Grace Community Church Fathers in Training. Going Deeper Ron Serbia request: Work the Book written by Carey Casey Pick one area and go deeper! Small groups

Championship FatheringLoving Your Children’s Mother

By Carey CaseyGrace Community Church

Fathers in Training

Going DeeperRon Serbia request:

Work the Book written by Carey CaseyPick one area and go deeper!Small groups will concentrate on the

reading from Championship FatheringTalk is to bring you deeper into the Lord to

Love your children’s Mother more deeply

Loving Your Children’s Mother

Joseph’s History in LoveSummer 1961 at 10 years of age I knew Jesus

was my SaviorOctober 31 1986 at 34 years of age. I gave

my life to Jesus Christ as my LordTo save my marriageTo come under the leadership of ChristTo set me free from bondage of the world

Where did God start me?


Mark 12:30“And you shall love the LORD your God with

all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength. This is the first commandment.”

Mark 12:30“love God with all your:

HeartSoulMindStrength

All 4 areas He told me I had to know him in order to love Him in order to serve Him.

He has been working on breaking my stony heart for 30 years


Awana Prayer

Our Prayer is that every child and youth in the World will come to Know, Love, and Serve the Lord Jesus Christ.

God reminded me this year I still don’t understand this


GOSPEL WHEEL

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Character Line

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Character of GodRev 4:8b Holy

1Jn 4:8b Loving

1 John 4:8b For God is love.

GOSPEL WHEEL

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Character of GodRev 4:8b Holy

1Jn 4:8b Loving

1 John 4:7-8 Beloved, let us love one

another, for love is of God; and everyone

who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God,

For God is love.

Ephesians 5:33a“Nevertheless let each one of you in particular

so love his own wife as himself ...“

“Love your own wife” is a command from the Lord

If you don’t love your wife you do not love yourself!

1 Peter 3:7“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with

understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.“

Our Love relationship with our wife can hinder our relationship with God.

Our Prayers will fall on deaf ears if we have caused a rift in our marriage relationship

Don’t Believe it? Check out the Old Testament!

I kept asking the Lord to show me “why this is true?”

Loving Your Children’s MotherCurrent Ministry outside the home:

Prison Ministry / Parenting Class RPCC - MondayFathers in Training - TuesdayAwana – WednesdayPeace Keepers – SundaySpiritual Warfare big time at ministry and at homeLoving my wife slipped to a new low

NEEDED a Break but I had no time to take oneSo when Al Called, I signed up and went to Men’s

Retreat, Looking for a Divine meeting with the Lord

Men’s retreat Pine ValleySign in Friday night – had to choose between 7

workshops for Saturday all at 11 am.2 Guys sign up for Elephant in my Faith. So did I finally

because I figured I have a lot of Elephants trampling me right now.

Walking out the door. I heard, Intimacy Unraveled is the workshop you need to go to. Your teaching it at FIT!

I walked back in crossed me off the Elephants and signed up for Intimacy Unraveled.

Intimacy (Feelings nothing more than feelings)


Intimacy Unraveled

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God’s Command

Heart, Soul, Mind, Strength, Body, Spirit, Intellect, Emotions, & Physical

More than 4 from multiple sourcesI AM Confused Lord!

Malachi 2:13-16NKJV “And this second thing you do. You cover the altar of the

LORD with tears, with weeping and crying; so he does not regard the offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hand.

But you say, “For what reason?" Because the LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. “

ESV “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.

For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the LORD, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless."


Malachi 2:16 ParaphrasedFor the man who does not love his wife

attempts to rip the spiritual union, created by God between her and him, apart bringing violence upon himself. Blocking his spiritual union with God!

Mathew 19:6So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.

Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

“Rips the spiritual union apart”We can’t break God’s Spiritual union apartDivorced (Don’t feel alone if you are in this category)Men are living with a wife but separate in soul,

intellect & emotion. This is the same thing as divorced

I believe there are a great many men in this 2nd condition

Intimacy UnraveledPhysical - StrengthEmotional -Intellectual -Spiritually -

Loving Your Children’s MotherGod’s

Command

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Command

Intimacy UnraveledPhysical - StrengthEmotional - HeartIntellectual - MindSpiritually -


Command

Intimacy UnraveledPhysical - StrengthEmotional - HeartIntellectual - MindSpiritually - Soul


Command

Intimacy UnraveledPhysical - StrengthEmotional - HeartIntellectual - MindSpiritually – Soul

Dan finished the map!Physical – Strength, yes I can seeIntellect – Mind, OKBUT Emotions are feelings and untrustworthy,

Can they really be My Heart?? No Way.Soul and Spirit, They are 2 separate things


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NASV “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”

“soul and spirit” are two things, but wait keep it in context

The sword is piercing between the division of S&SGod united the Soul of Man with His Spirit in Genesis 2They are one! Dan got it right!BUT Emotions and Heart still makes no sense Lord.

Hebrews 4:12


Men line up to speak with Dan,Kelli, his wife, stands alone in the corner So I tell her about my journey explaining my

doubts about Emotions and Heart association. How my emotions are untrustworthy to follow

Kelli’s response was remember, Jerimiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it.”

Yes the perfect match. God had after 30 years put it all together for me. I hope for you!

Intimacy Unraveled ends

Discern if Dealing TreacherouslyWe communicate Love on 4

levels: 1. Spirit and Soul, 2. Intellect the mind, 3. Emotions the Heart, 4. Physical the body (Strength)

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We commit to relationships: • Scale of 1 to 5

• Zero is Plutonic• 2.5 is boundary of “Ok for

Friendship”• 5 is totally committed to

Marriage

Ephesians 6:4And you, fathers, do not provoke your

children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Romans 12:10“Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly

love, in honor giving preference to one another;”Each of you has Great Value in the Eyes of the LordTreat each other with due respect and honorEsteem each other more valuable than ourselves

Discern a Wounded Spirit

Discerning a Wounded Spirit (Demonstrate fist)Healing a Wounded Spirit

Listen intently to concerns of the wounded spirit Do not rationalize it away or invalidate,

The wounded spirit will NOT listen to this and shut down tighter Find your wrong and own it (100%) You are the leader, the initiator she is the responder

Bending the Knee, Done to give honor the one before you Signify how highly you value the person

Soft TouchGentle Speech

Repent of your wrong and ask Forgiveness. ADD no BUTS or all your efforts to reconcile will evaporate,

closing the wounded spirit even more

Discern a Wounded Spirit

SummaryKnow God, Know he made us to love in 4 areas: Heart, Soul, Mind and

StrengthProtect your relationship with the Lord by:

Maintaining your relationships with your wife at the 100% level in all 4 areas

Maintaining any female relationships in the friendship range in all 4 areas

Maintaining any Male relationships in the range appropriate in each area as dictated in God’s Word.

If you have wounded a spirit repair it quickly. Don’t let the sun go down

If you feel that God does not hear or honor your prayers or have violence in your life, Check and see if you have fallen into dealing treacherously with God,

your wife or any relationship active in your lifeRemember you are Spiritually in union with your wife of your youth.

Make that relationship right at all times. Guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the

wife of your youth. Be Faithful!

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