Information was taken from POSITIVE DISCIPLINE byNelsen, Lott, and Glenn

to give children the skills they need to develop into healthy, happy adults.

Words can hurt!

“I knew youcould do it!”

It is okay to feel angry. It is not okay to hit your brother.

*learn responsibility

*develop a positive parent/ child relationship*lessen power struggles

Do you want to wear your blue jacket or green jacket?

*not blame others.

*apologize.

*find a solution for the mistake.

I’m sorry I didn’t take out the trash. I will do it now.

*This means enforcing rules while maintaining respect for you and your child.

*Rules should be fair.

*Children can be involved in developing rules.

*Rules should be clearly communicated to children. You may post the rules.

KIDS TUNE OUT PARENTS WHO TALK TOO MUCH!

*Wait for quiet before you speak.*Make sure you are in the same room before talking.*Only say what you are prepared toback up with action.

If children are fighting over a toy, quietly take the toy. Don’t lecture them about fighting.

Tell your child what you wantthem to do, not what you don’t want them to do.

We walk in the grocerystore.

Don’t

run!

Rather than asking “Why did you do that?”, say “Tell me what happened”.

Rather than saying “Did you brush your teeth?” say “I noticed you didn’t brush your teeth”.

PROMISES• Tell children you won’t make promises until you are sure you can keep the promise.

–When a child says-”I promise I will…”, you may say “Don’t make promises, just show me when you have done …”.

*What does your child think?

*How does your child feel?

*How does your child relate to you and friends?

*says that what you do is different from who you are.

*doesn’t judge children.

Children need encouragementmost when they are

misbehaving. I know that you arehaving a bad day!I still love you!

For more information contact:

Diane Laucks, School CounselorHanover Public SD637-9000, ext. 400

Children have the opportunity to do many things.

Children show responsibility by completing the task.

Children receive consequences for not accepting the responsibility.