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Habits of Effective Teens
Adapted from S. Covey’s bookand
http://www.education.com/magazine/article/Ed_7_Habits_Successful/
#choices
• Being a teenager is not always easy.• Good Habits are a CHOICE.• What choices are available?• What will YOU choose?• Are your choicesRealistic?
Habit 1: Be Proactive
• Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits.
• Take control and choose what your life is and will be about.
• Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness.
• They don't blame others for their own actions or feelings.
Proactive Language Sounds like…• Reactive:
Something should be done about it.Pro-active:I’m going to solve this issue.
• Reactive:I’ll try to do better.Pro-active:I’ll do better.
• Reactive:If only I had enough money, I would re-do my bathroom.Proactive:I want to re-do the bathroom, now how can I get the money for it?
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
• Figure out where you want to end up.• What do you value? What do you stand for?• What are your short term and long term
goals? • Do not let the opinions of others lead you
astray. • Know yourself.
Habit 2 Looks like…
• For most people this means visualizing. Sounds like…• For others it is auditory; what music do you
hear, what conversations are going on etc. Feels like…• what’s the temperature, what movements are
associated with it.
Habit 3: Put First things First
• Prioritize and manage your time.• Focus on and complete the most important
things in your lives. • Also means learning to overcome fears and
being strong during difficult times. • Living life according to what matters most.
PrioritizingQ1: the stress quadrant: Important and urgent.• This is where you find the crises, projects
close to their deadlines, urgent problems and so on.
• The strategy: Do Now!• It needs to be done, and it needs to be
done fast!
Q2: the value quadrant: Important, not urgent.• This is where you find education, working
on your vision, investing in people and so on.
• The strategy: Schedule time.• It needs to be done, plan time to do it
before it gets urgent.
Q3: the deception quadrant: Urgent, not important.• This is where you find most interruptions,
some meetings, other peoples chores.• The strategy: Delegate.• It needs to be done fast, but are you the
one that needs to do it?
Q4: the regret quadrant: Not important or urgent• This is where you find pass-times, some
phone calls (you know them), the “too much” activities (too much television, too much internet).
• The strategy: Eliminate• And why were you doing this again?
Habit 4: Think Win Win
• In any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution.
• Celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them.
Habit 5: Seek 1st to Understand; Then to be Understood
• Because most people don't listen very well, you may often feel understood.
• Learn the most important communication skill there is: active listening.
• P.S….this one is hard.
“Are you listening or just waiting to talk?”
Active Listening• IS a FULL body activity. gestures, frowns, smiles etc.
Good Active Listening:• mimics content
just repeat what was just said
• rephrases contentrepeat, but in your own words
• reflects feelingexpress what you think the other feels
• rephrases content and reflects feelingcombine the latter two
Habit 6: Synergize• Synergy is achieved when two or more people
work together to create something better than either could alone.
• It doesn't have to be "your way" or "my way" but rather a better way, a higher way.
• Value differences, better appreciate others.