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Adolescent Relationship Abuse

Relationship What?

Relationship Violence is…..a pattern of violent behavior-physical, emotional, or sexual-by one partner in a dating relationship toward the other partner.

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Types of AbusePhysical

Scratching Punching

Biting Kicking

Pulling Hair Choking Pushing Slapping Shoving Using a

weapon

Emotional Name Calling /

Put Downs Controls, Intimidates, Humiliates Yelling / Screaming

Threatens suicide to

manipulate Threats of

violence or harm Keeps victim

away from friends/family

Makes victim feel responsible

SexualUnwanted

kissing/touching

Forcing a victim to go further than they want

Rape

Wuz Up Wit Dis? 1 in 11 teens reports being a victim of physical dating abuse each year 1 in 4 teens reports verbal, physical, emotional or sexual abuse each

year 1 in 5 high school girls has been physically or sexually abused by a

dating partner The overall occurrence of dating violence is higher among black (13.9%)

than Hispanic (9.3%) or white (7%) students 72% students in 8th & 9th grade report dating.

By the time they are in high school, 54% students report dating violence among peers 1 in 3 teens report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched,

kicked, slapped, choked or otherwise physically hurt by their partner 80% teens regard verbal abuse as a serious issue for their age group Nearly 80% of girls who’ve been physically abused in their dating

relationships continue to date their abuser Nearly 1 in 5 teen girls who’ve been in a relationship said that a

boyfriend threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up Almost 70% rape victims knew their rapist as a boyfriend, friend or

acquaintance Teen dating abuse most often takes place in the home of one of the

partners

www.chooserespect.org

Da Cycle

The Cycle of Violence

Honeymoon

Tension BuildingExplosion

Honeymoon The abuser often…Says “I love you!”ApologizesPromises it won’t happen againBuys you giftsBlames you or other things

Tension BuildingYour partner starts fights with you & yells at you for no reasonFeel you can’t do anything right & things could blow up at any time

Explosion The abuser mayPhysically abuse you by hitting, kicking, slamming you against a wall, etc.Scream & yell in a way that scares or humiliates youThreatens to hurt youRape or force you to go further sexually than you want to

http://www.mtv.com/videos/news/131070/teen-abuse-victim-shares-harrowing-story.jhtml#id=1551410

WARNING!Signs of Abused Person Bruises, scratches or other

injuries Avoiding friends at social

events Changes in clothes or

make-up Changes in eating/sleeping

habits Crying spells/hysteria

Alcohol/Drug use Anxiety & Depression

Sudden changes in mood or personality

Fearfulness of dating partner

Signs of Abuser Wants serious relationship

quickly Will not take no for an

answer Is jealous & possessive Is very controlling of

decisions, friends, activities, clothing, etc.

Demands to know where you are at all times

Uses guilt “If you really loved me, you would…”

Blames you…”You asked for it” or “You made me

mad” Apologizes for violent

behavior & promises not to do it again

Abuse is a Choice!

Why does abuse happen?It’s related to certain risk factors, such as:

Truly believes it’s okay Uses alcohol or drugs Can’t manage anger

Hangs out with violent peers Has low self-esteem or is depressed

Doesn’t have parental supervision & support Witnesses abuse at home or in the community Has a history of aggressive behavior or bullying

Peace Out!

How do I get out of an abusive relationship?

Tell your parents what’s up! Talk with friends or adults you trust so they can look

out for your safety Talk to school officials so they can take measures to

make you feel safe at school Avoid isolated or dark areas at school and hang out

spots Do NOT walk home alone

If you go to parties or events where your ex might be, go with trusting friends

You have the right to a safe & healthy relationship…

Free from violence, free from fear

http://sandy.utah.gov/government/police-department/a-look-at-teen-dating-violence-video/video.html

ResourcesBreak the Cyclewww.breakthecycle.orgChoose Respect-Centers for Disease Control &

Preventionwww.chooserespect.orgThe Date Safe Projectwww.thedatesafeproject.orgLove is not Abusewww.loveisnotabuse.com/teen_whenlovehurts.htmLove Doesn’t Have to Hurt Teens, American

Psychological Associationwww.apa.org/pi/pii/teen/homepage.htmlSee It and Stop Itwww.seeitandstopit.org