Counseling Teenage Rebellion

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Counseling Teenage Rebell ion Copyright Melvin Wong, Ph.D. 2001 All Rights Reserved

Melvin W. Wong, Ph.D.Licensed Clinical Psychologist

www.Christian [email protected]

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Tel (510)794-8898 Fax (510)475-1473220 Montgomery St., Suite 1098, San Francisco, CA 941041357 Mowry Ave., Fremont, CA 94538


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Philippians 2:15 (NIV)

so that you may become blameless

and pure, children of God without fault in

a crooked anddepraved

generation, in whichyou shine like stars

in the universe


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How Well Do you Know your Kids Barbara Kantrowitz & Pat Wingert, 38-39

Almost half of youths today lived throughtheir parents divorce

63% of youths live in households where parents work outside of the home25% say their mothers were home whenthey return from school98% teens spent 11 hour/week watching TVTeenagers spend 3.5 hrs. alone daily


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The Disconnected GenerationSaving Our Youth From Self-Destruction

The real battle is not in the amoraland immoral influences of our

culture, but in the hearts of our kids. Today's young people arelosing hope because they feel

isolated and alienated from their parents. They are the disconnectedgeneration.


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Biblical Principle for Parents

Stewardship -RewardSons are a heritage from the LORD,

children a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

127:3


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Biblical Principle for Parents

Training - GuidanceTrain a child in the way he should go, and

when he is old he will not turn from it.Proverbs 22:6

22:6


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Josh McDowell's Handbook on Counseling YouthA Comprehensive Guide for Equipping Youth

Workers, Pastors, Teachers, and Parents by

Josh McDowell ,Bob Hostetler

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Asian-American Discipline Trap

Rules without a Relationship

will lead to Rebellioneither outright disobedience or,

as so often happens,

Passive rebellion or Indifference.


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Basic Counseling Issues (Traps)

Denial of Problems: Blame; No OwnershipIP Identified Patient Concept IP is the Carrier of Family Problems IP: Barometer of Real Patient-System Problem

Family System Issues Fix parts to fix the whole

Fixing only a part, but missing the whole Recurrent-Chronic Problems

Forest & Trees Issues

Need for Comprehensive Understanding


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Counseling Essentials

Key Issue: Parental Relationship ProblemsTeenage Problems: Anger Derivatives

Destructiveness: Acting-Out: Authority Issues Depression: Acting-In: Truancy-Poor Grades

Systemic Dynamics: Family-Marital-Child

Identified PatientSystemic Changes: Family Treatment Avoid One-Sided Information Collection


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Colossians 3:20-21 NIV

Children, obey your parents in

everything, for this pleases the Lord.

Fathers, do notembitter your

children, or theywill becomediscouraged.


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IP Identified Patient Concept

What is Identified Patient? Why?System Theory of Family Counseling

One part of a problem: Reflects System problemWho is your client? (Your loyalty?)

The IP (child)? The Parents? The System?


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Teenage PsychologicalSymptoms

Behavioral ManifestationsAnger: Destructiveness

Truancy: School ProblemsSubstance Abuse: Emotional PainTalking-Back: OppositionalPromiscuity: Intimacy at all costsMasked Depression: Anger, Truancy,Diurnal Shifts, Social Isolation, Low Grades


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Malachi 4:5-6 NIV

"See, I will send you the prophet Elijah beforethat great and dreadful

day of the LORDcomes. He will turn thehearts of the fathers totheir children, and the

hearts of the children totheir fathers; or else Iwill come and strike the

land with a curse."


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How to Make a Referral?ChristianMentalHealth.com [email protected]

Thoughtfulness makes Referral Succeed You are too messed up so I cant help you Problem is Chronic & You Ran out of

Solutions

After the Referral: Your Care Continues How did the week go? Counseling Helpful? Learned Anything?

Establish Link with Professional


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Working with a Professional

Issue of Confidentiality: Trust & DisclosureIssue of Fees: Worth & the market place

Issue of Dual-Relationships: DestructiveList of Three Names: What is Christian? Expect Doctor shopping & Blaming

Making a Very Good Match: Similarities: Spiritual-Cultural-Language Gender-Matching: Case-by-Case

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