Gifts: No Expections no Devastations

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What is Forced Gift Giving?

By Gregory Valentine

Oh no! Not another family holiday! What! Im still recuperating from the last

one! Did you know around the turn of the century the family was the main producer of

goods in the community? Yeah I was shocked too. This means that the society we live in

is not based on giving, but receiving. In Acts 20:35 Scripture says Paul told people toremember the words of the. Lord Jesus, how he said, 'It is more blessed to give than to

receive.* How does this translate into our culture? Well around the holidays, many have

sought the altar of commercialism to provide that Oh so special gift for that Oh so specialsomeone who deserves it.

Im being sarcastic, you say? Well just try to not to give a gift to anyone of your regulars

next year. You will be met with the very loud attitude of youd better give me a gift orIll-be-forced-to-kill-you-with-my deadly-bad-vibes and non-compliant-body language is

typical weapons wielded for birthdays and most holidays, especially Christmas.

No expectations, no devastation.

When you start expecting to get a gift you are in essence trying to force the decision of

another person to favor you. If you do that in our post modern hyper-capitalistic systemof society regarding of economics, you must buy me the most up-to-date consumermerchandise. I must have it or your love for me will be questioned. When are you going

to buy me an engagement ring?


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What is a Gift?

Webster-Merriam Dictionary sayDefinition of GIFT

Gift a noun

1: a notable capacity, talent, or endowment

2: something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation3: the act, right, or power of giving

A gift by definition is something given to someone else that

is not earned by something they did. Voluntarily.Dang it, Santa! Hes been teaching us wrongly all these years! He knows when you are

sleeping he knows when youre awake, he knows when youve been bad or good so be

good for goodness sake. Naughty or nice is a seeking for a payment, like, like its a wage

at the end of a two week pay period. I deserve this gift! I did a lot of chores to get towhere I am today. I want that gift! This is so wrong! Yet, this is the song that we hear in

the toy stores Christmas Eve. You are expecting someone to give yousomething that you think you deserve!

Now a gift is a sacrifice from the one giving it and an

undeserved blessing to the one receiving it.Now we get to the dilemma of Valentines Day, the most commercial conspiracy of them

all, after Christmas. It preys upon your very soul. Forcing you to make various non-instinctual actions, that youre supposed to do, which is more than youre already doing.

Why? Because the commercial markets tell us to, thats why! The desire to buy

chocolates, flowers, candies, metallic balloons, and cards is mixed with feelings of fear,and the dread of being either unsympathetic, unloving, or worse, un-human.

So whats my advice? Yes, I have advice for this debacle.

1. Gods example, I like to take my examples from things that do notchange. He gave his only son that the world may be saved through him. He didnt

want the world to perish with the consequences of sin but he makes it a free gift toany who will receive it. He doesnt give that gift because we deserve it.It said that

he demonstrated his love to us in that while we were still his enemies he send his

son to die in our place for our sins. Here in is love, not that we loved God, but thatGod first loved us.

2. A gift is to be directed and implemented by love. Love isnot conditional, otherwise it is not love. We hear of all the lives of people who


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were devastated by parents who would be proud of their children during times of

good but not times of bad, would love them less. How they were loved or showedlove on sunny days, metaphorically but were abandoned on the rainy troublesome

days. To give something should be directed by and governed by love.

3. Show your love to your friends and loved oneseveryday, as much as you can or are able to. Daily, be kind to them, do stufffor them and be a blessing to their life.

4. Do a little something extra nice for them not becausethey deserve it or that they are entitled to but because

you care for them as a whole person if they are to earn it, thatswhat monetary allowance is for, not a gift.

5. You cant earn a gift. If you could, just by thedefinition alone it is not a gift, but a wage and reward.A gift is correctly exchanged when it is something of meaning to a person whomeans a lot to you.

6. Purposely, do not do anything special for anyone, indirect connection to a holiday, or a birthday date, becauseof the commercial demands forced upon you.

7. Things are more affordable way before holidays or directly after amajor holiday.

8. It teaches the person not expect to get something becauseeveryone else is pressuring you to act and get them something, it lacks the

genuine and sincerity as you are standing in line trying to buy a present forsomeone who is forcing you to.

9. It gives you ample opportunity to be creative and to keepthat special someone from expecting something, and to be completely surprised

when then do get something.

10. This forced propaganda of trying to get us to buyinstead of being the producers and initiators of our

own romance and ongoing affections.

11.Keep them guessing, is my best bet and dont do it because themarket says so, this goes for any holiday where you are forced to fund the

economy because it is imposed because of external pressure.12.Teach them how to give by not expecting but give others.

Its your choice. Either its a gift when you determine to give it or you must do itbecause society pressures and external expectants forces you to so.


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*(Many preachers use this one verse incorrectly to get people to give more money when

in fact the context is that the preacher should be the one giving more from his ownpersonal resources to help the sustain the poor! That is a topic for another post outside of

our scope.)

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