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TheLadderofInferenceandtheDramaTriangle:KeystoUnderstandingandManagingComplexBusinessRelationships
LaurieGrayVP,CustomerExperienceRGPConsultingApril,2018
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SOWHATHAPPENEDTHERE?
THESITUATION
WHATHAPPENED(Factsasobserved)
WHATWETELLOURSELVES(Ourinterpretationbasedonourperception)
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Peopleonlyseewhattheyarepreparedtosee.RalphWaldoEmerson
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REALITYANDFACTS
THELADDEROFINFERENCE
SELECTEDREALITY
ASSUMPTIONS
CONCLUSIONS
BELIEFS
ACTIONS
PERCEPTIONS BELIEFSDETERMINEWHICHDATAWEPAYATTENTIONTO
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REALITYANDFACTS
THELADDEROFINFERENCE– THEDOCTORSEXAMPLE
SELECTEDREALITY
ASSUMPTIONS
CONCLUSIONS
BELIEFS
ACTIONS
Doctorsholdingpaddles,announcingadeath;patientisn’tawakeormoving.
Whosedeath?Wifeanddaughtercan’tseethefly.
Wifeanddaughterthinkdoctorsaretalkingaboutthepatient.
Thepatientisdead!
Nothinggoodeverhappensinhospitals.
Shock,dismay,panic?
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REALITYANDFACTS
THELADDEROFINFERENCE– YOUROWNEXAMPLE
SELECTEDREALITY
ASSUMPTIONS
CONCLUSIONS
BELIEFS
ACTIONS
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
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Questionstohelpyougettoyourthreestories:
• WhatinformationamImissing?
• WhatdecisionsdidImakeaboutwhichinformationtoincludeorexcludefrommyobservation?
• Couldyourassumptionshavetakenyoutoadifferentlocation?
• Whatotherconclusionsexistbeyondtheoneyouaccepted?
• WhatinformationorperspectivedoothershavethatIdon’t?
• Whatotherchoices/coursesofactioncouldIhaveselected?
THEVALUEOFTELLINGYOURSELF3STORIES
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REALITYANDFACTS
HELPINGOTHERSTONAVIGATETHELADDER
SELECTEDREALITY
ASSUMPTIONS
CONCLUSIONS
BELIEFS
ACTIONS
“Whatdatadidyouchoosetofocuson/create?”
“Whatconclusiondid/doyoudrawfromthis?”“Whatotherconclusionsmightapply?”
“Howdoesthisfitwithyourbeliefs?”“Howdidotheroptionschallengeyourbeliefs?”
“Whatactiondidyoutake?”“Whatactiondoyouplantotakeinstead?”
“Whatdidyouassumethismeant?”“Arethereanyotherplausibleassumptionsyoucouldmake?”
“Tellmeaboutthefactsyouobserved.”“Werethereanyothers?”
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TEDEDpresentation:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KJLqOclPqis
Article:https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htm
Article:https://thesystemsthinker.com/the-ladder-of-inference/
Othereducationalmaterials:https://www.pon.harvard.edu/tag/ladder-of-inference/
ADDITIONALRESOURCESONTHELADDEROFINFERENCE
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THEDRAMATRIANGLE:THEPLOT
RIGHT
Atthecore,drivenbypowerfulbeliefs/fearsthatwhenplayedout,haltinformationtransferintheworkplace.
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THEDRAMATRIANGLE
Rescuer/Hero
Persecutor/Villain
Victim
Rescuer:• Seekstoprovidetemporaryrelieftodifficultsituations
• Seeksvaluebybeingneededbyothers
• “Theyneedhelp/Icansavethem.”
• “IftheydidwhatIsaid,they’dbeok.”
Persecutor:• Blaming• Frustrated• Self-righteous• “It’syourfault”• “Theyjustdon’tgetit”
Victim:• Helpless• Powerless• “Inevergetabreak.”
Thisdrivesustoadoptcertain“scriptedroles”andexhibitcertainbehaviors
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THEDRAMATRIANGLE
Rescuer/Hero
Persecutor/Villain
Victim
• Wecanstartanywhereinthetriangle
• Ourrolescananddoshift.• Wetendtomovetowardanunconsciousdesireto“bethebiggestvictim”.
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THEDRAMATRIANGLEROLEPLAY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7pBYF8qxYk
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THEDRAMATRIANGLE– WORKPLACEEXAMPLE
Hero/Rescuer
Villain/Persecutor
Victim
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GETTINGUNSTUCK
“Think,act,andspeakasiftheroleisn’treal”
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Startbytakingafewdeepbreathsorconsidergettingupfromyourdeskandwalkingaroundasyoupondertheanswerstothesequestions:
1. WhatamIfeelingatthemomentandwhereinmybodyamIfeelingit?(Gettingintune)
2. WhatisthesinglemostimportantthingIcandototakecareofmyself?WhatisthekeythingItrulyneed,want,and/ordesirerightnow?(Identifyingyourneeds)
3. WhatpositiveactionscanImakeinmyliferightnowthatwouldassistmetoaccomplishthis?WhatcanIdotosupportmyprocessthatallowsmetogetbacktoapointofequilibrium?(Planningforchange)
4. WhatarethemostimportantactionsIcantakeRIGHTNOWtogetmemovinginapositivedirection?(Choosingthepath)
5. Takepositiveactionrightnow.Retainfocusonwhereyouwouldliketo/plantogo,notwhereyouhavebeen.(Takingaction)
SHIFTINGAWAYFROMTHEDRAMATRIANGLE
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MOVINGBEYONDTHEDRAMATRIANGLE:BEINGINPRESENCE*
Hero/Rescuer
Villain/Persecutor
Victim
*AlsoknownasTheEmpowermentDynamic
Challenger
Challenger:• Bringshealthypressuretothe
creatortohelpandsupporttheirprogress
• Aimingforbreakthroughs• Noblameorcriticism• “Wecandobetter”
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MOVINGBEYONDTHEDRAMATRIANGLE:BEINGINPRESENCE*
Hero/Rescuer
Villain/Persecutor
Victim
*AlsoknownasTheEmpowermentDynamic
Coach
Coach:• Viewsallasfullyempowered
creators• Focusedonthe“whatif”• Shiftsthe“work”totheowners
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MOVINGBEYONDTHEDRAMATRIANGLE:BEINGINPRESENCE*
Hero/Rescuer
Villain/Persecutor
VictimCreator
Creator:• Thinklikeaproblem-solver• “WhatdoIwant?”• “HowcanIgetwhatIwant?”• Takingresponsibility• Notcomplaining• Gettingitdone
*AlsoknownasTheEmpowermentDynamic
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• Morecreative
• Moreengaged
• Morecloselyaligned
• Energized
• Morefun
• Getmoredone
• Alerttooptions
• Problem-solving
BENEFITSTHATTEAMSINPRESENCEENJOY
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Thinkaboutarecenteventwhereyouandyourteamwerecaughtupinadramatriangle:
1. Whatwasthesituation?
2. Whatroledidyoubeginplaying?
3. Whatwastheoutcomeyouwanted?
4. Howdidyourroleimpactthesituation?
5. Howwereyoufeeling?
6. Knowingwhatyouknownow,howcouldyouhaveshiftedtopresenceandchangedtheoutcome?
ASSESSINGRECENTEVENTS
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ADDITIONALRESOURCESONTHEDRAMATRIANGLE
Video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ovrVv_RlCMw
Article:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201106/the-relationship-triangle
Articlecollection:http://powerofted.com/articles/
Worksheetsandhandouts:http://printableworksheets.in/worksheet/drama-triangle
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THANKYOU
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HANDOUTS
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Questionstohelpyougettoyourthreestories:
• WhatinformationamImissing?
• WhatdecisionsdidImakeaboutwhichinformationtoincludeorexcludefrommyobservation?
• Couldyourassumptionshavetakenyoutoadifferentlocation?
• Whatotherconclusionsexistbeyondtheoneyouaccepted?
• WhatinformationorperspectivedoothershavethatIdon’t?
• Whatotherchoices/coursesofactioncouldIhaveselected?
THEVALUEOFTELLINGYOURSELF3STORIES
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REALITYANDFACTS
HELPINGOTHERSTONAVIGATETHELADDER
SELECTEDREALITY
ASSUMPTIONS
CONCLUSIONS
BELIEFS
ACTIONS
“Whatdatadidyouchoosetofocuson/create?”
“Whatconclusiondid/doyoudrawfromthis?”“Whatotherconclusionsmightapply?”
“Howdoesthisfitwithyourbeliefs?”“Howdidotheroptionschallengeyourbeliefs?”
“Whatactiondidyoutake?”“Whatactiondoyouplantotakeinstead?”
“Whatdidyouassumethismeant?”“Arethereanyotherplausibleassumptionsyoucouldmake?”
“Tellmeaboutthefactsyouobserved.”“Werethereanyothers?”
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Startbytakingafewdeepbreathsorconsidergettingupfromyourdeskandwalkingaroundasyoupondertheanswerstothesequestions:
1. WhatamIfeelingatthemomentandwhereinmybodyamIfeelingit?(Gettingintune)
2. WhatisthesinglemostimportantthingIcandototakecareofmyself?WhatisthekeythingItrulyneed,want,and/ordesirerightnow?(Identifyingyourneeds)
3. WhatpositiveactionscanImakeinmyliferightnowthatwouldassistmetoaccomplishthis?WhatcanIdotosupportmyprocessthatallowsmetogetbacktoapointofequilibrium?(Planningforchange)
4. WhatarethemostimportantactionsIcantakeRIGHTNOWtogetmemovinginapositivedirection?(Choosingthepath)
5. Takepositiveactionrightnow.Retainfocusonwhereyouwouldliketo/plantogo,notwhereyouhavebeen.(Takingaction)
SHIFTINGAWAYFROMTHEDRAMATRIANGLE
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Thinkaboutarecenteventwhereyouandyourteamwerecaughtupinadramatriangle:
1. Whatwasthesituation?
2. Whatroledidyoubeginplaying?
3. Whatwastheoutcomeyouwanted?
4. Howdidyourroleimpactthesituation?
5. Howwereyoufeeling?
6. Knowingwhatyouknownow,howcouldyouhaveshiftedtopresenceandchangedtheoutcome?
ASSESSINGRECENTEVENTS