Get Your Ex Back: A Series Of Common Mistakes Men Make

By Ade Adewolu

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No matter how we all complain, it is never a pleasant experience to be separated. Whether the relationship is marriage or any other form of conjugal association, there is often an emotional explosion when things go sour. In this get your ex back article, we shall be looking at those common mistakes that men make when trying to salvage their broken relationships.

The question is, how do men contribute to the break down in the first instance - through mistakes - to the eventual breakup? What can a typical man do differently, even after the relationship has gone 'pear-shaped?' These are the challenges of this article. It is hoped that in reading this article, men will realise some wrongful assumptions being made in relationships and learn to address them accordingly. The basic ideas in this article have been proven to work and is a 'must have' to get your ex back..

In spite of thousands of years of recorded history of humans, people still have problems of wrong assumptions of their partner's expectations. This is borne out of the fact that men often expect that in any conjugal relationship, their female partner still needs to be appreciated. This needs not be as aggressively done as in the period of courtship, but should still be shown from time to time. Relationships are a journey in life. There is need for continuously lubricating the love life with oils of appreciation and genuine care. Don't overdo it, though.

Equally important is the fact that after the relationships have been mismanaged through misunderstanding or strife, they might want to doggedly keep the relationship or its benefit. This is easily misinterpreted by the female partner as a denial of freedom of choice, intrusion of privacy, and lack of consideration. These would be additional 'sins' to those that caused the relationship breakdown in the first instance. This can be catastrophic, unless restrain is exercised. How best to manage this is analysed in the next stage of our discussion

Create Reverse Emotion: This is where the man has to act as if unmoved by the solitary impact/isolation caused by the break-up. The situation has to be managed such that the public display of contentment and rancour would enhance a feeling of loss, and consequently arouse jealousy in her. Meanwhile, such an emotional gap-moment should be spent addressing those minor complaints she used to make before the relationship broke down. If you - as the man - are now seen as a more 'refined' and attractive personality by your ex, she would be more than willing to return to you.

Having reached this stage of reconciliation management, you only need to organise a forum - an opportunity to physically meet up with your former sweetheart. Be calm, but do your best to ensure that she sees the new improved you. This must be done in such a way that she also gets the impression that you are still a very marketable 'hot cake' in the relationship marketplace.

Summary: These strategies work - especially if they are combined with active listening and willingness to sincerely apologise to her whenever your discussion gravitates to the subject. It is often held as a popular belief that men - since the earliest human race - have the hunter-gatherer attributes. These attributes, combined with the natural male ego makes the man often feel in control in male-female conjugal relationships. Even the most liberal of men naturally feel obliged to take a leading role. This factor must be employed positively in your reconciliation efforts. Successful and enduring romantic relationship would hopefully result if you follow the suggestions discussed here. Take the step of faith and get your ex back in a short time. You would be amazed you did.

ADE ADEWOLU

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