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Coaching Skills Session 2: Determining the Session Outcomes and Expanding Awareness

Coaching Skills Session 2: Determining the Session Outcomes and Expanding Awareness

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Coaching SkillsSession 2: Determining the

Session Outcomes and Expanding Awareness

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Overview

• Session 1 – Coaching Overview and Active Listening• Session 2 – Determining the Session Outcome and

Expanding Awareness• Session 3 – Hearing the Holy Spirit and Pinpointing the Key

Issue• Session 4 – Developing Action Steps and Empowering the

Coachee to Take Action

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Listening Expanding

Four

Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding

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CoachingFIRST SHIFT (of THREE)

FROM TALKINGTO LISTENING

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You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help

him discover it within himself.

-- Galileo

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Defining Outcome

The OUTCOME of a COACHING exchange is the agreed upon desired end-result, and/or goal of a coaching

interaction, conversation or or coaching appointment.

• OUTCOME begins the process of surfacing the VOICE of the coachee.

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Point

• The CLEARER the OUTCOME... the more POWERFUL the coaching.

• ARTICULATION – FOCUSING

• CLARITY of the OUTCOME of the coaching conversation often brings clarity to the actual issue itself.

WARNING: Don’t Rush!

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Coaching DemonstrationOUTCOME

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Pathway to THE OUTCOME

Three StepsFirst: ASK

Second: CLARIFYThird: SUMMARIZE

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The C.O.A.C.H. Model™

CONNECTING with the leader.

Coachingthe Development

of Leaders

SampleQUESTIONS

• What would be most helpful for us to talk

about?• What would you like to

be the outcome of our time together?

• What issue would you like to work on… talk

through?• What would you like to

see happen as a result of the time?

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Exercise:OUTCOME7 min. DEBRIEF / SWITCH7 min.

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Laser PhrasingThe micro-skill of verbalizing

back to the one being coached, a laser-focused summary of

what he or she has expressed to you.

Sample

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“Work” on YoursOUTCOMES Clear (mutual understanding)

Specific (singular in focus)

Achievable (within the time allocated)

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REVIEW

/ ENHANCE

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Listening Expanding

Four

Coaching Skills

FocusingEmpowering

Listening Expanding

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Questions that Open Up - Activity

• Are you happy about this decision?• Is your supervisor in agreement with this?

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

GOODQuestions

help to EXPANDAwareness!

The Power is in the Questions!

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Core Skill – Expanding

“Transformation comes more from pursuing profound questions than

seeking practical answers.”

-Peter Block p. 30

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Core Skill – Expanding

“Discovery is about ownership. That which an individual discovers, they

have a greater propensity to implement.” -Terry Walling

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Core Skill – Expanding

“Assumptions are unspoken thoughts, emotions, evaluations, and decisions…

something believed to be true without proof or based on proofs that are no longer true.”

-Keith Webb p. 30

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Core Skill – Expanding

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Change begins the moment you ask a question.•The key to coaching is good QUESTIONS.•Questions can help coaches to both LISTEN and

EXPAND the awareness.

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Often Good Questions are about Asking the Obvious

PURE?s

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

Jesus... Questions

“What do you want?”

Although Jesus knows what each of us needs, he allows

people to direct their requests according to how

they perceive their own needs and life.www.leaderbreakthru.com p. 33

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

The Power is inthe Questions.

Seven Types of

Questions

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

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1. Open – What makes you think…?2. Emotive – How do you feel…?3. Testing Assumptions – I am hearing…

what have you decided?

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Expanding theirAwareness

STATEMENTS CAN ALSO

SERVE AS QUESTIONS

• Tell me more about that?!• Help me understand that better?!• I am not sure I understand what you meant. Unpack that some

more for me?!• It sounds like there is more going on inside of you?! • You seem frustrated by all of this?!• It feels like you have already decided what you are going to do?!

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The Power is in the Questions!

•Questions that OPEN-Up•You Say the question as an OPEN question, they initial

PracticingQuestions

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1. Open – What makes you think…?2. Emotive – How do you feel…?3. Testing Assumptions – I am hearing…

what have you decided? 4. Who, What, When, Where5. Development – What does this say

about how God is shaping you?6. Why – What could you have done?7. Permission – Can I…?

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The C.O.A.C.H. Model™

CONNECTING with the leader.

Coachingthe Development

of Leaders

EXPANDING Awareness

Open QUESTIONS

10 Min. each

Awareness, Pt. 1

Practice… (Start with Laser Phrased- Outcome)

FOCUS is on information gathering

Not resolving... exploring

Largest step in C.O.A.C.H

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Takeaways from Sessions 1 and 2

Listening• Coaching vs. Mentoring

• Three Voices• Ways to Listen Better

• Clarifying Outcomes

• Laser Phrasing

Expanding• Open Questions• Promoting Discovery

• Pure-Statement Questions

• Seven Types of Questions

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