Copy of Working Relationship

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Being Good Isn’t Enough If You Can’t Work With People

Technical Abilities May Get You Into Management, But ItTakes Interpersonal Abilities To Stay There

Good Working Relationships Make Even The Worst JobBearable

The One Common Denominator In Every Mess You FindYourself In Is You

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Are You Willing To Own Your Piece Of The Problem, Or Do YouPrefer To ‘’BE RIGHT’’ And Blame Other People

Silence Is Deadlier Than Open Conflict. Conflict Even PoorlyExpressed, Can At least Be Dealt With

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Personal Relationships At Work Are Important For FriendshipMutual Support

Companies Do Not Bring People Together To Form SupportGroups--- The Primary Purpose Of Working Relationships Is ToAccomplish Work

Emphasizing ‘’Warm Family Feelings ‘’ Almost Inevitably

Results In Unreasonable And Unmet Expectations

If We Base Our Working Relationships On Friendship, We WillAlmost Certainly Problems Dealing With Conflict.

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People Who Insist On Respect Rarely Gets It

Liking Everyone You Work With Is Not A Requirement. It Is Not

Even Reasonable Expectation

Nothing Complicates Conflict Resolution Faster Than ‘’SharingYour Feelings’’

First Things First—Build And Effective ProfessionalRelationships, And Personal Relationships Will Follow

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Filling A Room With Team Players Does Not GuaranteeTeamwork

Personalizing Conflict Is The First Step In RelationshipBreakdown

Conflict Properly Managed, Seeds Growth, Creativity, And

Change

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Flawed Conflict Diagnosis #1---The Personality Of The OtherPerson

Flawed Conflict Diagnosis #2--- Incompetence Of The OtherPerson

Emotions Unleashed Almost Always Do More Damage To TheSender Than They Do To The Receiver

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Some Opinions Are Endlessly Discussed----With EveryoneBut The People Who Need To Hear Them

Nothing Kills Relationships More Surely Than Issues LeftUnspoken

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THOSE PROBLEM PEOPLE

The Magic Words ---Please---And Thank You—Still Go A LongWay

Some People Might Make Great Neighbors, But You Would Not

Want Them To Manage People In Your Company

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When Everyone Participates, Organizations Get Smarter

Your Management Has The Right—And Sometimes The

Responsibility---To Retain Decision—Making Authority OverCertain Decisions

In Crisis, The Need For Speed May Call Consolidation Of Authority And Less Participation

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Nothing Derails Clear Thinking And Open CommunicationFaster Than Anger Given Free Rein

The Team Player May Have A History Of Being Hammered IntoSubmission

If You Think People Are Intimidated By Your Power , Take ACloser Look. It Just Might Be Possible That You Are Not VeryPleasant To Work With

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Some People Shut Down For A Long Time If You Make Them

Feel Stupid Or Exposed

Gathering Your Thoughts Before You Act May Be Good StressManagement-And Career Preservation—Strategy

It’s Easy To Think Of The Perfect Thing To Say--- About Six

Hours Too Late

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Some Conversations Are Going To Be Uncomfortable, NoMatter How Much Preparation You Put Into Them

Your Assessments Of The Other Person’s Character Or

Intentions Have No Place In Business Conversations

:; Don’t Take This Personally, But---;; Is Almost AlwaysFollowed By A Highly Personal Attack

Choose Your Battles Carefully. Some Issues Are NotImportant Enough To Bring To The Table For Discussion

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Don’t Be Reckless. Resolutely Taking A Stand Can DamageCredibility--- Perhaps Even Your Career.

No One Likes Complaints. Always Bring A Specific Request ,Suggestion Or Solution To The Table

Give Your Boss Ultimatum And You May Get An Opportunity

To Polish Your Job Seeking Skills

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There’s Nothing Wrong With Referring To Written Notes DuringA Conversation.

Ask For What You Want---You Just Might Get It.

Make Sure That The Two Of You Have Been Involved In TheSame Conversation

A No Is Often Just The Beginning Of A Great Problem—SolvingConversation

Never Expect Someone To Grant A Request That Fails To Take

His Or Her Needs Into Account 15



There Are Many Ways To Get There From Here-----Unless, Of Course, You Just Want To Be Right

When People Disagree With You, It May Not Mean They Do

Not Understand You. They May Just Disagree

Gossip Is Poisonous----Talk To The Person Who Needs To HearAbout Your Concern Or Don’t Talk About It At All.

It Takes Discipline To Quit Explaining Your Point Of View AndAccept That You Gave It Your Best Shot

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