What Does It Mean to Become a Mentor?Few bonds in life are more influential than those between a young person and caring adults. As you begin your journey toward becoming a mentor, you will need to thoroughly understand the role of mentoring. Look at a role you are already familiar with. Most of us can remember a teacher, a boss or a coach who has made a positive difference in our lives. Those people wore many hats. They acted as role models, cheerleaders, policy enforcers, advocates, and friends. As a mentor you will wear these same hats. Mentors understand the need to assume a number of different roles during the course of a mentoring relationship, but successful mentors also share the same basic qualities:

s A sincere desire to be involved with a young person s Respect for young people s Active listener, validating and empathizing s Willing to accept training s See solutions and opportunities s Be flexible and open

As you and your mentee begin your relationship, exploring values, interests and goals, you will find yourself making a difference and having a positive effect on their life. What you may also be surprised to see is that you will be learning more about yourself, too. Mentoring doesn’t just affect the young person. Mentoring is a shared opportunity for learning and growth. Many mentors say that the rewards they gain are as substantial as those for their mentees. Being a mentor enables the mentor to:

s Achieve personal growth, learn more about themselves s Improve their self-esteem and feel they are making a difference s Gain a better understanding of other cultures and develop a greater appreciation for diversity s Feel more productive and have a better attitude at work s Enhance their relationships with their own children s Have fun!

Good mentors are willing to take time to get to know their mentees, to learn new things that are important to the young person, and even to be changed by their relationship. Accept the challenges and rewards of mentoring a young person and experience the benefits that will last a lifetime for both of you.

Summer 2014

INSIDE THIS ISSUE:New Board Members 2Executive Director Notes 3Mediation & Peace Project 3Rubies & Roses Ball 4Thank You to our Donors 5-6Wellness Fair 6 Youth Worker Day 7

“I am not a teacher, but an awakener.”

Robert Frost

Thank you! To those who made the

Rubies & Roses Ball

a great success!

You can plant seeds for a more promising future!

CYFS INSPIR ATIONSProviding Hope & Healing Since 1970

...Every Child Matters!

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Welcome New Board Members

Vida Ice started her business in 2003 as an Independent Consultant with Arbonne. In 2005, she became Regional Vice President, and in 2013 her husband, Daryl, joined her. Vida has a degree in Biology from Oregon State University and worked for many years as a pharmaceutical rep, receiving her certification through the CMR Institute of Virginia. She was featured in Success from Home magazine. Together, she and Daryl enjoy volunteering with organizations that are meaningful to them, as well as coaching others to create a balanced, healthy lifestyle. They live in Oregon wine country and have three children.

John Danese is a Newberg resident of 10 years and business owner. He sits on the board of Next Step Ministries (Chair), YMCA, and past board member of CYFS. He is a member of the Chehalem Valley Chamber of Commerce (Ambassador), Seaside Chamber of Commerce, Sherwood Chamber of Commerce, Early Bird Rotary in Newberg. Past affiliates: President, Junior Baseball OR, Tualatin Valley Football League, Wellnitz Award, Youth Coach for 35 years. He is married to Anna and has four children: Michael, Greg, Mimi and Jack.

Father Tim Bushy is the Director of Mission Integration and Spiritual Care at Providence Newberg Medical Center, serving the Yamhill County area. Father Bushy is a native of Grand Forks, North Dakota, where he attended the University of North Dakota and obtained a BA in Journalism with emphasis in Public Relations and Advertising. He was ordained to the priesthood in 1983 and was a priest of the Diocese of Crookston, MN. He enjoys life, family and friends, and in his spare time he likes to exercise, read and travel.

Welcome New Director of Development

Chehalem Youth & Family Services

If you haven’t heard, there’s a grass roots local community effort to save our pool! The Chehalem Aquatic and Fitness Center is important to our community for many reasons, and this hits home for CYFS because the center provides our residential youth a safe environment to enjoy water activities.As you may already be aware, the pool infrastructure is falling apart and the equipment is antiquated. The center needs extensive repair and space upgrades to continue to adequately serve our community.We support this cause, so please help us spread the

word about the Save The Pool Initiative through word of mouth and social media. Take a moment to “Like” their Facebook page and follow them on Twitter and Instagram. Please visit http://savechehalempool.com/ and join the effort!

please saVe The pool!

Be Our Guest for aComplimentary Lunch

At one of our youth homes in Newberg!Mondays Noon – 1pm

October 13th

December 8th

February 9th

March 9th

April 13th

May 11th

CYFs Board of DirectorsRobert Flaherty, ChairmanKarl Hughes, Vice ChairmanMark Warner, Secretary David Hansen, TreasurerVida Ice, MemberFather Tim Bushy, MemberDeborah Cathers-Seymour, Executive Director, Ex Officio

FoCh Board of Directors(Friends of Chehalem House)

Bruce Alford, ChairmanLarry Haverman, Secretary, TreasurerDeborah Cathers-Seymour, Executive Director, Ex OfficioShirley Long, Recorder, Ex OfficioRon Dingman, Ex Officio

Yoop! advisory BoardDoug Beck, ChairmanDebbie Jetton Sherry LewisDeborah Cathers-Seymour, Executive Director, Ex Officio

lucky Finds advisory BoardStacie MorrellRuth StokesbaryLinda Dorner

Amanda GreeneBeth KoschmannDeborah Cathers-Seymour

CYFs advisory Board of ReferenceBarbara PalmerDeborah Cathers-Seymour, Executive Director, Ex Officio

sanford Deamantes advisory BoardDeborah Cathers-Seymour, TrusteeRuth Stokesbary, TrusteeTara Sanderson, Trustee

there were no findings. As a result of this achievement, CYFS has been invited to expand its services to all ages under OHP in partnership with a network of other mental health service providers. We are honored by this trust and look forward to being of service providing hope & healing to all who desire restoration, renewal and reconciliation. Our gratitude and admiration belong to the following team: Dr. Holly Hetrick; Dr. Sergiy Barsukov; Dr. Cori Brandstetter, Dr. Justin Westbrook; Todd Karakashian, PMHNP-BC; Dr. Tara Sanderson; Ali Toedtemeier, Clinical Services Manager; Hannah Irish, Clinical Services Coordinator; and Lorrie Dyrdahl, CMA-AAMA®, Medical Billing Specialist.Recognition is also due to the excellent technical consults provided by Gloria Martinis, Mental Health Specialist, Yamhill County HHS, Family & Youth Programs, and Silas Halloran-Steiner, Director, Yamhill County Health and Human Services Department.With regrets we said good-bye to Lori Anderson, CYFS’s past Development & Gifts Manager. Lori had devoted her heart and soul for four years to making CYFS not only Newberg’s “friend in need, but a friend indeed”. Lori has rejoined the Hazelden team. Her replacement, John Danese, is well known to Newberg, Sherwood and surrounding areas as a service minded Rotarian, Chamber member and member of his church. He is deeply touched by the mission and values of CYFS, but mostly by the youth in residence. John knows first hand the effects of trauma and wants to lend his formidable leadership and strengths to ensuring the future of CYFS is secure.Please help us Welcome John! – John’s team now includes Bridget Hunsinger and Laura Looney. Stop by and meet these talented and truly wonderful people. Don’t be surprised if they invite you to join the Circle of Caring people who are breaking down walls of poverty, fear and suffering to build a culture of peace through reconciliation, renewal and restored relationships.

The Mediation and Peace Project (MAPP) has been active in conducting Peer Mediation & Conflict Resolution Workshops throughout the community. The seven events trained 337 people. “Train the Trainers” workshop was geared toward the parents and caregivers of adolescents. The goal of this workshop was to train them how to teach the skills they learned to the youth and children that they are responsible for. All curriculums are evidence based. The purpose is to equip and build strong young leaders who then facilitate building peace within Newberg and Dundee families, schools and communities.

Partnering with Chehalem Counseling Center: Newberg Noon Rotary Club, Newberg early Bird Rotary Club, Jubitz Foundation

Mediation and peace project (Mapp)“To equip and build strong young leaders who then facilitate building Peace within Newberg and Dundee families, schools, and their communities.”

Message from The executive DirectorThe 3r’s at CYFs

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Wow, lots of changes since our last newsletter – fasten your seat belts folks!After a thorough “hair combing” by a review team of professionals, CYFS’s Chehalem Counseling Center received high accolades with NO findings for corrective action. A veteran administrator on the team commented she had never participated in a licensing review certifying accreditation in which

Since the beginning of 2014, Chehalem Counseling Center (CCC) has provided 194 MAPP scholarships, a $40.00 value each. CCC is in the midst of scheduling additional workshops in 2014. Please contact us if you are interested in hosting a workshop for your school, youth group, etc. at 503-538-4874 or atoedemeir@cyfs.net.

“We are honored by this trust and look forward to being of service providing

hope & healing to all who desire restoration, renewal and reconciliation”

Thank you to all of our INCREDIBLE Sponsors, WONDERFUL volunteers and AMAZING supporters who made this night a huge SUCCESS!

Rubies & Roses Ball

“Mystery Box” necklace by Ken & Daughter Jewelers, Newberg

Many donors for the silent and live auctions.

Outstanding Music by Jack Quinby and his band.

Fine wines from: Atticus, Artisanal, Arbor Brook and Natalie’s Estate. Handcrafted Beer: Chehalem Valley Brewing Co.

Great food by Janet & Martin, The Rogue Gourmet.

. . . and an engagement announcement! Laura Pickar & Bruce Alford . . . Congratulations!

Thank you all for coming!

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A special thank you from Deborah Cathers-Seymour, CYFS Executive Director, to our presenting sponsors: Scott Springer and Kelly Hagglund..

Rubies & Rosesa special “Thank You” to ourspoNsoRs aND DoNoRs

presenting sponsorThe Kelly Group

20 Carat RubyFred Meyer

15 Carat RubyScott & Michelle SpringerUBS Financial

10 Carat RubyA-decAndrew Physical TherapyMikes Medical PharmacyMt. West InvestmentPrive Vineyard & Winery5 Carat RubyFirst Federal BankNewberg Family DentalProvidence Medical Center

1 Carat RubyAttrells Funeral ChapelHagan Hamilton InsuranceJack QuinbyPremier Community BankSherwood YMCASusan Schibel, State Farm

Thank you to our InKind sponsors!American Family InsuranceBob BucklesChehalem Park & RecreationChehalem Valley Brewing Co.Chehalem Valley Dance AcademyFrench PrairieFull Sail AleGail Watson Printing & DesignJeff VanBergen PhotographyKelly BuxtonLegacy FarmsLewis Audio VideoNap’s ThriftwayNewberg Fire DepartmentShowcase of FlowersTire FactoryWest Chehalem Friends ChurchWilcoMystery Box sponsorThank you Ken & Daughter Jewelryfor providing this gorgeous necklace for the Mystery Boxes!Wine Wall DonorsArborBrook VineyardsArtisanal Wine CellarsAtticus WineNatalie’s Estate Winery

Committee MembersLori AndersonTonya BrunickDeborah Cathers-SyemourSally DallasStacy GingerichAmanda GreeneDr. Holly HetrickKate McLearnAli ToedtemeierJack QuinbyNena Urciel-KingVolunteersMary BrunickTonay BrunickJim and Anita MarbleShirley LongLaura and Paul LooneyBrenna WitherspoonYOOP!Stacy GingerichOlivia DonalsonDr. Holly HetrickStephen HaneyKate McLearnJohn TurnerAli ToedtemeierBrian JohnsThere is no elevator

to sucess. You have to take the stairs . . .

Thank you to enigma photography & Bob Buckles for donating your time and talent to photograph the event!

11 serve appetizers at Rubies & Roses

Arriving dressed for success with newly acquired food handlers cards in hand, these eleven youth learned new catering skills and fine dining etiquette. Many of the youth had no prior work experience, which made this a valuable skills building opportunity. The event caterer was very impressed and recommended that the youth apply for future opportunities with their company.

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silent auction DonorsAbby’s PizzaAlder Creek Kayak & CanoeAnam CaraAnn Marie HathawayArchery SummitArt Elements GalleryBad KittiesBulwinkles Fun CenterDDS Christopher BreckeChehalem Dance AcademyChehalem Glenn Golf CourseChehalem Park & RecreationCritter CabanaDobbes Family EstateFive Gables PhotographyGopher PatrolImagine PlayInn at WecomaJanis JewelryJazzercise NewbergJem 100Justin Hovey-Timber ticketsKate McLearn Jewelry DesignLe CadeauLes SchwabLongplay WineLuckee DutchMary Fast PhotographyMorris Carpet CleaningMya’s SpaNatalie’s Estate WineryNewberg Ace HardwareNewberg BakeryNewberg Fire DepartmentNewberg Jewelry StudioNorthwest Quilters GuildOaks Amusement ParkOne Horse StudioOpen Hands Massage by Katie WeaverOregon International AirshowPortland Center Stage-Gerding TheaterPortland Children’s MuseumPogy’s SubsPortland Trailblazers

Purple CowRed Hills SalonROCO WinerySail Scovare/Scovare YachtsSherwood Dance AcademySherwood Family ChiropracticShowcase of FlowersSnap FitnessSusan Schibel-State FarmThe Four GracesTrail BlazersTyler’s AutomotiveVida IceWaste ManagementOMSIWillamette Valley VineyardsWine Country Farm B&B

DonorsMarv & Deborah AbeJudy AldredArbor Oaks Terrace Memory CareBruce ArnoldBank of AmericaBBF Custom Products, Inc.Children’s Medical ClinicIidee DarbySanford DeamantesKelly DePaoloBrian DoyleMary & Jim FisterBob FlahertyMike & Christy FlemingPatricia FlitcroftFriends of Chehalem HouseAugustine 7 Maureen GonzalesLewis GoslinNorma GreenCharlie & Dixie HancockDavid & Jodi HansenKeith HasbrouckCheri HerrKathleen HeimullerHolly Hetrick

Dave HuberDeana HyltonBen JaquithJob GrowersGary & Peggy KilburgLewis & Stark Co., LLCDennis MelcherRick & Trish KindbergMargaret LeMasterDennis & Heather LewisKaren McGillivrayDawn MillerNewberg United Methodist ChurchNorman’s FloorcoveringOR DHS AmeriCorps HOPEOregon International Air ShowArt & Barbara PalmerMarion PettisAlexis RehmHugh ReillyMike & Terry Savas2nd Street Community ChurchRoger SmithSoroptimist International of McMinnvilleState Farm InsuranceGregg & Angie StevensT.H. Johansen FamilyKris TribysTruistUnited Methodist QuiltersUnited Way of the Mid-Willamette ValleyRoni VergetsDavid & Corinne WaterburyPam WattsDean & Pat WerthJim & Barb WesterveltKim & John WheatonPatty WhiteIrene WoodsRon & Cathi Young

Wellness Workshop Body, Mind and SpiritOn April 3, 2014, CYFS and Arbonne International joined together to provide a three part Wellness Workshop at the Chehalem Cultural Center. The workshop was free to the community and very well attended. Thank you to everyone who participated in this event, especially the workshop leaders.

WELLNESS WORKSOPSelf-Esteem & The Bodyby Vida Ice, Arbonne Independent Consultant

Self-Esteem & Self-Care of the Mindby Tara Sanderson, PsyD, MBA

Spiritual Self-Care by Dr. Robert “Bob” Flaherty, Pastor atFirst Methodist Church & CYFS Board Chairman

Thank you arbonne International for sponsoring this fine event!

Thank you to our Youth Workers

Your volunteer hours are essential to fulfilling the mission of CYFS! We have many opportunities that will enrich your life AND the lives of others! Contact us today! 503-538-4874

Volunteers Needed!

force in their communities.CYFS partnered with Thank a Youth Worker Day this year to provide goodie bags and T-shirts declaring the staff of CYFS as “CYFS Service SUPER HEROES!”Thanks to the wonderful work done by Isaac and his team at Pure Promotions for our T-shirts, and thank you to the Employee Celebration Team and the wonderful folks in and around Newberg who provided items for the goodie bags. According to the National Collaboration for Youth, “a youth worker is an individual who works with, or on behalf of, youth to facilitate their personal, social and educational development and enable them to gain a voice, influence and place in society as they make the transition from dependence to independence.”Brian Durand, Co-Organizer of the Thank a Youth Worker Day Steering Committee, says, “Everyone can point to a youth worker who had an impact in their life, formally as part of a youth serving organization, or informally as a coach, mentor, or friend. We need to thank those who mentor our youth and celebrate their contributions to our community. (www.thankayouthworkerday.com)

On May 8th, 2014, communities, organizations, and caring people from around the globe joined together for an international day of celebrating and honoring youth workers. s Governments made official proclamations s Networks and Organizations held celebrationss Leaders and other individuals took time out to call, write and personally say “thank you” to youth workers who are such a valuable, and often unsung

Country Financial will donate $20 to CYFs for every insurance quote!Just call Collin Bonsey at Country Financial to get a no obligation quote for auto, home or life insurance and the $20.00 donation for the quote will be donated regardless of sale. It’s as easy as that! The program will proceed through October 25th, the day of the 1st Annual CYFS Disc Golf Tournament. Please contact Collin Bonsey at (503) 885-8756 or email him at Collin.bonsey@countryfinancial.com.

1st Annual Chehalem Youth & Family ServicesDisc Golf Tournament Fundraiser

Presented by Disc Golf Nation, LLCPlease join us Saturday, October 25th, 2014 at Champoeg State Park for our 1st Annual CYFS Disc Golf Tournament. Participants can pre-register at discgolfnation.net or register the day of the event at 11:00 am. Opening ceremonies will begin at 11:30. Entrance fee is $60 and includes 2 discs, bag, and towel (a $75 value). For more information on the event, please contact John Danese at 503-487-7551 or jdanese@cyfs.net.

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OUR PARTNERS

Chehalem Youth & Family ServicesP.O. Box 636Newberg, OR 97132

Rotary Clubs, non-profit network, local businesses, and churches.

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Please plan on being our guest at the 4th annual Ignite the Light luncheon on Tuesday, November 18th, 2014. The complimentary luncheon will be at the Chehalem Cultural Center located at 415 E Sheridan Street in Newberg from 12:00 pm to 1:00 pm. Gathering will begin at 11:30 am.

As always, funds raised from this luncheon go directly to CYFS programs which serve over 2000 children and families in our community.

To receive more information or to RSVP, please call 503-487-7551, or email events@cyfs.net.

Hope to see you there!

Return Service RequestedPhone: 503-487-7551Fax: 503-538-1271Email: service@cyfs.net

A Christian Service OrganizationProviding Hope and Healing for Youth & Families Since 1970

...Every Child Matters!