HAVVANIN KIZLARI

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indekiler

GR ........................................................................................... 15 KADIN VE ERKEK ........................................................................ 23

Kadn niin sevdirildi? ............................................................ 25 Kadnn yaratl .................................................................... 30 Ayna ...................................................................................... 36 Kadnn Yaratl Gayesi ......................................................... 38 Erkeklik ve kadnlk nedir? ..................................................... 39 Kadn ve erkek eitlii ............................................................ 42 Tahrif ..................................................................................... 46 Kadnn Yaps ve Ruhu .......................................................... 48 Kadnn cinsellii .................................................................... 49 Kadndaki incelik.................................................................... 50 Kadn kimliini Etkileyen Faktrler ........................................ 53 Kadnn Zaaflar...................................................................... 55 Kadnn dnyaya meyli .......................................................... 60 Kadna bak .......................................................................... 64 Kadna Feminist bak ............................................................ 66 Erkein kadn hakkndaki dnceleri ................................... 69 Erkein kadna meyli ............................................................. 71 Erkein en byk destei ancak kadndr .............................. 73 Erkek olabilmenin verdii sknt ........................................... 80 "Erkein Unutulmas" gerei ............................................... 81 Erkeklerin Zaaflar ................................................................. 83

AK - EVLLK - ALE .................................................................... 85 AK ............................................................................................. 87

Akn eitleri ........................................................................ 90 EVLLK ........................................................................................ 92

E seimi ................................................................................ 96 Seven koca ............................................................................ 99 Fedakr kadn ...................................................................... 102 Evlenemeyen kadn ve erkekler .......................................... 105

ALE ........................................................................................... 106

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Aile Yapsnda Deime ....................................................... 108 Sorumluluk Nedir? .............................................................. 111 Kar koca geimsizliinin bir nedeni iktidar ......................... 114 bretlik Hikye ..................................................................... 118 Erkek ve kadn iktidarnda uzlama ..................................... 120 Ailede Dzen-Huzur Meselesi .......................................... 122

KADIN VE ERKEK LKLER...................................................... 127 GEMSZLN OLUMASINDA AHLAK VE RUHSAL SEBEPLER .................................................................................................. 129 1Varolma arzular ................................................................. 129 2Sonsuz haz duyup mutlu olmak .......................................... 130 3Egoist-bencil olmak ............................................................. 132

Kadnn zgrl ................................................................ 134 zgrln getirecei skntlar .......................................... 136 Kadnlarn Bamszlk Korkusu = Fahielik arm .......... 139 bretlik yaanm hikye ...................................................... 141

4- Azdan shal olma ............................................................ 142 5Aalk kompleksi ............................................................... 145

Evli kadnlardaki aalk kompleksi .................................... 147 Aile dramna dnen aalk kompleksi ........................... 149

6 Psikolojik sorunlar ve yalnzlk duygusu; ............................ 153 7Sapklk ynnde eilimlerin olumas: .............................. 154 GEMSZLKTEN KURTULU TEDBRLER ................................ 156 1zverili olmak ..................................................................... 156 2Haz alma arzularn dizginlemek ......................................... 157 3Bireysellikten kurtulup kolektif olmak ................................ 157 4iddetten uzaklamak ......................................................... 158

Aile ii iddetin kadna etkileri ............................................ 158 5Salkl tartma kurallarna kavumak ............................... 159 6Aalk kompleksinden kurtulma areleri .......................... 160 GEMSZLN OLUTUU ALANLAR ..................................... 164 1 ve Ekonomik Konular: .................................................... 164

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almak insan iin nedir? ................................................... 166 EVNN KADINI ......................................................................... 167 ALIAN KADIN ........................................................................ 168

Kadnn almasnn olumsuz ynleri ................................. 170 alan kadnlarla ilgili patolojik ruhsal belirtiler: ............... 170

2Zaman ayrma ve iletiim: ................................................... 174 3Aile olamama, bu duruma hazr olmama: .......................... 176

Gelin-Kaynana-Damat geni ............................................. 177 4 nan farkllklar: ............................................................... 182 Niin kadn korunmak isteniyor? .............................................. 184 RTNME ................................................................................ 186

rtnme kimin iin? ............................................................ 192 rtnmedeki snr ............................................................... 194

5 Temas-liki ........................................................................ 199 Kuaklar aras atma ......................................................... 200 Meru likiler ...................................................................... 202 Meru Olmayan likiler ...................................................... 204

6Cinsellik: .............................................................................. 207 7Beklenti sorunu ................................................................... 211 8Kskanlk ............................................................................ 216

Duygusal kskanlk/cinsel kskanlk................................... 217 Duygusal ve cinsel kskanln tetikleyicileri ...................... 217 Kskanlkta kadn-erkek fark .............................................. 219 zlk veylik ortaklk Sorunu ................................... 220

HZ. BRAHM (aleyhisselm) N ANNES MISIRLI MARYE RADYALLH ANHANIN EKT SIKINTILAR ........................ 222

Msrl Mriye Reslullahn Hayatna Nasl Girmiti? ......... 222 ki Gen Kadnn Gnlleri slm Peygamberine Ald ....... 224 Bir Hayal Ve Bir mit ........................................................... 224 Bir Mjde ............................................................................. 225 Batan Ay .............................................................................. 228

9-taatsizlik ahlakszlk m? ....................................................... 230 10- Tkenme ............................................................................ 238

Tkenmilik Sendromunun Tanm...................................... 239 Duygusal Tkenme (Emotional Exhaustion): ...................... 241

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Duyarszlama (Depersonalization): .................................... 241 Kiisel Baar Noksanl (Personal Accomplishment): ........ 241 Stres ve Tkenmilik ............................................................ 242 Tkenmiliin Fiziksel Belirtileri .......................................... 243 Tkenmiliin Psikolojik Belirtileri....................................... 243 Tkenmiliin Davransal Belirtileri ................................... 244 Tkenmilik Sendromunun Nedenleri ve Faktrler ............ 244 Tkenmiliin Dnemleri .................................................... 245 Tkenmiliin Sonular ...................................................... 246 Stres Belirtileri ..................................................................... 247 Hayatna Etkileri ............................................................... 248 Tkenmilii nleme ........................................................... 249

SORUNLAR ............................................................................... 251 LM KORKUSU ...................................................................... 253 DSOSYASYON ........................................................................