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Religion Of Islam

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chief editor /Wael Mohamed Ibrahim /Wong Lok Yin, Shirley

editorial team/Chow Yuk Ki, Laura

/Choy Si Yan, Tiffany/Fong Lok Lam, Joyce

/Lee Cheuk Hei, Jeffrey/Leung Ka Kin, John

/Leung Wan Chi, Queenie/Ng Ho In, Joyce

/Tam Chun Kui, Willy /Tsang Chun Hei, Jason/Tse Wing Tung, Jamie

/Wong Shun Yan, Yandi/Wong Joe Li, Juilet

designer/Chan Yin Yee, Hayrunnisa

publishing by/Serving Islam Team

address/340-342 Hennessy Road,Kuo Wah Building,

7th/F Room No 707,Wanchai ,Hong Kong

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Religion Person Person Person Religion Person Religion Religion Person Religion Person Person Religion Person Person Religion Religion Person Person Person Religion Person Person Religion Person Religion Person Person Person Religion Religion Person Religion Person Religion ReligionNot easy, isn’t it? ;)

Try this: say “Islam” when you see “religion”,say “Muslim” when you see “person”

Answer“Islam” and “Muslim” are Arabic termsIslam = ReligionMuslims = people believing in the religion Islam

Matching Game

Islam

Muslim

A person

A religion

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They can also be found in the Bible!Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses and Jesus. Muhammad is the greatest and the last of all prophets sent by God.

The God is one and incomparable.Same God for Muslims, Jews and Christians?Yes, they believe in the same God, but they perceive Him differently.

Quran:The verbatim word of God and the final revelation, the central religious text of Islam.

Previous scriptures.

Created to serve Allah entirely without free will.

All mankind will be judged by Allah on their good and bad deeds.

Everything is pre-determined.We have free will to judge right and wrong and make decisions. We are responsible forour own actions.

So what do Muslims believe in actually?

Prophets sent by Allah

AllahGod’s

revelations

Angels

Judgment Day Predestination

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3. It’s just like if you do not believe in Islam, I cannot force you to do so, right? You’re not Muslim, so you can eat pork, just like my parents. You can go your own way, so why not me? After all, it is all about respect.

2. It’s really difficult to find a place for Salat in Central! There’re OLs everywhere! Imagine how hard I tried just to put down a blanket in Statue Square! Haha! So you know, people are in an endless stream that all of them will be taken aback! They will be totally at a loss, wondering “Oh, what is this weird woman doing here?!” You see? That’s why I’ve tried praying at the rear stairs but it will only make me creepier when someone pops in.

1. Well, I feel comfortable to wear Hijab. And people often find it interesting that why I can speak fluent Cantonese! It somehow helps us to start chit-chats, like the taxi drivers and I always have lots to talk about, just because of Hijab. So I really enjoy wearing it.

Some sharings from Muslims

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I wear Hijab, Because I am a Muslim. •It is the symbol of Muslim women.•It is a religious obligation to protect one’s chastity.

I wear Hijab, Because the society tells me to. •Social pressure: some countries still discriminate women who do not wear Hijab. Women are under public pressure to conform to the mainstream of the Muslims. In this case, Hijab loses its function of being a religious icon.

I do not wear Hijab, Because the society discourages me to.•Some women choose not to wear Hijab due to Western influence.

•The clothes should not be transparent or very glamorous to avoid attracting the opposite sex. •The clothes should be loose and not very right so as to avoid revealing the figure.•Females should not dress like male. •Women can decide whether they cover their face.

Some do not wear it, but they know one day they are going to make that decision.

Must Muslim females wear hijab?

To wear hijab or not to wear, this is the question

What kind of clothes?

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What is love to you?

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One loves whom he loves. One hates whom he hates. Simple as this, we nevertheless can’t help asking. Ah! How difficult it is to love!

Four years already, this story of mine involves him as one of the main characters. It was him who introduced me to Islamic religion- an unusual turn in an ordinary story. Ordinary I was, I studied in a Christian primary school. I prayed when I was asked to. And I commemorated the ancestors when I was told to. Muslims were to me terrorists. I am not overwhelmingly intelligent, really. But life has been good to me. All of a sudden, I became an accountant. All of a sudden, I was in London, practicing accounting. Those were the years of no regret. I tried so hard to shake off the straitjacket of conventions. But what does life mean to me? I didn’t know.

All of a sudden...

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I once against discriminated the unfamiliar, all because of my prejudice. I can still recall walking at the riverside one day. I was just walking. And suddenly someone yelled “Chinese pig!” It was then I understood what “discrimination” meant. Funny, isn’t it?

Life wasn’t so funny then: the collapse of Lehman Brothers, my uncle dying from cancer.Things come and go so easily. I was lost. Religion was naturally what I sought for. At first I chose Christianity which I was more familiar with. Half-year of churchgoing proved me wrong. It was then I picked up the Quran that my friend gave me. My first reading only provided me with superficial knowledge but little interest of the religion, like my first encounter with him. He was just back from the US.

I watched some video clips on Quran online. I learnt something about its historical background. And I started to accept it, agree with it, and have faith in it that it would lead me out of storms in life. So I believed in Islam, but daren’t so officially.

So he proposed to me, after having met for three times in ten days. And we got married.Straightforwardness saves time, doesn’t it? Love doesn’t necessarily have to involve lots of drama. It is about being together in life.

Funny, indeed. I once rejected Islamic religion.

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All these happened without my family’s knowing. When I went back to Hong Kong, My parents naturally could not accept it. From my Muslim faith; my non-Chinese, my beardy husband; my refusal to eat pork and to commemorate my ancestors; to my daily prayers--- all these were completely rejected by my parents. He was a good husband though, facing my parents with utmost consideration. When I moved out of home, my mother wept until her eyes turned red. He hugged her, comforted her. She struggled and pushed him away. Only time will tell, I thought. He understood, and so did I. We both understood, even if others didn’t.

Actually, we seldom spent time together. We were often parted due to work. But this love, this marriage was real to us. As for my mother who speaks no English, she asked my uncle to observe us. His comments were positive. Nevertheless, she has never treated me as a married woman, as we did not organize any grand feast in the traditional way.

I became his wife and officially a Muslim on the same day in Japan.

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Even so, marriage has changed the way I see life.I learnt how to prioritize my life. I even had the courage to quit my job. I was unemployed for eight months. After working in several companies, I now work as a financial manager at “the Mother’s Choice” to help the unmarried mothers and their children. I love my job. And I know what my life is about. Without him, without religion, I would not be who I am today.

Unfortunately, he has his work, and I have my life. Ah! How difficult it is to love! Our marriage lasted only for four years. If being together brings so much troubles, even if there is love, and precisely because of love, why not let go?

Allah stays with me though, now and for years to come. I believe in destiny.What comes will come. What is yours will be yours. What goes will go. What is not yours will never be yours. And I believe, this story is yet to be finished.

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Christianity (Catholic, Orthodox And Protestant)

Islam (Sunni, Shi'ite And Other)

Hinduism

Other Religion (Chinese Religion, Other Buddhism And Nature Religion)

Judaism

World Of Religion

Refer By Wikihttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Prevailing_world_religions_map.png

基督教（天主教，東正教和新教）

伊斯蘭教（遜尼派，什葉派及其他）

印度教

其他宗教（中國宗教，其他佛教與自然宗教）

猶太教參考由維基http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Prevailing_world_religions_map.png

世界宗教

我對生活的看法不同了。有了他，我對生活的看法不同了，懂得分人生、家庭、工作的輕重，懂得取捨，懂得分配時間。我甚至有勇氣辭職，當了八個月的「無業遊民亅。到過各種公司工作後，現在我在「母親的抉擇」當財務經理，幫助未婚懷孕的女孩和孤兒。我享受工作，對自己的身份更明確。沒有他，沒有信仰，就沒有今天的我。

無奈，「他有他的工作，我有我的忙碌亅，現實上要磨合實在太難太辛苦。四年，便分開了。大家都明白。如果在一起反而帶來這麼多麻煩，即使相愛、正因為相愛，不如放手。

至今，信仰依然陪伴在我左右。甚至變得更加自信虔誠。

我相信，緣到緣盡自有安排：是來了、屬於你的 - 擋不住、總會來臨的；是完了、不屬你的 - 留不住、總會溜走的。

而我亦相信，這是個未完待續的故事。

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那個見了三次面，前後不過十日的他向我求婚。

而我們亦結婚了。能夠有一個人如此直接，無謂浪費時間，不是挺好的嗎？相愛的話，不一定要是轟轟烈烈，是相守、相伴、互相慰解。如是者，他引領我成為一個真正的教徒。在同一天，在日本，我成為了他的妻子和回教徒。事實上，兩件事我都沒怎樣跟家人商量過。回到香港，父母自然接受不了。從信教、不諳中文滿面鬍鬚的丈夫、不能再喝豬骨湯、拜山不上香、到做禮拜，一概無法接受。不過他真的很好，很體諒岳父岳母。在搬離家的那天，我媽哭紅了眼。他抱著她、安慰她。她掙開了，一手摔開他。我想，時間是可以證明一切的。他懂，我也懂。我們懂，旁人不懂也不要緊。

其實，我們真正共處的時光不多，有時候因工作要分隔兩地。可是，這份愛情，這段婚姻，依然真實清晰。至於我母親，她因為不懂英文，派出學歷較高的舅父來觀察我們。結論是，我們的確很好。儘管她以我們沒依中國人傳統結婚大排筵席，而一直不當我已嫁作人婦。

我就是這樣信了伊斯蘭教。可是我沒有勇敢去入教。

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我曾經抗拒伊斯蘭教和回教徒；我曾經歧視不熟悉的文化和種族。一切只因為不願意踏出自己的框框，不願意從別人的角度看事物。還記得有一次在外地的河旁散步，突然有個外國人叫我們做「中國豬亅，才明白到甚麼是歧視。真的很可笑，對吧？

再後來，親眼目睹雷曼兄弟破產倒閉、伯父癌病過世。思前想後，原來身邊的事物以及人們，可以一朝消失瓦解。那時，我很迷茫，於是開始接觸宗教去尋找人生的意義。起初，我選擇了熟悉的基督教。上了半年教堂，始終認為不適合我。之後想起，朋友給了我一本《古蘭經》。第一次看完，都只是一知半解，亦沒有引起我的興趣。就像他一樣。當初認識從美國來的他，並沒有甚麼感覺。再看了網上有關《可蘭經》的影片，還有它的歷史背景。然後，開始認同它的價值觀，這是可以幫助我走出困局的宗教。

其實很可笑。

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你憧憬甚麼樣的愛情？

愛情本身應該不含任何雜質 - 愛就愛，不愛就不愛。奈何現實生活中愛情總不能獨善其身。愛與不愛 - 牽涉的東西太多了。

四年的愛情，在旁人眼中，是多麼不平凡。然而我只是一個平凡不過的香港女孩。

是他引領我信奉伊斯蘭教的。

我只是一個平凡不過的香港女孩。就讀基督教小學、大時大節跟家人拜拜山、人又不特別聰明、覺得中東人都是恐怖分子。從小到大，每次亦可以順順利利、糊裡糊塗過關。糊裡糊塗當上了會計師，糊裡糊塗到過倫敦闖練。瘋過，見識過。嘗試擺脫香港人那套價值觀。卻一直弄不清自己做人目的為何。

突然

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《緣‧繫》

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我戴頭巾是因為社會要我這樣做。•社會輿論壓力：某些國家對不戴頭巾的女性仍存有偏見，這促使她們因為社 會壓力才戴頭巾，令頭巾喪失了宗教認同的標誌。

我不戴頭巾是因為社會不允許。•部份穆斯林女性受了西方文化影響而不戴頭巾。

我作為一個穆斯林，我必須戴頭巾。 •這是穆斯林女性的象徵。•這是宗教義務，用來保護女性的貞潔。

•衣服不應過緊，以免展露體態。•衣服不宜透明或過於花巧，避免吸引異性的目光。•女性不可作男性打扮。•女性有自由選擇完全遮蓋臉與否。

雖然有部份穆斯林女性沒有戴頭巾，但她們知道終有一日是要做這個決定。

穆斯林女性一定要戴頭巾嗎？

問題是：戴，還是不戴？

她們要穿什麼樣的衣服？

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3.等如你地唔係信教，咁我唔可以迫你架嘛，你食豬肉咪食豬肉囉， 我阿爸阿媽都係我面前食豬肉架啦，係咪先？即係要互相尊重囉。

2.但我真係覺得係中環原來搵一個地方禮拜係好難，原來周圍都係 白領儷人，真係好難鋪張氈係皇后像廣場果度，雖然我試過，(笑) 但你一路來，一路有人行過，你會覺得好驚呀，點算呢，以為我 撞邪，以為我係度做咩，咁我又試過後樓梯，後樓梯就好驚有人 經過點算。

1.咁我就覺得戴左頭巾都無乜野喎，D人就覺得咁搞笑嘅，你講廣東 話咁正嘅？反而打開左個話題呀，反而而家我會好enjoy我咁嘅裝 束出街，其實好多話題嘅，我搭的士，D司機成日同我傾計呀。

一些穆斯林的分享

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穆斯林的六大信仰是什麼？

宿命

一切早已注定但人類有自由意志，能明辨對錯，作適當的抉擇，所以我們要為自己的行為負責。

審判日

真主根據每人的信仰、行為作出審判的日子。

祂的天使天使的存在全是為安拉做事，沒有自由意志。

祂的啟示

古蘭經：完整地記錄真主的原話和 祂的啟示，是伊斯蘭教 最重要的經籍。聖訓

安拉真主

祂是唯一、無與倫比的跟猶太教及基督教的神相同嗎？對，只不過大家對真主的理解有所不同而已。

他們都在聖經裏出現過！亞當、挪亞、亞伯拉罕、摩西、耶穌。穆罕默德—最後一位、也是最偉大的先知。

祂的先知

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你分得開「伊斯蘭」和「穆斯林」嗎？試一試：當你見到「宗教」這個字，請說「伊斯蘭」；當你見到「信徒」這個字，請說「穆斯林」

答案伊斯蘭和穆斯林都是阿拉伯文伊斯蘭 = 宗教穆斯林 = 伊斯蘭教徒

配對

伊斯蘭

穆斯林

信徒

宗教

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ourteam

members

chief editor /Wael Mohamed Ibrahim /Wong Lok Yin, Shirley

editorial team/Chow Yuk Ki, Laura

/Choy Si Yan, Tiffany/Fong Lok Lam, Joyce

/Lee Cheuk Hei, Jeffrey/Leung Ka Kin, John

/Leung Wan Chi, Queenie/Ng Ho In, Joyce

/Tam Chun Kui, Willy /Tsang Chun Hei, Jason/Tse Wing Tung, Jamie

/Wong Shun Yan, Yandi/Wong Joe Li, Juilet

designer/Chan Yin Yee, Hayrunnisa

publishing by/Serving Islam Team

address/340-342 Hennessy Road,Kuo Wah Building,

7th/F Room No 707,Wanchai ,Hong Kong

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伊斯蘭教

We read and read, we sympathize and associate with each other’s' story to such a point that we have the desire to write the same story together. Curiosity is always the starting point of love, because you won’t start reading if you are not curious.

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t is

love

?Love is reading.

Why do we something for each other for no reasons. Perhaps love cannot be explained. We will know when certain feelings/affections come.

That you are strongly attached to someone. In most cases, you hope that the person can love you back and you have the desire to be close with him/her.

The word “love” explains without explaining.

Love is not restricted to love between a man and a woman. It is to be spread and shown to all the creation of God Almighty. There is love for Allah the Almighty, the Messenger of Allah, the Companions of the Prophet PBUH and the love of good and righteous people. There is love for the religion of Islam, and of course love between spouses to make a successful marriage and a happy family.

Love is a powerful force. It could be constructive by giving us motivations. But it can also be destructive when love goes to an extreme.

Love is a feeling.

我們瀏覽後瀏覽，細讀再細讀，我們感知然後投入彼此的故事，甚至想要創作同一段故事。愛的起跑線總是一種求知欲，因為一個沒有渴望在心中翻騰的人，絕不會開始掀書翻頁。

愛是閱讀

或許愛是無法解釋的，甚或，愛這個字就是無法解釋的意思。無從解釋地，我們會明白，只要真正的感覺、真正的愛來臨。

愛只是一個無法解釋何以彼此不求回報地負出的字

愛應該傳遍天下，並彰顯在一切上帝創造之物面前。愛有分對真主安拉之愛，對真主使者(願主賜福給他和他的聖門弟子)之愛，對正直良善之人的愛。愛有更高層次，就是對伊斯蘭教之專一忠誠，但當然，人間男女之愛能為我們帶來美滿的婚姻與家庭。

愛不只是指男女之愛

愛能透過加添動力建立我們，但走火入魔的愛能毀掉我們。

愛是一鼓強大的力量。

甚至是一種要強烈依靠他的意識。絕多時候，你會希望他回應你的愛，這就是你想親近他、自覺要黏著他的感覺。

愛是深深依賴一個人的感覺

愛是什麼？

愛很重要

安拉的使者(願主福安之)說:「他在其手我的靈魂！你不會進入天堂，直到你相信，你必不相信，直到你們之間彼此相愛。我可以告訴你的東西，如果你這樣做，你愛對方。在彼此之間問候和祝福。」

(穆斯林聖訓集)

在伊斯蘭教上

愛=摯情動於心中 + 憐憫

單單靠情感激發的愛，絕不足以讓我們建立一段穩固的關係，必需要有憐憫與饒恕的心，才能放下，戰勝並跨過生命的難關與傷痛。因此，即使婚後經歷情愛的起起落落，甚至有時消失，總要有耐心，要嘗試從另外一個角度去看事物。例如:奧馬爾•伊本•哈塔卜,是先知的聖門弟子曾經在一次給女人的訓示中說：「如果你們當中有不愛丈夫的，絕不應告訴他，因為只有很少數的家庭是真正基於愛而建立的，而絕大多夫婦靠著遵行伊斯蘭教的道德，才能生活在一起。」

對人吐露自己真正的感受，就是表達愛的最好方式

先知穆罕默德說:「人要是愛他的兄弟，就應當對他說我愛你。」

(艾卜達吳德聖訓集和鐵密濟聖訓集)

先知穆罕默德的例子

他和他的妻子從同一個杯子中飲水。他死前寧可靠在妻子的身上。

Prophet Muhammad PBUH: “ By Him in Whose Hand my soul is, you will not enter Paradise unless you believe, and you will not believe unless you love each other. Should I direct you to something that if you constantly did it, you would love each other? Spread the g�eetings of peace among you.” [Muslim]

Love is Impor�ant.

Love= Deep affection + Mercy

We should ex�ress our love by telling one another of the feelings we have.

Prophet Muhammad PBUH: “ When a man loves his brother, he should tell him that he loves him.” [Abu Daawood and At-Tir�ithi]

Example from Prophet Muhammad PBUH

He used to drink from the same cup, the same spot from which his wife ‘Aa’ishah drank. During his final illness, he prefer�ed to die resting against his wife’s chest, bet�een her neck and bosom.

In Is

lam

Love alone is not sufficient to establish a solid relationship, it has to be accompanied by mercif�l hear�s to forgive and let go of life’s challenges and sad moments. So even if love disappears sometimes aster mar�iage, one should be patient and look at the matter from a different perspective. For example, Ummar Ibn Al Khattab, the companion of the Prophet once said in his speech to women: “ If one of you does not love her husband, she should not tell him about this, because only a few homes are based on love; rather, people live together by vir��e of good morals and Islam.”

In Is

lamWealth, noble descent, beaut� and religion

The Messenger of Allah: “ A woman (or man) may be mar�ied for four things: for her (/his) wealth, for her (/his) noble descent, for her (/his) beaut� or for her (/his) religion. Choose the one who is religious, lest your hands be r�bbed with dust! ”

Ar�anged mar�iage:

Ar�anged mar�iages are allowed and promoted as long as they are accepted by both the bride and the g�oom. The parents have the responsibilit� to ensure that the couples are compatible. They should not ar�ange a mar�iage merely for their own social or personal reasons.

The Prophet of Allah has given the st�ictest order in relation to the rights of others: “Tr�ly Allah has totally forbidden disobedience (and the subsequent hur�) to mothers, bur�ing alive daughters, with-holding the rights of others, and demanding that which is not your right.”However, silence is regarded as consent.

The couple should not go against their parents’ wish and mar�� secretly. Love mar�iages are acceptable but unlawf�l: Love mar�iage occurs when t�o persons of the opposite sex star� a relationship and then decide whether to mar��. When this happens, the couple should either separate or get mar�ied immediately to save themselves from sin. The father/mother should also ensure that mar�iage takes place as soon as possible. Abu Hurairah for example nar�ates that the Messenger of Allah said, “ when one with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks your daughter in mar�iage then accede to his request. If you do not do so then there will be temptation in the ear�h and ex�ensive cor��ption.”

The Will of the Father is the Will of Allah:

[Tir�idhi]

[Hadith Muslim 4257. Recorded by Mughirah b. Shuba]

[Bukhari and Muslim]

在伊斯蘭教上

財富、貴族血統、美與信仰

先知穆罕默德(願主福安之):「一個女人(或男人)結婚可以為了四件事：為她(/他)的財富，為她(/他)的高貴血統，為她(/他)美貌或為她(/他)虔誠。選擇的虔誠，也許你就有福了！」

（布哈里聖訓集和穆斯林聖訓集）

安排婚姻

在新郎與新娘的願意的情況下，安排婚姻是可以接受的。為人父母有責任保證新人能相容，好好相處，而非設計一段只為他們社交與個人利益著想，罔顧子女的婚姻。安拉真主就人在一段關係的權益上，給予過嚴格的戒命:真主確已完全禁止忤逆母親，活埋女兒，控制他人的權利，並要求不屬於你的權利。父親的旨意就是安拉真主的旨意: 新人不應忤逆父母之意思，私定終生。只不過，對婚事保持緘默卻也被當作同意。

(穆斯林聖訓集)

基於愛的婚姻，雖可接受，卻是不合法的

基於愛的婚姻，就是男女二人開始戀愛關係並願意互相承擔，最後考慮結婚。當這種情況發生，男女二人應分手又或立即結合，以防止罪惡發生。二人之父母應確保他們盡快結婚。

艾布•胡萊賴例如敘述，真主的使者說，「當一個人其宗教操守和有道德的青少年來求婚時，你們應當與他聯婚，否則，地方上必出現禍患和嚴重的瘸敗。」

(鐵密濟聖訓集）

在伊斯蘭教上

愛與婚姻都是造物主為所有人預備的，是一段男女之間神聖的關係，且是充滿喜樂、安全感、情愛、相知與憐憫。

「他的一種蹟象是：他從你們的同類中為你們創造配偶，以便你們依戀她們，並且使你們互相愛悅，互相憐恤。對於能思維的民眾，此中確有許多蹟象。」(古蘭經30:21)

安拉的使者(願主福安之)說:「結婚是聖行，我也成家，誰鄙視我的行為，誰已不是我的教徒。」

保護我們，使我們遠離不道德的事。真主的先知說，敘述伊本•麥斯歐德:「年輕人，你們當中誰有能力結婚，應該盡快結婚。因為結了婚，使人放低視線，可防止注視女子，最能夠維護人們的貞操。然而，未有能力的年輕人，可常封齋，封齋可以降低性欲。」

(布哈里和穆斯林聖訓集)

有些人，在真主之外，別有崇拜，當做真主的匹敵；他們敬愛那些匹敵，象敬愛真主一樣――信道的人們，對於敬愛真主，尤為懇摯──當不義的人，看見刑罰的時候，假若他們知道一切權力都是真主的，真主是刑罰嚴厲的……。 (古蘭經2:165)

真主啊！我祈求你賜予我喜愛你和喜愛你的人，以及喜愛使我接近喜愛你的工作；真主啊！你所賜予我喜愛的事物，祈求你使它成為我喜愛你的力量，你所取走我喜愛的事物，祈求你賜予我你所喜愛的事物

如果一個人具備了三件事情，他就嚐到了信仰的甘甜(好處)：1 ─ 喜愛安拉和他的使者超越喜愛任何人及任何事物；2 ─ 當一個人愛一個人是為了真主；3 ─ 一個人厭惡返回到不信之中，猶如厭惡被投入火獄之中。

In Is

lam

Whoever leaves my Sunnah is not from amongst me [Kitabus Sunan- Mishkat]

Love and mar�iage is intended by the Creator of all. It is a sacred bond bet�een a man and a woman. And it is filled with happiness, securit�, love, understanding and compassion.

" And of His Sig�s is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find t�anquilit� in them; and He placed bet�een you affection and mercy."[Quran 30:21]

Protects us from immoralit�The Prophet of Allah said as nar�ated by Ibn Masud: " Young men, those of you who can suppor� a wife should mar��, for it keeps you from looking at non-per�issible females and protects you from immoralit�. However, those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting, for it is a means of suppressing sex�al desire."

God said in the Qur’an: "…there are men who take (for worship) others besides Allah, as equal (with Allah): They love them as they should love Allah. But those of Faith are overflowing in their love for Allah…"[Qur’an 2:165]

That’s why the Prophet Muhammad PBUH mentioned that the sweet�ess of faith is found in loving God Almight� more than any�hing else. He said: " Three things if found in one’s hear�, he will be able to taste the sweet�ess of faith: 1 when Allah and His messenger become dearer to you more than any�hing else, 2- when a person love someone for the sake of Allah, and 3- to hate to go back to unbelief as if you hate to be thrown into Hellfire."

[Bukhari and Muslim]

Prophet Muhammad PBUH was: “O Allah I ask of you Your love, and the love of those who loved you, and to love a deed that would bring me closer to Your love. O Allah if You have provided me with something that I love, then make it a powerf�l tool to be used in that which you love, and if You have taken something from me which I used to love, then substit�te it with something else which You love”

現在的情況有些不同了，就算沒有結婚也可以做一輩子的情侶，甚至有自己的孩子。但我覺得如果你真的愛上了一個人，結婚就是一個很重要的一輩子承諾。

為什麼人會結婚？

把結婚當成是展開新一個階段生活的印記

他們自覺能在一段關係上擔起更大的責任（如照顧彼此的家人）

給彼此一個一生的承諾

公開而正式地承認與對方的關係

去建立他們自己的家庭，能合法地生養孩子

為要防止分離的麻煩與傷痛，為要預防孤獨與不安

To save the tears and trouble of separation, to avoid loneliness and insecurity

To build their own family, to have kids legitimately

To be publicly and officially recognized

To make a life-time commitment to each other

They feel that they are ready to take up a greater responsibility in the relationship (e.g. take care of each other’s family)

To mark a new stage of life

Nowadays, things are a bit different. Marriage is no longer considered necessary.Couple could last forever and have their own children eventhough they are not married.But I think if you really love someone, it is better to show your commitment and get married.

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你如何表達你的愛意？

字與詞，句與章，情動於中而形於言。

安穩寧靜讓人感受與經歷愛。除了文字和語言，其餘一切的表現形式都是理想的。

愛以不恰當的方或表達，就是一種窒息。因此，我會悄悄地愛，以免把壓力也加給他們。應當用敏銳的心靈傳遞愛。

對他人日常的關愛

我們不應說愛，不應把愛流於唇舌。我們應主動關愛、聆聽，還有設身處地明白別人，而非著眼於自己。

與人同擔，同飲眼淚，與人同喜，共享歡笑。

擇偶條件

我們一起的時候應當是快樂的，我們應彼此明白與尊重。我們亦應有共同興趣。

並不是你去選擇一個人，應該說，適合的人選會適時地自然地送上門來。只要我們視對方為真命天子，只要我們在意與支持對方，那就夠了。

那個他不但可以指出我的缺陷，更可與我一起修補缺陷，為我的生命帶來影響與改變。

個人品格比容貌更為重要。我知重奮發上進、全程投入的人。

人很難找到一個相依一生的精神伴侶，因此外在美是重要的擇偶條件。

互惠的：他要愛我更勝於他自己，而我愛他也勝於愛自己。只有這樣我們才能步入對方的生命，心意相通的建立關係，彼此明白與尊重。

You don’t choose someone. The right person comes to you naturally.As long as we consider each other as the "right person", as long as we love, care for and support each other, that's great enough.

Personal characters are more important considerations that appearance. I value those who havethe motivation to work hard.

We should be happy together. We should understand and respect each other. And we should have common interest.

It is very difficult to find a soulmate as your lifelong companion. Appearance therefore is a very important factor in choosing one’s boyfriend/girlfriend.

How do you express your love?

Reciprocal: He has to love me more than he loves himself, and I too love him more than I love myself.Only so can we enter each other’s life and build mutual understanding and respect.

Day-to-day caring of another person

Sharing his/her burden, happiness and tears

Words And Texts

Love should be experienced in silence. Any form of expression other than words will be ideal.

Love could be suffocating if expressed inappropriately. Therefore, I love others silently and avoid giving them pressure. Love should be conveyed subtly.

We should not only play lip-service. We should take the initiative to care, to listen and to understand others from their perspectives instead of our own.

He or she should point out my flaws and make an impact in my life.

Factors that I consider when choosing my husband/wife

愛是什麼？

愛當無私

愛是無可量化的

愛是人類最高尚的情志，是人類應該值得自豪的。

有些善於操控擺佈的人會視他們的伴侶為私有物。

愛是發一場燒，是一種病，會熱得我們瘋了失了理智。

當我們愛上一個人，他的醜陋之處我們也稱美，他的不足我們都一一愛上。因此，我想愛是美的。

愛是生命的所需，使我們完全地活著。

人類是群體動物，我們需要與人互動。若愛能減少人與人之間的衝突然後令生活更順暢。何不去愛？

愛不需要原因，總之一個人愛上另一個，就是這樣，也總是這樣的。

世界是繁瑣糾結的，而愛是我們的避難所。愛使我們堅強，給我們安全感，給我們動力去面對一重接一重的人生挑戰。

我愛，因為這是最自然不過的事。對一些對生命重要非常的人或事，我們愛得順其自然。愛就像是天生天成、與身俱來的。

愛能使我們喜樂和滿足。

為什麼愛？

What is love?

Love has no reason; one loves someone because they do.

Human beings are social beings. We often have to interact with other people. If love reduces conflicts and makes life easier, why not love?

Love is what we need in our life. It makes our lives complete.

I love because it is a natural thing to do. We naturally develop strong emotions towards someone or something that we find important in our lives. It is almost like an inborn nature of human beings.

The world is complicated. Love is a shelter for us. It makes us strong. It gives us a sense of security. And it motivates us to face the numerous challenges ahead.

Love brings us great happiness and pleasure.

Love should be selfless.

Love is not quantifiable.

Love is the highest virtue of human. It is what human needs to be happy.

Some people are manipulative. They treat their partner as possessions.

Love is a fever, a disease. It drives us mad and causes us to be irrational.

When we love someone, we accept even his/her flaws and imperfections. So I think love is beautiful.

Why do we love?