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In This Issue:

ANDRÉA ALBRIGHT5 Tips to Drop Body Fat in 5 Minutes a Day - For the next 23 minutes, tune everything else out and tune in to how easy it can be to make incredible changes that your body will thank you for!

Use the Power of the Present Moment

for Real Inner ChangeGuy Finley

Why We Sabotage Our Happiness

Bob Burg

Change Your Beliefs and Change Your Reality

Christy Whitman

CONTENTS

FROM EDITOR Welcome from Ric Thompson

COVER STORY:

5 Tips to Drop Body Fat in 5 Minutes a Day

FEATURES:

Use the Power of the Present Moment for Real Inner Change

Why We Sabotage Our Happiness

HEALTH & WELLNESS

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Change Your Beliefs and Change Your Reality 05

The Dark Side of Calcium: Nine Ways It Makes Us

Sick (Or Even Kills Us)

Unity Consciousness Principles

21Why Healers Shouldn’t Charge (or Something a Little More Realistic)

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In Search of the Dream

24Dancing with Destiny

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Basil as a Medicinal 07

11LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

Woman Overboard! Nine Ways to Find Your Way Back to Shore

after Losing Yourself in Love

16CAREER & BUSINESS

Zen & The Art of the College Essay

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SPIRITUALITY & MIND SCIENCE

PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT

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EDITOR Ric Thompson

COVER STORY INTERVIEW

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Gabrielle Glancy

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Paulo Coelho

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Bob Burg

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Barbara J. Semple

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Danielle Rama

from EDITOR

Well, in this format anyway :-)

We've been publishing online issues since May of 2003 but this format is only 13 issues old. Hope you're enjoying reading the issues as much as we are putting them out.

And as we dive into this month's issue, we're left with the age old question - is 13 lucky or unlucky?

Everyone has their opinion, one thing's for sure..

And my opinion is that it IS lucky, after all, you've got some fun, empowering information in your hands right now so 13 can’t be all bad.

Definitely start with our great cover story. No matter if you're a girl or guy, that is one fun interview with some really great helpful advice. And just listening to Andrea and her upbeat style will help get you going.

And of course, we're just getting started. Incredible

content from great contributors like Christy Whit-man, and Guy Finley will help you put those great changes you’ve been wanting to make into effect.

And if you’re having trouble still, check out what Bob Burg has to say, perhaps you’re sabotaging your own success and don’t even know it!

Finally, if things aren’t going as you expect – read John David Mann’s article on Dancing with Destiny, that final line is powerful to remember.

Oh, and as a quick personal note – I had the team throw in an article about college – my oldest son is a rising senior in high school so college is definitely on our mind this summer.

Enjoy, prosper and we’ll see you next issue

Ric ThompsonCo-FounderHealthy Wealthy nWise

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Christy Whitman

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Thomas E. Levy, MD, JD

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Je� Donovan

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Guy Finley

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR Avalon Brandt

EDITORIAL CONTRIBUTOR John David Mann

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Welcome to the lucky 13th issue of Healthy Wealthy nWise!

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Use the Power of the Present Moment for Real Inner Change

By Guy Finley

Face those fearful feelings.

There is really no such thing as a shaky situation, so any time you start to tremble, don't look around you for the fault: look inward. It's the inner ground you're standing on that isn't solid. Any weakness faced by looking in this new direction becomes the foundation of a new strength. Face those fearful feelings. Fearlessness follows.

Release all resentments.

It's important for you to see that holding on to some hurt, or hatred, over what others may have done to you in the past, makes you their slave in the here and now. Is that what you want? Learn to ask for something new by refusing to relive what's been tearing at you. This higher request releases you from raging resentments.

Keep your chin up.

Even if all of your thoughts are going that way, tell your chin not to fall down. As it obeys, it gives a message to your head, "Hold yourself up high!" And so your head helps your eyes to keep looking forward, where they can see, at last, that your thoughts are often blind. Keep your chin up. Consciousness likes heights. Dare to follow!

Here's extra encouragement. There is no such thing as a wasted step when your final destination is self-transformation. As you awaken to this Higher Life within yourself, you naturally attract higher, and happier events.

There are countless opportunities presented each day for you to be free now. Your awareness of the power of now can transform each challenging life moment into a new and true beginning for you. Learning how to use these moments leads to real inner change.

Make it your moment-to-moment practice to stay awake, and to watch for all the opportunities that your own now presents. Keep your efforts personal, practical, and to the point.

To help you begin this important process of using the power of the present moment for personal transformation, work with the following five special insights as a reminder that now is always the time to:

Take responsibility for your life experience.

The way you feel toward what you meet in life is a direct expression of who you are. And who you are is exactly the same as what you secretly value. Seeing that you feel the way you do because you treasure what you do is what it means to take responsibility for your life.

Remember you're not the only one in the world.

It may feel like it, but you're not the only one who suffers! That's why you must not be afraid to take a good look at -- and really consider -- another human being. This will help you be less wrongly concerned with the way you feel about yourself -- which will come as welcome relief. Remember, you're not the only one in the world.

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Guy Finley is the best-selling author of more than 40 books and audio albums on self-realization. He is the founder and director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for self-study located in southern Oregon where he gives talks four times each week. Guy is a faculty member at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York and is a regular expert contributor to Beliefnet and the Huffington Post. For more information and to download Guy's Free 60-minute MP3 "Five Simple Steps to Make Yourself Fearless," visit http://www.guyfinley.org/kit

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Bob Burg is a highly sought-after speaker

\who teaches the principles at the core of

The Go-Giver to audiences worldwide. A

former top sales professional, he is also the

author of Endless Referrals. Bob Burg is the

author of Adversaries Into Allies: Win People

Over Without Manipulation or Coercion.

"The Five Principles of Ultimate Influence" from the book Adversaries

Into Allies

To know more of Bob Burg please visit www.burg.com.


Why We Sabotage Our HappinessBy Bob Burg

this in Adversaries into Allies where we discuss Belief Systems.

That unconscious operating system that drives our thoughts and decisions tells us what we believe the truth about life is, and — along with that — what we believe we deserve. And, unless we are living in accordance with those beliefs, we won’t be comfortable and will not experience that sense of mental well-being.

The paradox is that, if you don’t truly believe you should be happy, then you “cannot be happy being happy.” You might only be happy (the sense of mental well-being) when you’re miserable.

This is sad. It’s so very sad. It is the cause of people going from one bad relationship to another, it’s the cause of people keeping themselves struggling financially, and it’s the cause of many more counter-productive acts.*

So, before anything else, we must truly believe that happiness is one of life’s truths, and we must truly believe we deserve to be happy. Only then, can we be happy being happy.

We looked at happiness based on the premise that — whether consciously or not — it is a person’s main motivation. However, it can only be attained by acting in accordance with one’s values.

We then defined happiness as being the mental feeling of well-being. We also saw that happiness is different for different people, as what brings happiness to one does not necessarily hold that same (or any) value for another.

The final question then, was:

3. If one’s main motivation is happiness, then why do so many otherwise-intelligent people seem to make decisions that are obviously contrary to their happiness?

This one’s the biggie. If human beings were logic-based creatures, it would not even be an issue. We’d base everything we do on what would bring us happiness; that mental feeling of well-being. But we know many people who don’t. And, maybe we don’t; at least not always.

Again, why?

I believe that while the definition of happiness we’ve been using is correct, it’s also not quite complete. As human beings, everything we do ultimately coincides with our beliefs; our subjective “truths” about life. I devoted an entire chapter to

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Change Your Beliefs and Change Your Realityby Christy Whitman

remain unexamined by our wiser adult minds, decades-old conclusions will continue to inform our present-moment perceptions – and the 5-year-old who interpreted Dad’s lack of attentive-ness to mean that she was unworthy of attention will continue to run the show of our lives from behind the scenes. There is a bit of similarity between the disempowering beliefs we hold about ourselves and the moss that grows on the underside of a rock. They gain strength in the darkness, in the privacy of our own unexpressed thoughts. But the moment we expose those outdated thoughts to the sun and examine them in the light of day, they lose the grip they once had on our emotions and therefore our actions – freeing us to take more evolved and more inspired actions.

Any time we are living some aspect of our lives in a way that is unfulfilling; when there is someplace where we desire a different result than the one that is currently showing up, we can be sure that the unwanted circumstance is an outer reflec-tion of an inner belief we are holding about ourselves. How do I know this? Because there is no end to the amount of love, of prosperity, of joy, happiness, laughter or abundance in the universe in which we live. The only factor that determines how much or how little of these things we experience is how much we allow ourselves to receive. Negative beliefs are like a dam in the river. To increase the flow we don’t need to add more water; we need only to remove the log. This is where a coach can be of tremendous value in helping us achieve our goals.

Talking with a coach is radically different than talking with a friend. Friends are familiar; they’ve heard all our stories and, for the most part at least, they accept our beliefs. Friends commiserate, whereas a coach challenges our thinking and questions our previously unchecked

The difference between getting what we want and spending years complaining about the fact that we don’t yet have it often boils down to one fundamental question: Will we get into action toward the outcome we desire, or will we be held back by our limiting beliefs about why we can’t achieve it or don’t deserve it?

As a Law of Attraction coach who has worked for over a decade helping people realize goals in all aspects of their lives, I have come to understand the primary mechanism that deter-mines whether we take the path of action or the path of resignation. That mechanism is our beliefs. When we believe that our actions will lead to success; we take them – usually without hesitation and with great excitement. But if we have even a sneaking suspicion that our actions will lead to failure, we are likely to remain stuck.

Our core beliefs – about ourselves, about other people, and about the world itself – may be invisible to the eye, but they color our perception of every-thing we see. For example, if we have a core belief that we are inadequate or that resources around us are scarce, this belief will filter the infinite number of experiences that could unfold at virtually every moment and bring to our awareness only those that confirm what we already believe to be true. Instead of seeing evidence of abundance around us – abundance of love, of laughter, of creativity, of energy – our beliefs will magnetize to us evidence of lack. The scariest thing about our core beliefs is that most of the time they operate on auto-pilot, without our conscious awareness.

Limiting beliefs about ourselves – such as “I am unlovable,” “I am unworthy,” or “No one under-stands me” can almost always be traced to things we experienced early in our lives that we lacked the maturity to understand. If we permit these beliefs to

evidence to the contrary. My “Life is hard” belief I challenged by deliberately recalling the sensation of falling in love, of things working out just right, of having a great day or effortlessly coming across something I had been looking for. Almost instantly I felt a sense of lightness and relief.

4. Once you are anchored in a higher feeling place, re-examine the old belief from this new perspective, and allow yourself to edit it in whatever way you choose. Going back to the previous example, I rewrote “Life is hard” to “Life is a gift.” From there, ask yourself what one action you could take that would be a living demonstration and proof of your now more evolved belief. This will become your new point of attraction.

Christy Whitman is a New York Times Best-

selling Author of Taming Your Alpha Bitch:

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Christy's life-changing message reaches over 100,000 people a month

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wood Life, and Knot Magazine. As a certified Law of Attraction coach, her

work has been promoted by and featured with best-selling authors like

Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marci Shimoff, Brian Tracy, Neal

Donald Walsch, Abraham-Hicks and Louise Hay. She currently lives in

Montreal with her husband, Frederic, and their two boys, Alexander and

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assumptions. A coach holds us accountable to the outer experiences we are committed to creating by helping us dismantle the internal beliefs that are blocking us from experiencing it.

While I am a huge believer in the value of coaching (I’ve been coached by a number of extraordinary individuals and have not been without one for the last fifteen years), it’s also true that with a little practice and self-awareness, we can learn to coach ourselves. Here is a simple process to identify and shift a limiting belief:

1. The next time you are feeling any type of nega-tive emotion (frustration, sadness, resignation, etc.) in relation to something you want to create, close your eyes and tune into your internal dialog, as this will lead you to the underlying belief that directly opposes the goal you are trying to achieve. When you hear the underlying belief, write it down.

2. Read this statement to yourself out loud, and feel the energy of it as you do. What emotions are triggered as you think this thought? For example, I recently caught myself in the midst of a belief that “Life is hard.” As I repeated these words to myself, I could feel the heaviness of it, felt like my creativity was being smothered in a blanket of apathy.

3. Now, having identified the thoughts and feelings associated with this disempowering belief, consciously search your mind and heart for a thought that feels better – even slightly better. Often, the fastest way to do this is to simply recall a time in your life when you had

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Basil as a MedicinalBy Barbara J. Semple

grown food is superb for health. Herbs from your own garden give excellent healing support. I recently explored some of the healing properties of fragrant Basil.

Here is a partial summary of the “how to” and medicinal basics of Basil from Making Plant Medicine by Richo Cech.

Making Plant Medicine by Richo Cech is an excel-lent resource for more about Basil and other popular plants as medicine.

Consider a new relationship with Basil. Adding \your prayers of gratitude each day of the two week infusion process will surely raise the “spirits” of your tincture.

Parts used: The leaf and flowering tops without the woody stems, harvested in the early flowering stage and used fresh or dried.

Tincture of fresh leaf and flower: 1:2 (one part plant to two parts liquid) 75A-25W (liquid of 75% alcohol and 25% water)

Tincture of dried leaf and flower: 1:5, 50A-50W

Traditional uses: Basil is one of the most commonly prescribed herbs in Ayurvedic medi-cine, serves to sharpen mind and is considered a stomachic and expectorant with helpful relief of indigestion, diarrhea, coughs, bronchitis, and skin diseases. Preparations of tincture, tea or decoction are considered a prophylactic against epidemics like cholera, influenza and malaria.

The time for harvesting Basil is now. Anyone who loves Basil knows about enjoying it with sliced fresh tomatoes, mozzarella cheese pieces and olive oil. What about making a tincture with Basil?

An herbal tincture is easy to make and is usually made with 100% alcohol or a combination of alcohol and water or apple cider vinegar and water, depending on the permeability of the plant material (leaves, flowers, seeds, and such). Inexpensive Potters brand vodka works fine as the alcohol, and pure water, not distilled, is recommended. The right liquid encourages the optimal infusion.

I have the highest respect for plant medicine. Within a period of days a plant completely gives over the fruition of its essence to the liquid for the good of humans. Witness the sacred transfu-sion of the green or colors of the plant's life seeping into the fluid. Giving a sentient being an opportunity to serve adds exponentially to our collective loving consciousness. Similar to asking for help from another, when you decide to make a tincture, the plant knows it is being chosen to offer help. Both parties benefit. Plants are wise beings. Discover more on the feeling nature of plants in The Secret Life of Plants by Peter Tompkins and Christopher Bird.

Practically speaking, tinctures offer a long shelf life for your herbs. We know that eating locally

Well, in this format anyway :-)

We've been publishing online issues since May of 2003 but this format is only 13 issues old. Hope you're enjoying reading the issues as much as we are putting them out.

And as we dive into this month's issue, we're left with the age old question - is 13 lucky or unlucky?

Everyone has their opinion, one thing's for sure..

And my opinion is that it IS lucky, after all, you've got some fun, empowering information in your hands right now so 13 can’t be all bad.

Definitely start with our great cover story. No matter if you're a girl or guy, that is one fun interview with some really great helpful advice. And just listening to Andrea and her upbeat style will help get you going.

And of course, we're just getting started. Incredible

Barbara J. Semple is a mind-body-spirit

health pioneer, modern mystic, integrative

healing arts practitioner of Jin Shin Jyutsu®,

best selling and award winning author, and

creator of Healing Touch Quick Steps – Pow-

erful Things You Can Do Instantly to Bring

Your Body into Harmony®. In 1986 Barbara

broke new ground by combining color light, sacred geometry and

soul messages to address whole brain-whole body emotional healing,

which Dr. Richard Shames said was the greatest invention since

the Luscher Colour Test, and which New Age Retailer called

"the most useful recovery tool ever seen." Barbara is a contributing

author in Dr. Bernie Siegel's recent book "A Book of Miracles."

Her website www.InstantHealingZone.com


Being in a loving relationship with plants is a glorious thing. Enjoy yours with Basil!

Many blessings, Barbara J. Semple

www.InstantHealingZone.com


The Dark Side of Calcium: Nine Ways It Makes Us Sick (Or Even Kills Us)

By Thomas E. Levy, MD, JD

that if you take an extra 500 mg of calcium per day, you’re 30 percent more likely to have a heart attack. Dump more calcium into the cauldron and the brew becomes even deadlier.

Excess calcium can lead to a stroke. Similar to the relationship between calcium and heart attacks, an extra 500 mg of calcium each day makes you 12 to 20 percent more likely to have a stroke.

It can also raise your cholesterol levels. A recent clinical trial showed that regular calcium supple-mentation in postmenopausal women significantly increased total cholesterol levels (which is general-ly considered to be an important measure of coronary artery disease risk).

Calcium and cancer are frequent bedfellows. Both microscopic and easily visible calcifications are frequently seen in malignant tissues, suggesting that there is a significant causal link between calcium and cancer (a link that has been supported by numerous studies—for instance, in one study MRI techniques detected calcification in 22 of 23 malignant prostate glands).

Calcium isn’t the nutritional “good guy” we’re often led to believe it is. In fact, it’s often the cause of disease and even death. Here, Dr. Thomas E. Levy points out nine toxic effects of an excess of calcium:

As a treatment for osteoporosis, calcium does more harm than good. It’s common “knowledge” that most older adults are calcium deficient and that this deficiency contributes to osteoporosis. But in reality, that’s not the case. While there is a deficiency of calcium in the bones of osteoporosis patients, the disease is by definition a degenerative condition of the bone in which the bone is unable to synthesize a new structural bone matrix and integrate calcium into it. Most calcium that is pumped into the body takes up residence in non-bone tissue, where (as you’ll see) it does the patient much more harm than good.

Calcium promotes heart disease… It’s not a coincidence that measurement of calcification (yes, as in calcium!) in the arteries is used to assess the development and progress of coronary disease. (In fact, fully developed plaques in the arterial walls contain 80 times more calcium than healthy tissues.) And here’s one of the most alarming sta-tistics of all: A study of over 61,000 participants over 19 years found that taking over 1,400 mg of calcium per day had a 40 percent increase in risk of death from cardiovascular disease in general and a 114 percent increase in risk of death from a reduced flow of blood to the heart muscle.

…and that includes heart attacks. A compre-hensive review of over 15 clinical studies shows

There are even several “smoking guns.” For example, several researchers have demonstrated that as the concentration of intracellular calcium increases, the invasive nature of cancer also increases, resulting in a metastatic spread. Not coincidentally, breast cancer patients with calcifications are less likely to survive their battle with the disease.

While the relationship between calcium and cancer has been evident for decades, medical researchers have been reluctant to connect the dots and implicate this near-sacred nutrient.

Calcium contributes to cellular dysfunction and death. The amount of calcium outside cells, depending on the type of cell, can be 1,000 to 10,000 times higher than levels inside the cell. This difference in concentrations means that there is always calcium on the outside that wants to get inside. Once inside (which can happen through various mechanisms, including the presence of various toxins such as formaldehyde or elevated glucose levels), if calcium levels become too high, a cascade of reactions pushes cells toward programmed cell death (apoptosis) or complete cell destruction(s) (necrosis).

Specifically, intracellular calcium contributes to chronic degenerative diseases. Chronically

elevated calcium levels in the cells appears to be a common denominator for many forms of cell damage and death. Sustained elevations of intracellular calcium plays a significant role in degenerative neurological diseases such as Lou Gehrig’s disease, Parkinson’s disease, and Alzheimer’s disease.

Calcium increases death from all diseases. It’s worth underscoring again that (as previously explained) significant calcium levels in the body increases all-cause mortality. Alarmingly, in the large study of 61,000 women referenced earlier, those with the highest calcium consumption posted a death rate two and one-half times (257 percent) higher than the groups who ingested less.


Thomas E. Levy, MD, JD, is the author of

Death by Calcium: Proof of the Toxic Effects

of Dairy and Calcium Supplements. He is a

board-certified cardiologist and is also the

author of Primal Panacea and Curing the

Incurable: Vitamin C, Infectious Diseases,

and Toxins; plus three other groundbreaking

medical books. He is one of the world’s leading vitamin C experts

and frequently lectures to medical professionals all over the globe

about the proper role of vitamin C and antioxidants in the treatment

of a host of medical conditions and diseases.

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At first, it seemed like a fairy tale. Romantic dates, long phone conversations, a beautiful ring, a gorgeous wedding, and a home you loved. He completely changed your life: new friends, new activities, new restaurants, even a new zip code. You did almost everything he suggested because it made you happy to make him happy. But now, despite your best efforts, your relationship is in trouble. You have no idea how you got so far off track and no clue how to figure out what’s best for you. You aren’t even sure who you are anymore.

If this scenario sounds painfully familiar, you aren’t alone. I know what it’s like to lose yourself in love…but the good news is, I have also learned how to find my way back.

Falling in love with someone is one of the best feelings in the world, but while the idea of oneness is romantic, it can also be dangerous. When you’re in the midst of a relationship, it’s all too easy to lose sight of your own goals, interests, priorities, friends, and more.

And once those things have been lost, finding your way back to a self-actualized, fulfilling life can feel very daunting.

Woman Overboard!Nine Ways to Find Your Way Back to Shore after Losing

Yourself in Love

In my new book, Still I Love: Loving after Three Divorces, I tell the story of my three marriages and divorces, which I navigated on the long road to earning my degree as an attorney. My reflections on how I have succeeded in maintaining my positivity, resilience, faith, and belief in love will speak to anyone who has dealt with a partner’s infidelity, emotional unavailability, incom-patibility, or addiction.

Especially in my first marriage, I compromised myself by allowing my husband to dictate what I did and how I felt—though I didn’t realize that was happening at the time. For example, I am extremely extroverted and enjoy socializing. Adam was the opposite. So I gave up my socializing, to a point, and spent most of my time with Adam. I

By Avalon Brandt

It’s all too easy to lose sight of yourself as an individual when you’re in the midst of a relationship and difficult to move forward once that relationship is over.

Here, I share my experiences with reclaiming my life after divorce and give readers strategies to do the same.

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Kate McKay is a transformational speaker, coach, fitness guru, entrepreneur, and mother whose passion is to spread her message of living a life of abundance. Kate recently competed in a National Fitness Bikini Competition and placed in the top three, at the age of 50. She is the author of the upcoming book, Living Sexy Fit!.

poured myself into Adam and gave no thought to my own interests. There was only one thing that I wanted: I wanted to be in love and get married. So when our marriage ended, I had a lot of catching up to do with myself.

Here, I share nine experience-tested tips to help find your way back to a fulfilling life after getting lost in love:

If you’re still in the relationship, talk to your partner. If you believe that your own needs and preferences consistently take a backseat to your partner’s, your first step should be to share your concerns with him (or her). Remember, nothing will change if you don’t voice your feelings, which your partner might not be aware of. His response will tell you a lot about the current health (and perhaps the future) of your relationship.

Having this conversation can be easier said than done. You may be worried that stating your position will offend your partner or drive him away. But that’s a risk you have to take for the sake of your own mental and emotional well-being. The best case scenario is, of course, that your partner makes a conscious effort to meet you halfway and invest more in your interests and priorities. If that’s not what happens, though, you may need to reconsider the relationship.

In my first marriage, I often found myself home alone while my husband Adam went out. I would tell him that his actions were wrong and inconsiderate to me—and he’d respond with soothing words. But his hurtful behaviors continued to happen. At the time I wanted to believe that Adam meant his apologies—but in hindsight, I realize that his choices were the writing on the wall. They very clearly conveyed that I was not his priority.

Avoid romanticizing your partner. If you’re in a relationship, the idea of ending it can be incredi-bly painful. So consciously or unconsciously, you may find yourself fixating on your partner’s positive

qualities and downplaying his hurtful or unhealthy behaviors. Even after the relationship has ended, you might look back with nostalgia.

To be clear, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with enjoying and admiring all of the good things about past or present partners. But it’s important to be honest about that person’s flaws, too. Other-wise, you run the risk of believing that your partner is “perfect” and blaming all of the relationship’s problems on yourself, which can be fatal to your self-esteem. Romanticizing your partner can also keep you in an unhealthy, manipulative, or con-trolling relationship long past the point of wisdom.

My best advice is to listen to your intuition. Even if it’s uncomfortable to admit, you know when you’re lying to yourself and mentally covering for your partner. Hold him to the same standards of behavior and accountability that you set for yourself.

Pay attention to how you’re feeling. In our hectic, mile-a-minute, on-the-go world, many of us are so busy and preoccupied that we don’t take the time to really check in with ourselves and how we’re feeling. Too often, it takes a major event (a health scare, an anxiety attack, or—yes!—the dis-solution of a relationship) to wake us up to the fact that our lives are unhealthy and off track.

That’s why it’s so important to keep your finger on the pulse of your emotions and intuition. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, get into the habit of asking yourself, How does this mesh with my values? Am I honoring myself and my goals? Am I being authentic, or am I calibrating my words and actions to please someone else? When you’re more in tune with yourself, you’ll be in a position to make small adjustments when you first notice that you’re feeling “off,” making it much less likely that you’ll wake up one day wondering, How did I get to this place, and what happened to my life?

Make the hard decisions. Ignoring a bad situa-tion or a less-than-ideal reality won’t make it go

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away. If you’ve lost yourself in love, sooner or later you’ll have to make hard decisions like: Do I move out? Is this relationship officially over? Should I cut off contact? If hanging on isn’t healthy, be honest with yourself. Remember, your long-term well-be-ing may require (and is worth!) short-term pain.

My marriage to Adam taught me the lesson that wishful thinking won’t make a bad situation better. That’s why, during my second marriage, I made the decision to look for a separate apartment without my husband’s knowledge. He wasn’t willing to take responsibility for his regular nights out, drinking, gambling, and aggressive behavior, so I knew that it was up to me to decide what my future would look like. After a lot of thought and inner struggle, I admitted that while I wasn’t yet ready to end the marriage, putting physical distance between my husband and me was the only way I would feel safety and peace.

Stay close to (or reconnect with) your family and friends. When you lose yourself in love, it’s common to drift away from family and friends. Maybe you’ve been focused primarily on your partner and haven’t invested much in other people, or perhaps you’ve purposefully put distance between yourself and loved ones who questioned the wisdom of your relationship. Whatever the reason, it’s time to reconnect and repair any damage that’s been done.

The people who love you and who have known you for years will keep you grounded and remind you of who you are, if you allow them to do so. Throughout my marriages, my friends and family stood by me and supported me when I wanted to give up. They also served as a great sounding board. Looking back, I wish I had listened more closely and taken more of the advice that they offered instead of allowing my desire to be in love and in a marriage dictate my decisions!

Take yourself out to dinner. …And start doing other activities solo, too! Go grocery shopping, see a movie, take a walk in the park, or go to a worship

service with only yourself. Essentially, challenge yourself to go about your routine as an individual, not as one-half of a couple. If you want to reclaim your life after losing yourself in love, you must learn to be confident and comfortable on your own.

After my second marriage ended, I made a special effort to discover life beyond being a wife. For me, a big part of that was exploring and enjoying the spectacular dining scene in Washington, D.C. At first, it was strange learning how to enjoy a meal alone. I got curious looks from maître d’s, waiters, and other diners. But over time, I began to dwell less on what other people were thinking, and to savor each satisfying bite of my meals. Sounds simple, I know, but learning to enjoy a meal alone became a crucial survival tool that enabled me to reconnect with myself after a disappointing marriage.

Get back into an old hobby. Before immersing yourself in your relationship, what did you do for fun? Where did you find fulfillment? Return to those activities. When you focus on something that you, and only you, enjoy—not something you shared with your partner—you’ll jump-start the healing and growing process.

Pull out your flute or your art supplies. Join a com-munity softball team or hiking group. Sign up for a book club or cooking classes. Go back to school. Developing yourself is empowering and motivating, especially after you’ve been in the habit of doing what your partner preferred. One of the best deci-sions I ever made was applying to law school after my second divorce. Not only was I finally pursuing a goal I’d had for years, I was keeping myself moving forward and focused on the future.

Help someone else. It’s important to concentrate on your own needs and desires after losing yourself in love—but I also warn against becoming too self-focused and isolated. Serving others is one of the best ways to combat feelings of loneli-ness while making connections with others and regaining personal purpose.

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away. If you’ve lost yourself in love, sooner or later you’ll have to make hard decisions like: Do I move out? Is this relationship officially over? Should I cut off contact? If hanging on isn’t healthy, be honest with yourself. Remember, your long-term well-be-ing may require (and is worth!) short-term pain.

My marriage to Adam taught me the lesson that wishful thinking won’t make a bad situation better. That’s why, during my second marriage, I made the decision to look for a separate apartment without my husband’s knowledge. He wasn’t willing to take responsibility for his regular nights out, drinking, gambling, and aggressive behavior, so I knew that it was up to me to decide what my future would look like. After a lot of thought and inner struggle, I admitted that while I wasn’t yet ready to end the marriage, putting physical distance between my husband and me was the only way I would feel safety and peace.

Stay close to (or reconnect with) your family and friends. When you lose yourself in love, it’s common to drift away from family and friends. Maybe you’ve been focused primarily on your partner and haven’t invested much in other people, or perhaps you’ve purposefully put distance between yourself and loved ones who questioned the wisdom of your relationship. Whatever the reason, it’s time to reconnect and repair any damage that’s been done.

The people who love you and who have known you for years will keep you grounded and remind you of who you are, if you allow them to do so. Throughout my marriages, my friends and family stood by me and supported me when I wanted to give up. They also served as a great sounding board. Looking back, I wish I had listened more closely and taken more of the advice that they offered instead of allowing my desire to be in love and in a marriage dictate my decisions!

Take yourself out to dinner. …And start doing other activities solo, too! Go grocery shopping, see a movie, take a walk in the park, or go to a worship






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In my thirties, I started and ran a ministry to help young adults become spiritually mature and personally grounded. My goal was to provide them with the tools to handle new freedoms and to navigate common pitfalls and temptations that might get them off track. I remembered the difficul-ties I’d faced, and I wanted to help others avoid some of my mistakes. I believe that I did make a difference in some of their lives, and that is one of the legacies of which I’m most proud.

I have come to firmly believe that my success is not measured by whether my relationships are suc-cessful, by how much money I make, by what my job title is, or by the house I live in. It’s measured by the positive impact that I have on others’ lives.

Show yourself some TLC (emphasis on the L!). You may have had a relationship that ended badly, but you don’t (and you shouldn’t!) have to live without love. For the sake of your present and your future, you need to learn to love yourself. Create and savor your own rhythm in life, no matter what others may say. Only when you have discovered and embraced who you are can you love others freely and unconditionally.

Even after my divorces, love is still the center of my existence. Yes, I still hope to find a lifelong

romantic partner, but that desire no longer dictates my happiness and drives my actions. Instead, my number one goal and priority is to value, honor, and love myself. I affirm this intention by looking into the mirror each morning and saying with a smile, “I love you.” Then, I show myself love through actions big and small, starting by luxuriating in a long, hot shower!

I fell quickly and deeply in love with the men I mar-ried, and, especially in my first two marriages, tem-porarily lost parts of myself as I invested in and clung to those relationships. But here’s the silver lining: Those experiences forced me to stand on my own two feet, to seek out survival tools, and to focus on and invest in myself. I have serenity because I know my heartaches have equipped me with everything I need to live a life of fulfillment.

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The time for harvesting Basil is now. Anyone who loves Basil knows about enjoying it with sliced fresh tomatoes, mozzarella cheese pieces and olive oil. What about making a tincture with Basil?

An herbal tincture is easy to make and is usually made with 100% alcohol or a combination of alcohol and water or apple cider vinegar and water, depending on the permeability of the plant material (leaves, flowers, seeds, and such). Inexpensive Potters brand vodka works fine as the alcohol, and pure water, not distilled, is recommended. The right liquid encourages the optimal infusion.

I have the highest respect for plant medicine. Within a period of days a plant completely gives over the fruition of its essence to the liquid for the good of humans. Witness the sacred transfu-sion of the green or colors of the plant's life seeping into the fluid. Giving a sentient being an opportunity to serve adds exponentially to our collective loving consciousness. Similar to asking for help from another, when you decide to make a tincture, the plant knows it is being chosen to offer help. Both parties benefit. Plants are wise beings. Discover more on the feeling nature of plants in The Secret Life of Plants by Peter Tompkins and Christopher Bird.

Practically speaking, tinctures offer a long shelf life for your herbs. We know that eating locally


Zen & The Art of the College Essayby Gabrielle Glancy

of extracurricular activities.

The excerpt above was taken from an article entitled “For a Standout College Essay, Applicants Fill Their Summers,” which appeared a few years ago in The New York Times. The article describes the adventures of students exploring the ancient tombs of the Ming dynasty in the Purple Mountain region of Nanjing, studying health care in Rwanda, veterinary medicine in the Caribbean or cell cloning at Brown University.

Extreme times, as they say, call for extreme measures.

But what if you don’t have the money to go to Rwanda or even to build houses for families that need them in Tijuana? What do you write about then? And even if you do have the money, how do you write the most important essay of your life in a form you’ve never even heard of (the personal essay), when the stakes are so high?

In my thirty years of helping students write essays that tip the scales in their favor, I have not met a single student who approached the prospect of writing this essay with anything but extreme anxiety, even dread.

Face-to-face with a blank page (or screen, as it may be), students are often plagued with that which shall not be named — Writer’s Bl*#k. They have no idea what a college essay is. They don’t know what to write about. They have no idea where to begin.

Most students, left to their own devices, begin by writing an introduction. Of course they do. This is how they’ve been taught to write the infamous five-paragraph essay (though even in this

A recent article in the New York Times, “Best, Brightest and Rejected: Elite Colleges Turn Away Up to 95%” confirmed what we in college admissions counseling already know: With regard to getting into college, the stakes are getting higher and the acceptances are going down.

For most of the past six decades, overall enrollment boomed, while the number of seats at elite colleges and universities grew much more slowly, making them steadily more selective . . . counselors and admissions officers say, the pool of high-achieving applicants continues to grow, fed partly by a rising number from overseas.

In response to the increased pressure, parents are trying to find innovative ways to make their kids stand out. Those with the means to do so are sending their kids on exotic summer excursions to beef up their resumes and provide juicy material for their college essays.

Students preparing to apply to college are increas-ingly tailoring their summer plans with the goal of creating a standout personal statement — 250 words or more — for the Common Application . . . Specialized, exotic and sometimes costly activi-ties, they hope, will polish a skill, cultivate an interest and put them in the spotlight in a crowded field of straight-A students with strong test scores, community service hours and plenty


anxiety. In fact, you can check your anxiety at the door. Here are five steps to get you started:

1. Locate moments in your life that have changed you. They can be small moments or big moments. You went into the experience one person; you came out changed. Jot these moments down using bullet points, bullet points only. The time I fell through the ice . . . the time my dad choked on an olive . . .

2. Free Write about these moments. Write everything that comes to mind. Don’t worry about grammar, punctuation, spelling or organization. Just write write write. The Free Write is the single most important step of the process. The only requirement: Write full sentences.

3. Go back and expand what you’ve written. Ask yourself questions. The W’s are very useful here: When was this? Who was I with? Where did this happen? What was important about this experience? This I call The Expanded Free Write.

4. Ultimately, your college essay must tell a story. Once a student has written a Free Write, I often take the time to explain the difference between Showing, Telling and Reflecting and that all three must be present in the college essay. I then ask him or her to go back and bring the story to life: Be specific. Go into detail. Use dialogue instead of indirect discourse. Tell it as a story unfolding in time and space.

5. You’ll notice we still don’t have a topic. Now is the time to take a look at what you’ve written to figure out what you’re trying to say. Most books on how to write college essays advise you to do it the other way around. They suggest you start with a topic. Sometimes that works. You can do that if you like. Just don’t get

form, introducing a subject before you know what you want to say is a recipe for — you’ve got it — that which shall not be named).

But if you don’t begin at the beginning, where do you begin?

The first thing I do when working with students is disabuse them of the idea that Product and Process are the same. I show them sample essays as models for what is possible — not immediately, but after I have them locate significant moments in the landscape of their lives — but I make it very clear from the get-go that knowing where you’re going (Product) and getting there (Process) are not the same.

Although the finished product will, we hope, flow, be clear and be well organized, the process of coming up with ideas and getting them down on paper is anything but.

In fact, generally speaking, it’s a big mess.

And that’s OK. In fact, that’s what we’re looking for.

In the words of Friedrich Nietzsche, “You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.”

Or, as I like to say, You must get lost in order to get found.

But how do you get lost? This is something that should be taught in school. Getting lost is an art in and of itself. And it requires a kind of letting go not unfamiliar to the masters of Zen.

Thirty years of experience helping students write the best essay of their lives has taught me there is no one way to write. Any way that works is a good way. I have also seen that, indeed, there are ways to tame the inner critic and awaken the muse. Using the method that follows, there is no need for


choices, really? The good news is, you don’t have to go anywhere exotic to write something compel-ling. In fact, the best place to go is within. From there, you will find everything you need.anxiety. In fact, you can check your anxiety at the door. Here are five steps to get you started:

attached to it because often, given half a chance, the wand will find the wizard.

The steps you will need to take next are essential; they require you make order out of chaos. This involves a different part of the brain. By the time you mobilize your team of organizers and inner critics, however, you’ve already got something to work with. And that’s a heck of lot better than staring at a blank page.

No matter what you do, you can’t predict the outcome, especially in the competitive and unpre-dictable climate of college admissions these days. You must simply write the best essays you can and let go of the results. What are your other

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This is Thoth that is moving more into the forefront of this Divine Transmission, the purpose of which is to provide consciousness that enhances your sense of you. Today’s Unity Consciousness principle is one that is quite simple, the more you you are, the more like yourself you feel then the more in alignment with Unity Consciousness you are. When you look around your life, does it feel like you? Does it look like you? Do you have a sense of aligning more with you when you contemplate your day? If so you are including you and inclusion and being you are two Unity Consciousness principles that are potently perti-nent and powerful to today’s changing times.

Or when you look at your life and yourself do you feel separate from you? Do you use the difference of what you hope to be and what you are as a reason to move into separation conscious-ness? If so, here is a simple tip that doesn’t really have anything to do with changing your external environment yet rather becoming more aware of what is happening within you that you feel so connected to the consciousness of you.

Unity Consciousness Principle and Tool Set: Allowing and Inclusion

Take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to sink into your chair. As you sink physically into the support of a chair underneath you allow your thoughts to also sink down, to move from your head down into your toes. These beginning moments are a process of allowing yourself a moment of space without trying to change anything, just being.

Now focus on including your sensations, become aware of your breath, your thoughts, your feelings, and the sounds in and around you. Just continue

to allow your sensations one at a time, if you are feeling separation just allow it, if you are feeling angry allow it, as you are feeling happy allow it, as your body feels energized allow it, as your body feels tense allow it. Giving each of your sensations the same amount of allowing and atten-tion and then moving on to the next one. Then imagine that each of your sensations is like a tooth on a zipper and that you are including them all in one moment, like zipping up a zipper, the parts that were separate come together to form a whole. Then just take a few deep breaths and return your awareness back to the here and now.

This exercise is a wonderful one to do to allow yourself to include all of you. The inclusion of you is being unified with you. As you continue on this journey of life, you are invited to have you as a priority. To take the space and the time to get clear on what it is that is you. As you become more aware of you and the uniqueness of you, you are positioned to really be flowing in your energy cycles and wisdom. This is the space in which you create worlds. This is the space in which you are able to be. It is with great joy and appreciation that this transmission is coming to a place of completion.

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To charge or not to charge, that is the question each healer must face. When I began my healing work more than 10 years ago, I grappled with this question myself. Historically, we have been taught that the sages, the venerable shamans, gurus and spiritual leaders did their healings for free and therefore we shouldn’t charge either. Although I don’t align with any particular religion, I’ve spent my fair share of time in various churches and so I myself struggled with the concept of charging.

The legend of Dr. Usui. Dr. Usui was the founder of the modern Reiki system. According to the legend, Dr. Usui went to a sacred mountain in Japan where he meditated and fasted for 21 days and was struck with the ability to heal. He went out and healed the beggars on the street and was dis-mayed when a short time later, he found these same people back on the streets begging for money. He came to the conclusion that people don’t value what is given to them for free, and therefore began charging for healing from that point forward. I’ve found the same to be true. I’ve given my Reiki course to many people for free and the fact is, most of them rarely, if ever, use what I taught them. In fact, I have a friend who had cancer who was very much on the path of taking a natural approach to her wellness, so I gave her my Home Study Course and she thanked me and went on and on about how the Universe had rolled out the red carpet for her and promptly took my course home and put it in a drawer, where it remained for more than a year. A few years later, I began studying another healing modality, which I got very excited about…I told her about this method and suggested a book I had read, which she went out and bought that very day and she actually does use that modality today.

Why Healers Shouldn’t Charge (or Something a Little More Realistic)

By Je� Donovan

Clearly she values the book she paid for more than she values the course I gave her for free.

If you think about it, it really is a ridiculous notion that healers shouldn’t charge. The last time I checked (and I’m speaking in generalities), doctors charge, dentists charge, massage thera-pists charge, as do chiropractors, acupuncturists and herbalists…all healers in my estimation. Why should energy healers be held to a higher standard than any other healer? I think because people can’t see energy, they don’t value it. Not only that, but why should healers be held to a different standard than anyone else in the world? People all over the world go to work or run a business where they charge for products and/or services. So why shouldn’t healers charge? Should they be expected to work full-time to make a living and then go home and spend all their free time doing free healings for anyone who asks?

Over the years, I’ve heard many, many arguments from people against charging for healing…let’s examine a few of them.

Healing is a gift…you shouldn’t charge for a gift. Healing may be a gift for some, but for most, it is actually a learned skill. Most of us take many years spend hundreds or even thousands of dollars taking courses and honing our skills. Even those who are born with healing gifts, spend much time in study and development. In addition, most healers will tell you, we are not charging for our skills, we are charging for our time. Do we not expect to pay by the hour when we go for a mas-sage? Why do people expect it to be different with energy healers? But let’s take it a step further, let’s assume for a minute that healing is a gift…don’t






most people in the world earn their living by utilizing their natural gifts? Does the mechanic not charge for his gifts? What about the computer program-mer, the accountant, the chef or the hair stylist? All of these people provide services for the world and get paid to do it. What about Elvis? Didn’t he make an incredible living by utilizing his gifts? If he hadn’t recorded albums and charged for them, the world at large never would have heard of Elvis Presley and the world would be a very different place today.

Jesus didn’t charge, so you shouldn’t either! This is one of my favorite arguments against charging for services. I’ve got news for you…I’m not Jesus, nor is any other healer in the world today! Times were very different in the days when Jesus walked the earth…he walked the earth, or traveled with a caravan, he didn’t pay $15,000 or more for a car to get from town to town (and he certainly didn’t pay $4.00 or more for a gallon of gasoline). Housing didn’t cost hundreds of thousands of dolllars…people built their homes wherever they wanted (and often, the towns people would help). People bartered services. People valued the healer in his day…people flocked to him when he came into town. He was given food and shelter and anything he needed gratefully.

Great healers never charge. I heard this one, just this week. In the modern era where money is the agreed upon tool for exchange, every healer, guru or spiritual leader seems to charge in one way or another. I’ve paid to see the Dalai Lama and Thich Nhat Hanh as well. Not only that, but when you walk in the door, the first thing you see is tables and tables of merchandise, books, cds and other merchandise for sale. John of God does free healings, but he does charge for the herbs he prescribes and offers DVDs for sale (and actually recommends buying them to prepare you for his healings). Amma, the hugging saint, is the only person in this category I’ve ever gone to see who truly doesn’t charge, however, like the Dalai Lama and Thich Nhat Hanh, there is an offering of food and lots and lots of tables selling books, cds,

jewelry, clothing and so much more…all of which goes to support her cause. The fact is, for these great leaders to do what they do, it costs money. It costs money to travel the world, it costs money to rent conference rooms and arenas where the message is delivered. It costs money to bring their support team with them everywhere they go. For us not-so-well-known healers, we still have the same expenses as any other business.

Traditionally, if you went to India to learn from a guru, you turned all your worldly belongings over to that guru. If you lived in a village with a medicine man or shaman, he didn’t charge for healing, he didn’t have to because he was valued and respected by the members of the village…everything he needed was provided by the villagers. Over the years, something has been lost. People want to hold onto the old values of healers doing free work but don’t value or support the healer so that his/her basic needs are met. A healer who can’t pay his rent is soon homeless and therefore, no benefit to anyone.

Now, I’m not saying all healers should charge…it is an individual decision we each need to make based on our beliefs and/or needs. I actually do free healings each month for more than 100,000 people. What I’m saying is healers shouldn’t be held to a different standard than anyone else. We humans will pay any price for something we truly want, anything we truly value. We all want the latest smart phone, 500 channels of TV and $5.00 cups of coffee. Once upon a time these things were luxuries, now they have become the norm. When we value our healers as much as we value the luxuries we take for granted, we will gladly pay a fair price for their services. The ques-tion isn’t whether or not a healer should charge, the real questions is, what is your health worth to you? Is it worth more than your cup of coffee?

romantic partner, but that desire no longer dictates my happiness and drives my actions. Instead, my number one goal and priority is to value, honor, and love myself. I affirm this intention by looking into the mirror each morning and saying with a smile, “I love you.” Then, I show myself love through actions big and small, starting by luxuriating in a long, hot shower!

I fell quickly and deeply in love with the men I mar-ried, and, especially in my first two marriages, tem-porarily lost parts of myself as I invested in and clung to those relationships. But here’s the silver lining: Those experiences forced me to stand on my own two feet, to seek out survival tools, and to focus on and invest in myself. I have serenity because I know my heartaches have equipped me with everything I need to live a life of fulfillment.

Jeff Donovan has been a student of energy since 1993, began studying Reiki in 2001 and received his Reiki

Master's certification in 2003 and has been teaching ever since. In addition to Reiki, Jeff has studied DNA

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1. Locate moments in your life that have changed you. They can be small moments or big moments. You went into the experience one person; you came out changed. Jot these moments down using bullet points, bullet points only. The time I fell through the ice . . . the time my dad choked on an olive . . .

2. Free Write about these moments. Write everything that comes to mind. Don’t worry about grammar, punctuation, spelling or organization. Just write write write. The Free Write is the single most important step of the process. The only requirement: Write full sentences.

3. Go back and expand what you’ve written. Ask yourself questions. The W’s are very useful here: When was this? Who was I with? Where did this happen? What was important about this experience? This I call The Expanded Free Write.

4. Ultimately, your college essay must tell a story. Once a student has written a Free Write, I often take the time to explain the difference between Showing, Telling and Reflecting and that all three must be present in the college essay. I then ask him or her to go back and bring the story to life: Be specific. Go into detail. Use dialogue instead of indirect discourse. Tell it as a story unfolding in time and space.

5. You’ll notice we still don’t have a topic. Now is the time to take a look at what you’ve written to figure out what you’re trying to say. Most books on how to write college essays advise you to do it the other way around. They suggest you start with a topic. Sometimes that works. You can do that if you like. Just don’t get


Dancing with Destinyby John David Mann

sometimes throws things at you out of left field. It’s easy to get knocked off kilter, to resist, to fight back, to get bitter. The trick is to stay open to the wisdom of it, even if that wisdom is unseen for now. I call it the law of left field.

When a crash takes you out of the sky, it might be the perfect time to look in the water.

Living is like dancing, and you’re not alone on the dance floor. You make a move, then the universe, your dance partner, makes a move. What do you do? You go with it.

If you’re going to live this life successfully, you have to trust your dance partner.

That means taking your own wants and insistences with a grain of salt. Not taking yourself too serious-ly. Yielding to the fact that the universe may know you better than you know yourself.

Trusting that sometimes — often — the greatest results come from directions you did not expect and could not possibly have predicted no matter how hard you tried.

As that wonderful Yiddish expression goes, Der

There was once a young man named Jack who had a dream of being a great pilot, maybe even an astronaut. He joined the navy and went into their aviation wing, intent on laying the founda-tion for a soaring career in the skies. It never happened. A freak car crash nearly ended his life, and definitely ended his chances of being a pilot.

Jack was a wreck as he began the slow process of recuperation. In order to strengthen his arms he took up swimming, and got pretty good at it. Eventually he went into the water as a line of work and started getting serious about ocean exploration. In time he co-invented the Aqua-Lung, developed a one-person jet-propelled submarine, and introduced millions to the wonders of the undersea world. You’ve heard of him, only you don’t know him by the name Jack.

You know him as Jacques Cousteau.

The failed pilot.

There are two principles to life. The first is one my mother imprinted in me from an early age: you can do whatever you set out to do. I believe this wholeheartedly, except that I also know that sometimes, you can’t. (Just ask Jack.)

And that’s because of principle #2, which is that sometimes what you set out to do may involve a wholly unexpected and often unwelcome left-hand turn.

Flying high above the earth; diving deep below the ocean. Same dream … only with a left-hand twist.

Life (or you could say fate, or destiny, or God)


mentsh trakht un got lakht.

Man plans — and God laughs.

Years ago I published a magazine about health and the environment. My ambition was to be a big magazine publisher, a publishing mogul. Toward that end, I bought a competitor’s magazine, figuring that swallowing up the competition would make me big and strong, like eating a can of Popeye’s spinach or a bowl of Bob Richards’s Wheaties.

But growth is not always good. The move ended up killing my company.

On my day in bankruptcy court, my biggest single creditor was also the only creditor who showed up for the hearing. When his turn came, he addressed the court, testified earnestly on my behalf, and astonished the judge by asking if the amount I owed him could please be reduced. In fact, could it be cut in half? (It took years, but rarely have I so relished paying off a debt.)

Today I am so grateful my publishing business was left-turned out from under me. Had it succeeded, it would have been an enormous burden. And its failure, like Jacques Cousteau’s car crash, opened the door to the career I have today.

Don’t be too quick to judge what is a disaster and what a saving grace.

And remember this: your dance partner has your back.

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In Search of the Dreamby Paulo Coelho

the first lets us share the miracle of life, and the second is of no use to us.”

The Search of the Path

“I am willing to leave everything. Please, take me as a disciple.”

“How does a man choose his Path?”

“Through sacrifice. A path that demands sacrifice is a true path.”

The abbot bumped into a bookcase. A very rare vase fell down and the young man threw himself to the floor to pick it up. He fell the wrong way and broke his arm. But he was able to save the vase.

“Which sacrifice is greater, to see the vase breaking down our breaking an arm to save it?”

“I don’t know.”

“So then, do not try to guide your choice through sacrifice. The path is chosen by our capacity of compromising with each step we make while we walk.”

Paulo Coelho born August 24, 1947, is

a Brazilian lyricist and novelist. He has

become one of the most widely read authors

in the world today.[citation needed] He is

the recipient of numerous international

awards, amongst them the Crystal Award

by the World Economic Forum. The Alche-

mist, his most famous novel, has been trans-

lated into 80 languages. The author has

sold 150 million copies worldwide.

Those who dare having a project in life, foregoing everything to live their Personal Legend, will end up achieving anything. The important thing is to keep the fire in your heart and be strong to overcome hard moments.

Remember, the desires that are in our souls do not come from the nothingness; someone put them there. And this someone, who is pure love and only wishes our happiness, only did it because he gave us, together with these desires, the tools to make them happen.

What’s the price?

“Is the price of living a dream much higher than the price of living without daring to dream?” asked the disciple.

The master took him to a clothes store. There, he asked him to try on a suit in exactly his size. The disciple obeyed, and was very amazed at the quality of the clothes.

Then the master asked him to try on the same suit – but this time a size much bigger than his own. The disciple did as he was asked.

“This one is no use. It’s too big.”

“How much are these suits?” the master asked the shop attendant.

“They both cost the same price. It’s just the size that is different.”

When leaving the store, the master told his disciple, “Living your dream or giving it up also costs the same price, which is usually very high. But

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