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Changing Barriers into

Inner StrengthWelcome to3rd International Conference on Educational andCounselling Psychology

Dr. Shaheen IslamProfessor, Department of Psychology, Universityof Dhaka

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We are born prince andprinces

• Are loveable

• Have potential

• Have desire for growth and self-actualization

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Has religious root

  Best of All Creation

AshrafulMakhlukat

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Under the spell of past

• We turned into frogs or beasts

 – Burdened with guilt and shame or

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Burning with rage and anger

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How?????????

• We look up to our‘parents’ for approval

and recognition

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We become

slavesof earlychildhoodmessages

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Too threating to our self 

ParentalDiscord

Overprotection

Overexpectation

Compari

sonReprimand

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We put on a ‘face’

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Overshadowingour true self 

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We are driven internally 

• I must be perfect all times

• I have to try hard to prove

myself • I must please everybody around

me

• I should be strong in times of distress

• I have to hurry to finish things

quickly

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Comfort zone

• Live our life in similarfashion

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Constant Tug-of-war

• Much of our potentialities remainunexplored

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Don’t be afraid of change

• Change embraces pain

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Pain is universal

• We do have the capacity towithstand adversity

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We have the power tochange

“Life is 10% what happens to me and

90% of how I react to it.” -John C. Maxwell

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Be in Charge

• Of our own emotions

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Other side of the coin

• All our parts have a positive intentionand therefore are important anduseful to us

• Let search and find them

• Let learn from our mistakes

• Barriers makes us stronger

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Stroke the positivitywithin YOU

• Pay attention to them

• Nurture them

• Invite them to flourish

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In relationship

• Let us enter as equalpartners

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Keep away from ‘puttingdown’

• All have needs, wants, and feelingswhich are important and should notbe discounted

• Foster cooperation and mutuality inrelationship

• Remember to ask before act- “Are myactions are helpful or harmful?

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Bonding

Delineate and protect eachperson’s right and responsibilities

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We deserve recognitionand respect

• It is beautiful to see a personcome alive and glow fromacceptance, love and caring

• It recharges our battery andprovides us with new energy

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Create an alternative story

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Keep Smiling

 

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We can overcome

• Thank you all