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Students travel to Providence for People of Color Conference, page 3. Learning the Ropes of Leadership Mercer Street Friends helps residents leave welfare and achieve independence, page 5. Helping Trentonians George School community mem- bers share their impressions of Nancy Starmer, page 2. Talking About the Head of School David Bruton ’53, father of GS graduate Kate ’85, is the ninth clerk in the George School Committee’s 109-year-old history. (Turn to page 5 to read more) W hen Phil Caputo ’87 went to bed on the night of January 15, 1997, his life was fairly predictable. A hard-working attorney in a prosperous Los Angeles law firm, he was looking forward to the coming weekend. His best friend from George School days, Ennis Cosby ’87, was in town. But the next morning, Phil’s life turned upside down. Ennis had been murdered during the night. For the Cosby family and for friends like Phil, the tragedy brought chaos. The family’s extraordinary celebrity exacerbated their shock and grief. Media attention was relentless during the ensu- ing days and weeks, even reaching across the country to George School. In the midst of their heartbreak, Ennis’ parents, Bill and Camille Cosby, established the Hello Friend/William Ennis Cosby Foundation, fil- ing the necessary legal papers that very day. (“Hello, Friend” was Ennis’ greeting to all people he met, regardless of their station in life.) Ennis’ dream — to help children with learning differences — would continue in his name. While appearing on the Larry King Live show, Phil received a call from Bill Cosby, who asked, before an audience of millions, if Phil would head the foundation. Phil replied by saying, “It would be my honor.” Later, after reflecting on that moment, Phil notes that he was “also filled with great sadness. It brought home to me that Ennis was truly gone.” New Clerk Sets the Mood for Spirit-led Decision Making By Kimberly Miller Robbins Cristina Luyando and Odie LeFever also contributed to this article. W hen David Bruton ’53 stands to speak at the podium, people pay attention not only to his distinctively tall frame and his pleasant baritone voice, but also to what he has to say. “What made David our unanimous choice for clerk of the [George School] committee is his seemingly effortless ability to provide leader- ship … and his talent for dealing with tough issues with enormous good sense,” said committee mem- ber Jackie Bowers. Phil had to hit the ground running and deal with his grief as he went along. Thousands of people were calling to express sympathy and offer help. The mail brought hundreds of thousands of letters. Many were addressed simply, “Bill Cosby, USA.” In the first few weeks, he was deeply involved in the murder investigation. That was first priority. Phil, then 27, faced the challenge squarely and gradually the foun- dation began taking shape. A newly- appointed board of directors brought a variety of expertise to the table. “I try to be a quiet leader,” he said, “and lead by example. That was Ennis’ way, too. He believed that actions spoke louder than words.” At George School, Phil and Ennis served together on SAGE, (Students Associated for Greater Empathy) the student-peer- counseling group. There, they learned how to guide by example within the group, and to counsel others quietly, one-on-one. “A leader must know how to dele- gate,” Phil said. “He should try to acknowledge others’ strengths and give them the opportunity to do what they do best in a non-threatening environment.” In the past five years, Phil has seen the foundation grow exponentially. Philosophically, its mission is to befriend those with dyslexia or language-based learning differences — to open the doors Volume 74 Number 2 Summer 2002 A Publication of George School, Newtown, Pennsylvania G eorgian (Turn to page 2 to read more) Phil Caputo: Ennis Cosby’s Dream Lives on Through ‘Hello Friend’ by Carol J. Suplee

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Students travel to Providencefor People of ColorConference, page 3.

Learning the Ropes of Leadership

Mercer Street Friends helps residents leave welfare andachieve independence, page 5.

Helping Trentonians

George School community mem-bers share their impressions ofNancy Starmer, page 2.

Talking About the Head of School

David Bruton ’53, father of GS graduate Kate ’85, is the ninth clerk in theGeorge School Committee’s 109-year-old history. (Turn to page 5 to read more)

When Phil Caputo ’87 went to bedon the night of January 15, 1997,his life was fairly predictable. A

hard-working attorney in a prosperous LosAngeles law firm, he was looking forwardto the coming weekend. His best friendfrom George School days, Ennis Cosby ’87,was in town.

But the next morning, Phil’s life turnedupside down. Ennis had been murderedduring the night. For the Cosby family andfor friends like Phil, the tragedy broughtchaos. The family’s extraordinary celebrityexacerbated their shock and grief. Mediaattention was relentless during the ensu-ing days and weeks,even reaching acrossthe country to GeorgeSchool.

In the midst of their heartbreak,Ennis’ parents, Billand Camille Cosby,established the HelloFriend/William EnnisCosby Foundation, fil-ing the necessarylegal papers that veryday. (“Hello, Friend”was Ennis’ greetingto all people he met,regardless of their station in life.) Ennis’dream — to help children with learningdifferences — would continue in his name.

While appearing on the Larry King Liveshow, Phil received a call from Bill Cosby,who asked, before an audience of millions,if Phil would head the foundation. Philreplied by saying, “It would be my honor.”

Later, after reflecting on that moment,Phil notes that he was “also filled withgreat sadness. It brought home to me thatEnnis was truly gone.”

New Clerk Sets the Mood for Spirit-led Decision MakingBy Kimberly Miller Robbins Cristina Luyando and Odie LeFever also contributed to this article.

When David Bruton ’53 stands to speak

at the podium, people pay attention

not only to his distinctively tall frame

and his pleasant baritone voice, but also to what he

has to say. “What made David our unanimous

choice for clerk of the [George School] committee

is his seemingly effortless ability to provide leader-

ship … and his talent for dealing with tough issues

with enormous good sense,” said committee mem-

ber Jackie Bowers.

Phil had to hit the ground running anddeal with his grief as he went along.Thousands of people were calling toexpress sympathy and offer help. The mailbrought hundreds of thousands of letters.Many were addressed simply, “Bill Cosby,USA.”

In the first few weeks, he was deeplyinvolved in the murder investigation. Thatwas first priority. Phil, then 27, faced thechallenge squarely and gradually the foun-dation began taking shape. A newly-appointed board of directors brought avariety of expertise to the table. “I try tobe a quiet leader,” he said, “and lead by

example. That wasEnnis’ way, too. Hebelieved that actionsspoke louder thanwords.”

At George School,Phil and Ennis servedtogether on SAGE,(Students Associatedfor Greater Empathy)the student-peer-counseling group.There, they learnedhow to guide byexample within thegroup, and to counsel

others quietly, one-on-one.“A leader must know how to dele-

gate,” Phil said. “He should try toacknowledge others’ strengths and givethem the opportunity to do what they dobest in a non-threatening environment.”

In the past five years, Phil has seenthe foundation grow exponentially.Philosophically, its mission is to befriendthose with dyslexia or language-basedlearning differences — to open the doors

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(New Clerk, continued from page 1)

In the fall of 2001, David becameonly the ninth George SchoolCommittee (GSC) clerk in 113 years.The legacy of clerkship extends back to1889 when an influential and inspiredgroup of Friends met to create a Quakerschool run by Friendly principles. Theseleaders relied on the timeless Quakerprinciples of clerkship and Quaker deci-sion making.

Kingdon Swayne ’37, GSC clerkfrom 1976 to 1984, describes one of themost important roles of the clerk asbeing the presider at meetings, “makingsure that all members wishing to speakon an agenda item have the opportuni-ty, while gently helping the garrulous tolimit their remarks.” He adds, “Theclerk does his or her best to see that allagenda items are addressed.”

Unlike any other business meeting,a Quaker business meeting “usuallybegins with a substantial period of worship, to set the mood for Spirit-leddecision making,” Kingdon explained.“Decisions are made, not by countingvotes, but by the ‘sense of the meeting,’arriving at clarity as to what needs to be done.”

English teacher and InternationalBaccalaureate program coordinatorRalph Lelii has first-hand knowledge ofthe process of Quaker business meet-ings from his position as FacultyMeeting clerk and his years as a con-vinced Friend. He explains the differ-ence between consensus and sense ofthe meeting. “In a secular sense, ‘con-sensus’ is a product of an intellectualprocess, whereas a ‘sense of the meeting’is a commitment of faith for Friends …in which corporate prayer produces aresult which is in alignment with God’swill for us.”

David finds the inclusive Quakerprocess of seeking insight energizingand enriching. “Listening, and beingopen to another’s point of view, is cru-cial to reaching understanding and clar-ity,” he said.

Previously the clerk of GeorgeSchool’s Strategic Planning OversightCommittee, David, a Philadelphiaattorney, is grateful for the opportunityto apply his leadership skills to strength-en the foundation of George School. A

graduate of Princeton University’sWoodrow Wilson School of Public andInternational Affairs and Harvard LawSchool, he brings to the committee 40years of experience practicing law aswell as significant time spent collaborat-ing with other organizational commit-tees and boards.

According to Head of School NancyStarmer, David’s professional experi-ence, coupled with his involvement ineducational issues over the course of hislifetime — including a previous stint asboard chair at Hill Top PreparatorySchool in Rosemont, PA — makes himparticularly effective as clerk of theschool committee. “He’s convinced ofthe merit of a values-based educationalsystem and a challenging curriculum,”Nancy declared. “He embodies a lot ofwhat the school is doing right now andwhat it stands for.”

“David is extraordinary at seeing thebig picture. He understands what theschool is all about and is able to capturethe essence of what the group is feel-ing,” said Nancy. She believes thatDavid has already begun to display howsuccessful he will become in his newrole as clerk.

David finds holding a position ofleadership at George School is especial-ly rewarding since the school teachesothers to “value diversity and to encour-age others to do the same.”

At a time when the world is beingintroduced to new challenges, overcom-ing obstacles and encouraging ethnicdiversity, David declares, “GeorgeSchool isn’t just talking the talk. It’swalking the walk.” ■

From faculty membersNancy is an academician and chal-lenges the faculty to be equallyengaged in an open forum about thequality and nature of classroom life.

I am thrilled that she is shaking us upon curriculum issues.

Nancy has a firm grasp of school his-tory, the events, the people, and thepast.

As a careful listener, astute questionerand individual of action, she is a verypowerful role model for faculty, staffand students.

Editor’s Notes: At the urging of NancyStarmer and the school’s governingboard, members of the communityshared their impressions of NancyStarmer during her second year ashead of school.

Besides providing Nancy with feed-back on her performance, the evalua-tion exercise is connecting GeorgeSchool Committee members moredirectly to the greater George Schoolcommunity. Above are some of thecomments gathered by Head ofSchool Evaluation Committee members, Patrick Sweeney (clerk),parent ’00 and ’02; Joan Gluck, par-ent ’01 and ’03; David Bruton ’53,parent ’84; Damaris South, formerfaculty; and Betsy Falconi, parent ’95and ’98.

People Are Talking About...Nancy Starmer

From studentsShe is approachable, kind, caring,bright, desires to get to know the stu-dents, friendly, always smiles, open tonew ideas, upholds values, and invitesus over for cookies.

From alumniShe is smart, thoughtful, determined,and a consensus builder.

She is a great communicator and avisionary.

Nancy has done an impressive job ofabsorbing GS history and the Quakervalues that are central to its mission.

From staffShe stays true to the school’s missionand Quaker ideals and values.

She is open-minded, listens to othersand seeks clear understanding.

She has an enormous amount of energy.

From parentsShe has a mediating spirit and is people smart.

She sees more than one way of accom-plishing a goal and has a strong under-standing of a boarding/day school envi-ronment.

She has a deep concern and genuinecaring for the students.

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Over chicken fingers andfrench fries, six ravenous highschool girls washed down

their first meal in many hours with coldsoda and reveled in the moment.Despite the posh atmosphere, the foodat the Rhode Island Convention Centerleft much to be desired. So, at 11:30p.m. the girls had a real treat when afood vendor, eager to close up shop forthe night, not only sold the tasty mealto the girls but also gave them twicewhat they ordered … for free! But thesegirls were not in Providence just for amidnight snack, they were learning theropes of leadership and what it takes tobe a leader.

“Leadership is based on truth andcharacter. A leader must have the forceof character necessary to inspire othersto follow him with confidence.Character is knowing what you want todo and having the determination to doit, in a way which will inspire confi-dence in those around you or for whomyou are responsible.” This saying, byField Marshall Viscount Montgomeryof Alamein, stood out in LindsaySalamon’s ’04 mind when she firstheard it during school assembly. She feltthis quote captured the essential ele-ments of a good leader. Lindsay’s callingto become a leader led her to attend thePeople of Color Conference (POCC) inProvidence last December.

Six students, two chaperones andseveral GS faculty were a few of the1,500 other private school students, fac-ulty and staff who attended the confer-ence December 6-8, 2001, at the con-vention center. The chaperones, RachelWilliams Speller and Jenna KueblerDavis ’78, and GS faculty (Danny Kerr,Edna-Anne Valdepeñas and Head ofSchool Nancy Starmer) attended vari-ous workshops at the POCC while thestudents participated in the StudentDiversity Leadership Conference (a stu-dent-geared conference under thePOCC umbrella).

“In order for us to get beyond theracism, the sexism, the homophobia,the anti-Semitism, the classism, thesociety, the ableism in our society, we

tural issues. For the students, this con-ference ultimately “helped them learnabout the imbalances that exist in thecountry between race and socio-eco-nomic status,” said Jenna, assistantdirector of admission for GS. “These[students] are the leaders who will soonbe adults and will take these issues tothe next level.”

Monique Williams ’03 drew up thefollowing conclusions from the confer-ence. “I learned that no matter who you

are (white, black, mixed, gay, or hetero-sexual) we all can come together andmake right some of the wrongs intoday’s society, making everyone equal.”

Overall this conference helped eachstudent figure out what is positiveabout race relations today and whatareas still need work.

“I like when someone is able to actwithout worrying about how peopleperceive them, but they still are aware ofhow their leadership affects others,”Loly Ogundadegbe ’02 explains. “I lookfor a responsible and very dominant fig-ure because they emulate what I want tobe like down the road.” ■

need to be able to have conversationand dialogue to be able to move fromconversation and dialogue to effectiveaction,” said conference speaker BeverlyDaniel Tatum, dean and professor atMount Holyoke College. “And that isreally the goal of my remarks today, toencourage you to move toward effectiveaction, and I think that is … what thisconference is all about.”

The students were encouraged toattend various sessions of their choos-

ing. The students who attended theclass race session found it to be an eye-opening experience. This activity, whichexplored the different frames of refer-ence people are accustomed to, requiredits participants to stand in a straight lineand take a step forward or backwardbased on their answers to certain ques-tions. “This activity and the discussionafterwards inspired all the representa-tives of George School to return andsimulate this with the [GS] communityon Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Day,”said Noelle Minter ’02.

During the conference, the stu-dents, their chaperones and faculty whoattended the POCC were empoweredby and educated on leadership and cul-

Learning the Ropes of Leadershipby Cristina Luyando

“Bad News Bears” Become the Team to Beat

by Cristina Luyando

As the white orb flew over to herside, her heart skipped a beat. Theadrenaline pumping through her veinsmade her feet and arms move lightningfast; doing this right meant everything.Beads of sweat threatened to drip downher forehead as she swiftly fell to herknees, balling up her fist and placing itin her other open palm and…WHAM!!She sent the object flying out of hersafety zone. Who knew volleyball couldbe so intense!

When George School’s girls’ volley-ball team was born five years ago, it wasabout as good as the “Bad NewsBears,” maybe worse. The 12 girls whoplayed that year lost every game out of15. The second year was not very differ-ent from the first. By the third year, how-ever, the girls had a winning season. Inthe winter of 2001, GS was the team tobeat; they were 17-1.

“We beat all the schools that we hadpreviously lost to and eventually won theANC [Academy of the New Church] com-petition,” said Varsity Coach Erin Sio.Her interest in volleyball and the factthat GS offered only two girls’ wintersports, swimming and basketball, urgedher to start up the team five years ago.

But after winning the ANC competi-tion, the girls felt pressure to hold ontotheir championship record. “I told thegirls to take it one game at a time; winning is the bonus. If you play like you love volleyball, then you’ll win,” Erin said.

There are several important ele-ments for a team member to have: lov-ing the game, having the talent to playand being strategic about winning. “Themost important thing as a member ofthe team is reaching a point where youfully trust every other person and theirskills — the day we all had reached thispoint marked a feeling of unified confi-dence that couldn’t be broken,” saidteam captain Liz Welton ’02.

“To me, it is most important to haveeveryone get along and to enjoy play-ing,” said Alexis Dansky ’03.

During the three days of the conference, participants developed effective cross-cultural communication skills, expressed themselves through the arts andlearned networking principles and strategies. First row from left: Carol Pak ’02,LaToya Norman ’02, Lindsay Salamon ’04, Monique Williams ’03, NoelleMinter ’02. Second row: Jenna Kuebler Davis ’78 (chaperone), LolyOgundadegbe ’02, Rachel Williams Speller (chaperone).

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Andrew Musoke ’00 — Natural Born Leader in Trainingby Kimberly Miller Robbins

“My best players will play smartrather than play big,” Erin explained.“They have so much mutual respect foreach other it’s incredible. I tell them,‘the only agenda you should have is tolove volleyball.’”

The team members surely love thegame, which has led them to theirimpressive record of 13-2 for the winter2002 season. “Of all the teams I playon, the volleyball team is the most hilarious,” said Alexis. “We all play tohave fun.”

The girls follow the example of theircoach.

“Erin loves volleyball as much as wedo, so she puts all her heart and soulinto coaching us,” said Kate Horne ’02.“Plus she really believed in us. We

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adjust to their new surroundings bybecoming a peer group counselor and amember of George School’s peer groupreview team.

Excited by the opportunities forgrowth that he found at George School,Andrew chose to continue his educa-tion at Connecticut College, anothersmall school that has allowed him tointeract with a diverse student body andhelped him to pursue his dreams ofgrowing as a leader.

“The personality of a leader I gotfrom my mother and father. But theopportunity to become a leader, I defi-nitely got from George School. If I wentto a larger school, I would be just anumber. At Connecticut College, like atGeorge School, I am allowed to be seenby my face and name, rather than myschool identification number.”

Only two months after arriving onthe college campus, Andrew begancampaigning for freshman class presi-dent. “I was sitting in my room one dayand my friends said, ‘You should runfor freshman class president.’” So hedid. Andrew’s campaign was a successand he was elected. “I think it was mypersonality in general that helped me towin,” he recalled. “I was able to appealto a lot of different people.”

What are some key traits of agood leader? According toGeorge School graduate

Andrew Musoke ’00, “a good leader hasthe ability to listen and the ability tocommunicate with diverse populations.If you’re able to listen, you’re able tounderstand.”

Based on his own definition, itappears that Andrew, a sophomore atConnecticut College, has the marketcornered on leadership. Born in NewYork, NY, the 20-year-old has fine-tuned his communication skills by liv-ing in six different countries and speak-ing four languages — Luganda, Swahili,English, and French.

Andrew discovered the natural bornleader within him during his time atGeorge School. The decision to enrollin the school came after Andrew’s fatherlearned that he was being transferred toNigeria from Tanzania.

“My parents and I decided that I should go to high school in the UnitedStates,” Andrew said. “I had a friend at George School and decided to checkit out.”

Placed at a new school, in a countrythat was no longer familiar, Andrewquickly learned the importance ofbecoming independent and how to

cope with living far from his family.Before long, he learned to master all ofthe tasks he needed to survive.

“I was used to having people doeverything for me,” he explained. “I had

to learn to do a lot of things when Icame back to the United States, evenlaundry. All of these new experiencesbrought out the little leader in me.”

As each new experience evokedmore confidence in Andrew, he beganto help his fellow classmates learn to

Andrew Musoke ’00 is a sophomoreat Connecticut College and is double-majoring in international relationsand economics.

Andrew recognizes that his leader-ship skills have been enhanced by cultural experiences he garnered fromliving in Africa, Europe and Asia andthat his motivation to become a leadercame from watching his father serve asa United Nations ambassador.

For Andrew, to be a good leader aperson must “practice what you preach.You can’t have this fake façade. You haveto be honest with yourself and honestwith people.”

Today, at Connecticut College,Andrew is chair of both multiculturalaffairs for the Student GovernmentAssociation and the cultural diversitycommittee. He also serves as a peeradvisor, international advisor and stu-dent advisor.

Andrew hopes one day to put all ofhis skills and experiences to work in amuch larger leadership role. “My dreamhas always been to work for the UN orthe US diplomatic foreign services,” hesaid. “Today, I would also like to be secretary of state or secretary general ofthe UN.” ■

would not have had such an awesomeseason without her.”

But Erin modestly does not take all the credit for the team’s success.“No amount of [coaching] clinics couldenable me to be the perfect coach,” Erin said. “Liz Welton is the setter, theglue that holds them together. She’smental toughness making magic out ofmediocrity.”

Liz, who is a graduating senior,reflects on her volleyball career at GS.“Being captain/setter was an intenserole. I may have become too investedand blinded by success had it not beenfor the rest of the team, who alwaysreminded me that our priority was justto have a good time,” she said. ■

The girls’ varsity volleyball team practices game simulations with theteam’s male managers to teach the girls how to hold up to powerful oppo-nents in a real game situation. First row from left: Alexis Dansky ’03,Meg Peake ’03, Tanya Hoke ’03 (her teammates added her photo).Second row: Anna Welton ’02, Kate Horne ’02, Liz Welton ’02, SerenaTakei ’04. Third row: Erin Sio (coach), Jessie Duncan ’03, ArdenBrookstein ’03, Liza Hale ’02, Samiyah Iddinn ’03.

“The personality of a leader I gotfrom my mother

and father. But the opportunity to

become a leader, I definitely got from

George School.”

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of learning and help them reach full poten-tial. Materially, the Hello FriendFoundation promotes and supports earlyrecognition, public awareness and effec-tive education through its programs. “I amproud of what has been accomplished,”Phil said. “One of the blessings is that weare a lean organization. We can makedecisions quickly and get things done.”

The foundation produced a well-regarded video, Ennis’ Gift, featuring manyprominent people, which was recentlylicensed to HBO. In a campaign to encour-age children to read, the foundation, withits partner Scholastic, distributed 50,000books to classrooms in each of the follow-ing states — Mississippi, Pennsylvania,Massachusetts and New York. Using a cur-riculum designed by the foundation’s edu-cational director, Fordham University’sGraduate School of Education is currentlytraining 50 New York City kindergartenthrough third grade public school teachers

to recognize and meet the needs of chil-dren with learning differences. “We aretraining 50 teachers who will go back to50 classrooms,” Phil said. “Thousands ofchildren will benefit.”

The foundation has become Phil’s lifework. He is inspired by the shared dreamsof both Ennis Cosby and Andrew Bourns’87, son of former Head of School DavidBourns. (Andrew died suddenly in 1991 ofa previously undetected heart ailment. TheAndrew Bourns Social Justice Endowmentwas established at George School to per-petuate Andrew’s concern for inner citychildren.) “Ennis would be proud of thiswork, and our friend Andrew would be,too,” Phil said. “Their hopes and dreamsshine through. This has been a reaffirma-tion of my friendship with these two whowere determined to roll up their sleevesand make a difference.” ■

(Log on to the Foundation’s website:www.hellofriend.org for more information.)

“Hello, Friend”was Ennis’

greeting to allpeople he met,

regardless of their station

in life.

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Mercer Street Friends — Where CompassionateHearts and Strong Convictions Convergeby Carol J. Suplee

Mercer Street. This quaint lit-tle road situated a fewblocks from the Capitol in

downtown Trenton, NJ, is lined withlarge shade trees and graceful buildings.

Although the street is picturesque,the 150-year-old Quaker meeting housethat calls Mercer Street home has amuch deeper mission than its quietappearance suggests.

Mercer Street Friends (MSF) wascreated in 1958 from Friends’ responseto the conditions they saw aroundthem: deteriorated housing, racial ten-sions, pressing health needs, hunger,struggling schools, crime, and unmetneeds of elders and children.

When Odie LeFever first learned ofMSF’s mission through Bob Appelbaum,a George School parent and charterboard member of MSF, she was moved.Clearly, it was her kind of place, wheretender hearts and strong convictionsconverged. So, in 1984, she agreed toserve on the board of trustees, which shenow chairs.

It’s simple enough in Odie’s view. Ifthere is something she believes in, shehelps. She served on the board ofPlanned Parenthood in Bucks Countyfor five years in the ’90s. She was clerk ofNewtown Monthly Meeting in the mid-

Besides being the chair of MercerStreet Friends, Odie LeFever, parent’88 and ’90, is George School’s director of external affairs and associate director of advancement.

’80s and was convener of the NewtownMinisterium for six of the last 12 yearsshe has represented her Friends meetingon that local faith organization. She hasalso been clerk of the publications com-mittee of Philadelphia Yearly Meetingfor several years.

“I never really considered myself aleader,” Odie said, “but I have thoughtabout what it takes. A leader should giveand deserve trust and provide a sense ofsafety. She should be reliable, open,objective, and affirming of others.”

Her responsibility to MSF as aboard member, she explains, is to carefor the organization’s fiscal health andto help maintain a constancy of mission. The process of “reaching consensus by hearing and heeding allvoices” is paramount.

“When we look at all the programswe manage — the contracts, the com-plex financial arrangements — it isintricate, often difficult,” said SteveKitts (parent ’94), long-time executivedirector of the agency. "Odie is able totake all these elements into her hand,clarify them and simplify them. Shegets to the point. That is such aninvaluable help to the board. She is ableto lead us away from the details to abroader understanding of the ideals thatguide us.”

When Odie first began her associa-tion with MSF almost two decades ago,she wrote a pamphlet explaining theagency’s Quaker-centered beliefs andmission. Steve said that the pamphlet soperfectly captured their roots, valuesand vision that it is still used to this dayand has gone through several printings.“Odie fulfills her religious responsibilityto care for others in the most profoundand practical sense,” said Steve.

Ten thousand families are servedeach year by the food cooperative alone.The agency operates health care ser-vices, children centers and youth nur-turing programs. Families are supportedand counseled, adults learn literacy andliving skills while they seek employ-ment. The agency provides elder day

care and links lonely elders with peoplewho have extra room in their homesand hearts. It is now the largest suchservice in the state.

Two years ago, because of its integri-ty and efficiency, MSF was designatedby the state as lead agency among 36social service partners dedicated tohelping Trentonians leave welfare andachieve independence.

“I can’t hold the hand of someonewho is sad or lonely, comfort a sickTrenton neighbor or take care of thechildren who need after-school care,”said Odie. “But I can help maintain the health of an organization that doesthese things. I can work to bring clarity as we make decisions. I guess Iam an enabler.”

Odie admits that life is a mystery;some people are lucky, others are visitedby pain and misfortune. She doesn’tknow why that is, but she says, “Ibelieve my good fortune compels me tobalance the scales.” ■

Note: Dozens of George School students haveserved MSF clients over the years includingOdie’s son Ben ’90 and Chelsea Davies ’02(Andrew Bourns Social Justice Fund recipient)who spent several weeks working at MSF in thesummer of 2001.

George SchoolWinsGoldMedal

The newtwo-vo lumeadmission catalog won aGold Medal in the prestigious CASE2002 Circle of Excellence AwardsProgram in the category of studentrecruitment publications. The catalogwas one of 81 entries submitted byschools, colleges and universities.

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New George School Committee Clerk ...1

Hello Friend Foundation........................1

Impressions of Nancy Starmer ................2

Leadership Conference ...........................3

Girls’ Varsity Volleyball Team .................3

Young Leader..........................................4

Mercer Street Friends..............................5

Class Notes.............................................6

eQuiz Highlights ..................................16

Eighty-five alumni responded to theleadership eQuiz that was announced inthe May eNewsletter sent out by thealumni director. The eQuiz touchedupon the various leadership issues andvolunteer activities of alumni.

For complete results of the leadershipeQuiz visit the George School website at www.georgeschool.org andselect “Alumni eQuiz” from the site index.

Vision Tops ListAlumni identified the five most

important qualities of a good leader as being:

VisionIntegrityIntelligence

Motivational skills

Organizational skills

The above qualities are listed in order of importance. Respondents were asked toselect up to five choices.

Top PerformersForty-one percent of the 85 sur-

veyed reported being elected orappointed to the position of officer in acommunity organization. Forty percent

New Alumni Directory

Our George School Alumni Directory project is near-ing completion. Thank you for your cooperation inthe data collection process.

This printed directory is scheduled to be released inlate October 2002. All alumni who reserved a copy ofthe directory during the verification phase of theproject should be receiving their copies two or threeweeks after the release. If you have any questions,please contact: Customer Service Department,Bernard C. Harris Publishing Company, 6315 NorthCenter Drive, Norfolk VA 23505, 1-800-877-6554.Send email to [email protected].

eQuiz

Leaders Speak Out

Double Your Dollars!

Don’t miss out on thiswonderful opportunity

to give back to George School.

Kingdon Swayne, a member of theClass of 1937, is matching any new orincreased gifts made to the Annual Fundthis year by young alumni (Classes 1982 –2001).

Gifts of any size are greatly appreciat-ed. Visit us at www.georgeschool.org andselect “Ways of Giving” to make an onlinedonation or mail to Box 4438, Newtown,PA 18940-0908.

2001–2002 Annual Fund Campaign ends July 31

Comments aboutLeadership

Jack Greenwood Narvel ’62I organized my friends to form a stockcorporation at age nine. We sold stock at$1.00 per share to the neighbors, boughttools, then did odd jobs in the neighbor-hood for pay all summer. At the end ofthe summer, we were able to make a prof-it, buy all the ice cream and candy wecould eat, and return 10 percent to ourinvestors (everybody got $1.10 back).

Celina Kapoor ’92My father has often said that being aleader often means being a bit alone andgoing against the current. When I real-ized that I often view things differentlythan the majority and that that could bean asset, I began to see my own leader-ship potential.

Rick Moore ’67 You can’t give motivation to others, youcan only help them find it within and connect it to a vision thatbuilds something greater out of that. Fate picks us, but we decide what to dowith it.

C. Harrison Stevens ’52My first elections were spontaneous (I did not try). I wasn’t thinking of whatI’d “be” as much as what we wanted to “do.”

have been appointed to a board ofdirectors, 32 percent have been officersin a club. Nine percent of people sur-veyed have held the position of chiefexecutive officer, closely followed bychief operating officer at eight percent.

Peace Appeals to the Activists

Sixty-eight percent of alumni whoresponded have belonged to an activistgroup. The top three groups include:peace activism/nonviolence movementsat 31 percent, ecological activism/envi-ronmentalism at 29 percent and anti-racism/ethnic movements at 25 percent.

Learning to LeadAlmost 80 percent of people discov-

ered their leadership abilities before age30. The percentages below are based onthe total number of alumni respondents.

Under 12 years of age 26%13-18 years of age 21%19-22 years of age 12%23-29 years of age 20%30-39 years of age 14%40-49 years of age 5%50+ years of age 2%

A Desire to ServeA majority of alumni respondents

have participated in volunteer activities.The most popular areas of activity are with nonprofit organizations (56 people), educational institutions (50 people) and children’s activities (40 people).