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November 2017

1st Ralph Kingsbury 4th Darlene Buck 5th Marilyn Henshaw Ena Wells 7th Janice Springer 8th Marilyn Oberhelman 11th Darlene Nielsen Lee Wilson 12th Bob Hoyer 14th Erma Williamson 15th Richard Nelson Judith Patterson 17th Nancy Mabe 18th Nick Conrad 19th Ron Berckhan John Fevold 20th Nedra Conrad 25th Mary Jean Ulrich 28th Merle Klinger 29th Lois Pingel 30th Sharon Lang

Greetings from the Residents

Hilltop Luncheon The Hilltop Road Luncheon will be held at Iowa Central Community College on November 6th. The bus will leave at 11:00 am from the Kenyon Place entrance. Please call reservations to Ray & Nancy Scharf at 6947.

Ray & Nancy Scharf Thank you I would like to thank everyone for the lovely cards, gifts, ice cream sundae, phone calls, and birthday wishes I received for my birthday. My day was just great and one of the best!

Helen Williamson Thank you I would like to thank you for all the birthday cards, flowers, candy, calls, balloon from Dick Whitcome, as well as the special treat from the dining room. You made my Birthday so special. God Bless you All.

Pauline Doyen Thank you I would like to thank everyone who helped me celebrate my 100th birthday. It helped make it a special day. I truly appreciate living at Friendship Haven where everyone is so very thoughtful.

Molly Britton

Happy Birthday

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Greetings from Spiritual Care

The holiday season is fast approaching. And with it comes all sorts of emotions and attitudes. Some of us look forward to the holidays with anticipation and excitement; others of us dread that they are arriving and can’t wait for January 2nd to arrive on the calendar. Listed below are some ideas and suggestions that others have found helpful in coping with the holiday season. Choose the ones that help you.

• Family get-togethers may be difficult. Be honest with each other about your feelings. Don’t set expectations too high for yourself or for the day. Do things a little differently. What you chose to do in years past, you don’t have to do this year. Undertake only what each family member can handle comfortably. Initiate activity yourself; do not wait for others.

• There is no right or wrong way to handle the day. Some may wish to follow family traditions, while others may choose to change.

• Set limitations. Realize that it isn’t going to be easy. Do the things that are very special and /or important to you. Do the best you can.

• Once you have made the decision on the role you and your family will play during the holidays, let your relatives and friends know. Time spent by yourself can also be rewarding.

• Emotionally, physically and psychologically, the holidays are draining. You need every bit of strength. Try to get enough rest and exercise. Be aware of the increased accessibility of sugar, caffeine, and alcohol during the holidays and guard against overuse of these substances. I know the ladies in the Wellness Center would be happy to work with you on a plan of attack for staying healthy during the holiday season!

One thing that can help, if the holiday seasons are difficult for you, is to tell yourself that they are just another day. Another thing that is important to remember, is that you may not, be in good enough emotional shape to be able to do all the above activities. That’s all right. You can only do what you can do. Know what your limits are. You will find that you will survive the holidays and may even thrive in them this year. Know too, that my door is always open to conversation or to listen. Blessings and God’s Peace to you all this season.

~Chaplain Jennifer

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Weekly Worship Opportunities: Sundays: 9:30am in the Celebration Center Holy Communion is celebrated the 1st Sunday of the month 10:30am at Journeys

Thursdays: 3:15pm in the Celebration Center *No Vespers Thanksgiving Day Weekly Neighborhood Bible Devotions: Mondays: Gardens 100, Gardens 200, Arbor Lane Tuesdays: River Ridge, Gardens 300, Adult Day, Stone Heights

Parables of Jesus Bible Study: Mondays October 2nd – November 6th at 3:00pm in the Celebration Center In December I will lead a 3 week study using Dicken’s A Christmas Carol. Details to come.

Special Worship Opportunities this month: (these will be jointly led by me and Father Tigges) All Saints’ & All Souls’: Thursday, November 2nd 3:15pm Celebration Center

There is a book of names available in the Celebration Center in which you may add the names of your family who have died in the last year (between November 1, 2016 – October 31, 2017). The list includes the Residents of Friendship Haven that have died in the last year as well. Healing Service: Wednesday, November 8th 1:30pm Celebration Center If you are unable to attend, and would like Father Jim or I to stop by for anointing afterward, please let me know by that morning. Thanksgiving Eve Worship: Wednesday, November 22nd 3:15pm Celebration Center I will be hosting an Advent/Christmas Coffee & Coloring on November 29th beginning at 1:30 in the seating area outside the Blue Lemon. I will provide hot apple cider, a small snack, coloring sheets and markers/colored pencils, etc. If you have your own supplies, please feel free to bring them as well.

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Please join us for this Christmas music experience on

Friday, December 15, 2017 7:00 p.m.

Decker Auditorium Iowa Central Community College

Tickets: $15 Adults; $10 Seniors/Students

Available at the Friendship Haven Welcome Center & Torri Werner’s desk at Kenyon Place Entrance

This concert will feature beloved artist, Jill Miller. Surrounded

by her talented 6-piece band and festive stage set, Jill will delight our senses during this high-energy, two-hour show filled with holiday

classics and original music performed in a variety of music styles.

Proceeds will benefit the Good Samaritan Fund

In Sympathy… The residents and the staff would like to extend their deepest sympathy to the family and friends of…

Viola Lauver July 5, 1920 – October 17, 2017

Donald Weinzetl December 2, 1933 – October 25, 2017

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Friendship Haven Advisory Board Minutes

October 2, 2017 Present: Glen Thompson, Joanne Lee, Dick Whitcome, Loretta Zimmerman, Jim Reed, LaVerne Dass, Mary Moore, Don Cassady and John Wyman. Staff: Jennifer Owen, Denise Halverson, Julie Thorson, Kalleen Engels, Mel Smith, Deb Gray and Rollie Peterson. The meeting opened in prayer. The September minutes were approved. Glen Thompson appointed the following to serve as nominations chair for their respective neighborhoods: Jim Reed-Friendship Circle/Timer Ridge; Mary Moore-Hilltop Road; Dick Whitcome-Kenyon Place; and Glen Thompson-River Ridge. Neighborhood Reports: Hilltop Road: Dryers venting into garages remain a concern. Solutions are being researched. Friendship Circle/Timber Ridge: The new grass looks good on the slope next to Journeys. Acorns on sidewalks require ongoing efforts to remove them. River Ridge: The dining room temperature is better. No other concerns shared. Kenyon Place: Dining room service has been slow. The center sidewalk needs repair. Beautiful fall foliage was noted. The men’s restroom soap dispenser needs attention. Kenyon Place gutters have been overflowing. Simpson Health Center: No report. Gardens: No report. Staff Reports: Jennifer Owen: Along with Father Jim, joint services are being planned including a pet blessing this week. Appreciation was voiced for recent worship volunteers. Residents have been making and supplying communion bread. Deb Gray: Deb expressed thanks for sympathies received upon the unexpected death of her brother-in-law. A town home open house was held with new leads showing interest. Kalleen Engels: Mindy Derrig will be leaving in late December to pursue an opportunity as the CFO of the Community Health Center. A replacement will be sought. Denise Halverson: Volunteers are needed in Restorative Therapy, Blue Lemon Boutique and Journeys. Friendship Haven was well represented at the Alzheimer’s Walk and LaVerne Dass was the speaker. The Journeys donor wall will soon be installed. Appreciation was voiced for Loretta Zimmerman and her efforts in the library. Denise will be attending the Leading Age national

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conference in New Orleans. A waffle breakfast will be held this week. Other upcoming events include a volunteer appreciation, donor reception and a holiday concert. Mel Smith: Concrete repairs across campus have been assessed with Jensens. Work to repair these will be scheduled. Mel read a letter indicating his plans to resign effective December 1. Rollie Peterson: Kenyon Place and River Ridge neighborhood meetings are scheduled this week. A retirement party for JoAnn Hunter, beautician, will be held on October 16 at 1:30 p.m. No response from the Des Moines Register has been received; however, residents at Town Hall indicated they are receiving papers. Sunday delivery may yet be a concern, however. Julie Thorson: Julie thanked LuVerne Dass for his remarks at the Alzheimer’s Walk and stated that Mel Smith will be missed. Brett Asay is absent today due to some work he is doing with some Health Center issues. Julie shared some thoughts about her son playing on the football team. The Unity Point medical director is the expected speaker for the October Town Hall. The meeting was adjourned and closed with prayerful thoughts and a reading.

Respectfully submitted, Rollie Peterson

Town Hall October 9, 2017

Glen Thompson called the meeting to order and Rev. Jennifer offered the opening prayer. Program: Jennifer Crimmins, UnityPoint introduced herself and Dr. Roderic Gottula, Hospice Medical Director for UnityPoint. Dr. Gottula shared the major criteria as well as some of the myths of hospice. In summary, he stated hospice is not a place. It is not expensive. Medicare pays for hospice. It costs the patient nothing. Hospice care allows you to make decisions about your treatment. There is not a limited amount of time you receive hospice care. Some of the hospice indicators are: increased pain, repeat emergency department visits, recurrent infections, frequent falls, increased dependence with ADLs, significant weight loss. Friendship Haven Service Club: LaVerne Dass presented a check in the amount of $500 to the Friendship Haven Good Samaritan Fund from the Service Club. Denise Halverson accepted the check on behalf of the Foundation. She expressed her gratitude for this contribution and for the many volunteer hours and projects that help fund the Good Samaritan Fund. Staff Reports:

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Spiritual Care: Jennifer Owen expressed her appreciation to resident and staff volunteers for assistance for worship services. Wellness: Liz Flattery announced there will be groups going to St. Edmond (October 19th to kindergarten class, and October 20th to the 4th grade class). If you are interested in going, please let Liz know. Transportation will be provided. She thanked everyone who participated in the walk last week. Sales: Deb Gray stated there was an open house last week and there are a few great leads from that event. Deb thanked everyone for their thoughts and prayers following the unexpected death of her brothers-in-law. Resident Life: Rollie Peterson announced that Joann Hunter has retired. A week from today there will be a retirement reception for her and everyone is invited to attend. We are still looking for a replacement beautician. There will be an election tomorrow just outside the Celebration Center. Last month there was a successful happy hour outside the Blue Lemon Boutique. Friday, October 20th, we will have another happy hour. Campus Support Services: Mel Smith announced starting next Monday the chiller outside Henrietta’s Garden will be replaced. Concrete work will be done yet this fall. Finally Mel announced his resignation from Friendship Haven as of December 1st. Director of Engagement: Denise Halverson shared volunteer needs across campus. See Denise if you are interested in volunteering. The Walk to End Alzheimer’s was held in September. Thanks to Denise Wiederin and Allison Zuspann on their organizational skills for that great cause. Special thanks to LaVerne Dass who served as a family speaker at that event. The wall of gratitude for the Journeys capital campaign will be done soon, so if anyone is interested in donating prior to completion of the wall, please let Denise know. She further shared activities and events being held throughout the month and throughout the year. See the News ‘n Dos for more information. CEO Report: Julie Thorson announced Mindy Derrig has submitted her resignation effective as of the end of the year. Staff is working on the 2018 budget and will take a proposed budget to the Board in November. Julie expressed her appreciation to Mel Smith for the past 20 years. We will have an announcement soon for a reception for Mel. Regarding the lawn care in 2018 for the town homes, we will keep everyone posted as far as whether or not we will continue with Smitty’s. In response to a question about retaining staff in the Kenyon Place Hearth, Julie stated we are working diligently to bring on new staff members. We want to get a good team in place. Flu shots were scheduled following this meeting in the Celebration Center.

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November’s Special Activities 1st - Kenyon Place Dining Meeting The next Kenyon Place Dining Meeting will be held on Wednesday, November 1 at 9:00 a.m. All Kenyon Place residents are encouraged to attend. 2nd - All Saint’s Service An All Saint’s Service will be held on Thursday, November 2 at 3:15 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Everyone is welcome! 3rd - Dutch Treat Breakfast There will be a 7:30 a.m. bus to Iowa Central Community College for a Dutch Treat Breakfast on Friday, November 3. Please sign up if you would like to ride the bus and bring the exact change of $4.82. Everyone is welcome! 3rd - Senior University Senior University will be held on Friday, November 3 at 3:15 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Rod & Amanda Clum will share their music. Everyone is welcome! 4th - Gospel Music The Joel Cape Family will present Gospel Music on Saturday, November 4 at 2:00 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Everyone is welcome to attend. 4th - “You Can’t Beat The House” Fort Dodge Senior High presents “You Can’t Beat The House” on Saturday, November 4 in the Gail Niceswanger Theater. Two inept burglars enter a home with the intent to rob it only to find out the house is for sale. Chaos ensues… Tickets are $5.00 and can be purchased at the door. The bus leaves at 6:00 p.m. A new sound system has been installed and for those who have come to the show the last couple of years know the difficulty we have had hearing the actors. That should not be a problem this year. Everyone is welcome to attend. 5th – Daylight Savings It’s that time of year, to set your clocks back 1 hour before you go to bed on Saturday November 4th. 7th - General Election The General Election will be held on Tuesday, November 7 in the Tompkins Celebration Center. 8th - Healing Service A Healing Service will be held on Wednesday, November 8 at 1:30 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Everyone is welcome.

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9th - Volunteer Breakfast A Volunteer Breakfast will be held on Thursday, November 9 at 8:30 a.m. All volunteers are welcome to attend. 9th - Campus Veteran’s Program Please join us for the Campus Veteran’s Program on Thursday, November 9 at 3:15 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Everyone is invited to this special event! 10th – St. Edmond’s Kindergarden The St. Edmond Kindergarten class has invited us to join them for activities in their class room. Please sign- up with the Wellness Center if you are interested in going. The bus will leave at 12:45pm. 10th - “Happy Hour” All residents are welcome to “Happy Hour” on Friday, November 10 at 4:00 p.m. in the Blue Lemon Lounge. A variety of beverages will be provided at this special event. 11th - “Music Man” The Comedia Musica Players will present “Music Man” on Saturday, November 11 at Iowa Central Community College. Admission is $15.00. The bus will leave at 1:00 p.m. Everyone is welcome! 14th - Campus Pot Luck The next Campus Casserole, Salad and Dessert Pot Luck will be held on Tuesday, November 14 at 5:00 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. The Friendship Haven Bell Choir will be on the program. Everyone is welcome to attend! 15th - Brown Family Christmas There will be a bus on Wednesday, November 15, 2017 for “Christmas Around the World” in Le Mars, Iowa at the Browns Century Theater. Your travel ticket will include a noon dinner, seating for the show, a Step on Guide, a Visit to over 900 Nativities & Blue Bunny Ice Cream Tour. Total cost of the trip $165.00 per person due by November 1, 2017. PAYMENT RESRVES A SEAT ON THE BUS! 17th - Dutch Treat Lunch There will be a 10:30 a.m. bus to the Iowa Central Community College for lunch on Friday, November 17. Please bring the exact change of $6.42. Everyone is welcome! 20th - Tri Tea Nut Sale Tri Tea will have a Nut Sale on Monday, November 20, 2017, from 10:30 a.m. – 11:30 a.m. at the Kenyon Place Hearth Dining Room and 11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. at the River Ridge Dining Room. Items available are Fancy Nuts and Chocolates

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from Pella, Iowa. Proceeds go to the local girl’s camp. 21st - Fall Fling Sale A Fall Fling Sale sponsored by the Friendship Haven Service Club will be held on Tuesday, November 21, 2017 from 9:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Items to be donated may be dropped off at the Tompkins Celebration Center on Monday, November 20. Donated items may include baked goods, crafts, housewares, linens, clothes and miscellaneous. Thank you for your support! 22nd - Thanksgiving Vespers Thanksgiving Vespers will be held on Wednesday, November 22 at 3:15 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. Everyone is welcome. 23rd - Thanksgiving Coffee A Thanksgiving Day Coffee will be held on Thursday, November 23 at 2:00 p.m. in the Fireside Lounge. Everyone is welcome to attend. 27th - Campus Men’s Club Movie The Campus Men’s Club Movie will be held on Monday, November 27 at 1:30 p.m. in the Tompkins Celebration Center. “Charlton Heston Presents the Story of Moses” on video. “The Story of Moses” presents the greatest of all the epic dramas of the Hebrew Bible – the Book of Exodus. Everyone is welcome to attend! 28th - Fort Dodge Public Library Bus There will be a 1:00 p.m. bus to the Fort Dodge Public Library on Tuesday, November 28. You may check out books or browse in the Book Store. Please sign up if you would like to ride the bus. 29th - Nashville Christmas There will be a bus trip November 29 – December 4, 2017 for a “Nashville Christmas.” They will tour the Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows-Collinsville, Illinois; Tour Graceland, Airport Museum, NEW Complex Memphis, Tennessee; “Ice” Opryland Resort, Country Music Hall of Fame, Grand Ol’ Opry at Ryman Auditorium, Nashville, Tennessee “Cars of Yesteryear” Museum, Elizabethtown, Kentucky; Church Hill Downs, “Lights Under Louisville,” Louisville, Kentucky; Noah’s Ark Encounter, -Williamstown, Kentucky; “Beef & Boards Christmas Dinner Theater, Indianapolis, Indiana. Total Cost $1,349.00 per person double accommodations is now due. 29th - Advent Coloring Advent Coloring will be held on Wednesday, November 29 at 1:30 p.m. in the Blue Lemon Lounge. Everyone is welcome to attend.

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November’s Monthly Activities

November 1st 9:00 am – Kenyon Place Dining Meeting – Hearth Dining Room 3:00 pm – Catholic Mass – Simpson Health Center 2nd floor Stone Heights November 3rd 1:30 pm – Duplicate Bridge-Hearth Dining Room November 4th 2:00 pm – Gospel Music – Tompkins Celebration Center November 6th 9:00 am - Advisory Board-Kenyon Place Conference Room 11:30 am – Hilltop Luncheon 2:00 pm – Trinity United Methodist Church - Kenyon Place Conference 3:00 pm – Bible Study – Tompkins Celebration Center November 7th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass 1:00 pm – Adult Coloring – Fire Side 4:00 pm – Alzheimer’s Support Group – Kenyon Place Conference Room November 8th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center 1:30 pm – Berry Hearing Service-Kenyon Place Rose Legler Room 6:30 pm – Creative Writing – Kenyon Place Conference Room November 9th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center 11:15 pm – Friendship Circle Luncheon 3:15pm – Campus Veteran’s Program – Tompkins Celebration Center November 10th 1:30 pm – Campus Bingo –Tompkins Celebration Center 1:30 pm – Ping Pong - River Ridge Parking Garage November 11th 1:00 pm – Comedia Players “Music Man” – Iowa Central Community College November 13th 2:00 pm -Town Hall-Tompkins Celebration Center November 14th 1:30 pm – Bingo – Blue Lemon Lounge 1:30 pm – Lutheran Service – Ann Smeltzer Creativity Room

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4:30 pm – Bell Choir - Tompkins Celebration Center 5:00 pm – Campus Pot Luck Supper – Tompkins Celebration Center November 15th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center November 16th 9:00 am – Resident Life Enrichment Meeting – Tompkins Celebration Center 3:45 pm – Thanksgiving Dinner – Lehigh Senior Citizens November 17th 1:30 pm - Duplicate Bridge-Kenyon Place Hearth Dining Room 2:00 pm – November Birthday Party – Blue Lemon Lounge November 21st 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center 1:00 pm – Adult Coloring – Fire Side November 22nd 8:00 am – Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center 3:15 pm – Thanksgiving Vespers – Tompkins Celebration Center November 23rd 9:00 am – Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center November 24th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center 1:30 pm – Bingo – Tompkins Celebration Center November 28th 2:00 pm – Presbyterian Study-Rose Legler Room November 29th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center November 30th 8:00 am – NO Catholic Mass – Tompkins Celebration Center

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November’s Weekly Schedule Monday: 8:00 am: Catholic Mass-Tompkins Celebration Center 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center 1:00 pm: Shopping Bus Tuesday: 8:00 am: Catholic Mass-Tompkins Celebration Center 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center 10:00 am: Devotions-River Ridge 1:15pm: Bridge-Hearth Dining Room Wednesday: 8:00 am: Catholic Mass-Tompkins Celebration Center 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center 9:45am: Shopping Bus 9:30pm: Golden Kiwanis-Tompkins Celebration Center 2:00pm: Grace Lutheran Church- Ann Smeltzer Creativity Room 6:30pm: Humboldt UMC-Friendship Haven Channel Thursday: 8:00 am: Catholic Mass-Tompkins Celebration Center 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center 1:00pm: Bell Choir Practice- Tompkins Celebration Center

2:00pm: Chorus Practice- Tompkins Celebration Center 3:15pm: Vespers-Tompkins Celebration Center Friday: 8:00 am: Catholic Mass-Tompkins Celebration Center 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center 9:45am: Shopping Bus 10:15am: Trivia-Ann Smeltzer Creativity Room 3:00pm: Dominoes-Hearth Dining Room 6:15pm: Cards-Ann Smeltzer Creativity Room Saturday: 9:00am: Men’s Coffee-Fireside 9:00 am: Card Store-Welcome Center Sunday: 8:45am: Catholic Communion Distribution 9:30am: Worship-Tompkins Celebration Center 2:00pm: Ice Cream Social-River Ridge Dining Room 2:00pm: Worship-Friendship Haven Channel

For more information on Bell Choir & Chorus call Life Enrichment at 6852 or stop for a schedule. For Wellness Class Information call 6270 or stop and pick up a Weekly Schedule. Daily announcements are also on Friendship Haven Channel and the digital hallway boards. Please sign up for all activities in the reservation books located in River Ridge Apartments and Kenyon Place. Transportation leaves from the north entrance of Kenyon Place unless announced otherwise. All activities are subject

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to change. Doug’s Corner…

“UnLOCKINg the Power of Philanthropy Share Your Heart by Sharing Your Stories!

It is a great time of year to break from articles that involve the strategies, the tools, the techniques, or the benefits of charitable giving. I have a favor to ask each of you . . . more about that later. Frances brought a very business-like approach to her charitable giving. She turned highly taxable property into a very nice, low-taxed stream of income for herself and her family. And she helped hospital patients and children with disabilities at the same time. Helen wrote modest checks to her favorite charities almost every day of the week. She gave away half of her annual income in retirement. Reading and responding to appeals from “her charities” was her primary retirement activity. Her heart swelled as she talked about feeding children on a Native American reservation or about helping a young woman attend nursing school (as someone had done for Helen so many years earlier.) These are two of my favorite (very true) stories from my 30 years in this business I call “gift planning.” Now for the favor I ask of you . . . Will you write, and send to me, a few sentences about your motivations for charitable giving and perhaps a story of blessing that you have made possible or experienced? I would like to, in turn, share your story with all the readers of this column. If you wish for me to print your thoughts anonymously, I will happily do that. What a great December issue that could be. Please pass along your story one of several ways:

• Enclose in a sealed envelope and leave it with Denise Halverson, Torri Werner, or Sue Blanchet at Friendship Haven. Simply write “To Doug Lockin . . . My Story” on the outside.

• Email me your story at dlgiftplan@gmail.com • Call me at 515.210.6603. Tell me your story, and I’ll write it down. (This might

be the most fun way of all!) I promise that your story will encourage and uplift many others . . . please let us hear from you. Holiday Blessings,

Doug Lockin, 515.210.6603 or dlgiftplan@gmail.com

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“Great Decisions” The following individuals have made a great decision by making a move to Friendship Haven during the past month. Please join me in extending a warm welcome to them. Robert (Bob) Smith has made his new home in River Ridge. Bob was born in Chicago, Illinois and spent his childhood there. He attended college in Grinnell before enlisting to serve in WWII. Upon return from the service he began several years of working in the automobile industry with family members in Illinois and California. He eventually landed in Omaha, Nebraska, with his wife, Lois, where he worked as a sales representative for Texas Gulf Chemicals. In the late 1980’s Bob and Lois moved to Fort Dodge to be near family in their retirement. Bob has enjoyed playing golf, reading, doing crossword puzzles and other activities to keep his brain working. He is also a member of St. Mark’s Episcopal Church. He had three children and three grandchildren. Please welcome Bob to the Friendship Haven family! Welcome Norma Hoag to River Ridge! Norma came to Friendship Haven from Manson where she has lived in that area her entire life. She was born, raised and lived her married years on the farm until retirement when she and her husband, Milton, moved to Manson in about 1981 upon retirement. Norma has been very active in Augustana Lutheran Church in Manson. She has enjoyed sewing and playing cards (especially 500). She and Milton spent twenty years of winters in Arizona. She is the mother to four children which now includes six grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren. Please give Norma a great Friendship Haven “hello” as you see her!! Welcome Barbara (Barb) Theilen to River Ridge. Barb moved here from Clear Lake area. She has moved around quite a bit her life, graduating from high school from Dows, Iowa. She and her husband moved to California during his time in the Navy and returned to Iowa where their two children were born. They returned to California a few years later and then made the move back to Iowa in 1976. Barb made a move to Arkansas for about ten years returning to Iowa in 2010. She has had several occupations through her life primarily working in retail and in a school system. She loves to bowl and has been to state tournaments! Barb also reads, enjoys crosswords and will play most any type of card game. Barb feels fortunate to still have her four brothers and two sisters to remain in contact with. In addition to her siblings she has two daughters, five grandchildren and is expecting to become a great-grandmother in December. Give Barb a Friendship Haven hello when you see her!!

Denise Wiederin

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Paul and Evelyn Farnham have moved from their farm place at Gowrie to a Kenyon Place apartment. Evelyn was born at Kilduff, Iowa and graduated from Sully High School. She is an RN who graduated from nursing school at Iowa Methodist. In addition to being a farm wife, she spent years working at Lutheran Hospital and Friendship Haven; plus doing private duty nursing and nursing with Dr. Sutton in Fort Dodge. Paul was born at Kamrar and as a son of a Methodist minister his family moved several times during his youth prior to graduating high school at Cherokee. Paul served during WWII and has bachelor degrees from both Simpson and Iowa State. Paul has been engaged in farming. They have been married 67 years and have four children. The United Methodist Church in Gowrie is their home church. They have both enjoyed being private pilots and watching sporting events. Additionally, Evelyn likes reading and has been quite involved with church work. Kathy Briggs moved from the Nashville area and now resides in a Hilltop Road town home. She was born in Lavilla, Iowa and graduated from Larchwood High School prior to receiving a B.S. degree from Drake University. She and her late husband farmed near Rockwell City. Prior to this, she lived in Des Moines and was a training officer with the Woodward State Hospital School. She also held jobs as an administrative assistant with businesses. Kathy has two sons and has attended the Church of Christ. Music, quilting and dressmaking have been favorite pastimes. Also new to Hilltop Road are Doug and Pat Hill who moved from their Fort Dodge home. Pat was born in Fort Dodge, raised in rural Somers and graduated from Cedar Valley High School. She has degrees from St. Olaf and Drake. Her entire career was spent as an elementary teacher in the Prairie Community school district. Doug was born at Duncombe and graduated from Webster City High School. Doug attended Junior College at Webster City. In addition to farming, he has worked during winters completing tax preparations/returns. The Hill’s have been married for 50 years and have two children. They are members of Fulton Lutheran Church in Roelyn. Patty enjoys traveling, music and antiques. Doug has enjoyed hunting, fishing, golfing and watching sports.

Rollie Peterson Thanksgiving Reservations River Ridge is accepting reservations for Thanksgiving day at ext. 6787. Reservations will be accepted for yourself and/or your family until full or by Thursday, November 16th. If you live in River Ridge and know you will be absent on Thanksgiving Day for the noon meal, please let the River Ridge staff know so we can accommodate guests. Thank you!

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Good-Bye It is with excitement and also some reluctance that I tell you that after 20 years of working at Friendship Haven I have decided to resign my position as Vice President of Campus Support Services. With all the projects completed and with a mutual agreement with Julie I have decided that my last day here will be Dec. 1. I have supervised some great people over my years – my supervisors of Mary Jean, Annette, and Bill have been with me for a long time. A lot of the staff that I supervise have also been with me the entire time I have been here. I want to thank the executive team and Sue for all the work we did together – you are a great bunch. I have made a lot of friends over the years with the staff, but also with a lot of the residents – some I will remember very fondly. Some of my decisions I made over the years were not always agreed with but I always tried to do what I thought was best. I have had many proud moments here with all of the construction projects and when I drive by in the future it will remind me of those moments. Friendship Haven is nothing like it was when I first started and I hope to be remembered as the guy that built the buildings – not the one that tore them down. One of my favorite things I have done is the design of the monument sign on the corner of our property – I look at it every morning with pride as I come to work. The other thing was to get Father Jim to move here on campus - it has worked out great for Friendship Haven. It will not be easy to leave this place but hope I will always be welcome to return and say hi and walk down the hall proudly and know that I played a part in making Friendship Haven what it is today.

Mel Smith Stop and Shop Inventory Aspirin, Band Aids, Batteries, Books-adult coloring & puzzle, Candy-sugar free, Gum, Greeting Cards, Cereals, Lip balm, Chips-variety, Pretzels, Crochet baby hats, Stocking caps, Cough drops, Cotton balls, Q tips, Cookies, Combs, Deodorant, Dryer Sheets, Emory Boards, Nail clippers, Envelopes-variety, Flashlights, Feminine products, Gloves-knit, Glue sticks, Non-perishable groceries (soups, crackers ,etc.), Hand lotions, Infection ointment, Jewelry-variety( ear rings, necklaces) Kleenex, Mouth wash, Napkins, Night lights, Peanuts, Popcorn, Plastic bags, Pens-marking & colored pencils, Pictures, Rolaids, Seasonal-greeting candies, cards & decorations, Lotion, Scarves, Scotch tape, Shampoo, Soaps (laundry, dish, bar, liquid hand), Towels (paper and hand), Toilet paper, Toothpaste, and Umbrellas. .

November 2017

VOLUME 4, ISSUE 11

Please add the following to your Friendship Haven phonebook Alice Albrecht, Gardens 314, 571-2920 Jeannine Chambers, Gardens 114, 573-6743 Paul & Evelyn Farnham, Kenyon Place 103, 571-2606 Barb Theilen, River Ridge 4203, 515-269-3620 Please make the following changes to you Friendship Haven phonebook Julie Fevold, River Ridge 4200, 573-6560 Edith Geisler, Gardens 301, 573-6074 Rose Holm, Kenyon Place 312, 573-6886 Shirley Mitchell, River Ridge 4312, 641-423-3674 Robert Smith, River Ridge 4116, 573-6900 Transportation to Doctor’s For requesting a ride with transportation to a doctor’s appointment please call at least 24 hours ahead of time, you can call weeks ahead of time if you have your doctor’s appointment set, this will help insure you get on the van time you want. Please call 6858 and leave a message with your name, room number, phone number, doctor you are seeing, and time of your appointment. Guest Rooms and Breakfast Guest rooms continue to be available for your overnight guests. There are two options to choose from and both are located in River Ridge. The prices are $75 and $100 depending upon size options. Effective November 1, 2017, a continental breakfast in the River Ridge dining room will be included in the guest room fee. Please call 573-2121 or “O” to make reservations