Couple Report

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PREPARE/ENRICHCustomized Version

Congratulations on completing the PREPARE/ENRICH inventory. Taking the time to

reflect on your relationship is an important part of growing as a couple. Based on ove

30 years of research, the questions and topics addressed by your assessment were

customized to your relationship. These results are summarized in the following reportpages.

PREPARE/ENRICH is designed to get you thinking and talking about your relationship.

This report can help identify your relationship strengths, which are resources you can

use to build your relationship. Your results will also highlight growth areas that need t

be improved. All relationships require attention, maintenance, and direction to keep

growing and running smoothly. Don't view your results as permanent or

unchangeable. These results are a snapshot of how you each described your

relationship on the day you took the assessment.

Your trained PREPARE/ENRICH facilitator will be able to provide you with feedback andanswer questions as you go through the results together. They are also trained to

teach you new relationship skills that can lead to a more satisfying couple relationship

We encourage you to consider taking an anniversary Couple Checkup each year at the

website, http://www.couplecheckup.com as a way to proactively enrich your

relationship. Remember, the more you invest in your relationship, the more you will

both benefit: We wish you much success in growing together as a couple!

Contents

Report Section Pag

Couple Typology / Strength & Growth Areas

Relationship Dynamics

Personal Stress Profile

Couple Map

Family Map

SCOPE Personality Scales 8-1

Authors: David H. Olson, Ph.D. PREPARE/ENRICH

Peter J. Larson, Ph.D. © Copyright, 2008

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Couple Typology (Core Scales)

Harmonious Couple Type

Based on the PCA scores across the core categories, this couple is best categorized as a Harmonious Couple. Generally,harmonious couples have a high degree of relationship satisfaction and both feel good about many aspects of their relationship.There are likely some relationship areas that have room for improvement. It will be helpful for them to clearly identify their strengt

and growth areas as they continue to build their relationship. Based on past research with thousands of couples, PREPARE/ENRICH categorizes couple relationships into one of five common

relational patterns:

Vitalized couples are typically most satisfied with their relationship, skilled in communication and conflict resolution.Harmonious couples also enjoy high levels of satisfaction across most areas of their relationship.Conventional couples are often highly committed to one another, but not as skilled in communication or conflict resolution.Conflicted couples have a lower level of satisfaction and often struggle with many areas of their relationship.Devitalized couples have the lowest level of satisfaction and have growth areas in almost all aspects of their relationship.

Strength and Growth Areas

Levels of Positive Couple Agreement Core and Customized Scales

Relationship Strengths (PCA=80 - 100%)Areas with High Couple Agreement

CommunicationFamily & Friends

Financial Management

Possible Relationship Strengths (PCA=50 - 70%)Areas with Moderately High Couple Agreement

Leisure ActivitiesParenting Expectations

Sexual RelationshipSpiritual Beliefs

Possible Growth Areas (PCA=30 - 40%)Areas with Moderately Low Couple Agreement

Forgiveness

Growth Areas (PCA=0 - 20%)

Areas with Low Couple Agreement

Conflict ResolutionPartner Style & Habits

Roles & Responsibilities



Relationship Dynamics

Assertiveness is the ability to express one's feelings and ask for what one wants.

TREY: Average

TREY is generally good at expressing thoughts and feelings, and is sometimes able to ask for what

he/she wants in the relationship.

KRISTEN: Very High

KRISTEN is good at openly expressing thoughts and feelings, and can easily ask for what he/she

wants in the relationship.

Self Confidence focuses on how good one feels about oneself and their ability to accomplish what they wantin life.

TREY: Very High

TREY has a very high level of Self Confidence, positive self-esteem, and feels very sure of his/her

ability to effectively accomplish what is wanted in life.

KRISTEN: High

KRISTEN has a high level of Self Confidence, positive self-esteem, and typically feels good abouthis/her ability to effectively accomplish what is wanted in life.

Avoidance is the tendency to minimize issues and reluctance to deal with issues directly.

TREY: Average

TREY scored in the moderate range and will sometimes minimize problems and may occasionally b

reluctant to deal directly with issues.

KRISTEN: Very Low

KRISTEN scored very low in Avoidance and will often be open to identifying and discussing issues intheir relationship.

Partner Dominance focuses on how much one feels controlled or dominated by their partner.

TREY: Very High

TREY scored in the high range in Partner Dominance and often feels his/her partner is dominant,

controlling, and usually interested in managing his/her life.

KRISTEN: Very Low

KRISTEN scored in the very low range in Partner Dominance and does not feel his/her partner isdominant, controlling, or interested in managing his/her life.



Personal Stress Profile

The Personal Stress Profile examines each individual's personal stress level over the last year. For engaged

couples, stress levels are based on responses to 25 common sources of personal and wedding stress.

TREY appears to have a high level of personal stresswhich can create many demands on a person’s timeand energy. The stress may also contribute to

problems with physical, relational, and emotionalhealth. It will be helpful to learn and make use of effective coping resources to better manage personastress.

KRISTEN appears to have a very high level of stress This level of stress is characterized by many

frustrations and high demands on a person’s timeand energy. It can cause physical, relational, andemotional health problems. Such individuals willprofit from learning and using a variety of coping

resources to better manage personal stress.

How often have these issues created stress for you?Never

1Seldom

2Sometimes

3Often

4Very Often

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TREY

Top 10 Stressors

Very OftenInadequate income

Lack of time for family

OftenLack of sleep

Lack of time for friends

Poor health of other family members

Your parents

SometimesFeeling emotionally upset

Lack of exercise

Lack of time for yourself

Time away from family

KRISTEN

Top 10 Stressors

Very OftenFeeling emotionally upset

Lack of sleep

Too much to do around the home

Your job

OftenFeeling overweight

Feeling physically ill

Lack of exercise

Lack of time for friends

Your own health

Sometimes

Eating too much

Help this couple compare their lists of top stressors. It is not uncommon for their lists to be somewhatdifferent. Take a moment to help them discuss where things are similar and where they are different. Keyresources for coping with stress include healthy communication, conflict resolution, flexibility, and closeness.

PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: Identifying Most Critical Issues, Balancing your Priorities



Couple Map

OVERLY

FLEXIBLE

VERY

FLEXIBLE

FLEXIBLE

TREY

KRISTEN

SOMEWHAT

FLEXIBLE

INFLEXIBLE

DIS-

CONNECTED

SOMEWHAT

CONNECTEDCONNECTED

VERY

CONNECTED

OVERLY

CONNECTED

Couple Closeness is defined as the emotional closeness one feels toward their partner. On this dimension,relationships can range from disconnected to overly connected .

Both individuals described their relationship as Connected, meaning they experience a healthy balance of

"We" and "I", or closeness and separateness, which reflects an interdependent relationship. Most healthymarriages not only foster connection, but also leave room for each partner to continue to grow and develop aindividuals.

Couple Flexibility is defined as the ability to adjust to changes in roles and leadership in response to life'sdemands. On this dimension, relationships can range from inflexible to overly flexible .

Both individuals feel their relationship is Flexible. Relationships in the flexible range are open to change whenecessary, with a good balance between stability and change. Leadership and decision-making are equallyshared, and roles can adjust to life's demands. This is a healthy balance that most couples enjoy.

Couple Discussion: Review the closeness and flexibility results. It can be helpful to discuss what is positiveabout the current levels of closeness and flexibility. It can also be helpful to discuss any desired changes

(increases or decreases) in closeness and flexibility.PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: Mapping Your Relationship, Closeness Exercises, Flexibility Exercises



Family Map

OVERLY

FLEXIBLE

VERY

FLEXIBLE

FLEXIBLE KRISTEN

SOMEWHAT

FLEXIBLE TREY

INFLEXIBLE

DIS-

CONNECTED

SOMEWHAT

CONNECTEDCONNECTED

VERY

CONNECTED

OVERLY

CONNECTED

Family Closeness is defined as the emotional closeness one felt growing up in their family of origin. On thisdimension, family relationships can range from disconnected to overly connected .

Both individuals grew up in Somewhat Connected families, meaning they experienced some family

closeness, with plenty of freedom to be an individual and pursue outside relationships.

Family Flexibility is defined as a family's ability to adjust to changes in roles, leadership and discipline. Onthis dimension, family relationships can range from inflexible to overly flexible .

TREY experienced a family of origin that felt Somewhat Flexible. These families maintain a high level of structure and organization. Leadership, decision-making, and roles are clearly defined with little flexibility.

They can have some difficulty adjusting to stress and finding new ways to deal with challenges.

KRISTEN experienced a family of origin that felt Flexible and somewhat open to change. These familiesmaintain a balanced level of structure and organization. Leadership and decision-making are generally share

and roles and routines are adjusted as needed.

Couple Discussion: review family of origin closeness and flexibility results. Discuss family closeness and

flexibility with actual examples such as observing a holiday, celebrating a birthday, or handling discipline.What does each person want to bring from their family into the current relationship? What does each personwant to leave behind?

PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: Mapping Your Relationship, Closeness Exercises, Flexibility Exercises



SCOPE Personality Scales

The SCOPE Personality assessment consists of five dimensions based on the Five Factor Model of Personality.

The five dimensions and the couple's results are described below. Review the results of all five dimensionsrather than focusing on just one or two traits where individuals score high or low. Compare where the Personality SCOPE results are similar and where they are different. Discuss the advantage

and drawbacks to each. PREPARE/ENRICH Exercises: SCOPE out Your Personality

Social (S)This trait reflects preference for, and behavior in social situations.

TREY scored Low on being Social. These individuals tend to be reserved or introverted. Social introverts ofte

lack the exuberance and activity levels of extroverts. They may be low-key, deliberate, and less connectedsocially. They often prefer to be alone or with just a few close friends. These individuals likely feel re-energizeafter spending time alone or in small, intimate settings, as opposed to large groups or parties. If out of balancthey could appear reclusive or cut off from others.

KRISTEN scored in the Average range for being Social. These individuals may find social settings enjoyable,but will value privacy as well. Their preference for being in groups or alone may change based on their mood external circumstances. These individuals may notice they generally enjoy having a balance between alonetime and social activity.

Couple Discussion:Couples with one person scoring higher than the other will need to communicate openly with one another about

attending social events and getting together with others. One person receives energy from socializing withothers, while the other prefers more privacy and alone time. This difference may become more apparent whenthey are experiencing greater amounts of stress. They can avoid unnecessary conflict in their relationship bychecking it out with each other before saying "yes" or "no" to making social plans.




Change (C)This trait reflects openness to change, flexibility, and interest in newexperiences.

TREY scored Low on Change. These individuals are more down to earth, practical in nature, and less interest

in new ideas and experiences. Change may be difficult for them and increase their level of stress. Theseindividuals prefer the familiar and things they are accustomed to. Their attitudes are likely to be more

conventional or traditional. When out of balance, they could appear rigid or closed off to new experiences.

KRISTEN scored High on Change. These individuals will tend to be flexible, unconventional, and very open tonew experiences. They are open to change, and often have a broad range of interests. They thrive ondeveloping new and creative solutions to problems, even when a tried and true method might work just as we

When out of balance, they may appear to be too interested in new ideas and adventures. Others may wonderwhy they are constantly trying to reinvent the wheel.

Couple Discussion:One person scoring higher than the other may represent a case of being attracted to their opposite. The more

practical person is often attracted to the other's free thinking and open attitudes. Conversely, the more openperson may recognize the value of their partner's steady approach to life. There may be times when the other'sattitudes, preferences or behavior will be challenging or frustrating. They'll want to remember to work withdifferences rather than attempt to change or criticize one another. Building off each other’s strengths can help

them appreciate their differences.

Organized (O)This trait reflects how organized and persistent a person is in their daily lifeand work. It also reflects persistence in pursuing goals.

TREY scored Low on being organized. These individuals are more spontaneous. They may also be less carefuless focused, and more likely to be distracted from tasks. They are often easy-going and prefer not to makestrict plans. These individuals do not enjoy settings in which they are required to conform to strict guidelines.When out of balance, they could appear careless or disorganized.

KRISTEN scored in the Average range on this personality dimension. These individuals are generallyorganized. They are often dependable and goal-oriented, but can also be flexible, setting aside work andagendas. They know how to get organized, but it is not always a high priority. Their home and workspace arelikely somewhat cluttered, but they know where things are located.

Couple Discussion:Couples with one person scoring higher than the other will need to communicate openly with one another aboutheir goals, roles, and expectations. It is likely that their partner’s tendencies may be endearing at times, but caalso become annoying, distracting, or even maddening when stressful events come their way. They can balance

one another out and avoid the extremes of perfectionism versus sloppiness. Potential challenges includedifferent expectations for housekeeping, relationship roles, and long-term goals. They can work with theirstrengths and allow the more organized individual to handle necessary details. But they will also need to guardagainst expecting the organized individual to function more like a "parent" and less like a “partner.”




Pleasing (P)This trait reflects how considerate and cooperative one is in their interactionswith others.

TREY scored in the Average range on Pleasing. These individuals can be warm and cooperative, but

occasionally somewhat competitive, stubborn, or assertive. When they feel their rights are violated, they areable to respond and stand up for themselves. They might occasionally find themselves arguing about little

matters, but generally know how to get along well with others and are well liked.

KRISTEN scored High on the Pleasing dimension. These individuals will be trusting, friendly, and cooperative They value getting along with others, are considerate, and helpful. Optimistic about people, they view others

basically honest, decent, and trustworthy. When out of balance, they may sacrifice their own feelings and

opinions to please others. Some acquaintances may even see them as a push-over. In their partner relationshthey may find it difficult to ask for what they need.

Couple Discussion:Couples with one person scoring higher than the other may need to practice their communication and conflict

resolution skills. One partner may need to develop their ability to honestly express both positive and negativeopinions and feelings. In so doing, they can allow the more assertive partner the opportunity to truly understandhow they feel. The other partner will benefit from working to be a good listener. Looking for the positives in eacother's personality styles can strengthen the relationship.

Emotionally Steady (E)This trait reflects the tendency to stay relaxed and calm even when faced witstress, versus those who are more reactive to stress in their life.

TREY scored in the Average range on Emotionally Steady. These individuals are generally calm and able to

cope with stress. Others likely see them as capable of handling the everyday stressors that face most peopleWhen under high levels of stress, they could experience negative feelings of anxiety, depression or anger, buare generally emotionally steady and in control of their life.

KRISTEN scored Low on Emotionally Steady. These individuals are more emotionally sensitive and may be

easily upset. They have more difficulty handling stress in their life. They often don't enjoy new situations, andmay tend to avoid such experiences. They may be prone to anxiety, anger or depression when faced withstressful situations. When out of balance, these individuals appear fragile or overly sensitive. Someacquaintances may see their reactions as difficult to handle and pull away leaving them to feel even more

isolated.

Couple Discussion:Couples with one person scoring higher than the other may experience occasional challenges. In times of stressthe more emotionally calm person may need to take control and help the other feel less frustrated. The one

experiencing anxiety, anger or sadness might wonder why their partner doesn't feel the same way. They willneed to remember to work with one another's differences rather than attempting to change each other.Flexibility, problem solving and communication are key skills to help them deal with stress as a couple.

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