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Marine Corps Community Services

The Board of Directors of the Family Violence Project

Jerome L. Amante, Esq., Chairperson Pamela Paulson, MFT Paula Meyer, Esq., Secretary Gwen Gross, Ph.D

Terry Bankey Tina Stoliar, CPA Leslie Howard Jerry Suclla

Connie Schonert

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U.S. Marine Corps Forces Reserve

Orange County Superior Court

The Executive Director of the Family Violence Project

Kathy McCarrell, MSW

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Honorable Pamela L. Iles (ret.)

©The Family Violence Project, 2011. The use of materials contained herein is authorized for private purposes only. The materials contained herein may not be reproduced or distributed for public purposes without the

express written permission of The Family Violence Project.

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CONFERENCE AGENDA – Atlanta 2011

0730 - 0800 Check-in and Resource tables

0800 - 0830 Welcome

Ms.Tracy McLaughlin, Director MCCS Community Services LtGen. John F. Kelly Hon. Pamela Iles (ret.), Heroes and Healthy Families

0830 - 1000 Dynamics of Family Violence in the Courtroom and Community Pamela Iles– Lessons from the bench about family violence Alice D. LaViolette- Why do people hurt the ones they love?

1000 -1015 MORNING BREAK

1015 -1115

Spiritual Balance - Dessert With the Puzzle Maker Chaplain Endel Lee, USN

1115 -1145 Hooked on Adrenaline- GySgt. Brad Colbert

1145 - 1300 LUNCH BREAK- LtCol. Michael Corrado

1300 - 1345

Leading Marines Through Substance Addictions – One Man‘s Story – Dr. John ―Black Jack‖ Matthews, LtCol., USMC (ret.)

1345 - 1350 STRETCH BREAK

1350 - 1450 Suicide- A Whole Different Kind of Combat MG and Mrs. Mark Graham, U.S. Army

1450 - 1505 AFTERNOON BREAK

1505 - 1600 Building Resilience – SgtMaj. James Booker 1/reHeaalt 1600 - 1645 Healthy Relationships, Healthy Marines – Dawn Herring, M.S. 1645 - 1700

Closing Comments/ Raffle Prizes

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LESSONS FROM THE BENCH ABOUT FAMILY VIOLENCE

Hon. Pamela Iles, (ret.)

WHY DO PEOPLE HURT THE ONES THEY LOVE?

Alyce D. LaViolette, M.S.,MFCC

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Time Out Exercise - Anger Paradigm

(More Angry) Event/Situation -> Perception -> Arousal -> Reaction —>

(How you saw it) (Body signals) (Less Angry)

1. Does your stomach churn or get in a knot, do your shoulders tighten, does your heart beat faster, do you feel hot, does your face burn, does your jaw clench?

2. When you recognize your signal (fuse), you can leave the situation physically and/or mentally. 3. If the energy is big, leave and do a non-aggressive physical cool down (e.g. active walking,

jogging, lifting weights, isometrics, dancing, shooting baskets, riding a bike). 4. As you cool down physically, begin a cognitive cool down. Practice thinking differently. Practice

positive self talk. You might say, "I don't want to hurt or scare anybody. I want to solve a problem." Or "I want to cool off." I don't want to feel bad about when I do - I don't want to feel guilty. I want to handle things better."

5. Go back to your perception (how you see it) and look at alternate ways of seeing the situation. This is a good time to empathize and not to blame.

6. Work on problem solving - doesn't have to mean confrontation. Remember, anything you want to get good at, you have to work on improving. Practice, practice and practice. You will develop a new way of thinking.

7. Go back to person (if you still feel you need to) and work on solution.

What Lessons Do Children Learn When They Grow Up in Abusive Families?

1. Violence works - solution to problems, not a problem in and of itself. 2. The safest place for me (the child) is in the arms of the abusive parent. 3. Power is hierarchical and coercive. 4. Abuse and violence reinforce power. 5. Fear is the emotion that permeates a relationship and governs the interactions. 6. Learn to react, not initiate. 7. Intensity determines recognition - difficulty recognizing low-level emotions. 8. Learn to focus on the weaknesses of others - cues to survival in their own families of origin often

lay in personal weaknesses, not strengths. 9. Learn negative and rigid gender roles and identification. 10. Gentleness, compassion, empathy are signs of weakness.

Alyce LaViolette, 1995 www.AlyceLaViolette.com

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SPIRITUAL BALANCE – DESSERT WITH THE PUZZLE

MAKER

Chaplain Endel Lee, USN, CDR, Deputy Force Chaplain, Marine Forces Reserve

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GOD (reality)

5 Fundamental Steps of Puzzle

Making

1) Identify Corner Pieces

2) Locate ―end‖ pieces

3) Group similar patterns

4) Focus on sections/sub-areas

5) Refer to the picture on

the box often

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- Putting puzzle together upside down

- Forgetting to refer to the guides &

asking for help

- Misplacing the ―God piece‖

Help Hints

A. Be patient in building

connections

B. Take ―refreshing breaks‖

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C. Celebrate progress

LIVE RIGHT (good)

Benefits of “Spiritual stability”

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+ Picture makes more sense

+ Connects other pieces to the whole

+ Brings the picture to life!

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HOOKED ON ADRENALINE

GySgt. Brad Colbert

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LEADING MARINES THROUGH SUBSTANCE ADDICTIONS –

ONE MAN‘S STORY

Dr. John ―Blackjack‖ Matthews, LtCol., USMC (ret)

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Alcohol Abuse in the Military

Prevention and Intervention

The Marine Corps objective is to eliminate alcohol abuse. Combating the debilitating threat posed by alcohol abuse and alcohol dependency on both Marines and mission readiness requires a total commitment from all levels of leadership. Leaders must be alert to characteristics of alcohol abuse and with the symptoms of the disease of alcohol dependency.

Risk Factors

A risk factor is something that increases your likelihood of abusing alcohol and could lead to the development of alcoholism.

Family conflict Family history of alcohol abuse Financial problems Combat trauma Lack of commitment to work Poor work performance Low self-esteem Significant loss Underage drinking Unit culture that encourages drinking Easy availability and supply to underage Marines

Prevention

All Marines should set a positive example, especially NCOs.

An atmosphere of ―it's okay not to drink‖ must prevail.

Ensure that all Marines understand that consumption of alcohol is not essential to the development of unit cohesion or Marine Corps pride.

Conduct regular command training on alcohol abuse.

Institute and promote a designated driver program.

Have control over local command policies with regard to club operations, social gatherings, and recreational activities to ensure abuse is not indirectly promoted.

Ensure policies are in place that supports responsible drinking in all aspects of club and recreational activities.

Ensure giving alcoholic beverages as gifts or sold at reduced prices is not allowed.

Ensure suitable non-alcoholic beverages are readily available at all social functions.

Ensure food is available whenever alcoholic beverages (beer, wine, or distilled spirits) are served.

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Ensure alcoholic beverages are not sold or served to Marines who fail to meet minimum age requirements for purchase or consumption.

Ensure ongoing programs are established to prevent drunk driving by Marines, their family members, and civilian employees.

Suggested Resources

Marine Corps Community Services (MCCS): Enhances unit and family readiness by delivering programs such as Marine Corps Family Team Building (MCFTB), Military OneSource Information and Referral Service, Counseling Services and New Parent Support. The programs are designed specifically for Marines and families to increase their awareness of relevant readiness issues, while offering creative ideas to build a healthy family. Through proactive education, training, coordination of support services, materials and tools, MCCS promotes personal and family readiness that can be applied in everyday situations. Military OneSource is also able to coordinate counseling services for Marines and families in need of counseling support to help cope with deployment related issues, reunion concerns, parenting, childcare and other everyday issues. Marines and family members are allowed six face-to-face counseling sessions per incident with a civilian mental health practitioner for free. A Marine or family member will call a One Source consultant who will determine if there are on base resources readily available to assist the caller. If on base resources are not available, the One Source consultant will provide the caller an immediate referral to counseling assistance, and using their nationwide network of providers, will find a licensed mental health practitioner near the caller. Utilizing Military OneSource is ideal for Marines and Marine Reservists (and families) needing counseling services but who are not located near an installation. Marine and Family Services (MFS) counseling is available to those units and families in need of counseling support in the areas of combat stress, stress reduction, anger management, new parent support, and couples counseling.

Military One Source : The services of Military OneSource supplement the existing support system for Marines and their families by providing assistance 24 hours a day, 7 days a week via toll free telephone and Internet access. In addition, Military OneSource supports geographically dispersed Marines and their families (recruiters, Inspector and Instructor staffs, and mobilized reservists) who do not have traditional services available. Resources are available on topics to include parenting and childcare issues, education services, financial information and counseling, legal, elder care, health and wellness, crisis support and relocation. Marines or family members seeking assistance can call 800-342-9647. Military OneSource Online can be visited at www.militaryonesource.com

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SUICIDE – A WHOLE DIFFERENT KIND OF COMBAT

MG and Mrs. Mark Graham, U.S. Army

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Understanding Suicide Risk Factors

Suicide is usually a desperate effort to end suffering that has become unbearable. With overwhelming feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, and isolation, a person may see death as the only remaining choice. Yet most suicidal people have mixed feelings about ending their lives, and (consciously or subconsciously) they give off signals warning others of their intentions. It's important to take action when you see or hear any of the warning signs of suicide. Risk factors for service members may include:

Depression or other mental health disorders Alcohol or drug abuse (which can cause or exacerbate existing depression) Family history of suicide Past suicide attempt Relationship conflict/rejection Financial difficulties Severe or prolonged stress Combat-related psychological injuries Readjustment difficulties following deployment Career setbacks or disciplinary actions Overwhelming grief from a loss (death of friend or family member, divorce, disabling injury,

war experience etc.) Survivor guilt

Call 911 or seek immediate help from an emergency room or mental health care provider if the service member is:

threatening to hurt or kill self looking for ways to kill self by trying to get pills, guns, or other means talking or writing about death, dying, or suicide

Seek help by contacting a mental health professional or calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK if the service member exhibits any of these warning signs:

feeling hopeless experiencing intense rage or desire for revenge acting reckless or engaging in risky activities feeling trapped, like there's no way out increasing alcohol or drug use withdrawing from friends, family, or society appearing anxious or agitated being unable to sleep or sleeping all the time having dramatic changes in mood

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BUILDING RESILIENCE

SgtMaj. James Booker

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Coping With Traumatic Stress Reactions

The Importance of Active Coping

When veterans take direct action to cope with their stress reactions and trauma-related problems, they put themselves in a position of power and start to feel less helpless.

Active coping means recognizing and accepting the impact of trauma on your life and taking direct coping action to improve things.

It means actively coping even when there is no crisis; coping is an attitude and a habit that must be strengthened.

Understanding the Recovery Process

Knowing how recovery happens puts you in more control of the recovery process.

Recovery is an ongoing, daily, gradual process that happens over time.

Some amount of continuing reaction to the traumatic event(s) is normal and reflects a normal body and mind. Healing doesn‘t mean forgetting traumatic war experiences or having no emotional pain when thinking about them.

Healing may mean fewer symptoms and symptoms that are less disturbing, greater confidence in your ability to cope with your memories and reactions, or an improved ability to manage your emotions.

Coping with Traumatic Stress Reactions: Behaviors that DON’T Help

Using drugs and alcohol to reduce anxiety, relax, stop thinking about war experiences, or go to sleep. Alcohol and drug use cause more problems than they cure.

Keeping away from other people. Social isolation means loss of support, friendship, and closeness with others, and more time to worry or feel hopeless and alone.

Dropping out of pleasurable or recreational activities. This leads to fewer opportunities to feel good and feel a sense of achievement.

Using anger to control others. Anger pushes people away, positive connections are critical to the healing process.

Trying to constantly avoid people, places, or thoughts that are reminders of the traumatic event. Avoiding thoughts about the trauma or treatment doesn‘t keep away distress, and it prevents you from making progress on coping with stress reactions.

Working all the time to try to avoid distressing memories of the trauma (the workaholic).

Coping with Traumatic Stress Reactions: Behaviors that CAN Help

There are many ways you can cope with posttraumatic stress. Here are some things you can do if you have any of the following symptoms:

Unwanted distressing memories, images, or thoughts

Remind yourself that they are just that—memories.

Remind yourself that it‘s natural to have some memories of the traumatic event(s).

Talk about them to someone you trust.

Remember that, although reminders of trauma can feel overwhelming, they often lessen with time.

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Sudden feelings of anxiety or panic Common traumatic stress reactions include heart pounding sensations and feeling lightheaded or spacey (usually caused by rapid breathing). If this happens, remember that:

These reactions are not dangerous. If you had them while exercising, they probably would not worry you.

It is the addition of inaccurate frightening thoughts (e.g., I‘m going to die, I‘m having a heart attack, I will lose control) that makes them especially upsetting.

Slowing down your breathing may help.

The sensations will soon pass and you will be able to return to your previous activity. Each time you think in these positive ways about your arousal/anxious reactions, they will decrease in frequency. Practice will make it easier to cope. Feeling like the trauma is happening again (flashbacks)

Keep your eyes open. Look around you and notice where you are.

Talk to yourself. Remind yourself where you are, what year you‘re in, and that you are safe. The trauma happened in the past, and you are in the present.

Get up and move around. Have a drink of water and wash your hands.

Call someone you trust and tell them what is happening.

Remind yourself that this is a common traumatic stress reaction.

Tell your counselor or doctor about the flashback(s). Trauma-related dreams and nightmares

If you awaken from a nightmare in a panic, remind yourself that you are reacting to a dream and that‘s why you are anxious/ aroused—not because there is real danger now.

Consider getting up out of bed, showering, regrouping, and orienting yourself.

Engage in a pleasant, calming activity (e.g., listen to soothing music).

Talk to someone if possible.

Talk to your doctor about your nightmares; certain medications can be helpful. Difficulty falling or staying asleep

Keep to a regular bedtime schedule.

Avoid strenuous exercise for the few hours just before going to bed.

Avoid using your sleeping area for anything other than sleeping or sexual intimacies.

Avoid alcohol, tobacco, and caffeine. These harm your ability to sleep.

Do not lie in bed thinking or worrying. Get up and enjoy something soothing or pleasant; read a calming book, listen to soothing music with headphones on.

Irritability, anger, and rage Take a ―time out‖ to cool off or think things over. Walk away from the situation.

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War-Zone-Related Stress Reactions: What Families Need to Know Military personnel in war zones frequently have serious reactions to their traumatic war experiences. Sometimes the reactions continue after they return home. Ongoing reactions to war-zone fear, horror, or helplessness are connected to posttraumatic stress and can include:

Nightmares or difficulty sleeping Unwanted distressing memories or thoughts Anxiety and panic Irritability and anger Emotional numbing or loss of interest in activities or people Problem alcohol or drug use to cope with stress reactions

How Traumatic Stress Reactions Can Affect Families

Stress reactions may interfere with a service members ability to trust and be emotionally close to others. As a result, families may feel emotionally cut off from the service member.

A returning war veteran may feel irritable and have difficulty communicating, which may make it hard to get along with him or her.

A returning veteran may experience a loss of interest in family social activities.

Veterans with PTSD may lose interest in sex and feel distant from their spouses.

Traumatized war veterans often feel that something terrible may happen "out of the blue" and can become preoccupied with trying to keep themselves and family members safe.

Just as war veterans are often afraid to address what happened to them, family members are frequently fearful of examining the traumatic events as well. Family members may want to avoid talking about the trauma or related problems. They may avoid talking because they want to spare the survivor further pain or because they are afraid of his or her reaction.

Family members may feel hurt, alienated, or discouraged because the veteran has not been able to overcome the effects of the trauma. Family members may become angry or feel distant from the veteran.

The Important Role of Families in Recovery

The primary source of support for the returning soldier is likely to be his or her family. Families can help the veteran not withdraw from others. Families can provide companionship and a sense of belonging, which can help counter the veteran‘s feeling of separateness because of his or her experiences. Families can provide practical and emotional support for coping with life stressors. If the veteran agrees, it is important for family members to participate in treatment. It is also important to talk about how the post trauma stress is affecting the family and what the family can do about it. Adult family members should also let their loved ones know that they are willing to listen if the service member would like to talk about war experiences. Family members should talk with treatment providers about how they can help in the recovery effort.

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What is the Difference Between Combat Stress and PTSD?

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, is a recognized persisting reaction to trauma and is a formal psychiatric diagnosis. It is only made by a qualified mental health professional. When the symptoms listed above do not resolve shortly after a deployment, or when they impair the Marine‘s ability to function at home or at work, the Marine may be suffering from PTSD.

What Happens in Treatment for PTSD

Treatment for PTSD focuses on helping the trauma survivor reduce fear and anxiety, gain control over traumatic stress reactions, make sense of war experiences, and function better at work and in the family. A standard course of treatment usually includes:

Assessment and development of an individual treatment plan

Education of veterans and their families about posttraumatic stress and its effects

Training in relaxation methods, to help reduce physical arousal/tension

Practical instruction in skills for coping with anger, stress, and ongoing problems

Detailed discussion of feelings of anger or guilt, which are very common among survivors of war trauma

Detailed discussions to help change distressing beliefs about self and others (e.g., self-blame)

If appropriate, careful, repeated discussions of the trauma (exposure therapy) to help the service member reduce the fear associated with trauma memories

Medication to reduce anxiety, depression, or insomnia

Group support from other veterans often felt to be the most valuable treatment experience Mental health professionals in VA medical centers, community clinics, and Readjustment Counseling Service Vet Centers have a long tradition of working with family members of veterans with PTSD. Couples counseling and educational classes for families may be available. Family members can encourage the survivor to seek education and counseling but should not try to force their loved one to get help. Family members should consider getting help for themselves, whether or not their loved one is getting treatment.

Self-Care Suggestions for Families

Become educated about PTSD.

Take time to listen to all family members and show them that you care.

Spend time with other people. Coping is easier with support from others, including extended family, friends, church groups, or other community groups.

Join or develop a support group.

Take care of yourself. Family members frequently devote themselves totally to those they care for and, in the process, neglect their own needs. Pay attention to yourself. Watch your diet and exercise, and get plenty of rest. Take time to do things that feel good to you.

Try to maintain family routines, such as dinner together, church, or sports outings.

If needed, get professional help as early as possible, and get back in touch with treatment providers if things worsen after treatment has ended.

Resources:

Matsakis, A. (1996). Vietnam wives: Facing the challenges of life with veterans suffering posttraumatic stress. Baltimore, MD: Sidran. Mason, P. (1999). Recovering from the war: A woman's guide to helping your Vietnam vet, your family, and yourself. High Springs, FL: Patience Press.

Websites:National Center for PTSD. http://www.ncptsd.va.gov

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HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, HEALTHY MARINES

Dawn Herring, MS

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Tips and Tools

I. The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

1. Words of affirmation

2. Acts of service

3. Physical touch

4. Quality time

5. Gift-giving

II. His Needs Her Needs Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Dr. Willard F. Harley, JR.

Her Needs: 1. Affection

2. Conversation

3. Transparency

4. Financial Support

5. Family Commitment

His Needs: 1. Sexual fulfillment

2. Recreational companionship

3. A partner who cares for herself physically and emotionally

4. Domestic support

5. Admiration

III. Communication Tips

1. Keep it topic specific and use the ―+-+‖ equation when giving feedback/criticism.

2. Describe feelings using ―I ― statements.

3. Avoid beginning sentences with ―you‖.

4. Commit to date night on a consistent basis.

5. Listen without interrupting or defending.

Websites: 1. 5lovelanguages.com

2. Marriagebuilders.com

3. Laughyourway.com

4. Emdr.com and emdria.org

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Lieutenant General John Kelly was born and raised in Boston, MA. He enlisted in the Marine Corps in

1970, and was discharged as a sergeant in 1972, after serving in an infantry company with the 2nd Marine Division, Camp Lejeune, NC. Following graduation from the University of Massachusetts in 1976, he was commissioned and returned to the 2nd Marine Division where he served as a rifle and weapons platoon commander, company executive officer, assistant operations officer, and infantry company commander. Sea duty in Mayport, FL. followed, at which time he served aboard aircraft carriers USS Forrestal and USS Independence. In 1980, then Captain Kelly transferred to the U.S. Army's Infantry Officer Advanced Course in Fort Benning, GA. After graduation, he was assigned to Headquarters Marine Corps, Washington, DC, serving there from 1981 through 1984, as an assignment monitor. Captain Kelly returned to the 2nd Marine Division in 1984, to command a rifle and weapons company. Promoted to the rank of Major in 1987, he served as the battalion operations officer. In 1987, Major Kelly transferred to the Basic School, Quantico, VA, serving first as the head of the Offensive Tactics Section, Tactics Group, and later assuming the duties of the Director of the Infantry Officer Course. After three years of instructing young officers, he attended the Marine Corps Command and Staff College, and the School for Advanced Warfare, both located at Quantico. Completing duty under instruction and selected for Lieutenant Colonel, he was assigned as Commanding Officer, 1st Light Armored Reconnaissance Battalion, 1st Marine Division, Camp Pendleton, CA. Holding this command position for two years, Lieutenant Colonel Kelly returned to the East Coast in 1994, to attend the National War College in Washington, DC. He graduated in 1995, and was selected to serve as the Commandant's Liaison Officer to the U.S. House of Representatives, Capitol Hill, where he was promoted to the rank of Colonel.

In 1999, Colonel Kelly transferred to joint duty and served as the Special Assistant to the Supreme Allied Commander, Europe, in Mons, Belgium. He returned to the United States in 2001, and was assigned to a third tour of duty at Camp Lejeune, now as the Assistant Chief of Staff G-3 with the 2nd Marine Division. In 2002, selected to the rank of Brigadier General, Colonel Kelly again served with the 1st Marine Division, this time as the Assistant Division Commander. Much of Brigadier General Kelly's two-year assignment was spent deployed in Iraq. He then returned to Headquarters Marine Corps as the Legislative Assistant to the Commandant from 2004 to 2007. Promoted to major general, he returned to Camp Pendleton as the Commanding General, I Marine Expeditionary Force (Forward). The command deployed to Iraq in early 2008 for a year-long mission, replacing II Marine Expeditionary Force (Forward) as Multinational Force-West in Al Anbar and Western Ninewa provinces. He assumed command of Marine Forces Reserve and Marine Forces North in October, 2009.

Lessons From the Bench About Family Violence

Hon. Pam Iles (ret.) has changed the face of victims‘ services throughout California as well as the Nation.

She is a visionary who has dramatically improved the lives of thousands of California residents in her 35 years as a Superior Court Judge and a Deputy District Attorney in Orange County. What is most impressive about Judge Iles is not only the work she has done professionally, but more importantly the programs she is responsible for developing as a volunteer. She took the shortcomings of the court system and founded three non-profit programs that dramatically improve the services received by struggling families. In 1989, Judge Iles founded the Child Abuse Services Team, a state-of-the-art multidisciplinary child abuse investigation team. In 2002, she founded the Family Violence Project, a private non-profit organization dedicated to community education in the areas of teen dating violence, family violence and elder abuse. In 2004, Judge Iles spearheaded the creation of Heroes and Healthy Families conferences in partnership with Marine and Family Services at USMC Camp Pendleton. The Family Violence Project is the sponsoring agency of the Heroes and Healthy Families program, which was designed to educate military personnel recently returning from war, their spouses, and command staff about combat stress and related issues in order to reduce the physical and psychological trauma experienced by military families. Since its inception in 2004, the Heroes and Healthy Families program has been presented to over 9,000 Marines and Sailors across the United States.

Judge Iles is the recipient of numerous awards and honors, including three citations from the Orange County Board of Supervisors for her work on behalf of children and sexual assault victims and one for the development of the Domestic Violence Court; The Governor‘s award for Service to Victims; the Lieutenant Governor‘s award for the Seriously Mentally Ill: the U.S. Department of Justice certificate of achievement for sexual assault awareness. In 1999 she received the Children‘s Friend Award from Child Help USA. She has twice received the Judge of the Year award given by the Orange County Women Lawyers and an award from California Woman‘s Lawyers for her work in the area of family violence. The National Organization of Victims Assistance in Washington, D.C. has recognized her work in the area of domestic violence and child abuse.

Why Do We Hurt the Ones We Love?

Alyce D. LaViolette is a pioneer in the field of Intimate Partner Violence. She is a a visionary who is responsible for

starting one of the first programs in the country for perpetrators of Intimate Partner Violence in 1979. She specializes in Anger Management, Domestic Violence Counseling for Survivors and Perpetrators, and Gender Issues. Alyce maintains a private practice as well as serves as an expert witness for the criminal and family law court. She has worked directly with the military, police and probation departments to create and present a training curriculum about domestic violence. Alyce has published many articles about the impact of domestic violence on women She is the co-author of one of Sage Publication's best-selling books, "It Could Happen to Anyone: Why Battered Women Stay", currently in its second edition. Ms. La Violette has received numerous awards for her work, including the Humanitarian Award from Peace Over Violence, the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Statewide California Coalition on Battered Women, the Ending Violence Award from Su Casa, proclamations from Los Angeles County and the State of California. Alyce recently received a proclamation and was honored by the City of Long Beach for her work in the field of domestic violence.

Spiritual Balance - Dessert with The Puzzle Maker

Phillip “Endel” Lee Jr., National Coordinator, Disaster Relief Chaplaincy: North American Mission Board, Southern

Baptist Convention; Commander, Chaplain Corps, U.S. Navy (Reserve Component). Dr. Lee attended Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary where he acquiring two master degrees (1990, 1998) and a PhD (2000). Private Lee joined the United States Marine Corps Reserves in January of 1982. Assigned to 3rd Force Reconnaissance Company in Mobile, Alabama, he was recognized as the "Alabama Enlisted Marine of the Year" in 1985. In 1987, he transferred to 2nd Battalion, 14th Marines and accepted a direct commission as a Marine Corps Reserve Officer. As a Marine Officer for six years, he functioned as a platoon commander, Naval Gunfire Liaison Officer and executive officer with 14

th Marines. He

also completed the U. S. Army Jumpmaster Course while serving as a platoon commander and commanding officer with 4th Reconnaissance Battalion, A and C Company, in San Antonio, Texas.

Captain Lee completed an inter-service transfer in 1993, receiving a Reserve Officer's Commission in the U. S. Navy Chaplains Corps. As a Navy Chaplain, he has served in assignments with Marine Corps Air Group 41, the Seabees (NMCB 22), the U. S. Coast Guard as the Officer-in-Charge of Marine Expeditionary Force Religious Support Unit (MEFREL PAC), and as a battalion chaplain with two active duty Marine Corps units in Iraq. From January 2007 to June 2008, he served as Officer-in-Charge of the U. S. Coast Guard Religious Support Unit 106 and Deputy to the Chaplain of the Coast Guard for Reserve Matters. His last two assignments since June 2008 include serving as the Deputy Command Chaplain to Naval Special Warfare Development Group in Virginia Beach, Virginia and as the Deputy Force Chaplain for Marine Forces Reserve & Marine Forces North Command where he is currently assigned (since April 2009). Chaplain Lee was engaged in a short-term mobilization in the aftermath of September 11, 2001 as a reserve chaplain assigned to the U. S. Coast Guard supporting Operation Enduring Freedom. In January of 2005, he was mobilized again during Operation Iraqi Freedom to serve with 2nd Marine Expeditionary Force, accepting deployment to Iraq with the responsibilities of providing ministry to Marines and Sailors assigned to two Marine battalions. He also acted as the Deputy Coordinator for Protestant Worship at Camp Fallujah, Iraq. Upon his return from Iraq in August 2005, he was immediately reassigned to serve with the U. S. Coast Guard along the Gulf Coast region in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. In June 2008 he was mobilized again to serve a 10 month period with Naval Special Warfare Development Group in Virginia Beach, Virginia followed by a transfer to Marine Forces Reserve in New Orleans, Louisiana to serve as Deputy Force Chaplain for 15 months before returning to reserve status in September 2010.

Lee‘s military recognitions include: Defense Meritorious Service Medal, Meritorious Service Medal, two Navy Commendation Medals (one for service in Iraq), four Coast Guard Commendation Medals with ‖Operational Device‖ (one awarded for service at "Ground Zero" in New York City following September 11, 2001 and two others for actions during the rescue & recovery periods following Hurricane Katrina), the Depart of Transportation 9-11 Medal, three Navy Achievement Medals, one Coast Guard Achievement Medal, one Coast Guard Commandant‘s Letter of Commendation Ribbon, one Navy Presidential Unit Citation, one Coast Guard Presidential Unit Citation: Katrina, one Secretary of Transportation Outstanding Unit Award with ―Operational Device,‖ one Coast Guard Unit Commendation with ―Operational Device,‖ two Marine Unit Citations, one Marine Corps Reserve Service Medal with bronze star, one Fleet Marine Force Service Ribbon, the National Defense Medal with bronze star, one Afghanistan Campaign Service Medal, one Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary Medal with Marine Corps device; one Global War on Terrorism Service Medal, one Armed Forces Service Medal, one Humanitarian Service Medal, two Sea Service Deployment Ribbons, and the Armed Forces Reserve Medal with silver hour glass (marking twentieth year) and indication of ―3‖ mobilizations.

He earned the Fleet Marine Force Officer Qualification in Jan. 2010; Army Jump Wings in 1984, Army Jumpmaster status, 1990 and Navy Scuba Diver in 1985. He was recognized as the 2010 Reserve Officer Association‘s ―Chaplain of the Year‖ and prayed before the U.S. Congress in February 2010.

Hooked on Adrenaline

Gunnery Sergeant Brad Colbert enlisted in the Marine Corps in November 1995 and attended Marine Corps

Recruit Depot San Diego and was later trained as a rifleman at the School of Infantry where he graduated as a meritorious Lance Corporal in 1996. Following SOI he received orders to 3

rd Marine Division, 3

rd Recon Company. He

graduated the Basic Reconnaissance Course in 1996 and Marine Combatant Dive School in 1997 and deployed with the 31

st MEU, and a SPMAGTF to China. He was meritoriously promoted to Cpl in 1998 and was stationed with 1

st Recon

Company in October 1998. While there he deployed with the 11th MEU in 1999 as a point man, and was promoted to

Sergeant before reenlisting that same year. During that same year he deployed with the 15th MEU as a Team Leader and

participated in Operation Enduring Freedom after September 11th 2001. In 2002, he attended Military Free Fall School

and began preparations to deploy with 1st Recon Battalion. In 2003 he was voted Team Leader of the Year by the Force

Recon Association and deployed to Kuwait and Iraq in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom as a Team Leader. He was combat meritoriously promoted to Staff Sergeant in 2003 and nominated as NCO of the year by the 1

st Marine Division

Association. He attended the Staff Non-Commissioned Officers Course that winter. In 2004 he was the honor graduate of the Winter Mountain Leaders Course and attended Formal School Instructors Course before being assigned to the British Royal Marine Commando Exchange Program in April of 2004. In 2006, he was assigned to 1

st Force Recon Company and

attended the Multi-Mission Parachute System Transition Course before being assigned to 1st Recon Battalion. While

serving as a team leader in the newly created Delta Company, he attended the Emergency Medical Technician Course. In 2007 he was promoted to Gunnery Sergeant and assigned as a Platoon Sergeant in Charlie Company. He deployed to Iraq in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom in 2007 and upon his return served as the Company Gunnery Sergeant for Headquarters and Service Company until being assigned as a Platoon Sergeant for 1

st Platoon, Alpha Company attached

to the 11th MEU. In 2008 he graduated Jumpmaster School, the Dynamic Breachers Course and the Breachers

Instructors Course before deploying with the 11th MEU in 2009. Upon his return in April 2010 he received orders to Ft

Bennning, GA to serve as a jumpmaster instructor. Gunnery Sergeant Colbert‘s personal decorations include the Navy and Marine Corps Commendation Medal with

―V‖ (gold star in lieu of third award), Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal with two gold stars, and the Combat Action Ribbon with gold star.

Lunchtime Presentation

Lieutenant Colonel Mike Corrado graduated from the Citadel in 1992 with a degree in Business Administration.

Commissioned as a Second Lieutenant December 11, 1992, he then attended The Basic School and Infantry Officer‘s Course in Quantico, Virginia. 2dLt Corrado was then assigned as a platoon commander 1st Battalion, 2d Marines, 2d Marine Division from March 1994-December 1994 during which, he participated in Operation Sea Signal, Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. From January 1995-January 1996, 1stLt Corrado served as a platoon commander for MARFOR UNITAS, instructing South America and West African forces on Marine Corps amphibious operations. Shortly after, he left active duty for the Individual Ready Reserve. After being promoted to the rank of Captain in July 1997, he joined the II Marine Expeditionary Force Augmentation Command Element as an assistant operation officer in June 2001. In February 2002, following the September 11, 2001 attacks, he was mobilized to serve as the Assistant Operations Officer for the II MEF Headquarters Group. He served as the Group Operations Officer and the CO, Headquarters and Service Company, II MHG from 2002-2006. He was deployed to Fallujah, Iraq March 2005 through March 2006 during which time he was selected for the Active Reserve Program. Upon return from Iraq, he accepted orders to 24th Marines in Kansas City, Missouri serving as the CO and Inspector Instructor, Headquarters Company 24th Marines. In August 2008, he started his current tour with the G-3, Marine Forces Pacific, Camp H. M. Smith, Hawaii serving as the Reserve Integration Officer. Personal awards include the Bronze Star and Navy Commendation Medal.

Lt.Col Corrado is also a singer/songwriter who recently garnered national radio and television airplay after releasing his latest EP ―Stand‖. The video for the EP‘s title track has been picked up by CMT.com, CMT Pure and is being broadcast to all the troops and families deployed and stationed overseas by the American Forces Television Network. Mike released ―On My Watch Tonight‖ from his 2005 album Falling Awake. The song, which features guest vocals from friend and multi-platinum artist Edwin McCain (I‘ll Be/I Could Not Ask For More) is the story of a Marine's journey from Boot Camp to the front lines, and became an anthem for service men and women around the world. After leaving active duty with the Marines, Mike set aside his rifle for a guitar and set out for four years of life on the road performing 200-250 shows a year. Both as a headliner and in support of such acts as John Mayer, Edwin McCain, Train, Mike established a strong grass roots following. After the September 11, 2001 attacks he was mobilized back to active duty and deployed to Fallujah, Iraq. In June, while in Nashville he appeared in a music video for John Rich then wrapped up the summer opening up for the Black Eyed Peas. In January 2010, Mike began working on ―Stand‖ with veteran producer Noel Golden (matchbox twenty, Edwin McCain and Willie Nelson) and opened for Bon Jovi on the kick off of their ―The Circle‖ world tour. Mike, his story and music have been featured nationally on CNN, ABC, CBS, Rolling Stone Magazine, American Forces Radio & Television. He currently resides in Pearl City, Hawaii with his wife Kate and daughters Olivia and Sophia.

Leading Marines Through Substance Addictions – One Man’s Story

Dr. John “Blackjack” Matthews, LtCol. USMC (ret.) served 22 years on active duty in the USMC, was

wounded twice while serving with 9th Marines in Vietnam, 1965-66. Director of D.I. School, MCRD San Diego, 1968-1969, CO Marine Detachment, USS Hunley (AS 31), 1969-1971. Operations Officer 2nd Tank Battalion, 1973-1975, Operations Officer 2nd Marines, 1975, Operations Officer BLT 3/2, 1976-1977, Executive Officer MABS 14, MAG 14 2

nd

MAW 1978-1980 Operations Officer 8th Marines, 1980, Operations Officer 24th MAU, 1980-1982, Commanding Officer BLT 3/8, 1982-1983 and XO 8th Marines, 1983. Instructor for the Command and Staff College, 1983-1986 and taught English Courses at Washington State University. He is currently the Associate Dean of Academics and a Faculty Advisor to the Command and Staff College. Dr. Matthews is a highly sought after speaker and teacher, who travels throughout the United States sharing his recovery story with compassion, poignancy and humor. His decorations and awards include: Legion of Merit, Purple Heart w/Gold Star, Meritorious Service Medal, Navy Achievement Medal, Combat Action Ribbon, Lebanese Order of the Cedar, Norwegian National Defense Medal w/Laurel, the University of Notre Dame Father Corby Award and the General Leonard F. Chapman Medallion.

Suicide – A Whole Different Kind of Combat

Major General Mark Graham became the Deputy Chief of Staff, G-3/5/7, U.S. Army Forces Command, on Sept.

18, 2009. In this position, he oversees the plans, operations and training for Army forces stationed in the Continental United States and ensured conventional forces are prepared for worldwide deployment. He and his wife, Carol, champion military and civilian efforts to promote mental health and suicide-prevention awareness. To honor the memory of their two sons, the Grahams established the Jeffrey C. and Kevin A. Graham Memorial Fund to provide the ―Question, Persuade, Refer‖ suicide prevention program at the University of Kentucky. The Grahams also helped launch the Jeffrey and Kevin Graham Memorial Endowed Lectureship in Psychology for the study of depression and suicide prevention at Cameron University in Lawton, Okla. Additionally, they support the ongoing efforts of the Colorado Springs, Colo., ―Jeff and Kevin Graham Memorial Crisis Hotline‖. Major General Graham was commissioned a second lieutenant of field artillery in December 1977 at Murray State University, Ky. Spanning over 32 years, Major General Graham has served in several key command and staff positions in the United States, Germany and Korea. Past assignments include artillery battalion command at Fort Sill, Okla.; brigade command in California where he was the first active-duty Army Colonel to command a National Guard brigade in peacetime; commander of the Battlefield Coordination Det, Osan Korea; chief of staff and later deputy commander of the U.S. Army Field Artillery Center and Fort Sill; executive officer to the U.S. Forces Korea Commander; and as the deputy commanding general of 5

th U.S. Army where he supported evacuation and relief operations following Hurricanes Katrina

and Rita. His most recent position was as the Commander of Division West (First Army) and Fort Carson, Colo. In addition to his Bachelor‘s degree in political science, Major General Graham holds a Master‘s of Business Administration from Oklahoma City University and a Master‘s in National Security and Strategic Studies from the National Defense University. He is also a graduate of the U.S. Army Command and General Staff College and the National War College. Major General Graham has received numerous military awards to include the Distinguished Service Medal, the Bronze Star Medal and the Humanitarian Service Medal.

Carol Graham is the wife of Major General Mark Graham. In the last seven years, the Graham‘s tragically lost both of

their sons. Her youngest son Kevin, a University of Kentucky Senior Army ROTC scholarship cadet, was studying to be an Army doctor when he died by suicide on June 21, 2003. Kevin was being treated for depression but had stopped taking his medication. Carol‘s oldest son Jeffrey was a scholarship student that graduated from the University of Kentucky in May 2003 with a degree in civil engineering, and was commissioned a lieutenant in the US Army as an Armor officer. Although the Army offered Jeff a position in a non-deploying unit because of the death of his younger brother, Jeff said he needed to be with soldiers and wanted to serve his country. Jeff was killed while leading his platoon on a dismounted patrol in Khaldiyah, Iraq on 19 February 2004. Jeff spotted an IED taped to a guardrail and warned his platoon moments

before it exploded. Together with her husband, the Graham‘s have been nationally recognized for their efforts in suicide prevention and behavioral health. Carol is a well respected speaker throughout the United States as she helps others survive grief and understand depression in an effort to prevent suicide. She is an advocate for wounded soldiers and is committed to raising awareness about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Traumatic Brain Injury. In 2009, Ms. Graham was an integral part in the establishment of the ‗Jeff and Kevin Graham‘ El Paso County/Colorado Springs Crisis Hotline which is part of the national suicide prevention hotline network. Carol was instrumental in raising awareness for depression and suicide prevention for the families and Soldiers at Fort Sill, Oklahoma, Fort Sam Houston, Texas and Fort Carson, Colorado and the surrounding communities. Carol was appointed to the National Board of Directors of the Suicide Prevention Action Network USA 2006-2009 and currently serves as the Military Survivor Support Representative for the Suicide Prevention Action Network. Ms. Graham has received numerous awards for her tireless, compassionate, and courageous work.

Building Resilience

Sgt Major James Booker was born in 1962 at the Navy Submarine Base Groton, Conn. He enlisted in Fort Wayne

Indiana on 18 Jan 1983. He graduated from Recruit Training in San Diego and Infantry Training School as a basic infantryman (0311). He served with the 3rd Marine Division from August 1983 to August 1985 a Team leader and Squad Leader with the Sensor Control and Management Platoon. Sergeant Booker reported to 1st Battalion, 4th Marines in 29 Palms and served as a Radar Team Leader and Scout Sniper from September 1985 to October 1986. He reported to MCRD San Diego and was as a Junior and Senior Drill Instructor from January 1987 to January 1989. Staff Sergeant Booker reported to the First Force Reconnaissance Company and served as Platoon Sergeant from February 1989 to May 1993. He made two deployments to the Persian Gulf with I Marine Expeditionary Force, and the 11th Marine Expeditionary Unit in support of Operations Desert Storm, Desert Shield, Desert Stay, and Land Pakistani Forces in Somalia. SSgt Booker served from May 1993 to February 1996 with I MEF Special Operations and Training Group in several billets including Staff Non Commissioned Officer in Charge (SNCOIC) of the Urban Reconnaissance & Surveillance, Urban Sniper Course, and Special Missions Branch. GySgt Booker reported to the 1st Marine Division in February 1996 and served as the SNCOIC of the 1st Marine Division Scout Sniper Course until April 1998. He remained in the Division as the First Sergeant of India Company 3rd Bn 1st Marines deploying to the Persian Gulf and North Africa with the 15th MEU in support of Operation Southern Watch and the US Embassy bombing in Kenya. From May 1999 until July 2002 he was the 1stSgt of Inspector-Instructor Staff Ordinance Maintenance Company Waco, Texas. Returning to the 1st Marine Division in July 2002, 1stSgt Booker deployed with 5th Marine Regiment to Iraq and was promoted there on 1 May 2003. He remained in the Division as the Sergeant Major of 2nd Bn 4th Marines from June 2003 to October 2004, deploying to Ar Ramadi, Iraq. He was the SgtMaj of 3rd Assault Amphibian Battalion from December 2004 until September of 2005. Reporting to Ft Sill, Oklahoma he served as the Sergeant Major of the Marine Artillery Detachment. He reported to the 2nd Marine Division in March of 2008 as the Sergeant Major of 6th Marine Regiment. Regimental Combat Team 6 deployed to AO East Iraq from January until October of 2009. In May of 2010 SgtMaj Booker reported to New Orleans as the Sergeant Major of the 4th Marine Logistics Group. SgtMaj Booker‘s personal awards include the Silver Star, Legion of Merit, Bronze Star with Combat V, Combat Action ribbon (second award).

Healthy Relationships Dawn Herring, M.S. is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 20 years of experience. She currently works at

Marine Corps Base Camp Pendleton as a clinician in Counseling Services, treating service members with issues related to family violence and combat stress. In the past, she has worked aboard Marine Air Ground Task Force Training Command, Twentynine Palms, with civilian law enforcement, and in the private sector, treating couples and families. Dawn has extensive training and public speaking experience in the areas of healthy relationships, family violence prevention, trauma and stress management. She is trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, a first line treatment for trauma.

MARFORRES POINT OF CONTACT LIST

Toll Free Number: 1-866-305-9058 Fax: (504) 678-1082

Website: http://www.mfr.usmc.mil/hq/mccs

Director: Ms. Tracy McLaughlin, tracy.mclaughlin@usmc.mil, 504-678-4852 Admin Chief: Sgt Ginger Chaney, ginger.chaney@usmc.mil, 504-678-6585

Marine and Family Services

Programs Managed: Tuition Assistance (TA), Substance Abuse Control Officer (SACO) training & supplies, Transitional Assistance Management Program (TAMP), Information and Referral, EFMP, Behavioral Health

Director: Ms. Sandy Robinson, sandy.robinson@usmc.mil, 504-678-8248 Education Program Specialist: Ms. Cynthia Nothstein, mfreducation@usmc.mil, 504-678-4396

Semper Fit

Programs Managed: Physical Fitness, Health Promotion, Single Marine Program (SMP), Recreation,

Leaugue Fees/ Sporting Events Director: Mr. Davis Murphy, davis.murphy@usmc.mil, 504-678-8214

Health Promotion Coordinator: Ms. Kathleen Nolan, kathleen.nolan@usmc.mil, 504-678-5281 Program Coordinator: Mr. Rick Martinez, rick.martinez1@usmc.mil, 504-678-4393

Marine Corps Family Team Building (MCFTB)

Programs Managed: Family Readiness Program Training, Lifestyle Insights Networking Knowledge and Skills(L.I.N.K.S.), Readiness and Deployment Support Training, Lifeskills Training

Director: Mrs. Connie Bryant, connie.bryant@usmc.mil, 504-914-9159 Deputy Director: Mr. Adrin Cannon, adrin.cannon@usmc.mil, 504-678-0085

Marine Forces Reserve ● 4400 Dauphine Street ● Building 601, Room 5B419 ● New Orleans, LA 70146 PHONE 1.866.305.9058 ● FAX 504.678.1082

www.mfr.usmc.mil/hq/mccs

INFORMATION AND REFERRAL PHONE NUMBERS AS FOLLOWS:

MilitaryOneSource - Provides resources and support to active-duty, National Guard, and Reserve service members and their families anywhere in the world. The program is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at no cost to users.

Website – www.militaryonesource.com Phone – 1-800-342-9647

DSTRESS - is a pilot program for active duty, Reserve, veterans and retirees, as well as their families, in the following areas: WA, CA, NV, AZ, ID, MT, NM, UT, CO, IA, KS, MN, MO, ND, NE, SD, WY, HI, AK and west Texas (Fort Bliss, El Paso area). Callers will speak with veteran Marines, our former corpsmen, and other licensed behavioral health counselors who have been specifically trained in Marine Corps culture and ethos. If successful, this pilot will be rolled out Marine Corps wide in 2011. Website – www.dstressline.com Phone – 1-877-476-7734

Marine Forces Reserve Psychological Health Outreach Program (MFR PHOP) – Provides Marine Forces Reserve service members full access to appropriate health care services, increase resilience, and facilitate recovery, which is essential to maintaining a ready military forces. Website – N/A Phone – a. Northeast Region – (978) 796-2306 or (978) 796-3633 (Devens, MA) CT, DE, ME, MA, NH, NJ, NY, PA, RI, and VT b. Northwest Region – (253) 477-2611 or (253)477-2612 (Fort Lewis, WA) AK, CO, ID, KS, MN, MT, NV, NE, ND, OR, SD, UT, WA, and WY c. Atlantic Region – (678) 655-7177 or (678) 655-7179 (Marietta, GA) DC, FL, GA, MD, NC, PR, SC,VA, and WV d. Midwest Region – (816) 843-3675 or (816) 843-3678 (Kansas City, MO) IA, IL, IN, MI, MO, OH, and WI e. South Region – (504) 678-6188 or (504) 678-6186 (New Orleans, LA) AL, AR, KY, LA, MS, OK, TN, and TX f. Southwest Region – (650) 244-9806 ext 1007 or (650) 244- 9806 ext 1503 (San Bruno, CA) AZ, CA, HI, NM

SAMHSA - works to improve the quality and availability of substance abuse prevention, alcohol and drug addiction treatment, and mental health services. Website - http://www.samhsa.gov/ Phone – 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

MFR MCCS – Provides information and referral on everyday issues such as finding childcare, dealing with stress, helping children deal with a parent‘s deployment, reunion and reintegration after combat duty, making a PCS move, creating a budget, caring for older relatives, making large-scale consumer purchases, and finding services in the local and military communities, etc. Website – N/A Phone – 1-866-305-9058

Tri-Care - Provides information on your military health benefits. As a military family member covered

under TRICARE, you may go directly to mental health providers in the TRICARE network for care for anxiety, depression, or other serious emotional issues. Website - www.tricare.mil Phone - North Region TRICARE 1-877-874-2273 South Region TRICARE 1-800-444-5445 West Region TRICARE 1-800-558-1746

INFORMATION AND REFERRAL PHONE NUMBERS AS FOLLOWS:

Navy Marine Corps Relief Society - Can provide financial training for all military families, and

emergency loans for active military. Website - www.nmcrs.org Phone – N/A (Go to website for nearest location information)

American Red Cross – Provides domestic disaster relief, community services that help the needy, support and comfort for military members and their families, the collection, processing and distribution of lifesaving blood and blood products, educational programs that promote health and safety, and international relief and development programs. Website - www.redcross.org Phone - 1-877-272-7337

Our Military Kids – Provides tangible support to children of deployed National Guard and Reserve personnel as well as to children of severely injured service members through grants for enrichment activities and tutoring. Such activities help these children cope with the stress of having a parent in a war zone or recovering from injury at home. Our Military Kids grants are made to honor the sacrifices that military families make and to ensure that their children have access to sports, fine arts, or academic tutoring programs. Website – www.ourmilitarykids.org Phone – 1-866-691-6654

Afterdeployment.org – Is the DoD-response to the 2006/2007 National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) requiring an internet-based platform focused on psychological health issues often experienced following a deployment. Website - www.afterdeployment.org Phone - 866-966-1020

VA Mental Health - Office of Mental Health Services (OMHS) internet site for Veterans, their family members, and community mental health providers.

Website - www.mentalhealth.va.gov/ Phone - 1-800-827-1000

Vet Centers - provide individual, group and family counseling to all veterans who served in any combat zone. Services are also available for their family.

Website – www.vetcenters.va.gov Phone - 1-800-827-1000

National Center for PTSD - The National Center for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) conduct cutting edge research and apply resultant findings to: "Advance the Science and Promote Understanding of Traumatic Stress." Fact sheets, videos, and more about trauma to help answer your questions about PTSD and related issues.

Website - www.ncptsd.va.gov Phone - 1-800-273-8255 Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Hotline/ Support Websites - www.PTSDhotline.com; http://www.ptsdsupport.net; www.healingcombattrauma.com Phone - 1-800-293-1438

The Brain Line - Traumatic brain injury resource. Brain injury facts, information, symptoms and support. Resources for preventing, treating, and living with brain injury.

Website – www.brainline.org Phone – N/A (Go to website for nearest location information)

INFORMATION AND REFERRAL PHONE NUMBERS AS FOLLOWS:

Defense Center of Excellence - The Outreach Center answers questions and provides tools, tips and resources about psychological health and traumatic brain injury 24/7 365 days a year for members of all military services (including the National Guard and Reserve), families, health care providers, military leaders and employers. It is staffed by psychological health consultants and nurses with advanced degrees and expertise in psychological health and traumatic brain injury issues. Information and resources can be accessed by telephone, website, email or real time chat with a health resource consultant. All information and referrals are provided without charge.

Website - www.dcoe.health.mil Phone - 866-966-1020

National Resource Directory - The National Resource Directory (NRD) provides access to services and resources at the national, state and local levels that support recovery, rehabilitation and community reintegration. Website - www.nationalresourcedirectory.gov/

Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

Military Health System - Active duty service members, retirees, and their families benefit every day from the Military Health System's commitment to care. From online mental health resources to research initiatives that determine health risks to the communication efforts that inform on the most up-to-date medical news, the MHS is an organization dedicated to keeping every current and retired service member healthy and strong.

Website - www.health.mil Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

Real Warriors - The campaign features stories of real service members who have sought treatment and are continuing to maintain successful military or civilian careers. In addition, DCoE established the DCoE Outreach Center, a 24/7 call center staffed by health resource consultants to provide confidential answers, tools, tips and resources about psychological health and traumatic brain injury. The Outreach Center can be reached via e-mail at resources@dcoeoutreach.org. Website - www.realwarriors.net Phone - 866-966-1020

Military Home Front - The Department of Defense website for a wide range of quality-of-life information. For information related to deployment issues, click on "Troops and Families," then on "Deployment Readiness." Website - www.militaryhomefront.dod.mil Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

National Guard Bureau Joint Services Support - Provides access to National Guard resources in your state, information on deployment events in your area, and links to the National Guard Family Program, Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program, Employer Support of the Guard and Reserve, and more. Website - www.jointservicessupport.org Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

National Guard Family Assistance Center – These centers are in multiple locations within every state to support all military families before, during, and after deployment. Find the center nearest you by going to www.jointservicessupport.org and click on ―Find Local Resources‖. Website - www.jointservicessupport.org Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

INFORMATION AND REFERRAL PHONE NUMBERS AS FOLLOWS:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or

emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you. Website - www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Phone - 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

NACCRRA - Helps military families find affordable, quality child care. Website - www.naccrra.org/MilitaryPrograms Phone - 1800-424-2246

Military Child Education Coalition - Helps military families ensure quality educational opportunities for children affected by relocation, family separation, and transition. Click on "Publications" to find deployment support resources for families and schools. Website - www.militarychild.org Phone – 1-800-953-1923

National Military Family Association - Information for military families on a wide range of issues. Find deployment information under "Get Info" and "Publications.". Website - www.militaryfamily.org Phone - N/A (Go to website for more information)

ADDITIONAL ONLINE RESOURCES: Alcoholics Anonymous www.aa.org The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) www.thehotline.org The National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE www.rainn.org National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence Hotline 1-800-622-2255 www.ncadd.org National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-4-A-CHILD www.childhelp.org

Military Significant Others and Spouse Support http://www.militarysos.com/ Foster Care for Military Pets https://www.netpets.org/militarypet/foster.php Spouse Buzz http://www.spousebuzz.com/

Military Kids Blog

www.militarykidsblog.com

Healing Combat Trauma

www.healingcombattrauma.com

40 blogs for PTSD support

www.nursingschools.net/blog/2010/10/40-

excellent-blogs-4-ptsd-support/

Certificate of Completion

TO: ____________________________________________

Given this day, 08 February, 2011, in recognition of your attendance and successful

completion of the 8 hour “Heroes and Healthy Families” Leadership Awareness

Conference. The training issues covered in this conference included combat stress,

healthy relationships, family violence, alcohol, drugs and risky behaviors, effective

communications and financial and life skills.

Tracy McLaughlin, Director Judge Pamela Iles (ret.)

Marine & Family Services Orange County Superior Court

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ffuuttuurree ttrraaiinniinnggss.. Demographics: Please answer the following questions so that we can ensure that our assessment results reflect the views of a wide-

variety of individuals: Gender: ____________ Age: ____________ Are you married: Yes No Do you have children: Yes No

Instructions: For each of the questions that appear below, please check the box that most reflects your answer.

Question True False 1. I am more likely to feel comfortable discussing the topics of combat stress, suicide,

family violence and sexual assault with my Marines and Sailors as a result of attending this seminar.

2. I feel that attending this seminar has made me a better Marine. 3. I am more likely to report suspected incidences of domestic violence, sexual assault

and/or child abuse in my troops as a result of attending this seminar.

4. I feel better equipped to recognize the signs of alcohol abuse in my troops as result of this seminar.

5. I now know who to call if I think one of my Marines or Sailors may be suicidal or engaged in high-risk behavior as a result of attending this seminar..

6. I am more likely to send my Marines/ Sailors for help earlier now than I would have before attending this seminar.

7. As a result of attending this seminar I feel better equipped to provide my troops with referrals and resources.

8. I am more likely to intervene with my Marines or Sailors as a result of attending this seminar.

9.The speaker/speakers I found most interesting: _________________________________________________________

Why? ____________________________________________________________________________________

10. As a leader: a) How did this day help you? ______________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________ b) What additional topics would you like to see covered? _________________________________________

11. Suggestions for improvement/other comments: ________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________________ 12. How did we do overall?: Please circle one (1 = needs improvement, 5 = excellent) 1 2 3 4 5 Comments: ________________________________________________________________________________________

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Thanks for your help!