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Do now: In a paragraph describe what you would
consider an ideal family type or situation. Traditional type family
Mother and father who live together and raise the children together
Not the only kind of family that is wonderful to grow up in
Most teens identify it as the ideal
Write a paragraph about the last 7 years of your life…how have you developed?
Share your ideas with your neighbor. What things do you share in common? Answer the question: Does this growth and
development continue as you grow older? A couple will continue to develop in their
relationship, roles as parents, and in their individual lives
Blissful Beginnings Years 1-2 “Honeymoon” Lots of hope Everything is new Acceptance and loyalty Adjust to “we & us” Interdependence Support, affection Learn how to compromise and adjust
Becoming Domestic Years 3-7 Making a home Welcoming children Physical and emotional fatigue Expand sharing to new roles
Who will be the primary child care giver Will one person cease to work outside the home Will both parents be involved in child rearing…how?
Not a couple but a family How do you adjust?
Time of Decision Years 7-14 Can be the most challenging Growing professionally, personally, parentally Sexual fervor may end Change jobs Children become independent Re-accept vows- “Life After Marriage” Less time together Aspects of life begin to feel more oppressive Are you going to hang in there?
Strength and Renewal
Years 14-21 Children adolescent
Learn from children May be frustrating as well
More time together New roles Joy of seeing growth
Midlife Transitions College for kids More job/less job
May want a career change May be laid off and be forced to deal with
unemployment More home centered Less expensive Empty nest
Can be difficult Children go from being dependent to
independent
On their own again
Years 28-40 Retirement Deeper bonds if already there Grandchildren Travel Hobbies Volunteering
Ongoing Adjustments
From “I” to “We” Changes in sexual expression Financial issues Changing roles Coping with crisis
3 Stances Toward Relationship
1. Faithfulness to Each Other Development of the relationship is #1
2. Hospitality toward new life Children are honored guests
3. Openness to Community Need to create family of support in
community
If one of the partners in a marriage is not faithful, I feel that
A married couple learn to trust each other by If my spouse had close other-sex friends, I would
feel If I marr, I hope that my spouse and I will have the
kind of friends who Mutaul affirmation in marriage is If I marry, I want to have (number) of children Most young couples I know look upon having
children as About NFP I feel
The Healthy Family
Ideal environment for an individual to into a happy, caring, self-respecting person
Affirmation
Give compliments generously Active interest in others Attend events Celebrate accomplishments
A Sense of Tradition
Binds a family together Sharing rituals and traditions May be family reunions, holidays Gives a sense of roots
Shared Leisure Time
Fosters talk and appreciation of one another
Allows members to lower their guard and be together without stress
Shared meals Play games
A Sense of Right and Wrong
Responsible for behavior Confront wrong behavior directly School in honesty, respect for other
people and service to those in need
A Sense of Responsibility Contribute to a sense of common good for
the family Share in chose Pick up after one’s self Enhances self-esteem
Feel that they have an influence on the world of their family
Empowered