Create Joy by Choosing Indulgence

The Perpetual You

CHOOSE TO MAKE ROOM

FOR YOURSELF

YOUR GUILTY

PLEASURES LEARN HOW TO Follow the Feelgood

with Tiffany Manchester

INDULGE IN NOTHING

Blissful!

August 2015Series No. 1 | Issue No. 1

In This Issue

Create Joy by Choosing Indulgence

Dwell in Joy

Design inspiration for indulgent spaces, including this month's design style mix & match, advice on carving out

space for yourself, and how small changes can bring abundant joy.

Lifestyle suggestions on

choosing indulgence, including this month’s

product picks, books to

read, featured food &

cocktail, and a

Mindful wisdom from experts Mags Baker and

Tami Raegor on how choosing indulgence empowers you to create joy.

Realize Joy

Live in Joy

This

Month’s Cover:

Learn how toFollow the Feelgood

with Tiffany

Manchester.

What do we live for, if

not to make life less

difficult for each other?

-George Eliot

Welcome to the Perpetual You...

Welcome to the Inaugural issue of The Perpetual You

magazine! Creating this magazine and the accompanying online

society is truly a dream come true for me, and I am so excited to

be sharing it with you. They say that “if what you want doesn’t

exist you should make it.” That was our goal in creating The Perpetual You: a

place where we can build lasting friendships, learn about ourselves and others,

and share tips and secrets with people on a similar journey.

The Perpetual You is a place where women can be exactly who they al-

ready are. We believe that the best parts of ourselves – the parts that never

change – our Perpetual Selves – are exactly what we need and what the world

needs. And we want to learn, along side all of you, how to embrace our true

selves and create Joy, Ease, Fun, & Wealth.

One of my favorite women, Nisha Moodley, wrote recently that if we want

something extraordinary, we have to be willing to put forth the focus & determina-

tion it’ll take to see it soar, while also embracing trust, pleasure & play. My sister

and I want extraordinary lives, and we are dedicated to creating them. We

promise to approach each issue with focus, determination, trust, pleasure, and

play. And we hope that you will too!

When you have finished reading the magazine, we invite you to take the

fun and determination to an ever greater level by joining The Perpetual You So-

ciety. There, we will get to know each other personally as we share our joys, re-

alizations, and struggles in a private, beautiful and welcoming space.

Our first issue centers around Creating Joy in your life by choosing how

and when to Indulge. Since we’ve never shied away from a challenge, we chose

to replace guilt with bliss and enjoying true indulgence. Too many

women feel a constant pressure to be selfless and put others first

at the sacrifice of their own needs. Let’s spend some time this

month taking care of ourselves. Let’s create Joy and choose Indul-

gence! LaKay

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new way to enjoy move-ment.

What do we live for, if

not to make life less

difficult for each other?

-George Eliot

Welcome to the Perpetual You...

Welcome to the Inaugural issue of The Perpetual You

magazine! Creating this magazine and the accompanying online

society is truly a dream come true for me, and I am so excited to

be sharing it with you. They say that “if w

hat you want doesn’t

exist you should make it.” That was our goal in creating The Perpetual You: a

place where we can build lasting friendships, learn about ourselves and others,

and share tips and secrets with people on a similar journey.

The Perpetual You is a place where women can be exactly who they al-

ready are. We believe that the best parts of ourselves – the parts that never

change – our Perpetual Selves – are exactly what we need and what the world

needs. And we want to learn, along side all of you, how to embrace our true

selves and create Joy, Ease, Fun, & Wealth.

One of my favorite women, Nisha Moodley, wrote recently that if we want

something extraordinary, we have to be willing to put forth the focus & determina-

tion it’ll take to see it soar, while also embracing trust, pleasure & play. My sister

and I want extraordinary lives, and we are dedicated to creating them. We

promise to approach each issue with focus, determination, trust, pleasure, and

play. And we hope that you will too!

When you have finished reading the magazine, we invite you to take the

fun and determination to an ever greater level by joining The Perpetual You So-

ciety. There, we will get to know each other personally as we share our joys, re-

alizations, and struggles in a private, beautiful and welcoming space.

Our first issue centers around Creating Joy in your life by choosing how

and when to Indulge. Since we’ve never shied away from a challenge, we chose

to replace guilt with bliss and enjoying true indulgence. Too many

women feel a constant pressure to be selfless and put others first

at the sacrifice of their own needs. Let’s spend some time this

month taking care of ourselves. Let’s create Joy and choose Indul-

gence! LaKay


realize …to align your daily

practices with your ever-

evolving desires…


La Doce Far Niente

“The sweet & beautiful

act of doing nothing.”

Indulge in Nothing

Just as a glass of fine red

wine is better after sitting

& breathing, we are better

if we take time to sit &

breathe. Doctors &

spiritual leaders agree

there are immediate

health benefits from being

still only a few minutes a

day. Although the time to

sit & do nothing can seem

like a luxury, in reality, it is

a true necessity. Try it for

just two minutes today &

see what true Joy you can

create.

Like The Perpetual You on

Facebook for more tips on

doing nothing!

Indulge in the Final days of Summer

Take an evening before Summer ends to

indulge in some fresh made decadent

food and a lovely cocktail with a friend or

two. While many foods bring us instant

gratification, there is is nothing like in-

dulging consciously in good food, drink,

& laughter to bring you instant JOY.

Take extra time to set the table with

some of your favorite fancy dishes! Slow

down and enjoy being in that beautiful

moment.

We chose the simplicity of grilled peaches

and mascarpone paired with one of our fa-

vorite classic cocktails: the French 77, a vari-

ation on the French 75 which was created

in a bar in Paris in 1915. For the French 77,

we replaced simple syrup with Elderflower

Liqueur so it is sweet but not sugary.


Indulge in the Final days of SummerIn fact, even with all the sweetness on this

table, there is no processed sugar! The

mascarpone cheese is only sweetened with

maple syrup and a touch of vanilla. Instead

of worrying about the sugar hangover, we

simply enjoyed our selves fully and focused

on the joy of being with good friends.


Indulge in MovementAt first glance, choosing indulgence may

not seem like a way to incorporate more

movement. In fact, if you are anything

like us, Indulging & Exercise may be two

very different parts of your day. But

what if they weren’t?

Try meeting a friend for a day of outdoor

shopping! It is so easy and fun to meet

at one end and walk to the other – stop-

ping for treats and special moments

along the way.

We recently spent a day of shopping

in New Haven with girlfriends. Over 4

hours we enjoyed a sidewalk sale, fresh

macaroons, a beautiful art gallery, and

a decadent farm-to-table lunch (with

wine!) In addition to spending time to-

gether, enjoying indulgent treats, and

sunshine, our FitBits registered over

5,000 steps!


What if Movement and Indulgence

went Hand in Hand?


The House of Mirth by Edith WhartonGetting to know Lily Bart, the strong and smart

heroine who needs marriage to survive her expensive tastes, means getting to observe (read: be jealous of) both "old money" and the "nouveau riche." And that

isn't the only dichotomy you'll encounter–love/money; head/heart; man/woman–this book's got

more than enough conflict to keep us guessing.

The Champagne Diet: Eat, Drink, and Celebrate Your Way to a Healthy Mind and Body by Cara Alwill Leyba This book is for the woman who doesn’t want to trade in her champagne for skinny jeans. After reading

this, you will walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and downright sexy. You will learn how to celebrate

yourself and your body. Get ready to embark on a complete dieting and lifestyle overhaul, sister!

The Vacationers by Emma StraubLiving vicariously through this family on an indulgent

vacation in Mallorca and witnessing them figuring out what they need to be happy will make you laugh out

loud–and, will challenge you to redefine how you think about joy.

Sea Cloud bath towel from Turkish

Sungarden robe from Anthropologie

Floating Island luxury bath bomb from Lush

Lavanilla soy candle from Rayne Home Décor

Strawberry Dessert facial mask from Thesis

Divine Feminine face lotion and Lavender toner spray from Green Harmony Aromatherapy

Rose Water bath soap from Hand-in-Hand Soap

Indulge in a Bath


Indulge in a Book

For more of the

lowdown on Ms. Bart's

epic struggle, listen to

this month's "Did She

Really Just...?" podcast,

hosted on the

Perpetual You Society

page


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I have come to believe that caring formyself is not self indulgent.

Caring for myself is an act of survival.-Audre Lorde


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The Perpetual You is committed to giving 5% of our

profits to charities that spread Joy, Ease, Fun &

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This series we’re featuring the organization PACE, a

leader in providing voluntary, gender-responsive alter-

natives to delinquency for dependent girls.

We invite you to give Joy to the girls of PACE along

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A conver sation with Tiffany Manchester

Live

What's a practice you indulge in daily that brings you Joy?

That’s an easy one. Every evening, Ken and I do a gratitude shot. We get our shot glasses and fill them with whatever we want—I like Tequila, but it could be water, even. And we give thanks and gratitude for something from that day. Then we cheers each other! That’s how we get our evening going.

RealizeWhich aspect of your physical space is most Indulgent?

I travel quite a lot, and I have a little meditation bench that I carry with me wherever I go. I have the bench, my tarot cards, and a wooden Buddha statue that is small so I can easily pack them. Whether in Hawaii or Nicaragua, I make sure to have that space—it feels good and familiar and is mine.

How do you keep your innermost thoughts Joyful?

Getting outside every day and surfing really helps me connect with my sense of joy. The ocean is super cleansing and takes away any negative energy…things we gather throughout the day that we don’t need to have. The ocean cuts those chords. I’m in the ocean everyday, no matter what.

Dwell


3 Questions with our Cover Superstar —Tiffany Manchester

Check out this month’s mantra,

written by Ti any, on page 33. 37


Check out this month’s mantra,

written by Ti any,on page 33.

Don’t Force the Flow:

Follow Your Feelgood


We can’t think of anything more indulgent than figuring out what makes you happy and pursuing a life full of those desires. That’s why our cover story this month is Tiffany Manchester, a self-proclaimed “Feelgood Specialist.” Who better to teach us how to create joy by living intentionally? We met with Tiffany one afternoon to learn how she began this journey and the ways in which we might do the same! (The full transcript of our conversation is available on the Perpetual You Society web page.)

First, be willing to reinvent yourself.

Six years ago, Tiffany Manchester had no idea she’d be teaching others to “follow their feelgood” --the idea hadn’t yet been conceived. Tiffany was living and working in Hawaii when she met Ken. Though she was very fulfilled living and working at the retreat center, she realized about a year into the relationship that the retreat center was no longer the place she was meant to be.

According to Tiffany, taking the next step in her relationship felt like “starting from scratch again.” Leaving the center meant her whole existence would change: “I lived there; I worked there; my community of friends was there. Everything was there.” Still, she began the work of creating a “new life…reinventing herself” once again. Soon thereafter, she and Ken decided to split their time between Hawaii and Nicaragua, where the “Follow the Feelgood” brand was conceived. Now, Tiffany spends every day doing only the things that bring her joy: surfing, meditating, teaching, and—most importantly—leading others to a place where they can have the life of their dreams. Even better—she’s signed on to The Perpetual You as the creator of our monthly mantras, found in the magazine, and the guided meditation accessible to those women who join The Perpetual You Society. This is just another way she can “help people learn how to make decisions easily” and “get out of their heads and into their hearts and move forward in their lives and make decisions easily.”

Follow your Feel Good Follow your Feel Good

n e you re in t e rig t l e, ysi lly n e otion lly, you ust trust yourself.

Tiffany’s desire to center her life around what would make her happy became clearer the more she listened to her inner voice and paid attention to what the universe was saying. “Follow the Feelgood is a mantra,” explains Tiffany, “ a simple mantra that Ken and I came up with in our casita here in Nicaragua.” Importantly, the mantra is easy to remember and the meaning is obvious: do only what makes you feel good. The mantra is a key component for making choices; you simply ask yourself: “Is this following the feelgood? oes this feelgood to me ?”

reating a mantra about feeling good might sound easy, but Tiffany explained that it’s actually a “very inward process—” a spiritual undertaking, not an intellectual one. “The mantras are words that are infused with love and guidance from the angels and from the universe. I’m just the one that gets to sit down and spend more time listening to what the niverse wants to share with people.”

With this sense of purpose, Tiffany begins simply by opening herself up to the energy, until a specific phrase comes to mind, which she then writes down. From

there, she’ll “play around with it like it’s a puzzle… I’ll swap out a word and I’ll walk away and come back in

minutes And then all of a sudden I’ll hit the mark and I’ll know okay that’s it.

If the process seems too mystical for you to even get your mind around, it’s not; Tiffany was uick to point out that it’s more about listening than anything else. on’t overthink it, she counsels. “The key is: what do you want to know? And then, listen. Listen for it to come to you.”

lso, t e re of yourself le rn to res e t your nee s n rioriti e your esires.

At one point in her life, Tiffany was committed to being married, having a house, kids—the typical dream of someone who grew up in the ttawa alley in anada, where she’s from. “ ut,” she says, “the feelgood wasn’t there.” ultivating this way of life was more about expectations than being truly happy. When her fianc left her, she decided to take care of herself; to respect her need for something different. ecause of that, what others might call a “failed relationship” was simply a part of becoming the “much happier and much better person” she is today.

Even now, when working closely with someone she truly

Don’ t Force t he Flow


Follow your Feel Good Follow your Feel Good loves—someone who she knows is part of her dream life—Tiffany still has to remind herself that she can’t always “keep up with Ken and shouldn’t try to.” ne the one hand, it’s easy to work with someone closely when you share “core values” and your “major life goals” are in alignment. ut, Tiffany points out, as women we “fall into the trap” of accommodating our partners, our children, other relationships in a way that is “detrimental” to the” rhythm” of our lives. Saying no to things she doesn’t want to do is particularly hard with a partner who enjoys the same activities as she does—for example, surfing—but, it’s also a survival skill. “Honoring your own rhythm in a relationship is key,” Tiffany says. espect—for each other but also for yourself—makes the relationship work.

Learning to respect yourself relies on a deep awareness of your goals, as well as being comfortable prioritizing those goals above all else. n s ort, you get to now yourself, s well s or

better t n nyone else in your life.

For Tiffany, truly knowing what she does and does not want out of life has an impact on every facet of her decision-making process. Tiffany proudly proclaims on her website that she and Ken are both marriage-free and child-free, not in order to turn off potential clients but because she feels it’s important to be clear about the lifestyle they’ve chosen.

“We don’t feel like it is a necessary part of our lives,” she says of her decision to turn down wedding and baby shower invitations, and even some holiday celebrations. Saying no has nothing to do with how much she loves

her friends and family — “that’s just not what we are doing…we are just going to play our way.” It comes back to feeling good in every moment. As an introvert who prefers small groups of people and a “tropical girl; a jeans and t-shirts girl,” Tiffany gets overwhelmed and insecure at large and or formal gatherings. And if she isn’t feeling good, she asks, then “how am I contributing to the world?” n the other hand, Tiffany and Ken extend an open invitation to friends and family to stay in their home.

Fin lly, in ulge in yourself even before you now e tly w ere everyt ing is e e .

You might not be ready to drop everything and move to Nicaragua, but we can still begin figuring out what we want, and allowing ourselves to have it more often. For example, when Tiffany’s dream of the “normal” life was over, she found herself at a turning point. She needed a career change; she needed a change of pace; and she needed help making these very big changes. ut she wasn’t exactly sure what that meant. Then, she remembered seeing the movie North Shore, and remembered how she had wanted to surf and see Hawaii for a long time. eing “devastated” and at a place where she just “needed to be taken care of,” she decided to visit Maui, where she was told about the retreat center. There, she was able to heal—through communicating and creating meaningful friendships with the people she was living and, eventually, working with. This was also the place she began pursuing all the activities that are now an integral part of her life: surfing, dancing, medication, yoga.

Ironically, when the center was first recommended to Tiffany, she reacted from a place of insecurity and scarcity. “No way,” she thought, “I can’t afford that.”

ntil she connected this opportunity with her need for meaning. Then the decision was no longer about money, but about her true. “I decided: screw it. The money doesn’t matter. I need to go to this place.”

As someone who had been “planning ahead” for over years without realizing any of her expected

happiness, Tiffany decided to trust the niverse. “I had to let go of the future for the first time. And it was worth it.” Indulging in what, at first, seemed like a fantasy actually planted the seed for her very real and very fun life. eing at the center turned out to be “the inception” for Follow the Feelgood: a mantra, her business, and the process by which she creates joy every single day.


“The angels will give you the answers that you are looking for in the simplest of ways, without you going out of your way – you just have to be ready to receive.”


dwell …to align your physical

space with your

ever-evolving self…


Indulge in some #farmhouseglam

of your own & share it with us on Instagram!

A mix of farmhouse & glam is the perfect style for a small space. In this classic pink bathroom from the 50’s, feminine and glamorous touches enhance the beauty of basic bathroom fare: holders for soap, a hook for your robe, and places to stash toiletries of all shapes & sizes. And the proud display of these items honors the farmhouse aesthetic. The best part? The vintage pink and black tile got to stay!

Simple Objects Glamorous Touches

Feminine Accents Rustic Elements

Design Style Mix & Match

“if home is a part of a complete life...we must find ways to create domestic lives that fit our needs and make ourselves sanctuaries that are deliberate, intimate, and nourishing.” ~Carroll Stoner & Lauren Green from Reinventing HomeA little over two years ago, when we bought the 1920s bungalow we live in, I started planning my “private” space: the lone bedroom on the first floor with the odd, cramped closet and the window seat taking up the only wall without a doorway. Location-wise, it wasn’t exactly perfect; who’s going to give me privacy if I’m smack dab in the middle of the main living area? There was also the tiny problem of the room not having any doors – multiple entryways – just no doors. But what the room lacked in logistics, it gained in possibility. I’d find glass paned doors; I’d revamp the closet with shelves and a kick ass organization system; and I’d design a to-die-for window seat/reading nook, where I’d dream my day away in complete priva-cy and serenity. A sanctuary, a retreat all to myself.

As the mother of two young boys, this was all a com-plete fantasy. But that did not stop me from dreaming. What truly woke me up was the onset of three extra family members who are now living with us, one of whom – my 13 year old niece – needed a room of her own. My private room, and all that it stood for, was the obvious “empty room to give up.”

Perhaps you can commiserate with me, if not in the same way. You might have your own room – a home office, maybe, or a room full of hobby accouterments! The luckiest among you have a closet all to yourself

(that is big enough to provide you with much needed privacy). But how many of you have the “space” that truly allows you to get away? The place where you can indulge in the things that make you happy?

Before you stop reading, let me tell you a secret. Your dream of having your very own space, and having it be exactly what you need it to be, is not just possible

Choose to Make Room for Yourselfby lee lee Thompson


5 Types of Spaces You Can Claim as your Own

1. reading nook

2. meditation alter

3. walk-in closet

4. master bathroom

5. home office

but is necessary to becoming who you want to be. The physical space you live in – your dwelling – and how much of that space you can claim as beautiful and indul-gent, and most of all – YOURS – is directly correlated to your ability to be joyous and indulgent and well, you.

We all desire to create Joy. But maybe we don’t all know how.

First you must give yourself permission to need space. There is no hiding in a beautiful dwelling space; instead, we acknowledge our need for privacy and then create, or claim, the space that fulfills our need.

Next, we tell the world, ourselves included, that this space belongs to us by making it beautiful. Wallpaper, mirrors, shiny objects, soft lighting, curtains and pillows and rugs and throws...where the rest of your house shows compromise and restraint, and (if you're like me) more than one ongoing project, this room/nook/closet/very large bathroom – oh, how I envy you – gets priority, gets designed, gets done.

Finally, you are free to indulge in some Joy time. For me, this is usually reading a good book, drinking a strong cup of coffee, and sitting in my favorite chair. Most importantly, there are no interruptions (and no upset coffee mugs!). And – the final touch – air-con-ditioning, at least in August!

I might have had to give up my dream home office/writ-ing studio/sewing room/library. But it wasn’t so dreamy after all. For me, there was too much possibility. We lived here almost a year and I’d done nothing to the space except buy a bookshelf I didn’t even like. When I was forced to give it up, I was forced to consider what exactly I couldn’t compromise on: my need for priva-cy. I can work in our extra long living room I can sew

in our newly designed basement. I can read and drink coffee on the front porch. But none of those places are private. None of those places are mine.

When I really thought about it, what I really desired was totally within my reach: a quiet space with my chair and some books that I could glamorize and accessorize; a space the world would know was mine. Currently, that place is opposite my closet in a previously wasted and formerly ugly area.

It’s a design nightmare: sloped ceiling, cramped quar-ters, and – you guess it – without a door. But my mid century desk is in the corner; my most beloved books stack neatly on a short bookshelf; and my chair (still in need of recovering) sits proudly at the opening, waiting for its master.

The space is far from perfect, but I don’t need perfection – only space.


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How to Layer the Things you Love

Small Touches = Abundant Joy Layer

We all want our private spaces to be beautiful, but making over an entire room can be daunting

enough that you never want to start. Instead of a total overhaul, let’s start small. Choose just

one item that can use a little more Joy – and Indulge in a little Layering.

“Layering” is the gathering and displaying of myriad things to increase comfort, beauty, or both.

For example, piling a variety of textiles on a beloved chair increases both your physical comfort

(because it’s cushier!) and your visual pleasure—because different patterns mingling together are beautiful. When layering, remember: more is more. More richness, more depth, more

beauty and, of course, more joy. Who can’t use a little more Joy in their space?

1. Choose something small

to work with. I chose a Vic-

torianish shelf that is the

perfect color to match my

desk and the perfect size for

the available wall space in

my studio.

2. Decide where your piece

should dwell. If you’ve cho-

sen an item of beauty and

not necessity (like my shelf),

putting it somewhere not

immediately noticeable is a

great way to bring an ele-

ment of surprise into your

daily life. S

ince snagging this shelf for only

$5 at a thrift store, it has been sitting

forlornly awaiting its debut.

I squeezed my shelf between my

reading chair and mid-century desk.

Catching the shelf—and the lovelies

upon it—out of the corner of my eye

is reward and escape all in one.


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May your walls know joy;

May every room hold laughter and

every window open to great possibility. Maryanne Radmacher-Hershey


May your walls know joy;

May every room hold laughter and

every window open to great possibility. Maryanne Radmacher-Hershey

…to align your innermost

thoughts with your

ever-evolving

perspective…


Find Your Joyby Mags Baker

Want to know the #1 way to get a more joyful life? Do less of the stuff that makes you unhappy. It’s as easy as that.

But, I can’t hire a housekeeper and make my commute shorter and make my kids be-have better and hire a personal chef! No, you probably can’t. but you can make those less enjoyable parts of your day much more enjoyable.

Removing feelings of unhappiness is a super effective (and often overlooked) way to make a happier life. Al-most everyone can easily list dozens of things that make them happy, but when you can pinpoint and change feelings of unhappiness, that frees up a ton of space in your life for happiness.

For me, I hate feeling sad and anxious. Those are my two biggest “opposite of happy”emotions that drag me down to a place that is hard to return from. So I try to avoid those feelings in everyday life. (Of course it’s ok and natural to feel both of those things, but today I’m talking about removing unhappy feelings from the ev-eryday grind, to make it the everyday joy!).

When I decided to “get happy”, I started to notice when those things would happen. Here are some of my exam-ples:

When I would try on a shirt that had fit during my hardcore dieting days, and didn’t fit anymore, I felt sad. I decided that feeling sad first thing in the morning really didn’t set my day up for success. To change that, I made the conscious choice to not feel sad in that circum-

stance anymore. I said “Mags, this shirt used to fit you. It doesn’t anymore. This can make you so sad, feel like a failure, and ruin your whole day, or you can choose another shirt”. I chose another

shirt and stopped my emotions in their tracks. This makes my morning routine a TON happier, and I leave my house confident and at peace.

When my husband and I would head out somewhere to-gether, we had different meanings of the phrase “we’re leaving at 6”. I’m a fan of “out the driveway at 6 ready to be on schedule and arrive 15 minutes early”, and he’s more “around 6 I’ll be starting the finishing touches of leaving”. For YEARS this made me so anxious waiting at the front door tapping my foot from 6-6:15. I decided I loathed that feeling, so I made the conscious decision to not feel anxious in that circumstance anymore. Now, I give my husband a 15 minute buffer, which sometimes works. When it doesn’t, and I’m waiting at the door, I sit at the table instead and enjoy a few calming breaths as I think about all the great parts of my day and how lucky I am to be doing whatever I’m about to be doing. This has taken all of the frustrations out of that part of our day, and both of us leave the house happy.

When I would go to the gym (I LOVE Zumba), I would al-ways notice who was in better or worse shape than me and judge accordingly. That made me feel real crummy, every time. Very few of us can say we are the fittest per-son at the gym, and if we are, we probably aren’t even that happy because we’re spending every minute at the gym! Comparisons NEVER lead to happiness. You either feel sad that you’re not as good, or sad for feeling good


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Figure out one or two emotions that are the opposite of happy for you, that

you encounter on a daily basis. Mine were anxiety and sadness.

Throughout the day, notice when you feel those feelings and take note of

the actual thoughts that brought you there.

Pick one recurring source of unhappiness (frustrations during a commute,

children’s messy room, lines at the grocery store, bills in the mail...etc.) and

decide to change your thoughts on that circumstance. Only one for now!

Practice what you’re going to say to yourself the next time you are in that situation. A lot. Run through that situation and your plan many (10+) times.

When the moment is right, rock it sister! Notice how good it feels to not be

unhappy! Joy truly is a choice.

Spend all that extra mind space enjoying the great parts of your life!

that you think you’re better. I made the conscious de-

cision to stop comparing, focus on my own reasons for being there (happiness!), and started sending positive vibes to all the people there who I knew were feeling

crummy comparing themselves with everyone else.

Making the conscious decision to be happy is hard, it takes a TON of practice, and it feels really weird at first, but it is worth it to infinity and beyond! You deserve to be joyful (or at least not unhappy!) in your everyday life.

Remember, thoughts become feelings. You have the power to change your thoughts and change your feel-ings.

I’m Mags Baker. I help women across the globe fall madly in love with their bodies, learn to eat whatever they want, and crave the good stuff, and I’m leading the diet-free happiness revolution at MagsBaker.com.


“The soul should

always stand ajar,

ready to welcome the

ecstatic experience.”

-Emily Dickinson

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Guilty Pleasuresby Tami Raegor

You know what you want!

You know where to find it and it is calling your name!

But underneath all that desire, the stirrings of guilt are starting to build.

The more you think about that yummy deliciousness, the more the guilt factor raises.

The closer you get to giving into your need to have it, the louder the negative self-talk becomes in your head.

Oh it would taste so good – smooth and sweet as it

melts in your mouth. Umm – can you taste it? Your need to have it is growing and resisting it is becoming

harder and harder. But that guilty voice is pleading with you not to do it.

It’s telling you –

It’s not good for you or it’s bad for you.

You are going to regret it – you will feel like crap if you do it.

You have no willpower so you are a failure.

There are so many other things to do – taking care of you is just plain selfish.

Just STOP the NONSENSE NOW!

Who on earth decided that treating yourself with the sweetness and joys of life should be something that you should feel guilty about? I don’t know who did but I do know something, the phrase “guilty pleasure” should be thrown out the window and buried.

Blissful!


In your life right now, you deserve to experience all the joy and pleasure that you want. It is all around you. Maybe it is a piece of dark chocolate or a scoop or two of ice cream. It could also be reading a chapter or two

in that new book you saw in the store or getting a nice relaxing massage.

Taking care of you and having pleasure doing it is part of life that you should do more often. It is fun, relaxing and it will fill you with joy and happiness.

What scares you more - having guilt about taking care of yourself or enjoying a piece of cake or ice cream?

I personally struggle with the guilt around food. Given the chance – I would read or get a massage in a heart-

beat. But food – OMG! It’s like an inner battle. I want that – no you can’t have that – I am overdoing it – did I overeat?!

I am now working on turning off the inner battle and instead really enjoying my food by reminding myself that I do deserve sweetness and treats in my life. We are all meant to have sweetness or treats in our life.

Life is meant to be fun and food is one of the ways to have that in your life. Eating ice cream brings back happy memories from my childhood so instead of feeling guilty I think about that and, in turn, I eat my ice cream with a smile on my face.

It’s hard I know, the idea of being able to freely eat whatever you want when you want it – yes even the dreaded “junk” food. Your body is one of the wisest beings on this planet. It knows exactly what to do when you eat ice cream –get the calcium and other nutrients and get rid of the rest.

Seems easy enough, doesn’t it? But here is the thing - when you feel guilty or have guilty thoughts about your food before you eat it, you are robbing your body of its ability to do its job efficiently. When you have guilty thoughts about your food, you are telling your body that you don’t trust that it knows how to digest the food for your highest and best good.

Here is the other thing about food that has gotten lost

in time – being grateful for it. When I was a kid, we used to say grace. I never understood it and just wanted it to be over so I could eat. It’s become a lost art form and now I finally get it. Saying grace or something like it, is theway to show gratitude for your food. When you have guilty thoughts about your food, you are showing your displeasure for the food you are just about to eat. You get so involved with worrying about

6 Ways to Bliss Out

Your Pleasures

1. Change your conversationwith food – Show it gratitudefor the blessing it is.

2. Create a list of things youwould love to do for you anduse it to make plans.

3. Schedule time for yourbliss-ful pleasures.

4. Before going to a party –check in with yourself andgive yourself permission toenjoy every last morsel.

5. Once a month treat yourselfto something special – amas-sage, a workshop orclass, a facial, go shopping –buy a pair of jeans that makeyou feel awesome.

6. Make your birthday all aboutyou – take the day off andplan a blissful ‘YOU’ pleasureday of things you love to do.Celebrate life! Celebrate lifethus far and the joy and blissof the coming year!


bring the guilt roaring back? This guilt will sabotage your body’s ability to digest the food to get the nutrients it needs. Why? Because you are stressing yourself out about it. Stress causes a chemical called cortisol to rise.

Cortisol is best known for its role in increasing belly fat - the one thing you are trying to avoid. When you feel guilty about your food, you are setting off your stress bells which then raises your cortisol levels which then raises the risk of you manifesting what you fear most – weight gain. So the one thing you are trying to avoid be-

comes a reality because of the guilt you feel when you eat your “guilty” pleasure. It’s time to ditch the guilt and allow yourself the gift of a joyful pleasure while giving your body what it craves.

Food is just one example of a so-called “guilty pleasure”. “Blissful pleasures” could also be reading a book, meditating, getting a massage, taking that art class that you have been thinking about or anything else that makes you feel good or your heart desires to do. YOU have one body. It is your one true home. It is the one place that will always stay with you until the end. So why would you not take care of it?

Did society or someone close to you tell you that it was selfish for you to take care of you? Did someone think they were doing you a favor by telling you that YOU do not matter and that all that does matter is you taking care of others and to be humble about it?

Got news for you – YOU cannot take care of others when you do not take of yourself as well as you could if you did. Why? Well you can only give so much when you yourself are not refilling or refreshing your own en-

ergy. If you were to take care of you – you would have more energy to help others.

the guilt and fear around eating it that you forget about what a gift it is to have in your life. No matter its form – no matter its label in society, it is a gift.

Yes, no matter its form. We were meant to enjoy sweetness in life at times. The idea that you need to eat perfectly all the time in order to have the perfect body or diet is just ridiculous! What is life without cake or ice cream? Boring! When you are at a party and every-

one is having yummy chocolate cake – resisting it and denying yourself is the way to win the game right? Nope - There is no game. They only thing you are doing is pe-

nalizing and preventing yourself from having pleasure.

What about cravings – is your body trying to sabotage your success? NOPE!

When your body craves something, it does so because it is lacking a particular nutrient that it needs. The crav-

ing comes in the form that best fills that need and yes it can come from sweets or “junk” food like ice cream or potato chips from time to time. Denying yourself of that which you crave does nothing but make you eat more while you try to deceive your body by filling it with food it doesn’t want.

You have been told to stay away from some of the foods we eat because they are “bad." But are they really? Dark Chocolate is loaded with anti-oxidants and magnesium, ice cream is full of calcium and other vitamins, and potato chips contain salt and potassium

– all are nutrients your body needs to run efficiently. Do your body good – give it what it wants and enjoy the pleasure it brings you.

Can you give yourself permission to eat what you are craving and feel good about eating it or does the idea


I nurture mysoul with the

food of joy,the drinkof passion,and the

bliss of love.

to start honoring and loving YOU. Toeing society’s rules and fitting in will not allow those dreams you have to come true.

The time is now to start allowing yourself to become the true you by treating your body, mind, and soul with respect and love. You do this by giving yourself per-

mission to enjoy the blissful pleasures around you and create the life you dream of. This dream you have is the life you were meant to live.

THE TIME IS NOW!

“YOU are but a star. Your star is behind the sun waiting for its turn to light up the night with the brightness that

shines within. Your light is ready to shine out through every pore. This light will bring you more than you can ever imagine. It’s your birthright and your gift to the world. Your light will brighten someone’s day. But first you must allow the light to shine within your own body. Shining from within starts with honoring and loving the

true you and enjoying life's pleasures.”

On this planet in this life, you are supposed to experi-ence every bit of what life has to offer. This does not mean going through your day to day in a fog. This means exploring, having fun and allowing blissful plea-

sures to fill your life.

Enjoy reading that book, have a massage, date night with your partner, relaxing by a bubbling brook or start-ing your business to make some extra cash or cash in on your dream of having it all. It does not matter what it is – what matters is that you do it and you feel good about doing it.

Guilt and fear are like the vacuum cleaners of life. They both rob you of your dreams and make life really hard. It’s a rat race all the time. Doing your best to fit in - Not stand out, follow society’s rules and be humble about it.

This is YOUR life. YOU get to determine what it is you want to do with it. YOU can create any life you want when you follow your heart and allow yourself the gift of blissful pleasures.

You came to this planet with a purpose. YOU are meant for great things. Your heart and soul are calling for you


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