Hello Matt,

I hope all is well for your family in every realm of life. I empathize with your dilemma, stuck though faithful. There are myriad influences, active or nescient, in a continuously monogamous relationship, and myriad things we can do to affect enriching shared experiences and outcomes, many of which necessitate, usually, more intimate contact to prescribe, unique for each being.

Let me assist regarding controlling and optimizing sexual desire, some of which may be done by men and women, and some uniquely for males.

A key element for men is that when we stand to pee we also drain semen out of our body. Is standing to pee pleasurable, satisfying, beyond getting the piss out? One reason why it may feel good has to do with the journey, the path the urine takes through the penis. The urethral path is surrounded by the prostate and ganglions of nerves there, giving pleasure from the urine passing along. After a few years of life we most all notice that the last urine to leave the body is thickest, as it is loaded with sediment. When we stand to pee, not all of the urine available for release is passed and this last urine contains the most sediment. Retained within the body, this sediment acts as an aggravant to our prostate and the pleasure ganglions surrounding it which contributes to excess stimulation.

Being a gland, the prostate affects how we feel in many ways, including personal certitude. The abrasive influences of the unreleased sediment aggravating the area diminishes both our health, our disposition and our virility over time and may be conducive to urinary tract / potency retentive tension, negatively affecting our friend's turgor, especially over time if such practices continue.

Two immediate things a man can do, among many, are to pee while sitting down, which will release far more urine each and every time. Next few times you go to the restroom to pee, do so standing up as you may usually do, releasing as much as you do in your usual manner, then turn around and sit, only to discover there's far more inside just waiting to go the rest of the way, and thick too. The second thing men can do, and women can do this also, is to pour cold water from the navel down each time using the rest room. And when concentrating the mind, eating, sleeping or otherwise enjoying life beautifully, use the restroom anyway, releasing all urine and pouring cold water from the navel down.

Doing these two things will also prevent the regular loss of semen every time you pee, which I guarantee you is happening every time you stand to pee.

Yogic exercise is excellent for appropriating sexual dynamicity for and when desired, of particular capacity is Cow's head pose, known as Gomukhasana in Sanskrit. After pouring water from the navel down after peeing, and while wearing tight underwear, sit on the floor with legs extended fully out in front of you. Leaning back slightly, first lift the left leg up above the right leg while the inner thigh presses and lifts from the perineum upward into the right leg, then crossing the left thigh atop the right then and folding the forelegs under your butt till you are sitting on your heels. [Attempting to reach this position with the forelegs is important though not necessary. I can't currently get them there though I reach toward that position as best as I can]. You should feel the inner thigh crossing lifting from your perineum, your prostate as well as your genitals all on top your crossed thighs.

Next is to reach your arms behind your back, one above and one below. With your left leg on top of your right leg, your left arm should reach behind your back crosswise with your left hand reach upwards between your shoulder blades, while your right hand shoudl be reaching over your right shoulder downwards to capture the fingers of your left hand into a clinch, as shown below:

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This should be done for 30 seconds four times on each side, alternating between each side consecutively.

Also, if you and/or your wife/girlfriend are taking any natural medicines, it will strengthen your bonds and fulfill the purposes of the one needing such proper natural medicine if both of you take the medicine, even if the partner does not personally need to take such medicine. Doing so greatly enhances the success of the needy partner's optimization and flourishes mutuality in your bonds, sparking richer intimacy.

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Bottom of FormTHURSDAY, FEBRUARY 27, 2014Bilva - Lord Shiva's Sacred Tree Bilva is an ancient tree with spiritual and medicinal importance in ayurveda. It is extensively described in Indian literature, since Vedic period. Its botanical name is Aegle marmelos and belongs to Rutaceae family.

Bilva is a large tree growing to a maximum height of around 18 meters. Its natural habitat includes the dry forests in India, Myanmar, Nepal, Sri Lanka, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Afghanistan, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia and Thailand. The Bael tree has a gray colored bark with thorny branches and aromatic leaves.

The tree is regarded as sacred in Hindu mythology. It is said that the tree is dear to Lord Shiva who sits under the tree to meditate hence its called as Sivadruma. The leaves of this tree are offered to Lord Shiva during religious rituals. The most important part of his tree is its fruit. It is a small, woody-skinned structure with a diameter of around 5 to 15 centimeters. . The fruit is green, when raw, and appears pale brown upon ripening. On opening it, one finds many seeds embedded in a thick, mucus-like pulp.

In the Atharva Veda it is described as being so sacred that its wood may not be burned for fuel. It is one among Dashamoola herbs (Group of ten roots).

SynonymsVarious names used to describe bilva are commonly known as bael, Bengal quince, golden apple, stone apple, wood apple, bili.Sanskrit Synonyms: Maaloora, Shandilya, Shailusha, Shriphala, Gandhagarbha, Sadaaphala, Mahakapittha, Kantaki, Granthila.Classical categorization:Charaka:Shothahara Group of herbs with anti inflammatory propertyArshoghna Group of herbs useful in haemorrhoidsAsthapanopaga Group of herbs useful in Basti treatment.Sushruta included bael inVarunadi gana, Ambashtadi gana, Brihat panchamoola, Dashamoola.

Availability of Bilva in IndiaBael grows in the subtropical hills and plains of India. It thrives in dry forests and has a reputation for surviving in conditions unsuitable for other fruits. Given its ancient history and evolution, it is no doubt craftier and more adaptable than modern strains and hybrids of various new crops.

Season of BilvaBael season is February through May. Its difficult to find fresh bael outside of these months, though some suppliers store unripe fruits and gas them into ripeness at several points in the year for a higher price.

Checking for Ripeness in Bilva fruitUnripe bael skin is grayish green until it changes to a yellowish tinge as it ripens. Distributors pick the fruit while its still greenish yellow with the expectation that in 8 to 10 days, bael will ripen. Another indicator of ripeness is when the stem falls off readily from the fruit.

Storing BilvaBael does not have to be refrigerated and can be kept on the kitchen counter at temperatures up to appx 85 degrees Fahrenheit. Bael also keeps for quite a long time, with the range of acceptability lasting from 2 weeks to 4 months if kept in cool storage. However, keep an eye on bael, as it may become overripe. This is indicated by cracks and mold at the stem end.

Taste of BilvaBaels orangey flesh tastes like a combination of sweet and sour, with the ratio varying on the ripeness and particular cultivar. Bael may irritate the throat of some who try its resinous, pasty orange flesh. The texture of a ripe bael fruit ranges from sticky, slimy and creamy.

Bilva PhalaUnripe bael fruitKapha anila hara balances Vata and kapha.Teekshna (piercing)Snigdha (unctuous, oilyness)Sangrahi AbsorbantDeepana improves digestionKatu, Tikta, Kashaya has pungent, bitter and astringent tasteUshna hotIt is quite similar to unripe fruit in qualities butMadhura anurasa It has sweet after tasteGuru (heavy to digest)Vidahi causes slight burning sensationVishtambhakara causes constipation. Useful in diarrhoea and dysenteryDoshakrut may cause imbalance of Tridosha, especially Vata.(Ripe Bael fruit)

Unique to other fruits, Bael Fruit takes nearly 11 months to ripen and is about the size of a grapefruit. Cracking the shell is not an easy task and many doing the harvesting use a machete to complete this effort. The fruit is described as having a taste similar to marmalade and a scent similar to roses. Oil derived from bael fruit pulp is hot in nature, and relieves Vata

Bilva fruit AppearanceDimension of Fruit: shape: round or oval; diameter: 5 12.5 cm; weight 1-2.5 kg.Rind/Pulp: thin, hard, woody rind. When unripe the rind color is grayish green and yellow when ripe.

Bilva rootTridoshaghna balances TridoshaChardighna relieves vomitingShulaghna relieves abdominal colic painMadhura sweetLaghu light to digestThe unripe fruit of Bael isTuvara AstringentGrahi absorbantRuksha DryAgni Pittakrut improves digestion and Pitta.Vatashleshmahara balances Vata and Kapha

Bilva leafSangrahi AbsorbantVatajit Balances Vata

Bilva PithKaphavataghna balances Kapha and VataAmaghna relieves state of indigestion at the level of digestive tract and tissuesShulaghna relieves abdominal colic painGrahini Absorbant

Bilva StemKasaghna relieves cough, coldAmavataghna useful in rheumatoid arthritisHrudya good for heartAgnivardhana improves digestion power CarminativeKatu pungentKashaya astringentUshna hotTikta BitterDeepana, Pachana - Digestive, improves digestive enzymesSnigdha (unctuous, oilyness)Teekshna (piercing)

Bilva leavesBael leaves are used in dyspepsia, gastritis indigestion, cold and sinusitis.

Bilva FlowerAtisarahara Relieves dysentery and diarrhoeaTrushahara relieves thirstVamihara anti emetic relieves vomiting.

Medicinal usesDigestiveAs the bael fruit bears strong digestive properties, its regular use gives relief from any kind of digestive discomfort. In case of disease like diarrhea and dysenteries it is found very useful as it cleans up and promotes normal intestinal functioning. It tones up the digestive track and alimentary canal to allow proper bowel movements. Reap bael fruit is natural laxative and removes constipation complaints.This fruit consists of carbohydrates, fats, proteins, Vitamin C and minerals like Iron, Phosphorus, Carotene and thiamin. The presence of such nutrients including fibers makes it useful in the treatment of digestive and gastrointestinal disorders.The fruit is excellent in treating various digestion problems. The fruit is also rich in Vitamin C. Half ripe fruits are taken; the pulp is removed, dried and powdered. It is better to consume 3 to 10 grams 2 to three times per day. The fruit is very effective in curing diseases like constipation, dysentery, diarrhea, worms, peptic ulcer, etc. Bilva root bark, unripe fruit are useful in loss of appetite, diarrhea, dysentery, sprue, pain in abdomen.LaxativeRipe bael fruit is one of the best known natural laxatives.It's excellent for cleansing and toning the intestines and helps in evacuating old collected fecal contents from the bowels.Taking ripe fruit everyday for about 2-3 months can eliminate acute and sub-chronic constipation.Eye and ear disordersFresh juice of leaves is used to treat eye infections. Roots of the young tree are used to treat ear infections. A small, stiff piece of root is dipped in neem oil and lighted. The oil that drips from the burning end is collected. This is an excellent medicine for treating ear infections.HaemorrhoidsA mixture of the unripe fruit along with some ginger and fennel is a supposed cure for haemorrhoids.Diarrhoea and DysenteryThe specialty of bilva is such that it can be used to cure both constipation and loose motion. Bilva unripe fruits work as appetizer, digestive and astringent opposite to this ripened fruits are sweet and mild laxative.According to Ayurveda, diarrhea and dysentery without fever can be treated with bael fruit. The fruit can be dried and mixed with jaggery or brown sugar.The pulp of raw fruits is effective in treating bleeding piles and bacillary dysentery.Liver ProtectiveBilva leaves powder is liver stimulant so perfects the normal functions of the liver. Bilva leaf powder mixed with black pepper is used in jaundiceHaemostaticBilva is haemostatic it is also used in hemorrhoids and in other diseases with tendency of bleeding. Bilva unripe fruit ground to paste and cooked with sugar known as Bilvavleha is very beneficial in bleeding piles.Peptic UlcerThose having peptic ulcer can extract the juice from the leaves of this tree and consume it. It is better to consume it in the morning. When taken regularly for a few weeks, the ulcers get cured. Soaking bael leaves overnight and drinking the strained water supposedly helps peptic ulcers. Bael leaves are rich in tannins which reduce inflammation and help healing of ulcers. The bael fruit taken in the form of beverage has also great viscous content. This substance forms a coating on the stomach mucosa and thus helps in the healing of ulcer.Gastroprotection propertiesGastroduodenal ulcers are the most common form of gastric ulcers. Such ulcers develop when there is an imbalance in the acid mucosa levels, or due to oxidative stress along the gastric tract. Experiments gave positive results in gastric ulcer inhibition. The phenolic compounds found in bael extracts possessed potent antioxidants which helped in reducing gastric ulcers.The leaves contain large amounts of aromatic oils and infusion of leaves is considered a potent medicine for peptic ulcers.Cholesterol controlBael leaf extracts were studied for their cholesterol control. They were effective in decreasing blood cholesterol levels comparable to modern drugs. Bael leaf extracts controlled not just blood cholesterol levels but also triglycerides and serum and tissue lipid profiles.Antimicrobial propertiesBael leaves, roots and fruit extracts have been studied for their antimicrobial properties. The extracts showed inhibition of many bacterial strains. Apart from bacteria, bael extracts were also effective in controlling fungal and viral infections. The antimicrobial properties are due to the presence of biochemicals such as cuminaldehyde and eugenol.Anti-InflammatoryBael extracts possess anti-inflammatory properties which help in reducing histamine induced contractions and induce positive relaxant effect in the inflamed regions or organs. The leaves are used as a hot poultice to soothe inflammations. Bilva leaves powder is used for fomentation in disease condition like swelling pain in ribs.The anti-inflammatory property of bael fruit is due to the element naming tannins which heals the chronic inflammation. It is also works well in case of gynecological problems and gives relief from related pain.Respiratory InfectionsMedicated oil made up of bael leaf cures cold and respiratory disorders due to certain infections. The equal mixture of juice of bael leaf and sesame oil is the best remedy to get rid of cold, cough and asthma.The leaf juice, mixed in warm water with a little pepper, is give as a drink to bring relief from wheezing and respiratory spasmAnti-PyreticThey are diaphoretic (producing more perspiration), thus reducing temperature and lowering fevers, and an aphrodisiac. A decoction of leaves is a favorite remedy for ailments that often occur during seasonal changes, such as fever, flu and fatigue. The bael fruit also bears anti-fungal and antimalarial properties, good to use in the treatment of malaria. The seed oil is a purgative, and the leaf juice mixed with honey is a folk remedy for fever. The tannin-rich and alkaloid-rich bark decoction is a folk cure for malaria.ControlsEmesisThe root is the most important part of the tree medicinally, after removing the outer skin. A preparation made from the root with ginger and toasted rice cures vomiting.AphrodisiacThe gum of the inside pulp of the fruit is an aphrodisiac (kama-vardhani).ScurvyWe know that Scurvy is caused due to the deficiency of vitamin C. As bael fruits are rich source of the same vitamin so it helps to recover from the deficiency and cures scurvy.Snake BitesThe root and leaves of bael are used in the treatment of snake bites from ancient times and found very effective.The pulp is poulticed onto bites and stings of venomous insects, as is the powdered rind.It has the ability to heal small ulcers inside the bowel which are produced by infection or inflammation.Heart diseasesBilva fruit powder works as a cardiac tonic, haemostaic and alleviates swelling, hence is root used in cardiac dedillity and palpitation.Mix the juice of ripe bael fruit with some ghee. Include this mixture in your daily diet to prevent heart related diseases like heart strokes and attacks.CoolerDrink bael fruit juice with honey to cure acidity. You can also apply this on your tongue to cure mouth ulcers. Drink bael juice before lunch or dinner to reduce heat and thirst from body. This can be the best drink during the scorching summers!Skin rashMix 30ml of bay leaf juice, cumin with bael juice and drink it twice a day to cure urticaria. This can also be beneficial for skin rash and its symptoms like pale red, raised, itchy bumps.Anti-CancerConsume this juice regularly to prevent or cure cancer.Control diabetesBael juice contains laxatives that are helpful to control the blood sugar levels. It stimulates the pancreas and helps them in enough production of insulin that controls sugar level in the blood.

Culinary UsesDried fruit products are achieved by slicing and sun drying the slivers of fruit. Later, they maybe simmered in water. Leaves from the tree are sometimes eaten as part of a salad.The pulp of ripe fruits is also used to make candies, toffees, squash and nectar.It can be eaten fresh; also prepared as sun-dried slices, pickled, sherbet, marmalade and syrup. The young leaves and shoots are eaten as a vegetable in Thailand and used to season food in Indonesia.Bael fruits may be cut in half, or the soft types broken open, and the pulp, dressed with palm sugar, eaten for breakfast, as is a common practice in Indonesia. The pulp is often processed as nectar or "squash" (diluted nectar). A popular drink (called "sherbet" in India) is made by beating the seeded pulp together with milk and sugar. A beverage is also made by combining bael fruit pulp with that of tamarind. These drinks are consumed perhaps less as food or refreshment than for their medicinal effects.Mature but still unripe fruits are made into jam, with the addition of citric acid. The pulp is also converted into marmalade or syrup, likewise for both food and therapeutic use, the marmalade being eaten at breakfast by those convalescing from diarrhea and dysentery. A firm jelly is made from the pulp alone, or, better still, combined with guava to modify the astringent flavor. The pulp is also pickled.A confection, bael fruit toffee, is prepared by combining the pulp with sugar, glucose, skim milk powder and hydrogenated fat. Indian food technologists view the prospects for expanded bael fruit processing as highly promising. An infusion of the flowers is a cooling drink.

Other UsesThe fruit pulp has detergent action and has been used for washing clothes. Quisumbing says that bael fruit is employed to eliminate scum in vinegar-making.The gum enveloping the seeds is most abundant in wild fruits and especially when they are unripe. It is commonly used as household glue and is employed as an adhesive by jewelers. Sometimes it is resorted to as a soap-substitute.The limonene-rich oil has been distilled from the rind for scenting hair oil. The shell of hard fruits has been fashioned into pill- and snuff boxes, sometimes decorated with gold and silver. The rind of the unripe fruit is employed in tanning and also yields a yellow dye for calico and silk fabricsIn the Hindu culture, the bael leaves are indispensable offerings to the 'Lord Shiva'. The leaves and twigs are lopped for fodder.From the bael flowers, cologne is obtained by distillation.Artists add fruit pulp to their water color, and it may be applied as a protective coating on paintings.In rural areas, the fruit, which has binding qualities, is mixed with lime plaster for water proofing wells and is added to cement for building walls in villages.

PrecautionsBael leaves are said to cause abortion and sterility in womenLarge quantities may result in digestive disorders and constipation.Always keep in mind though you want to enjoy bael health benefits, that ripe bael should not be taken at a stretch. Give a short break and then start taking it to get the more efficiency.Again excessive quantity of bael pulp is hard to digest. As a result you can feel the problem of constant fullness of stomach.There goes a proverb too regarding the intake of bael leaves that they should not be taken by the young males and females, for the leaves have the power to curb the urge of sex

Mythological importance

Bilva or Aegle Marmelos is the embodiment of Lord Shiva himself and is one of the sacred tree symbols of Hinduism.Maha Shivaratri is considered the most auspicious time to please Lord Shiva to gain his blessings. What is the simplest way of appeasing Lord Shiva? Offer him Bilva leaves.The most terrible karma is destroyed when a Bilva leaf is offered to Lord Shiva. The unbelievable merits one receives on offering a single Bilva leaf to Lord Shiva are described in the 9 verses of the sacred hymn known as Bilvashtakam.Just like Tulsi plant is sacred to Lord Krishna and Durva grass is sacred to Lord Ganesha, Bilva tree is sacred to Lord Shiva. Since the Bilva leaf has such significance in the worship of Lord Shiva, it is common to find Bilva trees cultivated in the vicinity of Shiva temples. The fruits were used in place of coconuts before large-scale rail transportation became available.

The Bilva tree in the Shiva PuranaAccording to the Shiva Purana (7 AD) the Bilva tree is the manifest form of Lord Shiva himself, while all the great tirthas (pilgrimage places) are said to reside at its base. One who worships the shivalingam while sitting under the Bilva, claims this great epic, and attains the state of Shiva. Washing the head by this tree is said to be the equivalent of bathing in all the sacred rivers. One who performs Bilva pooja with flowers and incense achieves Shiva loka, the abode of pure consciousness, and has happiness and prosperity bestowed upon them. The lighting of the deepak (lamp) before this tree bestows knowledge and enables the devotee to merge in Lord Shiva. The Shiva Purana also claims that if the devotee removes the new leaves from one of the branches of that tree and worships the tree with them, they will be freed from vice, while one who feeds a devotee under the Bilva will grow in virtue.

From the Hindu pantheism point of view this tree is the symbolic representation of Shiva, Parvati, Surya and Lakshmi- the Goddess of Wealth. It is said that no worship of Shiva is complete without offering Bel patra or Bilva leaf. These leaves on the lingam cool and refresh the heated deity. Its trifoliate leaf or tripatra symbolises the three functions-creation, preservation and destruction(Brahma,Vishnu and Mahesh )of the Lord as well as His three eyes. The tri-foliate form of leaves symbolize the trident that Shiva holds in his right hand.

Quoting the Skanda Purana and explained the origin of Bilva tree, One day while Parvati was resting some drops of sweat fell from her forehead on the mountain Mandara, from which grew the bel tree, Girija lives on the root of the tree, Maheswari on its shoulder, Dukshayani on its branches, Parvati among its leaves, Katyayani in its fruit, Gauri in its flowers while in thorns the numerous Saktis find a home. It is also believed that Lakshmi, the Goddess of Wealth, also lives in the bel tree. Those who perform the puja of Shiva and Parvati devoutly, using the leaves, will be endowed with spiritual powers. The bilva leaves are-symbols of three Gunasaar Sattva, Raja and Tama.

Really speaking Bilva is medicinally and religiously very powerful. On the one hand it acts as a boost to health and cure for many ailments; on the other hand it has great spiritual significance which permeates the Hindu way of life.

May the next tree you plant be a Bilva Tree! It will not only show your commitment towards greening the environment, but also display your concern for humanity, given such divine merits and medicinal value of the Bilva Tree.A bilva sapling must be tenderly nurtured and protected until it has reached a certain height right for transplanting. Quite like a fragile baby bird that must be carefully tended until such time it leaves the nest to flourish independently.

May the almighty Lord Shiva bless you all with perfect health.

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