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For DestinyFor Destiny

By Divine DesignBy Divine DesignA KingdomA KingdomApproach to RelationshipsApproach to Relationships

By Edwin N Tawengwa JnrBy Edwin N Tawengwa Jnr

The ElevatorThe Elevator


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The Kingdom ParadigmThe Kingdom Paradigm

The Kingdom is not the Church

The Church is supposed to reflect theKingdom of God

The Kingdom is a present reality not adistant abstract non-reality

Since the days of John the Kingdom is

preached and ALL men press into it. (Luke16 v 16)


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The Kingdom DefinedThe Kingdom Defined

The Kingdom is a mindset. (Matt 6 v 33)

The Kingdom is a concept. (Matt 6 v 33)

The Kingdom is a mystery. (Matt 13 v11) The Kingdom is a system. (John 14 v 2)

The Kingdom is a dimension in which

Gods original intent exists.


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The Kingdom vs CultureThe Kingdom vs Culture

The Kingdom is most times counter culture

The Kingdom creates discomfort to those

who are comfortable in their culture.(Traditional or contemporary)

The Kingdom is not a balanced approach

to matters, unifying tradition and

contemporary culture.

It is a Higher Way


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The Cultural ApproachThe Cultural Approach

FIND the Right Person

FALL in Love

FIX your hopes and dreams on thatperson

In the event FAILURE, repeat steps 1, 2, 3

Leaves things to chance and fate Thus people are dependent on variables

which we can not control


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The Higher WayThe Higher Way

The Kingdom of God is the higher way.

Enter by the narrow gate, for broad is

the way that leads to destruction andthere are many who go in by it.

Because narrow is the gate, and

difficult is the way that leads to life

(zoe- life to the fullest, as God intendedit), and few find it (Matthew 7 v 13,14)


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The Higher WayThe Higher Way

It is the way of greatest benefit

No middle ground

The Higher Way demands:Focus

Discipline

DiligenceCommitment


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The Kingdom ApproachThe Kingdom Approach

Matthew 6 v 33

But seek first the KINGDOM of GOD [Gods

way of doing things] and His righteousness,

and all these things SHALL be added untoYOU

The Kingdom is about pursuing understanding of

the ways of God and walking them out.Do not chase what you can develop the

power to attract


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The Kingdom ApproachThe Kingdom Approach

The Law of Attraction states that you attractwhat you are, and on your level of maturity.

So if you want great relationships become a

great person and you will attract great people Develop self acceptance, self awareness, self

affirmation and self respect on the basis ofGods revelation to you of your Self Worth

No one will ever treat you better than you treatyourself

People tend to follow your lead


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Our ProblemOur Problem

Many believers have accepted Christ butfew have accessed the Kingdom

Jesus answered him and said Mostassuredly I say to you unless one isborn again, he cannot SEE theKingdomJesus answered, Most

assuredly I say to you, unless one isborn of water and of Spirit he cannotENTER the Kingdom (John 3 v 3, 5)


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The SolutionThe Solution

Be not conformed to this world, but beye transformed by the renewing of yourminds, that you may prove what is the

good and acceptable and perfect will ofGod (Romans 12 v 2)

As Kingdom people we are not to be

confined to the forms set by our Culture,tradition, society and religion but shouldtranscend them and access the Kingdom


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5 Levels of Relationship5 Levels of Relationship

Acquaintances

Associations

Allegiances Alliances

Covenants


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AcquaintancesAcquaintances

These are relationships that founded upon

a common geography, platform of

interaction. These have little to no bearing

on ones destiny

All relationships must start here


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AssociationsAssociations

These are relationships that are born out

of sharing common functional and social

circles. Can be workmates, casual friends

etc


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AllegiancesAllegiances

These are relationships with terms and

commitments to be honored on both sides. These have a certain level and degree of

responsibility and accountability.

Built on honor and respect towards eachother, I may not gather with you but I will

NEVER scatter what you gather


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AlliancesAlliances

These are STRATEGIC relationships, built

on not just common ground, vision but

common values.

Resources are put together for the

multiplier effect of synergy.


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CovenantsCovenants

Highest level of relationship

Eternal and irrevocable except if a bettercovenant is instituted.

Demands openness and vulnerability


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4 Levels of Existence4 Levels of Existence

Luke 16 v 1 - 8

Dependence

Independence Interdependence

Dominion


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DependenceDependence

A level of existence where one look to an

external source of anything deemed as

vital

Necessary when one is not yet developed

and CAN NOT handle the environmental

pressures

At this level we can only engage the first

two levels of relationship


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IndependenceIndependence

A state of existence where one isresponsible for their own livelihood andcan attain success without relationships

A vital stage of life, as here you discoverwho you are, your role and contribution inlife

When we peak in this stage we begin toopen up to our need for allegiances,alliances and covenants


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InterdependenceInterdependence

This is a state where one understands the

need for others in order to achieve

significance

It is here that we are ready to embrace

allegiances, alliances and covenants.

This opens us up to the realms of

dominion


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4 Stages of Maturity4 Stages of Maturity

Infancy where focus is SURVIVAL

Childhood where focus is LEARNING

Adolescence where focus is DISCOVERY

Transitory phase, so no concrete relationships

should be formed here

Relationship here are for seasons and reasons

Adulthood where focus is REPRODUCTIONConcrete relationships are imperative in this

phase


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The Genesis FactorThe Genesis Factor

Law of First Mention teaches that at the

place of first mention in the Scriptures is

the revelation of Gods original intent, a

standard and benchmark

In terms of relationships Adam and Eve

become our prototype, standard as well as

Christ and His Church.


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The ManThe Man -- AdamAdam

Adam was made man, made by God,

operating in a Kingdom Culture

Adam was a whole man, wanting nothing Adam was fulfilling the mandate of God for

his life

Adam had a good relationship with Godand himself

Adam did not seek a wife


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EveEve -- The HelperThe Helper

She was complete

Eve was made to suit Adam

She was made to be a help meet She did not seek a man, she was brought

to Adam

She had a good relationship with God andherself


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Demands for KingdomDemands for Kingdom

RelationshipsRelationships

Love John 13 v 34

Honour Genesis 2 v 23

Wholeness Genesis 2 v 18

Self Awareness Genesis 2 v 18-20 Suitability Genesis 2 v 18

Connectivity Genesis 2 v 21-23

Identification Genesis 2 v 23

Placement Genesis 2 v 23 Separation Genesis 2 v 24

Unity Genesis 2 v 24


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Demands for KingdomDemands for Kingdom

RelationshipsRelationships

Vulnerability Genesis 2 v 25

Responsibility Genesis 3 v 12; 4 v 9

Accountability Genesis 3 v 12; 4 v 9

Giving of Self Ephesians 5 v 27

All these demands show the need for maturitybefore one commits into a relationship

Relationships are not a game, they are lifematters


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Food For ThoughtFood For Thought

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Are you sure you want to get married anytime soon?


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WisdomWisdom

The fear of the Lord is the beginning

of knowledge,

The fear of the Lord is beginning ofwisdom

(Proverbs 9 v 10)

The LORD possessed me at thebeginning of His way Before His works

of old (Proverbs 8 v 22 31)


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Wisdom is the Principal ThingWisdom is the Principal Thing

Proverbs 4 v 7

Wisdom is the principal thing

Therefore get wisdom

In all your getting, get understanding

Prioritize Wisdom

Prize Wisdom

Pursue Wisdom

Possess Wisdom


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The Prayer of A Wise ManThe Prayer of A Wise Man

1 Kings 3 v 9

Therefore give to Your servant anunderstanding heart

This is a prayer of a man who seeks tocreate the capacity to manage andmaximise what God is entrusting Him with

We need Understanding in order tofunction in any sphere of life, includingrelationships


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7 Dimensions of Wisdom7 Dimensions of Wisdom

Knowledge

Wisdom

Discretion Counsel

Discernment

Understanding Prudence


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WholenessWholeness

John 10 v 10

but I am come that they might have

life (zoe), and have it more abundantly Gods will is for us to be whole

Personal Issues impair our judgment

Personal issues lead to destructivebehavior

Jesus heals broken hearts. (Luke 4 v 19)


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The Need for SinglenessThe Need for Singleness

Singleness is not a state of being alone but one

of being separate, independent and ready to

engage fruitful relationships

It is a state we arrive at in maturity afterdiscovery

It is a state were you draw definition, affirmation,

acceptance and choices from God and self

Adam and Eve were in such a state when God

connected them


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The Need for SinglenessThe Need for Singleness

Luke 10 v 42

Only one thing is needful, and Maryhas chosen the good part, which shall

not be taken away from her What we need is intimacy with our Creator

Without it we can never open ourselves tointimacy with people

Intimacy with Christ brings wholeness andcompleteness to our lives


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The Power of IntimacyThe Power of Intimacy

In Intimacy with Christ we find

Acceptance

Approval

Affirmation Awareness

Identity

All without performance

Without finding these in God we can not engagerelationships effectively for mutual benefit


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The Power of IntimacyThe Power of Intimacy

In intimacy we develop new paradigms ofrelationship

Paradigms of love, security, openness, trust, etc

In intimacy we are healed and restoredcompletely

Healing from past hurts, regrets, controllingfigures, disappointments, fears, insecurities,

rejection, bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness Jesus becomes everything to us including a

standard by which those we relate are judged


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The Water that SatisfiesThe Water that Satisfies

John 4 v 14

But whosoever drinks the water that I

give them shall never thirst, but thatwater that I give shall be a well of water

springing into everlasting life

People are driven by thirst

Human systems provide temporal relief to

our inadequacies


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The Water that SatisfiesThe Water that Satisfies

The thirst can only be quenched byintimacy with Christ

The intimacy with Christ will empower us

to be a blessing [a well springing forth] If you do not know love, you can not show

love

When we know the unconditional lovethrough intimacy with Him, we can show itto others


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Perfect RestorationPerfect Restoration

Jesus restores to us completely

It is a perfect work of restoration, so much

so that our scars become the onlyevidence of our experiences

Jesus scars were the testimony of His

crucifixion

God heals us of the wounds but the

memory will remain


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Show Me Your ScarsShow Me Your Scars

John 20 v 25 27

The other disciples therefore said to him, Wehave seen the Lord. But he said unto them

Except I see in His hands, the print of thenails and thrust my hand into His side, I willnot believe

When he saw the evidence Thomas believed

and glorified God When people see our scars they will believe thatif God can do it for us He can do it for them


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The Adamic ExampleThe Adamic Example

Adam was a whole and complete being

Alone but fulfilled

He was not desperate, as a result Henever settled for less than Gods best

And GOD said It is not good for manto be alone I will make him a help meet

for him...But for Adam there was notfound an help meet for him Genesis 2v 18, 20


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Naked And Not AshamedNaked And Not Ashamed

Genesis 2 v 25

And they were both naked, the man and

his wife, and they were not ashamed Covenant relationships demand this level

of openness

Unashamed of your flaws, mistakes,

challenges

Getting here is a process

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