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Getting To YES Chapter 1 Don’t Bargain Over Positions. Method of Negotiations. 3 criteria to judge by Is it a wise agreement? Is it efficient? Will it improve relationships? bargaining – compromising - haggling. Arguing over positions produces unwise agreements. Errors - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Getting To YESChapter 1
Don’t Bargain Over Positions
Method of Negotiations
3 criteria to judge by
Is it a wise agreement? Is it efficient? Will it improve relationships?
bargaining – compromising - haggling
Arguing over positions produces unwise agreements
Errors
Locks you into a position
Ego takes over
Face saving
Bottom line – more attention paid to positions, the less to
underlying concerns
Arguing over positions is inefficient
Extreme positions
Prompt settlement will not be reached
Stonewalling
Dragging of feet
Threat of a walk out
All this increases time and cost.
Arguing over positions endangers an ongoing
relationship.
Battle of wits develops
Anger and resentment
This type of bargaining can shatter relationships.
Positional bargaining worsens as the amount of
negotiators increases
More people = more drawbacks
Coalitions among parties can form
Once position reached more difficult to
change or alter
Being nice is no answer
Soft Position
Friends
Goal agreement
Trust
Hard Position
Adversaries
Goal victory
Distrust
There is an alternative
Negotiation on the Merits (4 basic points)
People: Separate the people from the
problem
Interests: Focus on interests, not positions
Options: Generate a variety of
possibilities before deciding what to do
Criteria: Insist that the result be based on
some objective standard
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Getting To YESChapter 2
Separate the People from the Problem
Negotiators are people first
They bring emotions, values and different
backgrounds
They are unpredictable as well
Every Negotiator has two kinds of interests
Substance
Relationship
Parties relationships become entangled with their discussions of
substance
Egos tend to become involved in substantive positions
Positional bargaining puts relationships and substance in conflict
Separate the relationship from the substance
Treat each separately on its own legitimate merits
Base the relationship on accurate perceptions, clear
communications, appropriate emotions
Deal with people problems directly; use psychological
techniques for psychological problems
Three basic people problem categories
Perception
Emotion
Communication
Perception
Diverse interpretations—everyone thinks differently
Conflict is a cognitive manifestation—not an objective reality
See yourself in the shoes of another
Don’t deduce their intentions from our fears
Perception
Don’t blame them for your problem
When discussing the problem, separate the symptoms from the
problem
Look for opportunities to act inconsistently with their
perceptions
Send a message different from what they expect
Perception
Discuss each other’s perceptions
Give them a stake in the outcome
make sure they participate in the process
Make proposals consistent with their values
Emotion
Recognize and understand emotions Theirs and yours
Make emotions explicit Acknowledge them as legitimate
Allow the other side to let off steam
Don’t react to emotional outbursts
Use symbolic gestures
Communication
There can be no negotiation without communication
3 communication problems
Negotiators may not be talking to each other or in a way to be
understood
Others may not hear you despite clear and direct dialog
The other may misunderstand
Communication
Listen actively
Acknowledge what is being said
Speak to be understood
Speak about yourself, not about them
Use “I” phrases, not “You” phrases
Speak for purpose
Prevention
Build working relationships
Face the problem, not the people
It is hard to deal with a problem without people
misunderstanding each other—getting angry or upset and
taking things personally