to be used for thebuilding up of the community.

Finally, the Spirit strengthens us to reachbeyond the community to the poor and

those in need and to build a more just andequitable society.


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The best leaders are those who combine the

outer capacity for action (external power) with

the inner capacity for reflection (internal power). J. Hagbeg, Real Power


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Reflective Disciplines

The Prayer of

Simple Attention

Centering Prayer

Lectio Divina

The Daily Examen

The Practice of the

Presence of God

Spiritual direction

Journalling

Active Disciplines

Sharing of Personal

Life Stories

Practice of the

Virtues

Deep Listening

Seeking Feedback

Personal Growth

Workshops

Work

Documents

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